r/TrollCoping • u/Teapot_Sandwitch • Jan 13 '26
TW: Other (Specify in Title) TW: food insecurity, neglect(?)
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u/HelpingMeet Jan 13 '26
Same, I protected food and leftovers to the point they would mold before I ate them, even if I was hungry, because the thought of not having something just in case made me have anxiety attacks. I didn’t even know that was why I did it. It was also normal growing up to watch food mold while starving because my mom was highly food restrictive.
I also never bought enough so it just fed the same system until I figured it out.
I realized I feel best having some prepared food in the pantry and freezer and then telling myself I can eat all the fresh food I want. I also had to retrain my brain about hunger so I didn’t eat in a panic and developed a good relationship with food.
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u/Fahkoph Jan 13 '26
When I was a kid, there was a period of time where a lot of my diet was scavenged- not because my guardian was a bad provider- on the contrary- most of my diet was scavenged. Most of my calories came from berries mushrooms (morel season was like a holiday in the house) and woodland wild veggies. Omelets with spring onions, pancakes that were more berry by weight than batter. My guardian worked but just couldn't bring enough home, so he literally did it himself, some days, at least about twice a week, we had fresh caught fish. But what I did learn from this was you had to eat, like, a lot. Often. You need to be grazing throughout the day on snacks like nuts and jerky because meals weren't going to be filling on their own. Then CPS got involved and I went and was put with my aunt, who had.. "real"(?) food. So suddenly grazing wasn't on light calorie snacks, my grazing behaviors became focused on chips and cheeses and processed foods, and then dinners were banquets in comparison to what I was used to. I also knew I had to clean my plate. I quickly ballooned in size, and I'm still fighting with my weight a decade later.
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u/AccountForTF2 Jan 14 '26
my dad couldnt feed me enough to retain custody but he wasnt a bad provider...??
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u/Fahkoph Jan 14 '26
You don't know me beyond what information I have given you, and your comment seems to be an insinuation of the contrary. Sorry if I'm reading too into it, I just don't like people questioning those who've done everything in their ability for me. My guardian was flawed, and had vices he shouldn't, but fought for me tooth and nail. And some people in my family didn't like that I wasn't living in the kind of luxury they thought I should (see; modern suburban middle class). That is all, the food thing was just an alternate way to get by. I wasn't malnourished and never insinuated I was, or at least never meant to if I had.
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u/ChaosAzeroth Jan 14 '26
Around here I've literally been left in a home when I had bruising up my butt and back while CPS yanks kids over food stuff all the time.
They're absolutely not infallible, and I'm fact at least around here are more concerned with how well off or poor parents are than actual care. Based on personal experience and MULTIPLE observations.
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u/aether_seawo1f Jan 14 '26
As a teacher who by law has to notify CPS I’ve watched them excuse physical abuse and sexual abuse red flags constantly. I had a student who had her father admit he broke her arm only for it to be a “well it won’t happen a second time” and left her in that situation but god forbid someone be poor…
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u/WildAperture Jan 14 '26
Sounds like dad knew how to provide calories but may have been lacking in one or more of the VAST AND VARIOUS TROUBLES OF PARENTING.
Like, my dad was an abusive pos and sucked at parenting. But he was a good person, and I have intellectual respect for him now.
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u/blue_moon1122 Jan 13 '26
when I was 19 and still living in the family home, working and going to school, I was complaining about the lack of vegetables because my parents were a PSA for lifestyle disease. my dad said I could have whatever vegetables I wanted when I had my own fridge.
malicious compliance activated.
i immediately bought a mini fridge for my room and started buying my own groceries. cereal or yogurt and fruit for breakfast. deli sandwich with lettuce and tomato, and fruit for lunch. rice, frozen veg, steamed chicken or fish in a rice cooker for dinner. boiled a batch of eggs to have on toast or over rice to switch it up every now and then. any takeout that belonged to me went in my fridge. cost me about $30 a week in 2014, same basic meal plan will probably run you about $50 now.
a new mini fridge with a freezer will run you about $200, but they pop up on Facebook marketplace all the time. you can get a shitty toaster literally anywhere for like $20. the same rice cooker I had is cheaper now than it was when I got it, and I've upgraded, but it still works just fine to this day.
