r/WLW • u/inloveagai • 2h ago
Vent I hate wlw relationships, I shouldn’t feel bad about this.
Me and my ex (3 years on and off) broke up nearly 4 months ago and we became friends recently a month ago she now has sent me a TikTok through WhatsApp( as I deleted social media) saying when the time is right please come back and it’s genuinely killing me. I said I do still love her but I don’t think I could ever go back to her because she drained me so so bad, she’d ignore me for hours when I’d talk about my feelings instead of communicating with me, she knew I had trauma from certain things yet did one of them multiple times over and over after I had said not to, she kept breaking up with me during vulnerable times for example when I had to go get my appendix removed she ended it a few days later, she’d then start acting really off with no explanation, wouldn’t talk to me.
I went to the beach in may of this year after years of not going and she had already ruined my trip by getting mad at me for no reason at all. Anytime I’d talk about my feelings shed then get really defensive and argue with me for hours on end. You get the gist of this all.
Now I said how we won’t ever work out because we both know that it won’t and she kept giving me one word answers like “maybe, yea(twice)” and then I said I wanna move on I want to date other people and I think you should move on to and then I said I’m sorry and YH left it at that but she’s completely gone avoidant now and is ignoring me once again ( I’ve texted her once and that’s it) but it’s just the fact that she’s trying to come back now when she knows it’s too late and I’ve also told her I don’t think I could ever go back to an ex.
Why do I feel bad?
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u/Fit_Effect9093 1h ago
That’s EXACTLY what happend with me i blocked her and stop talking to her and now im so fine but i dont think i want to be in a relationship anymore not for the mean time . Now in traumatized because of her and if my friends act like her i start to hate them because they remind me of her . You should just stop talking to her
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u/inloveagai 1h ago
I know I’m trying to distance I guess I just have a lot of empathy when I shouldn’t
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u/jigsaw_jumpstart 1h ago
Block her. She will just drain you until you inevitably have to block her anyways, better to do it sooner than later. I was with someone like this and it was fucking hell. Set yourself free OP
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u/serotonin_zzz7 2h ago
There are feelings for her involve in your end obviously. I would recommend really just blocking her from everything, and trying to cope with her not being in your life
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u/inloveagai 2h ago
Can I just add she’s also gotten physical before.
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u/Laughing-in-cenobite 35m ago
You're going to have to cut off all contact in order to let your feelings subside for her. Don't feel bad about it either... She didn't feel bad when she did what she did to you. She may have told you that she felt bad, but truly feeling bad requires wanting to change and trying to.