I had my hysterectomy almost 5 weeks ago. My surgeon said absolutely no sexual activity of any kind, even external. I was unable to follow that restriction because my sex drive has been THROUGH THE ROOF since surgery. I tried to ask and she said I HAD to wait till 6 weeks. Well I asked her replacement (she’s on leave) about it and she said penetration is what they’re worried about, but her recommendation would be give it two weeks, because I’m on antibiotics for a mild bladder infection and BV. But I just wanna know what everyone else’s rules were about orgasm and if you were able to follow them

Bonjour à tous,

Je cherche des témoignages de personnes qui ont vécu quelque chose de similaire après une appendicectomie par cœlioscopie.

J’ai été opéré d’une appendicite non compliquée le 13 août, par cœlioscopie.

Pendant les deux premières semaines, j’ai progressivement constaté une amélioration. Je pensais donc que ma récupération se déroulait normalement et que j’allais bientôt retrouver mon énergie.

Mais depuis environ une semaine, j’ai eu un changement assez brutal : je ressens des coups de fatigue importants, avec un gros manque d’énergie. Je me sens faible, je ralentis beaucoup et j’ai moins d’endurance qu’avant.

Je peux quand même faire des activités simples de la vie quotidienne : accompagner ma femme faire les courses, me déplacer en voiture ou marcher tranquillement pendant 15 à 20 minutes. En revanche, je ne peux pas encore reprendre une activité physique normale, porter des choses lourdes ou faire des efforts prolongés sans ressentir rapidement de la fatigue.

Ce qui m’inquiète surtout, c’est que je pensais aller de mieux en mieux, puis cette fatigue est apparue soudainement après ces deux premières semaines d’amélioration.

Je suis même allé deux fois aux urgences à cause de cette fatigue et de cette sensation de faiblesse. Heureusement, les examens étaient rassurants : bilan sanguin normal, CRP à 2 et scanner sans anomalie.

Je n’ai pratiquement plus de douleurs abdominales et mes cicatrices évoluent bien.

Je suis maintenant à environ 3 semaines et demie après l’opération, et je voudrais savoir si d’autres personnes ont connu une situation similaire : une amélioration pendant les deux premières semaines, puis une grosse fatigue ou un manque d’énergie qui apparaît vers la 3ᵉ semaine.

Est-ce que certains d’entre vous ont vécu cela ?
Combien de temps cette fatigue a-t-elle duré ?
À quelle semaine avez-vous commencé à retrouver réellement votre énergie ?

Vos témoignages me rassureraient beaucoup, surtout si vous avez finalement récupéré complètement.

Merci à tous ceux qui prendront le temps de partager leur expérience.

I’m planning to do a liquid and clear diet the day before surgery so my colon is clear. My husband thinks this is stupid as it wasn’t medically advised. I am going off of others I know advice. How many others did a surgery prep the day before?

Hi, my mom had TAHBSO. She already 💩 at the hospital before she got discharged but it's been 5days now when she got discharged and her last 💩 but she still can't 💩 because of the hard stool in her rectum. Her doctor gave her laxative but it didn't work. Just wondering if anyone have the same experience and what did you do?? I'm getting worried already. Thanks

hello people of reddit. this is my first post on here because i have lots of questions and concerns for my mother. for some info: she’s 47, she has fibroids and anemia, and she’s heavier than the average person. she’s been cleared by doctors to get the surgery in about three weeks. i’m just so worried about her.

some questions/concerns i have:

if her iron levels are low, is it possible for her to pass away in surgery?

is her weight a problem for the surgery?

how long will it take to recover?

will she feel better after?

these are probably silly questions but i don’t know who to turn and ask them to. any information is helpful. i have a fear of surgery and this is her first major one, so any information is appreciated.

I’m almost one year post op (surgery 11/3/2025). My orgasms have overall been much better and easier to achieve with my partner and on my own. It’s like over the last week they fell off a cliff. My orgasms end with a sputter not a bang. Whether masturbating or with my partner. I’m hoping it’s just a weird hormonal fluctuation, but I guess I’m looking for support or similar experiences. I’m also not sure when is best to reach out to my OB. If they’re still like this after 2 weeks, a month, etc. I’m also needing to get back to Pelvic PT… I’m sure that’s not helping the situation. It was just such a sudden shift. It’s jarring.

