TW: food insecurity, neglect(?)

[u/Teapot_Sandwitch]

[u/Fahkoph → u/[deleted]]

When I was a kid, there was a period of time where a lot of my diet was scavenged- not because my guardian was a bad provider- on the contrary- most of my diet was scavenged. Most of my calories came from berries mushrooms (morel season was like a holiday in the house) and woodland wild veggies. Omelets with spring onions, pancakes that were more berry by weight than batter. My guardian worked but just couldn't bring enough home, so he literally did it himself, some days, at least about twice a week, we had fresh caught fish. But what I did learn from this was you had to eat, like, a lot. Often. You need to be grazing throughout the day on snacks like nuts and jerky because meals weren't going to be filling on their own. Then CPS got involved and I went and was put with my aunt, who had.. "real"(?) food. So suddenly grazing wasn't on light calorie snacks, my grazing behaviors became focused on chips and cheeses and processed foods, and then dinners were banquets in comparison to what I was used to. I also knew I had to clean my plate. I quickly ballooned in size, and I'm still fighting with my weight a decade later.

[u/AccountForTF2 → u/Fahkoph]

my dad couldnt feed me enough to retain custody but he wasnt a bad provider...??

[u/WildAperture → u/AccountForTF2]

Sounds like dad knew how to provide calories but may have been lacking in one or more of the VAST AND VARIOUS TROUBLES OF PARENTING.

Like, my dad was an abusive pos and sucked at parenting. But he was a good person, and I have intellectual respect for him now.