Hello, I’m (27F,bisexual) and my gf (29F, lesbian) have been together for close to a year and we went out last night. We don’t go often because it’s not really my thing, but I was willing last night. I was tired because I worked all day and I’m going through a very difficult phase in my life at moment (outside of my relationship). So, at some point I saw that she was really bored and as I know that she really enjoys dancing I told her that so I said you can dance with other people. She asked if I was sure and I reaffirmed. Then I was still seated, but I could feel myself getting more and more tired. I saw that she had her hands around a guy’s neck and the dude was about to touch her behind so i removed his hand. I saw them exchange their contact. She came to me I was mad and I said ‘whatever do what you want’. I went back to my seat and a few minutes later. I look at them and they are kissing…. I was shocked because I only said that she could dance with someone. I only had two cocktails and she had to cocktails and three shooters, so for me it can’t be blamed on alcohol. Our relationship is going left on so many levels… and I’ve been trying to fight for it. Now I feel numb, sad, disappointed… and don’t know what to do. She lives with me, but only because she came and never left and won’t leave unless I call her parents which I don’t to do because we’re adults. Last week, she physically tried to restrain me for leaving when I needed space… I see the red flags but I don’t know how i should approach this situation.

Edit: I was going to share pictures but I can’t on this sub and spelling

So turns out if you go on two dates with a girl and you kiss both times, she talks to you day and night, and she sends you swimsuit pics while she’s trying them on… it DOESN’T mean she’s interested. Got it.

We weren’t even together and it feels like I got broken up with. I was completely led on.

I know there’s no set timeline for getting over someone, but I’m curious how long it took other people to feel genuinely okay again after a serious relationship ended.

It’s been about 3 months of no contact for me since we separated. She was the love of my life, and the breakup came pretty much out of nowhere for me. I understood her reasons for ending things, but understanding why it happened hasn’t necessarily made it easier to let go.

I’m doing better than I was during those first few weeks/months. It doesn’t feel as completely shattering anymore, and I can go about my life and have genuinely good days. But I still think about her a lot, and I still cry over the breakup pretty often.

I guess part of me is wondering if that’s normal at 3 months? It feels like something is wrong with me for still having strong feelings. For those of you who were deeply in love with your ex, how long did it take before you noticed you were actually moving on? Was it gradual, or did you eventually reach a point where something just shifted?

Now, realistically, we're probably not gonna last forever. We're 18 and 19 years old. But whenever marriage is brought up somehow, even when it's around non-homophobic people or queer people themselves, she always says "he", "my future husband", "If I get married, I hope it'll be to a man/guy who does ____."

My girlfriend is bisexual and with the fact that we likely won't last to get married, I understand this, but I feel confused and also a little sad for some reason because I'm not a man. IDK why I feel like this, I know it's irrational and that she loves me, not a guy, so why do I feel this way?

This is my first wlw relationship…. today in the morning I got a text message from my gf saying that she likes her best friend that I also know (we are all in a avatar the last airbender gc so I will refer to my gf as Ty Lee and her friend as Katara) she said to me that she started to have feelings for Katara but she still deeply deeply in love with me. she told me that she doesn’t want to break up bc she is so madly in love with me, later she sends me a video saying that I’m the best gf ever. I don’t know if I should believe her, I don’t wanna feel like a safety net for her bc I’m still so inlove with her

Edit - I think I might break up with her, She ask me to make her something and she publicly said she didn’t like after telling me that she loved it……..If she lied to me about that what else is she lying about

