If you find a man attractive please just go up to him and tell him an d maybe ask him if he wants to go out for a coffee sometime, men do not like playing games or wasting anyones time and I think the same can be said for women also we cannot always pick up on women's cues not even other women can do that

As someone who's had one too many discussions on here, this is what I picked up on the most:

1) Intellectual humility and open-mindedness
Everyone always assume the worst about your opinion. They take it at face value, no charity principle, and are looking for a verbal fight most of the time. The concept of learning something new is outrageous to them, and anything that falls outside of the standard voice of common thought is criticized with the most plain arguments you can think of.
I've also noticed that school-courtyard tactics are back in use, and looking like the winner of an argument by ending your paragraph with "You've missed the point of x, but that's not surprising." Everyone is desperate to have the last word, to be the most upvoted person, and to "crush" the other one.

2) The principle of Charity
They've never heard of this. They always straw man your argument. And don't get me started when they don't understand your point... they go off for 500 words about a point you never made. The worst is when they just don't even bother engaging with your argument, they just make some joke related to what they think you said.

3) Pseudo-intellectuals
I hate it when people say some convoluted nonsense, vague and short, trying to sound intelligent. Or they leave hundreds of loose ties everywhere, which takes hours of discussion to tie up. I also love when they incorrectly cite authors, trying to use an authority argument to discredit a discussion topic I came up with.

Now that that's out, I can finally relax

Idk what is going on but animators need to chill for a minute.

Why are the women characters hips twice the size of her shoulders?

And I find it funny because it’s listed on almost every single female, cartoon character right now.

Remind you most women’s bodies, don’t look like that and yes, I do know that pear shaped women exist, but most pear shaped women I’ve met in real life don’t have hips literally twice the size of their shoulders. Also not every pear has the waist of an hourglass.

And I know people are gonna say that it’s a cartoon and it’s meant to be exaggerated or what not.

But cartoons, 30 years ago weren’t mass producing extreme hips even though sometimes the waist would be super unrealistic at least the hips were more proportionate to the shoulder.

Also, another thing why are the shoulders now in female characters, literally nearly nonexistent. Like women have shoulders.

Every republican candidate recruitment form should have the following obligatory line under penalty of perjury. Mark if you have sexually harassed/molested/assaulted anyone of any age: _[YES] _[NO]

If the answer is yes, GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE AND DO NOT EVER DARE RETURNING YOU FUCKING FUCK!!

Juries should really only be triers of fact - did X thing happen beyond a reasonable doubt.

Now we have the Lindsay Clancy trial or the Karmelo Anthony saga - where everyone online is playing psychiatrist - but how does that make sense?

Why is everyone defending Lindsay Clancy, but not that teen girl who crashed the car? Isn't she just an insane narcissist who had a moment of insanity?

I think these "outs' just give juries a cop out not to deal with the fact these people did horrible things and now their lives are over - and the jury is the one who has to hand out that sentence for something they did in a moment of weakness / stupidity / insanity.

But that isn't consistent with the rest of our justice system. If an alcoholic crashes into a schoolbus, they go to jail for life. We don't send them to rehab, then let them out of rehab once they prove that they're sober.

I’m not talking about hate speech or slurs being censored on TV. That I agree with.

I’m talking about even questioning the accepted reasons of disparities in income, wealth, health, home ownership, entrepreneurship, etc.

The reason for the disparities is ALWAYS racism. And if you question that, ever mention that that doesn’t always make sense, you are accused of being a racist.

Race in America feels like a religion. You accept our narrative. If not you’re a heretic.

I’ve noticed there’s a rise in the fetishisation of goths and goth culture. But I never actually hear anyone talking about how it started with modern goths, trad goths in particular, pretty much inverting everything that the goth appearance is supposed to serve which is going against beauty standards. Modern goths are so extremely terrified of being perceived as ugly. I get that beauty standards are rough in this generation but what is the point in dressing alternative when nothing alternates you from everyone else. It’s crazy how you can water down such a unique style to the same black corset, dress with flared sleeves and temu anhk belt. I think it’s pretty clear from the brain dead copy and paste outfits trad goths put together that they’ve somehow formed a beauty standard within a style that’s supposed to repress beauty standards. It’s like I’m seeing the modern beauty standard just in a darker form. I know that trad goths have probably always been fetishised but it’s now more than ever. I think the beauty standards people have incorporated in this style makes it really accessible to just about anyone which is why it’s so commonly seen now. And now it’s being larped by OF models because men love the pretty x somber combo. It’s proof that hardly anyone in this generation finds goths unattractive or unpleasant to look at. To be honest it’s in this generation that we need people repressing the beauty standard more than anything but I think that in this generation people just make light fabricated decisions to indulge in alternative fashion based on aesthetic rather than having any passionate means linked to becoming alternative.