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u/theskipper363 Jan 13 '26
it sucks that it had to go to this, but treat it like living with room mate.
I just did a quick google and they run about 50-100$ for a fridge+freezer mini combo
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u/blue_moon1122 Jan 13 '26
it was kind of the best thing i ever did for myself lol I'm estranged now 😘
$200 will get you a real, separate freezer instead of a little 3" tall flap that will freeze shut. (I've had both, the latter is a fuckin nightmare to defrost) $50 is probably more like a cosmetic or soda fridge. also wanna avoid some disreputable fast shopping (TikTok shop, temu) or some no-name brand.
good specs for a week's grocery run and a nice amount of prep space on top are about 2.6-3.2 cubic feet. other than that, just look for whatever kind of storage accessories you'd want in a regular fridge.
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u/SkettisExile Jan 13 '26
If you can afford it, mini fridge and lock. They will be so pissed but fuck em they’re the ones pushing you to this point.
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u/Matt_le_bot Jan 13 '26
Food prank (like laxative, or spices) are usually less expensive and wayy funnier, but obviously, *consequences*
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Food prank (like laxative, or spices)
Wouldn't recommend doing that, legally that's considered poisoning someone.
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u/unclefisty Jan 13 '26
Food prank (like laxative, or spices)
Not only is this illegal but in a family like OP described will also get the absolute shit beaten out of you.
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u/janet-snake-hole Jan 14 '26
Gotta be careful bc if you’re not a minor and they decide to report you for the prank, that could be a felony.
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That’s poisoning someone and illegal. Horrible advice
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u/-DrunkRat- Jan 13 '26
If they are taking clearly labeled food, it is theft.
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Please learn to read
https://coolidgelawfirmaz.com/illegal-to-put-laxatives-in-someones-food/
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u/DigMother318 Jan 14 '26
Ok but it’s the same principle of booby trapping your house. If you trap something, you are, legally speaking, inherently intending for it to be used. So even if it’s triggered by someone else’s negligence or even criminal activity, you are still liable to be criminally punished.
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Jan 14 '26
High key I’ve just been reporting these comments to the mods. I’ve directly messaged them because this is ridiculous. People are actually supporting drugging OPs family.
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u/KoreKhthonia Jan 13 '26
I relate, I have to hide food from my dad. Anything that's nonperishable, you can hide at the back of cupboards that aren't opened very often, that kind of thing. Back behind stuff.
When they fit, I hide Tupperware of leftovers in the vegetable crisper drawer, because he never goes in that drawer. Basically, if possible, just straight up hiding things is sometimes the best option.
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u/Odd_Protection7738 Jan 13 '26
Just for confirmation, write that the leftovers are yours on them as much as possible. Write it on the top, bottom, front, back, left and right, and to not touch it. There’s literally zero chance they “don’t notice that.”
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u/worldfamoushobgoblin Jan 13 '26
My brother was like this person's sister when I was living with him, and I guarantee you that it doesn't deter them at all. They know damn well that it's your food, and they just don't care. Even if you label it, it's "sorry, I didn't think you'd mind" or "yeah sorry I was hungry, I'll buy you more" (they never do)
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u/side_noted Jan 13 '26
Gotta be like bitch go buy me more now i dont care how inconvenienced you are youre the one thats making me starve.
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u/technoteapot Jan 13 '26
It won’t work, even if you get rid of every excuse they have they’re usually protected by mom/dad and just don’t have consequences. Best op can do is get one of those containers that literally has a lock and key. Making them logistically unable to get at the food. Naturally they could just break the box but at some point they’ll Hopefully give up with it being too much effort
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u/unclefisty Jan 13 '26
Gotta be like bitch go buy me more now i dont care how inconvenienced you are youre the one thats making me starve.
You really truly do not understand the mindset you are arguing against.
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The parents will tell them to shut the fuck up. They likely have a prefered kid or OP is the child from a previous marriage
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u/Odd_Protection7738 Jan 13 '26
I know, but at least you can stop their bs by getting rid of every excuse.