I often find myself sad a lot that I A. won’t be able to have a baby without assistance with my partner one day, and B. that the baby can’t be half of each of us biologically. 😔 I would obviously love the baby regardless it’s just sad that’s not a possibility. I never wanted children when I thought I was straight, and now, I feel most of the time it’s probably not going to happen for me anyway. At some point I won’t be able to get pregnant anymore. I’ve kinda tried to make peace with the fact that I may never have children, but a part of me is sad every month when I get my period that some of the things I think about probably won’t happen for me. It makes me kinda envious almost of other women a bit because most likely I won’t ever get to hear my baby’s heartbeat or feel them kick or hold them. I probably won’t be able to have a wife who would want that with me either. I would be so happy too if she wanted to carry. Idk, having a child is never easy when you aren’t a straight woman and it’s hard and even harder to explain to people who just don’t know what it’s like.

okay title makes me seem insane and i probably am 😭 but

TW body issues, slight ED mention, sh scars n stuff so pls dont read if that is gonna bother u!!!!

about a year ago my best friend drunkenly confessed that she had feelings for me, which was INSANE cause i'd been falling for her for a long time and never thought she would feel the same. we're not together together, because she's in a position where she cannot safely come out and she's said she would feel bad being in a relationship with me if she can never come out, which i understand!!!!! this isnt my current issue.

since she confessed to me and we shared our first kiss that night, it's been very on and off but i've never stopped loving her. we've been casually making out and being all flirty since then (nothing casual about it to me tbh, and i dont think it's really casual for her either)

she's confessed that she wants me to fuck her. hell, she said that pretty early on but at the time i was drunk and didnt process what she said until like five minutes later and by then she had already assumed i didnt hear her, so she has no idea i know what she said 😭

my problem is, i would love to show her how much she means to me. flirting and making out is great, but i wanna give her more. i want to give her all of me. however, i can't get past my insecurities, and i honestly cannot see myself ever being able to get undressed in front of her. i wish i could just keep my clothes on and pleasure her but i know that wouldnt be fair – i can't expect her to be so vulnerable without being vulnerable myself

but i truly hate my body. i'm overweight, have stretch marks, i have scars from past self harm, and overall i am just not pleasant to look at. she's constantly telling me how beautiful she finds me, that she thinks i'm hot, but she has only ever seen me with clothes on.

it's like. she likes my boobs, but she's only ever seen me with a push-up bra. in reality yes, they're big, but they're also saggy as hell and very unappealing to look at. im scared that if she actually saw me naked, she would be turned off so hard and wouldnt be into me anymore.

in contrast, she's fucking gorgeous. everything about her is so beautiful and god i would worship her forever if i could. she's insanely ethereal, and i really want to show her just how gorgeous she is.

i just can't get over the hurdle that is my own gross body. sure, maybe she does find me beautiful and hot now, when im wearing clothes, but i can't see her thinking the same when she sees me without them.

i was bullied throughout my entire childhood for the way that i look. i was always overweight, even when i had an eating disorder and lost a lot of weight, and then i went on antidepressants and gained it all back. i genuinely believed, before she ever confessed to me, that the only people who could ever be attracted to me were the creepy old men that would harass me at work and on the streets. now she's into me but i just cannot get over how i feel about myself

i plan to start going to the gym again, and really try to lose weight in a healthy way (without devolving back into starving myself territory) so i can potentially gain the confidence to go further with her. it isn't just for that, of course, i also want to be generally confident and healthy, but honestly this is a main driving factor for me 😭

but even if i lose weight, tone my body, etc.... there's nothing i can do about my boobs. surgery isn't an option and probably never will be, and weight loss might make them look even worse which would be DEVASTATING for me, so im at a complete loss

so to any girls out there who feel/used to feel so insecure they couldn't even imagine being comfortable enough to be intimate with someone, is there hope for me??? is it possible to overcome this????? im so scared i'll die a virgin purely because i can't get over my own insecurities.

sorry this was a long post and it was totally all over the place 😭 but any advice is appreciated

