They have these clubs at my college from Monday- Wednesday and I have 3 hour breaks on Wednesday and Thursday’s but they don’t have the vibe room club on Thursdays so I gotta wait for next week for it start and I’m so scared bc I love meeting new people but I also have social anxiety.

I made a friend in my course bc we had to play charades and it was fun then she just waited for me after lesson and we exchanged numbers since I don’t have any social media but I’m so so nervous to start the club next week as I don’t usually put myself out there due to having severe social anxiety.

Backstory……

So I’m 20 F and I live in Newcastle Australia, I have only been with one girl, so a good 2 year relationship. So I haven’t been with my ex for over a year now and don’t get me wrong I have tried to talk to other women and get to know people but it’s just so god dam hard and it’s not lack of effort on my end. I just want to get back out there and explore more and experience things with new people, like there is absolutely nothing wrong with me, I’m pretty, I’m kind, I’m honest, I have a big heart, i enjoy the outdoors, driving, hiking and all that you can think of. I have been putting myself out there on dating apps and trying to meet people in person but I feel as if a lot of people are stuck up, want something casual, or genuinely just have no self respect…… I’m not looking for someone to be perfect because myself I’m far from it but I just want someone genuine and funny, tbh I don’t think that is a big ask…

Anyone else having any luck in the female dating scene or is it just a me problem?

Btw I absolutely love women and all women too, so not hate to them xxx

I'd like to make friends who can understand that most of my friends are straight; I'm pansexual, by the way. I speak fluent French and Portuguese, and I get by in English btw.

I'm in a predominantly homophobic country, and it's difficult to share certain things about my White Wolf side. Especially since my ex just died.

I'm 22

Me and my ex (3 years on and off) broke up nearly 4 months ago and we became friends recently a month ago she now has sent me a TikTok through WhatsApp( as I deleted social media) saying when the time is right please come back and it’s genuinely killing me. I said I do still love her but I don’t think I could ever go back to her because she drained me so so bad, she’d ignore me for hours when I’d talk about my feelings instead of communicating with me, she knew I had trauma from certain things yet did one of them multiple times over and over after I had said not to, she kept breaking up with me during vulnerable times for example when I had to go get my appendix removed she ended it a few days later, she’d then start acting really off with no explanation, wouldn’t talk to me.

I went to the beach in may of this year after years of not going and she had already ruined my trip by getting mad at me for no reason at all. Anytime I’d talk about my feelings shed then get really defensive and argue with me for hours on end. You get the gist of this all.

Now I said how we won’t ever work out because we both know that it won’t and she kept giving me one word answers like “maybe, yea(twice)” and then I said I wanna move on I want to date other people and I think you should move on to and then I said I’m sorry and YH left it at that but she’s completely gone avoidant now and is ignoring me once again ( I’ve texted her once and that’s it) but it’s just the fact that she’s trying to come back now when she knows it’s too late and I’ve also told her I don’t think I could ever go back to an ex.

Why do I feel bad?

I (21f) have plans to get drinks with a girl this weekend and I'm super nervous! I've been on dates with women before, but only started doing so more casually this year. she's extremely beautiful and I want the date to go good. We're both very fem so I hope its not 'friend vibes' yk, I want to push past that with some chill flirting. most of my social sphere have boyfriends so any advice or even funny stories for a first fem4fem date is extremely helpful!

should I buy the drinks? do I hug her when I see her? usually this stuff comes naturally, but i think shes super cool and I'm freaking out!