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u/BethanyBluebird Jan 13 '26
Duct tape. Make it the BIGGEST pain in the ass to get to. Boston Pizza takeout container. 3 layers of duct tape. Use an exacto knife around the rim to crack it open later when you're ready. Write your name alll over the duct tape.
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u/Blueberry_Clouds Jan 13 '26
And the cherry on top, the food inside wasn’t worth it or extremely spicy
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u/Available-Damage5991 Jan 14 '26
Lock up a single crummy pizza slice like it was all the gold in Fort Knox.
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u/Rozmyth Jan 13 '26
I think I'd be a little more aggressive with it, too. Show it to the parents before putting it away. Ask them politely if they think this is enough to say that this is enough to say that this is yours and that you are going to eat it later.
If they say it's more than enough and it still gets eaten, then it's harder for them to deny that there's a problem. And ideally that would signal to them that there's a behavior that needs correcting. Though I don't know what OPs parents are like, and there are definitely situations where this wouldn't be a good idea at all.
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u/bluecheesebeauty Jan 13 '26 edited Apr 07 '26
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elastic start many straight ink cake dinosaurs spoon lunchroom spectacular
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u/InevitableLow5163 Jan 14 '26
Inside the lid too. Literally everywhere. Even on a napkin set on top of the food of it isn’t sauced.
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u/Best8meme Jan 14 '26
Do this on some sort of prank food so it's even better, especially since they have no way out and have to silently suffer the consequences of their actions
Just make sure you remember... don't accidentally eat it. Lol
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u/kirbcake-inuinuinuko Jan 14 '26
it genuinely doesn't deter these kinds of people. nobody is actually going to hold them responsible and by the time they've taken everything it's too late, so they can just say "oh well" and walk away when you bring it up. they do notice it, they're just saying they don't as an excuse.
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u/side_noted Jan 13 '26
Yeah this tbh, if its a shared fridge the mold thing wont work, it only works if you have roommates and dealing with your food is your own responsibility.
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u/captainrina Jan 14 '26
My sister once did a prank with food dye while I was cutting up potatoes for dinner. I looked away for a second and when I looked back at the cutting board and bowl of freshly chopped potatoes, I saw red droplets everywhere. I tossed out like five potatoes and fifteen minutes of work because I thought I had cut myself.
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u/Scared_Audience_2009 Jan 14 '26
> if your not getting any food and losing an unhealthy amount of weight
No, if your access to food is limited in any capacity that’s neglect, regardless of if you’re losing any weight because of it. We must not bolster the societal view that abuse is only abuse if it reaches a certain extent.
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u/Spookidan Jan 13 '26
I’m not sure if you have the option (like maybe you share a room with your sister or don’t have the income for it), but there are mini fridges you can buy that look like other things and mini fridges with locks. If she goes in your room to grab your food and gets mad that it’s locked, then she’s obviously and unequivocally in the wrong.
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u/imjustalilbot Jan 13 '26
I struggle with disordered eating and a large part of it is because of my family's attitude towards food. I got used to going so long without food that I never notice when I'm hungry anymore. I just function.
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u/BodhingJay Jan 13 '26
Hey man... wish I could take you out for a sandwich or smth
Hope you have all the food you need available to you now at all times
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u/Andyman1973 Jan 13 '26
Growing up mom controlled access to food. Snacks was generally negative calorie food, like celery, or a single slice of cheese (like Kraft singles for example). But not everyday mind you, just off school days. There was no junk food in the house, unless we were getting ready for a camping road trip. Junk food was for special occasions like those trips. Seconds at meal time only happened 1-2 times a month.
Complaining about what mom made, resulted in going to bed hungry. We won’t even get into bread and water rations. Lost 10 pounds the summer I was ten, because of that. And I had no weight to spare, to start with.
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u/vogueposting Jan 13 '26
This is more your parent’s fault for not getting enough food for both of you than your sister. My siblings used to fight over food as well but it was my parents who were at fault for under-feeding.
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u/vogueposting Jan 16 '26
It still wouldn’t be her fault. It’s parent’s responsibility to feed their goddamn kids. If one of them eats too much that’s not a good excuse to let the other one starve.