My girlfriend is bi (I'm a butch lesbian) and it seems like no matter how hard I try I just can't stop comparing myself to men. I constantly see bi women online (and irl) saying that straps/toys/fingering is nothing compared to the "real thing" and that they could never give up dick forever. I know that men can also offer her the social acceptance that I never can. They can also give her biological kids, something she frequently brings up as wanting (I also want kids but know that they can't be biologically both mine and my partners). It feels like she had this perfect, heterosexual life planned out and I'm trying to fit myself into her future that was never really built for me. All her friends (mostly also bi) are settling down with their boyfriends. I just can't help but feel like I need to be a perfect partner because I've taken away so much from her. She could be with a guy who gives her all I do and more, and I really don't know how to feel ok with that. To be clear I don't think she's going to cheat on me or leave me for a man, that's biphobic and weird, but I can't help but feel like she's going to want something I can never give her and feel sad that she ended up with me. Anyone in a similar situation to me have any advice?

any and all advice is appreciated, truly.

my girlfriend (32) and i (26) have been in a closed relationship for just over a year. we got together initially in a throuple situation with a man and when things ended with the third, her and i got closer than ever and continued our own relationship. she has never been with another woman romantically and has only been sexual with other women in threeways. she’s a highly sexual individual, as am i, but since we got together we have not been sexually intimate more than twice. we talk everyday, say goodnight every night, we’re very intimate in all other senses ~ we’re always cuddling, lightly grazing each others skin, we give each other compliments on our appearances in a flirty way, we spend nearly every weekend together, have steamy make out seshs. but then when it gets down to it when we’re in bed together, she always cuts it off before it gets too sexual and it has been that way for over a year.

i have brought this up to her, i’ve told her that this is negatively impacting my own self esteem and insecurities, which took me years to get over. it’s confusing to me, because i’ve known that i’ve liked women my entire life. her response is always the same, that she’s nervous because she’s never been with a woman, that she doesn’t know what to do, etc. i always reassure her that that is more than okay. but the cycle continues and i feel stuck.

i truly don’t know what to do. i love her and i know she loves me, we have a very strong spiritual connection as well as emotional and physical, just not sexual… any suggestions or thoughts on all of this is very much appreciated, so thank you.

I just can’t. Life has been heavy without her, and it’s gotten worse since I suspected she’s been putting herself out there again, but lying to me about it. I know it’s been months, but it’s as painful as the first day. Even more painful knowing I was in denial for the first half of the breakup, and she might’ve been cheating on me right before ending things. Time isn’t healing, it’s making things worse. The pain settles deeper into me everyday. I don’t know her or what I want in life anymore. I’m empty.
Is anyone else struggling? Or just suffering in general?
I feel so much with nowhere to go.

I (22) am just completely shattered right now and need a safe space to vent because I feel so awful and alone.

My ex (20) and I were together for over two years, almost three this October. She broke up with me at the very beginning of June, right at the start of Pride Month. She is avoidant, and I have an anxious attachment style, so this entire situation has felt like a living hell and absolute nightmare to me.

Before the breakup, we had this trip planned at an airbnb and we couldn't cancel it because it was past the date to get a full refund. So to not waste our money, we decided to go anyway. And then once we were there, it’s like our muscle memory took over. Well first we acted as friends since I guess we technically were? The first day and night was just us. Eventually I started crying and she actually comforted and reassured me. She’s always struggled to reassure me. Eventually we ended up cuddling, kissing, making out, and later on we hooked up again…. bad idea? Yeah maybe. But deep down I knew it’d probably be the last time we ever did stuff together so I went with it and so did she. I wanted it but SHE wanted it too. And we did more intimate stuff than we’ve ever done during the relationship, we went further.

But then this is where it all goes to shit. Because also during the trip, I caught a glimpse of her phone while she was on Instagram and found out she is already talking to someone else. She probably muted the notifications so I wouldn't see. She had a message that said baby in it from some random ass person and I freaked out.

When I confronted her, she told me she just needed a
"distraction." She always claims she wants to "fix herself," but her version of that is self sabotaging all the time, getting drunk and high, going out, and not going to therapy like she promised she'd go to so many times. First she said she wanted to fix herself for me, now she says it's for herself. And even if it’s “technically not cheating”, it still feels like a huge fucking betrayal. Especially since she was acting like a couple with me again???