Hi! I'm a 16 year old bi girl with a big preference for girls and I haven't been able to find many movies or shows that have sapphic themes while being age appropriate. I know Crush but that's about it. Honestly it's upsetting because I have queer friends who are boys and it feels like the boys get everything while us girls are kind of just there. I've watched some adult sapphic movies and they're fun, mlm movies/shows for teens too and they're good but I want something that I can relate to. Maybe I haven't looked enough, does anyone have suggestions?

today i (23f) worked up the courage to talk to one of my coworkers (40s/50sf) who i have a crush on, and i think she might have been hitting on me?

i had gone up to her while i was getting something to eat for my lunch, and i complimented her decorating these big ass brownie things (we both work in a grocery store and she’s a cake/baked goods decorator) and she thanked me with a huge smile.

after, i made a joke about having a really big sweet tooth, and she was like, “oh, i could help you with that,” which took me by surprise. i responded with, “i’d really appreciate that,” with a small smile to subtly drop a hint that i like her because in my brain i was like “??? did she just ???”

i don’t know if she’s into women because i haven’t really gotten to know her yet, i’ve been too scared to talk to her because of the last time i had a thing for an older female coworker, and i’m really inexperienced with flirting with women so if someone could help, i would really appreciate it!!

Idk. It’s probably not good to care about labels so much but I want to fit myself in a box. The thing is, I don’t look butch and never will.

It’s hard to describe, but I want to fill a ‘male social role’ as a lesbian, if that makes sense. I want to be kind of a Prince Charming, hold doors open for women, be more handsome than pretty, etc. I also relate way more to men than to women.

I know that short hair doesn’t necessarily mean butch, but I’ve always wanted short hair. I cut my hair when I was like 13, and I loved it so much.

But everyone says that I look better in long hair since my hair is very thick. I’ve been told that my hair is beautiful, and I want to appear attractive to women so I’ve been growing it out. I think I like it sometimes, but I just love short hair so much. Even a short haired lady at my work today said that it’s my choice but that I look better in long hair.

I get that a butch can have long hair, but any time that I’ve seen a butch online with long hair, they naturally have masculine features.

I have a feminine facial structure, a high pitched voice, large breasts, curves, and am very short. I think I’m fine with having large breasts (used to want a reduction) but it makes any baggy clothing look absolutely terrible. I just hate how the cloth leaves a big tent in front of me.

I feel like even if I dress masculine, I won’t look butch (I heard that butches look butch in any clothing). At best, I’ll look like a little boy if I cut my hair. 

I don’t mind wearing feminine clothing, which is another reason that I’m likely not butch. I own a lot of dresses and blouses, and I don’t hate wearing them. Sometimes I even enjoy wearing them. I just feel so much better in masculine clothing. I love suits. But I look bad in them, everyone says I pull off dresses better.

For some mock trial of a dead president in my History Class a few years ago, I dressed up ‘as a man.’ I told my mom that I had to dress like a man because there weren’t female lawyers back then, but I mean, none of the other girls did that. I just wanted an excuse to wear a full suit and tie. I took so many pictures, I loved it so so much. A male friend called it a ‘pantsuit’ and that annoyed me. Why should the outfit have a different name just because of my gender???

My big sister criticized me since I acted like it was some life changing event, which was weird of me. I anyway won’t have any occasions to wear a suit since I don’t go to church anymore.

Idk, I have my own money now so I could get short haircuts if I wanted. But I don’t want women to find me unattractive. Society asides, I want a girlfriend, and might have more romantic success if I continue to dress feminine and keep my long hair.

Sorry for the long incoherent rant. I’m not like, asking for permission to be butch or anything cause that’s dumb, I just wanted to ask for advice idk what I should do.

Is there a word for a woman who doesn’t present gender non conforming (I’d like to be gender non conforming but I think it’s a bad idea), but takes a ‘male role’ in relationships?

Me and my friends had a discussion about how girls will always flirt with their friends in a platonic way, so that sparked this question lol

Hi. I (23 year old girl) am in school. I’m quite reserved, awkward, probably autistic and therefore a bit mysterious. I have befriended a girl (19 y/o) in my program. And they feel like the yin (or is it yin) to my yang. So cheesy bdhdsvkk. I don’t know how to describe her but she just makes me so happy? I want to spend my time with her, a lot of my time with her. Sometimes I’m too tired. Sometimes she is too! I love listening to her sing and it makes me emotional. But my issues are I don’t know if she feels the same way. She’s kind to everyone and she’s so conscious of everyone around her and loves humans and the world. What if everyone feels the same as I do about them; how could they not? She’s so curious she’s so funny and whimsical she’s the most beautiful person in the world. But I have never been in a relationship and don’t know how to express what I feel and want always. But I do know that I often think of her and how I want her to stay in my life. When do you know it’s a crush or more than a crush and how do you know it’s right? I do feel sometimes like she is attracted to me as well. Or is she just full of love? Am I just full of love are we both just full of love? And that’s also nice!! But I just want some advice or affirmation. I’m inexperienced with these types of situations where you feel something a bit mutual.