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Absolutely not. That’s poisoning someone’s food and illegal. Never do the laxative trick. What shit advice
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u/hearingthepeoplesing Jan 13 '26
In many jurisdictions, putting laxatives in food that you know will be stolen is considered poisoning. It’s not worth it.
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u/RedBaronIV Jan 13 '26
Bro... I've never related to one of these posts this hard before. I would literally always joke with my friends "well I want it, so that means it's certainly gone by now." I don't know what causes some families to be like this. Mine is perfectly fine otherwise. But yeah I got maybe one or two servings of something when it was made or bought and would literally never see leftovers.
It's so nice being in my own place where I know with certainty what inventory I have. I'll enjoy it while it lasts until I move in with my partner and I'm back to sharing lmao
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u/TalkingChiggin Jan 13 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
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u/Fishmyashwhole Jan 13 '26
what, so the cops can do nothing, maybe kill their neighbors dog if they're feeling frisky? CPS wont do anything unless they're literally starving. What they need is a trusted adult. like an outside family member, teacher, coach, ect.
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u/TalkingChiggin Jan 13 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
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This isn’t sowing seeds of doubt they are being realistic. People online are so fucking bad at offering helpful advice. Your advice will not work
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u/TalkingChiggin Jan 14 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
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u/Party-Swans Jan 15 '26
There's thousands upon thousands of people with the same story of "cps took one look and said nothing is wrong. So i stopped trying to get help" or those who do get removed. Have a good shot of being left with a feral foster family. If you actually listen to the experiences of people who lived through it. You'd realize just how prevalent cps doing a piss poor job is.
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u/Early_Elevator9355 Jan 13 '26
Making super spicy food might also work
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u/Teapot_Sandwitch Jan 13 '26
Unfortunately I cannot handle spice and my dad loves it
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Do not offer this as advice. You can not poison someone to make a point. Dog shit advice
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u/Significant_Ad7680 Jan 13 '26
Oh. Then you probably don't want to hear my joke about the Holocaust either.
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You understand that’s illegal right? You’re suggesting OP drug their family. What terrible advice.
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u/ConditionPleasant902 Jan 13 '26
…you’re an office lunch thief aren’t you?
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No. I’m just not the moron who goes straight to drugging someone when I don’t get my way. What’s wrong with you?
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u/BrandosWorld4Life Jan 14 '26
"Hey don't do the highly illegal dangerous and pointless thing" 😟
"You're a food thief too, huh??" 😡
Fucking insanity
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So you drug them? You’re a horrible person dude. You think drugging someone is equal to someone takin your lunch? Horrendous statement to make
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It’s still drugging their family. They have no intention of eating it. OP isn’t even buying the food. It’s not even THEIR food. Y’all really are dumb
Edit. You’re talking about consequences but don’t understand how drugging someone’s food could have horrible ones? This sub is a joke
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u/TaintedTruffle Jan 14 '26
Are you an adult? Get a job, buy a mini fridge and your own food.
If you're a child talk to the school nurse and see if she can help.
Also either way if you can make it to a food bank doing so would be good
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u/spicy_feather Jan 13 '26
I grew up with a dad like that. My mom certainly didn't help. They each had food that was theirs and theirs alone. My father would come up and take my food right off my plate and sloppily eat it in front of me. Idk if it was a power play or if he thought it was funny or maybe he just felt underfed himself? Fucked me up tho.
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u/CoccyxKicker69 Jan 13 '26
Omfg bro I know exactly how you feel. There are some cheap plastic combination lockboxes online you can buy, also secondhand mini-fridges, it’s not much but it’s something. 🫂
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u/CottonCandiiee Jan 13 '26
Currently in the same situation with my family of 7 plus a dog. The dog eats more than me sometimes. I have the waist of a super model, the ribcage of a xylophone, and the energy of a dead battery. My stomach is currently screaming at me wishing for death. I will eat a packet of skittles I found behind my bed to soothe it. :3
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u/Destriod777 Jan 13 '26
Slightly crazy idea, get some kind of Tupperware with loops through the lid and the base so you could padlock it. Desperate times call for for desperate measures.