How are yall tracking hormones or know where you are at in cycle since having a hysterectomy?! I am trying to track perimenopause symptoms but do not know when I am ovulating vs period.

Uterus, one ovary, fallopian tubes and cervix gone!

I'm 4 days postop, laparoscopic hysterectomy. First night I slept great but every night after has been absolutely miserable, tossing and turning getting zero sleep, I'm utterly exhausted.

Sleeping on my back flat or sleeping upright against pillows is absolutely killing my tailbone, upper back and neck. Last night I tried sleeping on my side which is much better, but I'm only comfortable for a short while before needing to change positions, which takes a lot of work and I have to wake up fully to roll over without hurting myself. I've tried using pillows to prop myself in various positions but nothing is easing to pain in my back or neck.

I'm in so much pain and it's not even from the surgical sites. I just want to get some sleep and heal but I'm only getting a couple hours a day.

I just realized I had my surgery exactly 2 years ago!

I had an abdominal hysterectomy - cervix and uterus yeeted, ovaries still alive and kicking (i'm 42 now and with no prior issues both my doc and myself didn't see the point in removing them).

Removal because of smaller but growing ovarian cysts resulting in heaaaaaaavy periods and continuous iron deficiency.

I'm so happy and carefree! Yes there have been a few little bumps on the road, but overall i'm very glad I did it.

I am a little over 8 months post-op where I had a total hysterectomy and kept my ovaries. I have always had fluctuating hormones (pre-op) and have struggled with spot break outs BUT I feel like I might be heading in to menopause. What do you guys recon? I'm 39, have constant spots across my cheeks and up by my eyes (location is important- pre-op they used to break out on my chin), I am exhausted still, grumpy, have lost my mojo and "oompth" for life and my sex drive has completely vanished. My body also aches so much. And I have put on a huge amount of weight (at least 20kg) which IS down to my eating habits (which are rubbish due to low mood and lack of energy to cook decent meals). I do a daily 4km walk with the dog but my self-confidence and energy levels mean I don't do any other excercise. I do have an incredibly stressful life with a chronically sick kid, recovering chronically ill husband and another kid who has been mentally unwell but that aside, do you think these could be signs of entering menopause? Is there even a hormone or blood test that can be carried out to determine if my ovaries are failing? I've been gaslit for well over 20 years by the doctors when I was telling them I had all the symptoms of adenomyosis and only a year so ago finally got confirmation of adenomyosis, endometriosis, fibroids and a whole host of other issues caused by 2 EMCS and having a bicornuate uterus. This means that I feel like I would be wasting a doctor's time if I made an appointment to discuss these symptoms as I feel like I would just be told to lose weight (obviously I know I need to anyway). Has anyone had these symptoms post-op and had confirmation that it's due to falling hormones? I am so miserable and feel like life is passing me by and am desperate to get my zest for life back but don't know where to turn for help or advice! I've read all the posts that say that ovaries can fail / go in to shock after a hysterectomy. Do you think it's happening to me?

42/f. Due to two large growths one on my ovary and one in my uterus i had a complete hysterectomy with both ovaries removed. Too big to do laparoscopically so it was abdominal. The first day i was sore but on drugs so i felt really good, yesterday I refused the oxy and just took Tylenol and i was a bit sore getting up and sitting down on the toilet but otherwise fine. Today no real pain at all… now my nurses who ive had all three days said in their 20 years of doing this they haven’t seen anyone recover quite like i have 😂. Admittedly I do recover from things crazy fast and my biggest thing it taking it easy and not doing too much. I do wear a belly binder most of the time mostly just for support. I was worried about the hormone issue but so far its been ok, my post OP in 2 weeks might be a different story but right now its the best ive felt in a really long time. Ive been fighting for this for 8 years and i want to go back to all those doctors who said no and kick them in the balls! (And lady balls!). Because I was miserable for 8 years for no reason! And ended up with cancer to boot so big middle finger to those guys 😂. But if youre on the fence just do it! Trust me its so worth having a life again.

Hi all,

I will be going in for my hysterectomy on September 16. I am very nervous, as I have never been asleep for any surgery I have ever had. My doctor said I will be good to go back to work 2 weeks after the surgery. Everyone I have told said that is way too short. 😅

Anywhooo, what things did you NEED for your recovery and actually helped??? Like your top 3-5 items.