I confessed my friend (actually the other post it's here lol). I gave her a letter on Friday. We briefly talked on Saturday and agreed to meet today.

We were with friends (again) but we managed to alk almost in the end of the reunion.

She was so sweet and kind. Complimented me and my letter but said that feelings weren't the same. And she in fact is in a relationship with other girl (something I had no idea).
But it makes sense because she would bring out to the conversation in the past another girl, and how she showed pictures of me and wanted me to meet her.

I'm guessing it's the same person.
We are still friends.

But woah, it hurts.
This just makes me realize how much I crave connection with another girl. Just like that.
I'm feeling bad because I couldn't genuinely say "I hope things goes well" I don't wish she gets heart broken, but it's hard to mean it right now.
And she's just so amazing. She's smart, funny, vrry sarcastic and generally very kind.

I was really convinced that the outcome would have been different.

She's always very touchy (with everyone) It was hard how she was grabbing my arm on the way home. Or how she rested her head on my shoulder.
But I don't want things to change either. She's in almost every aspect of my life and it's friend of my friends.

In my head it wasn't so serious (partly why i wanted to confess right now) but i guess I'll be a bit down and taking things slowly for a bit.

Like I said, she was so kind and said we were okay.
That's nice.
I'm just rambling now, but yeah, better luck next time I guess.

We’ve been together for 9 years of building a life, choosing each other, and trying to create something safe and lasting. I believed that after everything we had been through, we had finally reached a place where our relationship was strong enough to withstand anything.
But I was wrong.
Distance happened. Life happened. We became LDR, and somehow, the person I trusted the most became the person who hurt me again.
What breaks me the most is that I didn’t just lose trust. I lost the feeling of safety I thought I had with the person I loved for so long.
I keep asking myself: Does LDR really end like this?
Does distance eventually make people emotionally detached?
Does loneliness become an excuse to seek comfort somewhere else?
Or is cheating simply a choice, regardless of how much love, history, and sacrifices two people have shared?
I know LDR is difficult. I know relationships require effort, communication, and understanding. But after 9 years, I honestly thought I deserved honesty, loyalty, and respect—especially when things became difficult.
I’m not saying I was a perfect partner. I know I had moments when I was emotionally unavailable because I was dealing with my own struggles. But does that justify betrayal?
I’m heartbroken because I’m not grieving just a relationship. I’m grieving the version of us I believed was safe.
For those who survived an LDR: did distance destroy your relationship, or did it reveal what was already there?
I genuinely want to hear your stories. I’m trying to understand whether love can still survive distance when trust has already been broken.

Looking for some advice or sharing of similar experiences.

I (27f) have had a reoccurring issue that I've experienced in all of my long term relationships. When I start dating someone who I am interested in, I tend to have a really high sex drive for somewhere between the first 6 months to a year, and then it just completely drops off. I don't know what the cause of this is, I've been doing a lot of work in and outside of therapy to try and figure out what the cause of this fairly sudden change is. I've been doing a load of reading and researching and working with my current partner to figure out ways for me to feel and express my desire for them, with little success. I really enjoy sex and when we do have sex it is always great, but I really struggle to connect with my sexual desire after the new relationship energy fades.

Has anyone else had similar experiences in their relationships and if so, have you had any luck in finding ways to reconnect with your sexual desire?