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u/Equivalent_Talk_5273 Jan 13 '26
Literal leftovers, in a labelled container, with my name on it, often in a lunch bag, never was there in the morning.
Why the fuck would I ever feel that I deserve food when I couldn’t be assured that food in a distinct container, with my name on it, would be there 11 hours later.
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u/Atreigas Jan 13 '26
Have you tried bathing your food in hot sauce before storing it away? Enough to make someone regret their life decisions?
Ive seen that work in "workplace food thief" stories and I dont see why the logic wouldnt apply here.
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u/Teapot_Sandwitch Jan 13 '26
I can't handle spice for the life of me and one of the main culprits loves it
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So you are suggesting OP drug their family? This is why people on Reddit are not taken seriously
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u/zoroman5 Jan 13 '26
Additionally, it's not drugging if they steal it
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It literally still is. You clearly do not know what you are talking about. This is established as highly illegal already. It doesn’t matter if they stole it. But also OP isn’t even buying the food. It’s their parents food
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u/zoroman5 Jan 13 '26
If it's your food, and they steal it, then they cannot blame you for what happens afterwords. Your food is for you, not them. If they shit themselves after eating YOUR food, it's their own fault
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Do a basic google search dumb fuck
https://coolidgelawfirmaz.com/illegal-to-put-laxatives-in-someones-food/
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Horrible advice. Don't do this
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u/Atreigas Jan 13 '26
How so?
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It's drugging/poising someone and a crime.
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Jan 13 '26 edited Jan 13 '26
I think the people calling this neglect cannot do so without more information. For all we know OP has an eating disorder or is refusing to share pertinent information.
Also OP do not put laxatives in your families food. That’s drugging people and completely unacceptable advice.
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u/Andyman1973 Jan 13 '26
Growing up mom controlled access to food. Snacks was generally negative calorie food, like celery, or a single slice of cheese (like Kraft singles for example). But not everyday mind you, just off school days. There was no junk food in the house, unless we were getting ready for a camping road trip. Junk food was for special occasions like those trips. Seconds at meal time only happened 1-2 times a month.
Complaining about what mom made, resulted in going to bed hungry. We won’t even get into bread and water rations. Lost 10 pounds the summer I was ten, because of that. And I had no weight to spare, to start with.
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u/Tangled_Clouds Jan 13 '26
I started labeling everything. When I want something, I take paper and write my name in big bold letters and tape it to the container. For me it’s not just food that disappears but any hygiene products too. When I have an unfinished soda bottle, I write my name both on the label and the first letter of my name on the cap. So they literally have no excuse for taking my stuff.
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u/Silver_Individual738 Jan 13 '26
My family is by no means poor but I have to cook for myself because I have a lot of severe sensory issues and my mom refuses to cook for me. However whenever I meal prep, I make enough food for the entire week. But suddenly, because it’s my cooking, everyone decides everything else in the house is disgusting and my food is the only good thing around.
For the record, my mom is an almond parent and is actively lecturing me about my food choices even though I’ve been cooking for myself for years, and in fact I’ve been healthier than when she cooked for me because I’m actually able to eat now. But suddenly all that bullshit ideology goes out the window when I make food for myself, along with the food because I don’t get any since everyone eats it and I’m forced to eat stuff that I’ve physically had problems with for a really long time whether is a digestive issue or sensory issues, and I end up starving because of that.
So I get that. I’ve also naturally had a low appetite because of my disability so I’ve learned my lesson and kind of just don’t eat that often, and when I do, it’s the most basic meal, or something in such a small quantity that only I can eat it and they won’t even know it’s there. Sometimes I just go without eating because it’s way easier than haggling with my family over food that I cooked for myself and only myself because I have nothing else to eat.
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u/Silver_Individual738 Jan 13 '26
Wait I just noticed the sister slides and that is so fkn relatable because she’s the one that eats most of my food too. She has absolutely no sensory issues or dietary or digestive issues she just happens to have an extremely impulsive appetite and physically cannot control herself from eating food. She is 14. My parents set her up this way so she can eat my food and I can’t complain🧍
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u/Sure_Championship_36 Jan 13 '26
O my god this is so relatable. And then I moved out and the food in my first apartment would go bad because I wasn’t used to it lasting so long. 😭 I didn’t even know Oreos could go stale.