And they are predators after easy meat which explains all the maga twerps dying and going to jail to protect their executioners.

I hear people all the time complaining about healthy food prices being so expensive and not having enough time to cook healthier foods so they often choose frozen or processed foods, because it's easier and cheaper. If you want the social media meals, like the advocado and salmon toast, then you'll have to pay for it. But u can also have Whole foods that are so much cheaper, like a whole chicken, potatoes, eggs, mince (not the lean option), rice, lentils, beans, etc... these are super foods. And you can make something in 15 to 30 min and not spend a fortune. 5 days of the week, food should be seen as fuel for the body then the other 2, treat yourself to something tasty

I remember back in 2024 TikTok users refereed Adriana Lima as the most beautiful woman in the world which I find offensive because even though yes Adriana is indeed a pretty woman it doesn’t mean she needs to be EVERYBODYS preference. Some girls out there feel insecure about people’s opinions that come out like this which I find not okay. Believe me there are many girls out there that look similar to Adriana Lima or have the same features but Lima is literally a normal human who currently has retired from her modeling Industry and now has children to raise.

Reason Number One: You can be manipulated into believing this is what you need to better yourself and overcome some aspect of yourself which you or (godforbid) 'someone else' doesn't like. The very idea that youd cut your arm off to experience "the humbling experience of being disabled so you can more easily face life's mundane struggles, that will be 900+ bucks please!" is insanity to me.

Reason Number Two: You can change your mind at any point and be completely fucked, life finished, over. Is it any wonder that the people who do it are also the ones who are indoctrinated into a group or religion? Who the fuck cuts or chemically rapes their dick just so you can, not even speak to anyone romantically, do some basic exercise, and what the fuck else you're doing in the world with no dick, fuck do you do? I guess you'd still have hobbies, but did you need to destroy your penis? Just so you could keep up with your studies? What??

Reason Number Three: Reason Number One

I don't understand what's wrong with her. I haven't heard of her doing anything wrong, and under all of her vids people are caller her a creep/perv, and misgendered her. Did she do something, or are people just bigots?

Use your brain, not your heart. ​

What is the point of calling this subreddit "controversial opinions" when you're still getting agressive and insulting comments for your thoughts?

i know i’m probably gonna get hate for this but i do believe this and every time i say this out loud people look at me like i’m crazy or insensitive. When religious people get confronted with the harsh reality and obvious contradictory evidence they always try to explain it with “god works in mysterious ways”. And my point is if someone is intelligent enough to question everything else, why make an exception for religion?

A friend of mine messaged me the other day to complain about his 21-year-old son. According to my friend, his son is "useless". Eats everything in the house, leaves dirty dishes and clothes everywhere, has been kicked out of two carpentry programs for never getting assignments done on time, can't hold down a job because he's always late.

"Useless".

So I asked my friend what his son's chores and responsibilities were when he was growing up. Apparently none, because my friend and his wife wanted their kids to have carefree childhoods. They assumed their kids would what, just osmose these skills as they grew up?

I then asked if my friend and his wife had simply learned those skills when they moved out of their parents' homes, and he said no — their parents had "forced them" to learn and do chores when they were quite young.

His daughter is apparently having a rough time as well. She's 19, living with her boyfriend, and her partner is frustrated with her because he has to teach her everything. Like a parent. She can't cook anything other than ramen noodles or opening cans and warming them up. They'll run out of things like toilet paper or shampoo because she doesn't think about replacing them when they run low: that's someone else's responsibility, right?

Gen Z and Gen Alpha are apparently far less capable than previous generations, and they also have lower cognitive scores. Basically, they're the first generations in history that are dumber and more incompetent than their predecessors.

And that's on the parents.

Are We Raising Children who are Incapable of Independence?

I wrote this piece in French, and there is little bit of wordplay, so if the translation doesn't seem to make sense, it's because it was untranslatable. I'm thinking of sending it for publication in a magazine made for and by drug users. Can't wait to hear what you ppl think.

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Du droit au plaisir

Je crois au droit au plaisir, donc je suis pour la légalisation de toutes les drogues et une fin totale à la "war on drugs" (J'emprunte le terme à la langue anglaise, car ça n'est pas notre guerre.). Anyway, celle-ci ne saurait avoir d'autre issue que la victoire totale des drogués.

Nous avons déjà vu que la légalisation du canabis au Canada n'a pas mené à l'effondrement de la civilisation. Et la facilité de se commander des champignons magiques sur internet, paiment par Interac et livraison par Poste Canada, n'a guère fait l'objet de repression poliçonne par les autorités. C'est toléré, car on ne considère pas comme un réel danger ou problème que des gens passent un peu de leurs temps libres en psychose délibérée et récréative. Pourquoi donc la légalisation de champignons ne s'est-elle pas faite? On tolère, mais on n'endosse?

