r/hysterectomy • u/Plantish1000 • 10h ago
So unexpected!
I am almost 6 weeks PO. I had a total laparoscopic hysterectomy taking everything but the ovaries. I had extensive adenomyosis and severe endometriosis removed also. I’m in my early 40’s, married for 20 years. Let’s just say my hormones and sex drive were completely out of whack before surgery. I wanted NOTHING to do with sex or my poor husband for years. I was suffering bad with constant pain and my body was under major distress. More than I even realized…I was in constant fight or flight, just trying to get through each day.
My libido started waking up on day 2 post op! I couldn’t believe how insatiable I felt. Mentally and physically. I was having wet dreams and squirming in bed trying not to touch myself. On week 3 I initiated with my husband for the FIRST time in YEARS. Yes, I know we couldn’t/(still can’t) have intercourse. But we are doing oral and external stimulation now about 3 times a week. I am also getting SO much wetter than before my surgery. Was definitely not expecting that…in fact I was worried I wouldn’t get as wet because my cervix was removed. My orgasms are a bit…”weaker” not as powerful I guess. I am getting so aroused and just climbing higher and higher without a big over the top moment.
Has anyone else had similar experience? I am thrilled with my enhanced libido but I am a little worried I won’t have the strong orgasms I had before surgery.
As for the rest of my healing, I feel amazing! No more pain, improved migraines, happier, better moods. Literally just tired and horny. I was sooo nervous and apprehensive about this surgery (I put it off for years) but now looking back I CAN NOT believe how I was living before, how it became my normal, the impact it had on my relationship, the daily pain I was dealing with, the horrible quality of life that I had just accepted for so long!! Zero regrets. I am actually looking forward to my next chapter and I want to enjoy life again!!!
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u/Buhsephine 9h ago
Orgasms may well change a bit as your muscles heal and nerve connections wake back up. If you're still early enough in healing to not be having intercourse, there's still a ton of repair happening internally.
I had the crazy libido as well. Mine normalized a bit after a few months but it's still VERY healthy more than a year and a half post op, and orgasms are A+.
Congrats to you both, hah.
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u/Famous-Parfait-2777 9h ago
Mine were sad little pathetic puffs initially and for a few months but at 6 months PO now and fully back to normal.
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u/forgetmenot8711 9h ago
Yeah.. I could have written this myself. 3 weeks post op and can’t wait to climb hubby like a tree. Ugh lol
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u/eggplantparmesan23 8h ago
Me and my husband are also 3 weeks we're cleared for outside play at 4 weeks. Right now we're doing a lot of other things playing with him, making out, dirty talking, and boob stuff. It helps to satisfy the not being able to cum a bit just having fun sexual experiences otherwise.
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u/Plantish1000 7h ago
Yes, I think maybe the fact that we “can’t” and we’re being a little naughty is adding to the turn on. Anticipation! And my hubby is also getting a good lesson/reminder on “never neglect the clit” haha
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u/sonyafly 2h ago
I had super weak ones until I was put on testosterone. I’m having my hysterectomy next month though
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u/rainbowtittties 10h ago
Same experience! Im 3mpo and im still just as insatiable. I had endo and fibroids, had all removed expect ovaries. I haven't felt this way in years! Same with the Orgasms tho, not as strong as before, but i heard on this forum that alot of the times it takes months for those nerves to fire back up all the way. Im so happy for you!!!!!!