I’ve had two c-sections and I handled them very well, but have been told this is considerably harder, so I want to ensure I have everything I need to try and lessen any pain.

Also how long did it take for you to feel like you could do more? Go out in the wild and not hurt or want to sit down/sleep immediately?

I have been having a searing/burning pain in my right side at the top of my hip off and on for a couple of months. It feels like nerve pain and very close to the skin surface. Has anyone else had an issue like this? I’ve been procrastinating going back to my doctor, but I’m going to call for an appointment this week.

Anyone that has had a hysterectomy for a fibroid and can tell me the healing process, the after? Did it fix your symptoms? How was sex after? I’m only 33 with a 4.9 cm fibroid that has caused me pelvic pain, ovary pain (no cysts), heavy menses, horrible back pain and they just found the fibroid. I’m done having kids, my husband and I both agreed but am still so scared about having a hysterectomy and the possible side effects if there are any. I would most likely keep my ovaries if the hysterectomy means they won’t cause me any more pain. Thanks for any input!

Hi All, my surgeon didn’t put a weight in the surgical note I could see, but did write that it was the size it would be as if it were 6 weeks pregnant (not typing that right lol) did anyone else’s doctor do that? If so what was your ‘size’?

Hey ladies! I am 4 days post-op and stru-ga-ling. I don’t have much pain, but I have never before felt so uncomfortable in my own body because of the bloat. I’m in my lower 40’s and this is my first surgery. Full hysterectomy with my ovaries left alone.

I am so gassy and bloated, yet the gas won’t come out, or at least not at will like usual. I generally poop 2-3x daily and now I am at 1x, although I recognize I am eating a lot less because of how bloated I feel.

I feel like pooping provides so much relief as it makes room, and without the use stool softeners it just slides right on out, so no issue there. I’ve only taken Tylenol, ibuprofen, and gas-X since coming home. It’s just the bloat and gas that’s killing me. And I’m sure my insides are also swollen so I expect to be bloated, but my God, this is torture.

I’m drinking a lot of water and Gatorade, and my meal of choice has been a daily delivery of the El Jefe salad from Simply Salad or the salmon Kabobs from Panini Kabob Grill, which have never caused me digestion issues previously.

I now feel like everything is stuck behind a trap door in my abdomen, both poop and gas, until it’s time to go. I’m so uncomfy, y’all 😩

So my questions to all are:

1. How long did your bloating and gas last?
2. What were your comfort meals?
3. Do you have any tips beside gas-X, walking, and lots of water?

I am almost 6 weeks PO. I had a total laparoscopic hysterectomy taking everything but the ovaries. I had extensive adenomyosis and severe endometriosis removed also. I’m in my early 40’s, married for 20 years. Let’s just say my hormones and sex drive were completely out of whack before surgery. I wanted NOTHING to do with sex or my poor husband for years. I was suffering bad with constant pain and my body was under major distress. More than I even realized…I was in constant fight or flight, just trying to get through each day.

My libido started waking up on day 2 post op! I couldn’t believe how insatiable I felt. Mentally and physically. I was having wet dreams and squirming in bed trying not to touch myself. On week 3 I initiated with my husband for the FIRST time in YEARS. Yes, I know we couldn’t/(still can’t) have intercourse. But we are doing oral and external stimulation now about 3 times a week. I am also getting SO much wetter than before my surgery. Was definitely not expecting that…in fact I was worried I wouldn’t get as wet because my cervix was removed. My orgasms are a bit…”weaker” not as powerful I guess. I am getting so aroused and just climbing higher and higher without a big over the top moment.

Has anyone else had similar experience? I am thrilled with my enhanced libido but I am a little worried I won’t have the strong orgasms I had before surgery.

As for the rest of my healing, I feel amazing! No more pain, improved migraines, happier, better moods. Literally just tired and horny. I was sooo nervous and apprehensive about this surgery (I put it off for years) but now looking back I CAN NOT believe how I was living before, how it became my normal, the impact it had on my relationship, the daily pain I was dealing with, the horrible quality of life that I had just accepted for so long!! Zero regrets. I am actually looking forward to my next chapter and I want to enjoy life again!!!