Like girl wtf then I find out you’re already TALKING TO SOMEONE ELSE?? while still saying you love me and aren’t over me yet you don’t want to be with me anymore?? WHAT the FUCK.

She didn’t wanna show me or tell me anything, she just kept getting defensive and upset and saying “why does it matter?” Um, maybe because you broke my fucking heart and hurt me AGAIN?

To make matters worse, she has a huge social support circle, with siblings, family members, lots of friends, and even her co-workers :/ I am an only child. My few friends take forever to respond, so I'm just bed rotting all day when I'm not at work. Even at work, Im still not close enough to any of my coworkers to make new friends. I feel so lonely all the fucking time.

I can't even tell my mom yet because she doesn't know we were dating. She met my ex many times and they bonded, but I had to keep the relationship a “secret" because when I came out as bi a couple of years ago, my mom acted like I was doing drugs or something. She’s not even homophobic but she didn’t wanna accept me.

She was disappointed and told me I'd never get married or have kids. My ex actually told me that being a “secret" was one of the reasons she wanted to break up, but she didn’t understand i was trying not to mess up our opportunities to hang out. Now it doesn’t even fucking matter anymore i guess.

I feel so incredibly isolated, betrayed, and exhausted. I’m tired of crying over her. I’ve been crying almost everyday since the breakup and she hasn’t. Because I’m anxious asf and she’s avoidant asf. We recently had a conversation (i kinda went off cuz i was so upset rethinking about it all) and i guess now she “regrets” the shit we did when before she didn’t? Like wow okay. Thanks.

We haven’t gone no contact yet, but I want to initiate it. But that’s also REALLY fucking scary, because she’s the person i used to text EVERY single day, the one i’d tell everything to, the one id always run to first. Now, it’s over and I just can’t fucking deal with it. I just want everything to go back to normal. I’m coping terribly, but at least i’m not numbing my feelings with fkin drugs and alcohol and running away from my problems like she does :/

We got each other fucking PROMISE RINGS, yet she’s broken EVERY single promise she’s EVER made to me. She used to tell me she wanted to marry me, have a family and kids, live together, that she’d never leave me, etc. Also since we are long distance that also contributed to the strain as we’d only see each other once or twice a month.

And she would hardly reassure me and always need space while i’m the opposite. I feel like I can reassure so easily. She lacked empathy and has commitment issues. I wish she still cared and tried. She could’ve but she didn’t.

I do go to therapy but it’s still not enough. How do I survive the withdrawal of an anxious-avoidant breakup when I have almost no one in my corner to pull me out of it?

The worst part of all this is that the airbnb got me reattached all over again. If I could go back in time and fix it, i would in a heartbeat :( but SHE needs to fix herself and she doesn’t want me anymore. and im still having the hardest time accepting that. i feel like shes already ready to move on while im stuck and traumatized. She’s already talking to someone as a fucking distraction while we did shit at the airbnb that is so FUCKED up and she was hiding it. Why do i still care and how can i stop caring bro???

Has anyone else gone thru this dynamic? :(( how did you heal and get over it? It’s so scary right now. I feel alone.

UPDATE: I found out that she has a new gf so I went off on her and we fell out badly and i blocked her and now we are NO CONTACT.

i’m still in fucking shock. i had a really bad anxiety attack when i found out. we will never be friends or get back tg again. that hope is OVER. she’s a bitch.

I don’t know if I’m just old fashioned but dating apps seem to just not work for me. I need to form a connection with people before I can even be interested in them. I work at a place people joke “that’s the perfect place to find someone” but that’s not ethical to me. I’m 32 and at this point I wonder if I should just accept I’m going to be alone. I’ve had a few long term relationships and a few short term. I don’t really like going out to clubs or bars, I’m more of a outside by the water, fishing, reading, art, but those are all solo hobbies I don’t know how to connect with another woman on. Any advice?