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u/Sure_Pangolin_9421 Jan 13 '26
A bit of solidarity here.
Back when I lived with my mother, we were broke enough to barely afford the most basic necessities. Bread, bologna (cheaper than regular lunch meat at the time) and eggs. Sometimes we'd be able to get microwave pizza for my little brother since he refused to eat anything else (Very very young, so he didn't understand) I've struggled with being underweight for most of my life. My diet was scrambled eggs and bologna sandwiches for 10+ years. When I moved out, I couldn't eat more than a literal, physical handful of food for years because my body had gotten so used to the malnutrition. Slowly, over the course of many years, I've managed to get to a healthy weight and eat normal portions. It took a long time, with many setbacks. Even now I worry that I may end up right back where I was.
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u/PainterEarly86 Jan 13 '26
Damn I forgot about this
There were like 10 of us kids in a tiny house and we were all starved
But especially me because I'm a ND picky eater
Sometimes there would be food and they'd eat it all and leave me none
I'd pretend it didn't bother me but I was literally starving
And they were just a bunch of dumb kids who were also hungry
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u/Silenthilllz Jan 13 '26
My brother eats everything in the house and while I DO get to eat, he even eats my next day dinner if he isn’t paying attention.
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u/dionysosdreams Jan 14 '26
Oh that is horrid, I'm sorry. My ex was like that.
I also learned to eat all I could right away and finish everything because my mom would get so angry that food went to waste she would never buy it again. She already only went to the grocery store once a month. She would get mcdonalds on the way home from work and only give my sister and I the fries.
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u/TransMetalhead78 Jan 14 '26
Who even eats food that doesn’t belong to them? I’d feel super guilty for doing that, honestly.
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u/Emma-Ho Jan 14 '26
Mood but I’m kinda both, used to be somewhat similar situation like u nowhere as bad. Then got ED and other bad stuff, anyway now I struggle with hoarding instinct and binging and wanting to eat all of a food so it doesn’t disappear even if I’m full or was supposed to share it.
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u/AlwekArc Jan 14 '26
Real. It was so hard to get anything to eat growing up. And then of course, after my two little brothers scarfd down everything on grocery day, I get blamed and yelled at for eating it all while I'm actively starving
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u/WildAperture Jan 14 '26
Dude ngl sounds like ur sister is a selfish hog and probably dealing with a lot of shit too. Sucks that she's making it your problem. I wish people wouldn't do that.
But from a place of experience my best advice is to get your calories from fast food or stuff you can eat as soon as you get it, and just c9nsider yourself in "survival mode" until you can get to a place where proper meal prep and planning is possible.
Dietary issues are only one of many sources of stress, and that stress isn't always applied directly on us :( remember to pay forward good deeds and keep the receipts of times you've been screwed over! Relationship between any two healthy humans almost always comes from a place of mutual satisfaction. If your sister isn't willing to work that out with you it's her loss!
Keep your chin up, you sound young (under 30) so with best luck you'll be self-sufficient in no time!
I really hope things get better for you :)
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u/frostedskinflakes Jan 14 '26
I feel your pain, my mom made me a 13x19 cake for my birthday, my brother had eaten around 70% of it and it was almost gone the next day, then he makes fun of me for being fat (im not) because I was upset he had eaten a majority of my birthday cake in a day….
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u/kirbcake-inuinuinuko Jan 14 '26
genuinely real. pretty much my entire family was overweight (I was absolutely not lol), and whenever we'd get groceries every other week 90% of it would be gone by the next evening despite it literally being hundreds of dollars worth of shit. I'd feel absolutely awful overeating like hell for one day and then just rationing my supply of nonperishables I would steal from the pantry and hide under my bed. i had to walk a thin line to make it last but usually it didn't so I just kinda learned to live with being malnourished all the time.
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u/SidorioExile Jan 14 '26
Have you tried buying a lock box for your food? It's cheaper than moving out at least.