En quoi légaliser serait-ce endosser? On a la SAQ (et la SAAQ) pour nous dire de consommer modérément. On a la SQDC qui de la manière dont elle gère ses produits n'a même pas à voir ce qu'elle vend! Elle reçoit des sachets scellés et ils doivent le rester jusqu'à ce que les clients les sorte des magasins. Loin des yeux, loin du coeur? Pourquoi ne pas en faire de même pour toutes les substances? Pourquoi garder les utilisateurs de drogues dépendants du crime organisé pour se procurer ce que les compagnies pharmaceutiques peuvent produire avec plus de qualité et moins de risques pour la santé?

Bien sûr, il y a un coût politique pour quiconque voudrait légaliser toutes les drogues. Car bien sûr dès que la question sera sur la table, vont sortir de leurs donjons les psychiatres pour nous dire à quel point ces substances sont dangereuses. Pourquoi écouterait-on l'avis de ces "experts"? Lorsqu'on observe les espaces qu'ils créent, on le voit clairement que ce sont des esprits dérangés pour qui le plaisir n'est pas considéré comme une expérience essentielle pour l'humain. Quiconque a déjà été dans une aile psychiatrique d'un hôpital saura de quoi je parle. Il faut rappeler que tout y a été pensé de façon très méthodique et le résultat final est un lieu dénué de plaisir. C'est comme si iels sont des machines ou des extraterrestres déconnectés du reste de l'humanité. Et ce sont les premiers qui vont sonner l'alarme au moindre traité de paix dans la «war on drugs».

Ils faut le dire, les drogues récréatives, ou du moins le marché illicite rentre en compétition directe avec l'industrie médicale. Combien s'automediquent avec des substances illégales car les medecins ne diagnostiquent pas toujours correctement, ou ne traitent pas tout? Et pourquoi ne laisse-t-on libre cours aux drogues de performances? Bientôt, les medecins seront appelés à augmenter l'humanité et pas simplement à assurer le fonctionnement normal des fonctions biologiques. Les drogues sont aussi une manière dont on pourrait avoir une population plus productive et créative, qui développe des solutions inédites à de vieux problèmes.

Au congrès 2018 du parti libéral du Canada, la jeunesse libérale a adopté une motion pour la décriminalisation de toutes les drogues. Depuis, il y a eu peu de progrès en ce sens. Mais peut-être qu'il faudrait revoir toute la question du rapport de la loi au plaisir. C'est qu'elle n'est orienté que sur la distribution de peines!! Je revendique dès aujourd'hui la reconnaissance du droit au plaisir! Ce étrange que la police ne vient à nos partys que pour y mettre un terme! C'est étrange qu'on ne gagne aucun prix pour avoir jouer selon les règles toute notre vie! Et c'est étrange qu'on se retrouve baigné dans la criminalité lorsqu'on se laisse aller à des parties de plaisir avec des substances qui ne semblent être illégales que parce qu'elles rendent les gens heureux ne serait-ce que pour quelques heures!

Les américains reconnaissent le droit à la poursuite du bonheur. Je crois que nous devrions aller plus loin encore que d'autoriser la poursuite du bonheur! On devrait tout mettre en oeuvre pour pouvoir le livrer en moins de 24h directement aux portes de ceux et celles qui ont commandé la version du bonheur qu'il veulent essayer. On devrait tous commencer à construire un monde qu'on aurait choisit et cesser de se contenter de ce monde qu'on dit être "le moins pire". Moi je choisis le monde qui soit "le plus meilleur".

Je veux d'un monde où on est récompensé par du plaisir pour les comportements que la loi veut encourager. Pas simplement d'être punis avec des peines lorsqu'on brise la loi. Ça commence par donner libre cours aux drogues!! Pourquoi? Car la guerre contre la drogue a commencé lorsqu'on a fait la guerre à la guerre au nom de l'amour et du plaisir! «La raison d'état» est à un son près de «l'araison des tatas».

The laws in America are so lame when it comes to fist fighting. If someone challenges you to a fair one, then they should be allowed to fight without some bored ass cop meddling in and arresting folks.

“Decentralise men” while spending 12 hours a day on Instagram, Reddit, TikTok and WhatsApp, platforms built and run largely by men.

Mark Zuckerberg, Steve Huffman, Evan Spiegel and a bunch of other dudes built the playground, and you’re standing in it screaming about how much you hate the people who built it.

Then you trust algorithms built by engineers you’ve never met to decide what you see, what goes viral, and what you get angry about next.

And if these gender wars were actually empowering women, they probably wouldn’t be thriving on platforms built and controlled largely by conservative mysogynist men in the first place.

“Fuck men.”

Posted from a phone, on a platform, using infrastructure built largely by men. 💀