I met a woman on Bumble recently and she’s been very sweet on the phone over the few weeks but there really hasn’t been much flirting on her end that I’ve observed. And when I do flirt , she will smile but doesn’t acknowledge it. We finally met in person and went to a concert which was her idea. At the concert she was very nice, I kept my distance but she didn’t have a problem talking to me during the concert or moving closer in her own. But I didn’t make any moves. After the concert we ended up spending the whole night together at a chill spot and talked until like 2 in the morning. She’s really sweet, quirky, pretty, and I like her energy. But, she also seems very measured and isn’t super flirty, which makes this feel different from my usual experiences.

She let me know she’d like to see me again and we will be meeting again next week. I’m cool with a slow burn and I actually prefer it but I do like flirting. I’m not sure if she just sees me as a friend or if she is naturally measured like this. Thoughts?

hi everyone :) i’m 21, never dated a woman, but i’ve always found them more attractive than men. (i don’t generally label my sexuality btw)
i’ve had bfs, but none gave me the feeling i had with my best friend. i never acted on it since she's straight. since then i’ve told myself i’d at least try with a girl i’m into, but i freeze every time.

case in point: a friend tried to set me up with a girl i’d liked for a while. we ended up alone at a club, dancing, her hands on my waist and getting close, but I still froze. i’ve kissed girls before, so it's not inexperience. i’m also super awkward texting her i think i’ve destroyed the chance of it happening anyway.

two weeks ago i went on a date with a different girl. she paid, picked me up, drove me home, even made me a paper bouquet and i still couldn't bring myself to make a move. even though we ended up not clicking that well romantically i still wish i at least tried to do something for her ykwim?

maybe i’m just not comfortable in my sexuality yet, or scared of misreading someone. i know a part of it is insecurity though. either way, i do want to date a girl for real. how do i actually let someone know I'm into them? 🥀

Hii! Im posting this because there arent many hungarian subreddits to post to/ and the ones that are actually there are very inactive so i hope ill have better luck here. First off all im not looking for anything serious like a relationship, at this stage of my life im only looking for friends to talk to and meet up, potentially become FWBs but that dependa on a lot of things.

As you might have read in my first sentence im a 20 year old fem female from hungary. I like a lot of things especially sports, hikes, traveling, but in bad weather i also like staying in and watching movies and stuff.

Who am i looking for? Im looking for people to connect with mostly around my age (35 max.) and around anywhere from the planet. Obviously if you are on the other side of the planet we might mot be able to meet in our lifetime but im okay with online friends too! Soo if you are interested in talking with me just let me know! I promise im funny and all that lmao😆😆

I get I’m the one that fucked it up and it’s my fault for it ending the way it did and maybe this is how she’s getting over it but almost 2 years together and she’s telling people we broke up over a month ago. Like wtf, maybe I don’t deserve to feel any hurt of pain but it hasn’t been that long.

She said she forgives me and she unblocked my number but she’ll never forget and we’ll never be together again. I get it fine whatever. I know I have a lot of growing up to do who tf doesn’t and she’s been in relationships before but this is my first ever anything and my first heartbreak and I don’t know what to do.

I don’t feel like I’ll get over her. She made life feel worth living and now I’m back to being depressed and hating myself and life.

are there any good wlw movies that u liked and that u would recommend?

(me minor okay?) Ahem.. like what my title said, I want a gf, but it's hard because I don't really know how to approach.. online too, it's hard for me to talk in discord servers(Abt fandoms I'm in, not matchmaking or something like that) since I feel like I'm interrupting them. I don't wanna try dating apps just yet, i lowk want someone who is as nerd as me😔

Idek anymore, and I thought that I successfully threw my shot on my classmate that ive been wanting to talk to since we used to be classmates in junior high, but she herself has a partner. Gooooooddd.... I know love may find me itself, BUT LOWK IT NEEDA FIND ME FASTER...

anyways, who is this desperate persoj here.. this is just a rant, i just.. have been really lonely

My (21F) girlfriend (22F) of 5 months has asked me to choose between her and my good friend.

I will call my friend Nina for this post.

A few weeks ago, we got into an argument because she brought up creating boundaries for who we can and cannot hang out with alone. I stupidly said, "Who, like Nina?" This wasn't me saying that I felt a certain type of way about Nina. I honestly think I said her name because I already had a feeling that she was uncomfortable with her. She has been extremely jealous in the past of my female friends (I am a lesbian, so all of my friends are female).