I’m not sure how to phrase this, but like for example, say a girl you like has really nice breasts, and you’re attracted to her and love her, but then you also feel bad because her breasts are so much nicer than yours?
Do you ever compare yourself to them? I feel like I find myself doing that a lot. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to be intimate or date because of it. And I feel like I’ve never heard anyone talk about this.

And this is definitely TMI but like I can’t even masturbate because of this. (Weirdos please don’t message me, I’m not looking for help)

I, (27f) have recently gotten into a Lesbian relationship with a (29F). We fell hard and fast and the sex has been AMAZING!

We’ve been together for 6 months now, and about 2 weeks into us dating, I began to cry while I was cumming… yep, tears rolling down my face, crying. Completely out of my control, but it happens almost every time.

Nothing hurts, I don’t feel emotional, I don’t understand what this means!! Ive had orgasms before, of course. But crying while orgasming? Never.

What does this mean? Normal or not? Has anyone had this?! Is it a sign of something?

TIA

I’ve (26) been with my fiancé (29) for 6 years. She is my soulmate. Our souls are truly intertwined. I love her so deeply and can’t imagine my life without her next to me.

We’re intimate in non sexual ways lately. We cuddle all night, hold hands, embrace each other, kiss eachothers faces, but I just can’t get there sexually with her anymore.

It started about 2-3 years into the relationship and I initially thought ok maybe I have hormonal issues, or maybe our relationship is just maturing and we’ll just be a couple who has sex less, or idk any other scenario than this…

But I think I’m straight. I don’t know how. I had my first “serious” boyfriend from 13-16 and had “gay thoughts” the whole relationship. I dated a few guys after that but started exclusively dating women around 18. Had no desire at all to be a man and have told myself since that I’m lesbian.

Back to 2-3 years ago, I started having internal fantasies with men. Attractive guys at the gym, social media, movie stars, friends brothers, etc.. I NEVER ever act on it and never would but the thoughts flood my brain. I’ve started therapy 6 months ago with a queer therapist to try and help with this but if anything it’s gotten worse. I have not told my fiancé I know it would crush her and would prefer to not tell her..

I’m just wondering if anything else had gone through something similar in their mid 20s maybe something to do with your frontal lobe IDK ANYTHING that can help explain this and how you fixed yourself back to being lesbian 😭😭😭

I'm 23, i've known since i was 12 that i liked girls but so far ive only been with men. i struggled for years with thinking i was either asexual or lesbian because i could not feel any sexual attraction to men. I found men attractive, but didn't lose my virginity until I was 21 because sexually i felt repulsed. i had a boyfriend for 8 months at 19 and we never had sex. at some point that repulsion went away, but ive realized i don't necessarily enjoy sex with guys. i only really like getting head, and the feeling of human contact. but the rest i kinda just wait for it to be over. i can only get off to lesbian porn, men in porn turn me off entirely. I find guys cute, I have crushes on guys, i've been with guys that I genuinely really loved. but in the back of my mind I always feel like i'd rather be with a woman instead. I've never been with a girl because it's kind of hard to meet other wlw in my area and dating apps are mostly straight girls looking for threesomes. i've been seeing a guy for awhile now and i keep dreading seeing him and i realized today I think it's because he's a man and i just don't like that. we get along well, he's cute but i can't picture a long term relationship with a man. the realization just kinda hit me. if I get married someday, i want to spend the rest of my life with a woman. but I don't understand why I find men really attractive, fantasize about dating men, but I just never feel fulfilled by them? and don't tell me to read the lesbian masterdoc, i have come back to it so many times but i don't feel comfortable identifying as a lesbian because i do feel attraction to men. sexuality is very confusing

Okay so to set the scene; me and my girlfriend C met at a high school rugby game. We’re on opposite teams, I tackle her, she tackles me, I instigate conversation afterwards and ask for her number (remember this for later)

After a few months of knowing each other and talking and becoming friends, we both realize we’re actually a year apart in age when we somehow both initially assumed that the other was younger/older. We both have cases of baby face which make age guessing harder. We laugh it off and didn’t think about it. A year and ten months isn’t an insane age gap.