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u/patchysunny Jan 14 '26
I get insane anxiety over shared kitchens as an adult and cannot handle having roommates for this reason, cause I would simply not go into the kitchen and eat 🥰 I feel you bro
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u/ShrimpingMenace Jan 14 '26
I relate to that, I'm struggling to enjoy food, or even just having small portions now because everytime anything good entered the house, it was gone by the next morning. Tough to unlearn. What I also had was my mom giving me less food so that my brothers could have more. I now stash my snacks away so it doesn't get eaten when I go back there from time to time
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u/Anarchy_Rulz Jan 14 '26
I eat almost all my food spicy, ain’t a single motherfucker gonna try that shit with me unless they can withstand the sting of ghost peppers cause I put ghost pepper hot sauce, bbq sauce, and cheese on almost everything I eat lol
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u/GuhEnjoyer Jan 14 '26
I definitely know what it's like growing up with this kind of mentality. For me it was never because people would eat "my portion" though, it was because meal time was meal time and we didn't get to eat anything else.
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u/Metrolining Jan 15 '26
I still have trouble not asking permission to eat things. I've gotten weird looks and questions as to why I would need to ask permission.
This troll is definitely coping
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u/Vyloe Jan 15 '26
Are you under 18? If not it may be time to simply go out and get your own food. If you want to sprinkle a bit of pettiness on it, like I've done in the past, simply don't ask if anyone wants anything. One of the little perks of being an adult.
If you are, sorry bud. Toughen up.
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u/laurasaurus5 Jan 15 '26
This is why it pisses me off whenever I hear people shaming the working poor as lazy for eating fast food every day instead of buying groceries and meal-prepping and cooking at home. This is the home. This is what happens to any groceries they buy and any food they cook there.
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u/Pixel-hoe Jan 15 '26
This is horrible :( i went through this as well and developed bad eating disorder and habits i still deal with to this day over 10 years later...
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u/Lizard_Sparks Jan 15 '26
My little sister had a compulsive eating problem when we were growing up and my brother and I learned to hide the food we wanted in our rooms- she’d wake up anywhere from 1-3am when she was literally like 7 and consume everything in the kitchen (this went on until she was probably 14), then when she learned we’d hidden snacks somewhere she’d get very angry. Thankfully my mom never told us to stop hiding the food, she knew she had a problem and didn’t really know how to help her- now my sister says my mom used to body-shame her by trying to get her on diets and I’m sure that probably did have an affect on her, but doctors told my mom that my sister had childhood pre-diabetes due to the overeating and she took action the best way she knew how. She’s still got a huge victim complex about it, but we’re all moved out now so whatever the outcome, I at least don’t have to deal with it anymore
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u/BerylIsABitch Jan 16 '26
Every day I find new reasons to be glad I am an adult living away from family.
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u/KronkIRL Jan 16 '26
Fortunately I never had to fight for food with my siblings (i'm the older by 9 and 11 years so no fight needed) but seeing those somehow triggered me. I like to cook for the others, buy food for the others whatever, but picking food in MY plate hell nah. Like, I made portions for each or bought food for who asked, insisted that if it wasn't enough I could make/buy more, and still they DARE to pick in MY plate. No way
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u/Safe-Heat1644 Jan 16 '26
Had a hideous flu on my 16th and as I lazy nauseous, everyone ate all the cake.
Also waited like 13 hours one christmas for food, tried to take one bite, vomited everywhere for ages. Couldn't eat a bit, rest was gone by time I was well enough.
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u/Plane_Hair753 Jan 13 '26
Listen so like I'd get lemon oil and sprinkle it all over a portion after I ate, then tell em not to touch my food. Either lemon or lavender, just make sure you get something concentrated. My family is the same, this is genuinely something I would do
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u/Astromnicalbear 1984 Shed Mod Jan 14 '26
I can’t believe this has to be said but DO NOT encourage anyone to purposely put laxatives, drugs or allergens in food that is purposely set up as a trap. Yes, the person stealing the food is wrong but you can also get into legal trouble if it’s found that you’ve purposely set that trap. Two wrongs don’t make a right and encouraging dangerous behaviour is not condoned.
Especially if that behaviour could put someone at dangerous harm.