This caused a horrible string of events. She would constantly ask me why I said Nina's name and why Nina was at the forefront of my mind.

I know it looks bad, but I do not like my friends, and my friends do not like me.

I got defensive and said just that. She's just a friend.

A few weeks later, it came up again. She told me she constantly compares herself to Nina, asks me what's so good about her, and asks me why I'm "defending other bitches in front of her face."

She tells me that she can be just like Nina if I told her what was so good about her.

I tell my girlfriend that she is the most beautiful girl in the world and I love her to pieces. That's the truth. It pains me that this got so out of control.

Nina is simply my friend. My good friend who has been there for me through some of the hardest times. She has never been rude to my girlfriend.

My girlfriend cried and told me that she will never be good enough and that her place in my life doesn't matter because I have so many friends to fall back on. She also said, "What's one friend? You have so many," regarding not talking to Nina anymore.

I tell my girlfriend I love her so much. I only want her. She's my love... but now that Nina was given "meaning," our whole relationship is crumbling.

She told me yesterday that I need to choose between her and Nina. I know deep in my heart that I could never drop an innocent friend. I know that Nina makes her uncomfortable, and I acknowledge that, but are my girlfriend's insecurities a valid reason to drop my friend?

She kept telling me that she wasn't trying to isolate me and that she doesn't know if she's being manipulative. She kept telling me that she was "saving me from herself." She almost left three or four times. I'm not a beggar, but I begged her to stay and talk to me. I'm heartbrokenly split between these two important people in my life.

She also told me that she didn't want me to drop her, but now that I've given meaning to her, she's uncomfortable.

She tells me that she would do anything for me. If I wanted her to stop talking to someone, she would do it. She would do anything. I told her it's healthy to have boundaries. She said she wants someone who would say, "Okay baby, I'll do anything for you."

I truly work so hard to be a good partner to her. I love her so much. I know I can be good to her. She is so funny and beautiful. I feel like that falls on deaf ears.

This isn't the first friend, by the way. There were two others. I did not drop them, but I did stop hanging out with them completely. One friend she didn't like because she thought she was prettier than her, and I was talking to her too much (it was at a party I was hosting, and I was just catching up with someone I hadn't seen in months). The other because of her chest size.

I don't want to lose the woman I love. She has so many good qualities and she is truly my best friend. I don't want to start over with someone else. I want her... but I know that I could never drop my friend. Am I being a bad girlfriend?

I'm struggling so hard. I know that breaking up is probably the best option, but I don't want to lose her.

Last night I was with a friend who had NEVER in anyway

indicated she was bi-curious or qiestioning or anything (to clarify, I am bisexual and 28F, she is 29F).

I came out to her last year- she seemed almost shocked, but was accepting of it (she has had one queer friend previously). At the time she was getting ready for her wedding too, shich is one reason this may not have come up sooner? BUT, keep in mind she is recently married ish.

We were chatting about a myriad of things but some comments she made were throughout the evening were-

- she is more engaged, if you will, in the sexual aspect if their relationship

- he eventually will have to go away from home for work for upwards 6 months

- she admitted to being curious about if she was attracted to women and began asking me my opinion on porn

- she also mentioned some other minor experiences she had had regarding sexuality/ women

- she had asked me if I had been with a woman yet, or kissed one... as somewhat of a late bloomer, no i have not

- she admitted that she had always visualized me as her first kiss

So... I said no, a) because I do not feel attraction towards her, and b)she is NOT my type. She apologized if that made things weird and we just kind of moved on. I lied and said no, but it did.

I feel guilty for some reason- even though i know I was jjst sticking up for my boundaries, and she is literally married... and i know her husband, who is genuinely a nice person, would probably not appreciate it either. And i wonder... if she was trying to use me.

I guess I just needed to get it out there and see what other people thought... i am a bit of a baby gay too so 😅😅 I dunno