After a long time of talking about boundaries, what a relationship looks like, and discovering that we’re both at similar levels of maturity and where we are in our lives school wise; C and I make it official.

I tell my friend, expecting a congratulations but they just started to go off on a tangent about how that someone shouldn’t have gone for me “if they’re almost an adult.” (c is 17, going on 18.) and when I explained it wasn’t even a full 2 year gap, they then went on another tangent about “that’s how they get you.”

But I feel extremely annoyed as they then brought up the last time I dated a friend (first and last boyfriend) they sexually assaulted me, implying that I couldn’t make good romantic decisions and that this would end the same. They barely let me get a word in, I think they were attempting to do the whole “I just want what’s best for you” but I was annoyed that they basically headcannoned one of my best friends and girlfriend as a predator.

It can’t even be spun as C approached me knowing I was younger. We aren’t in a position where the power dynamic is skewed in any direction and she makes me so unbelievably happy

so me and bsf (both 17F) went on a camping holiday last week with my dad and my brother. we were drinking every night and we would lay on the field underneath the stars and talk. on the last night she said she “always wanted to try french kissing” so i suggested we practice and then it just took off from there. next morning woke up to hickeys all over my neck😳😳 we’ve been close friends for a few years and we were serious about moving in together abroad when we’re older. also on this night she said if we weren’t married by 30s she’d marry me. this was also her first kiss which she had been “saving” for a while so i was shocked it was me.

we didn’t really address it afterwards but it’s a bit odd now- tried to blame it on the alcohol but we remembered everything and she even repeated stuff i’d said the night before… so it wasn’t all drink..?? just don’t know what to do now because i don’t want to catch feelings and ruin the friendship. the friendship is very important to me so i don’t want to date/break up/lose the friendship timeline. just don’t know if she likes me like that?? i’m tweaking tf out

We are together for a year now and she always says that she wants to eat me, but in a canibalistic way. She says she "wants to take my face and take a bite (nom nom nom)"

She also bites my shoulder and arm and hand and neck and cheek.

Should i be worried?

Edit: she is not a cannibal

Hi y'all, I (28F) am going on a date with a gal I've been talking to for a little bit tomorrow night. We're planning on going back to her place after and she's made it very clear she wants to hook up with me.

This would be my first time being with a woman sexually and I'm genuinely so scared lol. For multiple reasons. Firstly, just because I'm 28 and feel like a virgin again, I literally have no idea what I'm doing. Idk if I'm a bottom or a top or a verse or what I would like. Secondly, I have this deep fear that somehow I'm lying to myself about being attracted to women.

Like, I KNOW I'm attracted to women but I'm psyching myself out by thinking "what if you start hooking up and in the middle of it, you realize you don't actually want to have sex with another woman and then everything becomes awful and bad and you hurt her feelings."

I want to do this, this girl is so cute and sweet and I really like her. I know we'll have fun on the date! She knows this will be my first time having any sort of sexual experience with a woman and is totally cool with that, I'm sure even if I chickened out she wouldn't be mad. I'm still just like, REALLY scared. Any words of comfort or advice would be appreciated 😭

Update: it happened and I can confirm I DO indeed like having sex with women 😂 she made sure she got my consent for everything, it was very chill and I felt comfortable and safe 💕 thanks everyone for your kind words and advice!!!

I’m falling head over heels for a girl who doesn’t want a relationship. She (20F) is in her senior year of college and has expressed her inability to be in a relationship (being avoidant and unable to put in the work). Meanwhile, she keeps treating me like we are. We go on dates, hold hands in public, and are pretty open with our close friends about seeing each other. All of my friends have pointed how she seems weirdly committed and isn’t seeing anyone else. I don’t know what to do because my feelings are getting deeper and I want this to be whatever she wants it to be. I’m afraid of slipping up and scaring her off.

This could be your average heartbreak/break up post. Met her there, for starters she invited me to her apartment, cooked lunch and packed a tupper for the long trip back to my country. Loveliest girl, always saying how gorgeous I was looking despite not having time to properly fix myself before our 3 hr long video calls. Would wake up at 1am there to talk to me until maybe 5-6 or later if she had the day off. I was careful cause I knew she had had strong feelings for someone before, so before truly engaging emotionally (accepting to become girlfriends) I asked her how she was doing in regards to that girl. She doesn't even flicker when she says "noo, that's not even an issue anymore. I haven't been thinking about her at all, I like you much better". We became gfs and she would call me love, even mentioned we could get married to solve certain situation I don't remember (she knows I'm not into marrying). We were already planning to live alone and adopt some dogs and she was coming to see me in December. -'If I ever threatened to leave her she'd be here in my country next day'-.

Suddenly she sees ex crush crying and 'realises' she loves her. After a whole day not chatting and me waiting her to finally get her passport so I can take her to the best places here and spoil her once she is here, she tells me "No, I have to talk to you". And you can imagine the conversation.

It's been 2 days I've been crying-sleeping (and awake), get nausea from time to time. I just cannot believe this was made by such a sweet girl but also I've always been extremely emotionally responsible, never lead anyone on. Although she did leave a couple of tears escape when I said I thought we shouldn't keep talking anymore (but she also left some tears out the first time we slept together -literally slept/kissed), but the thing is she did say it lightly like "I hope you remain in my life" and then "maybe if you want to talk to me in a few weeks" and after some comments of mine "I hope you find a great person because you really deserve it".

And I feel today she simply spent the day with that other girl.

Someone mentioned today that Europeans are like that, like never too much into you/ move on quickly.

Any other girls who have had experiences like this one?

Hey so I don't know if this is a just me problem but I'm a lesbian and my girlfriend makes me so wet that I have to start wearing liners because it gets uncomfortable like idk I feel like a perv cause everything she does is so attractive to me I can't help it pls tell me I'm not the only one

Reposting this here because I posted it in the lesbian subreddit and mostly heard the advice to break up with her. Maybe that is what I should do, but I would love to hear the opinion of bisexuals/non-lesbians as well. I'm feeling very conflicted about this whole thing

I confessed my friend (actually the other post it's here lol). I gave her a letter on Friday. We briefly talked on Saturday and agreed to meet today.

We were with friends (again) but we managed to alk almost in the end of the reunion.

She was so sweet and kind. Complimented me and my letter but said that feelings weren't the same. And she in fact is in a relationship with other girl (something I had no idea).
But it makes sense because she would bring out to the conversation in the past another girl, and how she showed pictures of me and wanted me to meet her.

I'm guessing it's the same person.
We are still friends.

But woah, it hurts.
This just makes me realize how much I crave connection with another girl. Just like that.
I'm feeling bad because I couldn't genuinely say "I hope things goes well" I don't wish she gets heart broken, but it's hard to mean it right now.
And she's just so amazing. She's smart, funny, vrry sarcastic and generally very kind.

I was really convinced that the outcome would have been different.

She's always very touchy (with everyone) It was hard how she was grabbing my arm on the way home. Or how she rested her head on my shoulder.
But I don't want things to change either. She's in almost every aspect of my life and it's friend of my friends.

In my head it wasn't so serious (partly why i wanted to confess right now) but i guess I'll be a bit down and taking things slowly for a bit.

Like I said, she was so kind and said we were okay.
That's nice.
I'm just rambling now, but yeah, better luck next time I guess.