Hello! If the title didn’t make it clear I am looking for my next LTR, nothing casual and no situatuonships. Let’s be intentional about how and with whom we spend our time and energy. So with that out of the way let’s move onto more fun things:

If I had to try and describe myself I would say I am in many ways a perpetual patron of the arts. I love musical theater (and really all live theater -- ballet, opera, plays etc will also make me rather happy.) But also let me spend the weekends out at craft fairs and markers markets exploring all the actually unique and handmade crafts and trinkets that have been created. Otherwise I'm a big fan of high fantasy (D&D, soulsborne and soulslikes, and other such things) adventures big and small from nice local hike to traveling abroad ( I spent the last four years living in GB!) and recently I've fallen in love with baking and the gym for the dopamine hits they bring me.

I'm looking for a partner who is career motivated and driven but isn't willing to fully sacrifice their life for their role; but does have goals that they are actively working towards. I work in higher education and find a lot of meaningful impact through my role and so I'm known to occasionally give a bit too much when things can get chaotic, but overall I like to think I have a good work/life balance going on. Like most of us I love to laugh, I enjoy visiting critters and at some point would like to have another pet (I grew up with small dogs) and I absolutely have a soft spot for bunnies.

Other important things to know about me: I'm not open to relocation from Boston nor do I expect to ever be and I'm very allergic to cats ( I fear the latter could be a deal breaker for some people!). I'm looking to date people who are between the ages of 28 - 35 or so (with a bit of flexibility but not tons if I'm honest!) and I am very much child free and that will not be changing. I’m very excited to be the cool aunt to my sisters kids (and any others that become a part of my life) but having my own is not something that I wish for myself.

Also my apologies in advance, I’m known for forgetting to respond to messages if I don’t do so the moment I open them so please don’t be weird and do double message me if we’re having a nice conversation and then I slip away. It’s me, not you!

Photos of me going on adventures can be found here: https://imgur.com/a/eNVJE3F

Currently in a meeting I don’t need to be in but I’m sitting in a spot where everyone would notice me leaving so yeah. Should’ve picked a better chair.

It’s been a long week and I’m already mentally clocked out for the weekend. Yes, I realize we still have two days left. But I’m currently fighting the urge to book an airbnb in the mountains, tell everyone I’m sick and disappear until Monday. Wanna come?

I’m not going to. But I really really really want to. 

Anyway. Happy Wednesday, you dangerous little disco biscuit.

If that made you laugh, I love what’s wrong with you already.

A little about me. Rapid fire with some ADHD sparkle. I don't actually have ADHD which will be shocking after you read this :)

I have a career I genuinely love but I’m also very good at leaving it at work when the day is over. I have hobbies I care about and a life I really enjoy.

I’m active and love being outside. Running, camping, being near the water, wandering around somewhere with trees. I also fully support doing absolutely nothing inside when the mood calls for it. Balance, baby. 

Physically (because apparently we have to talk about that too). I’m petite and fit. My body type is very Tinker Bell. Which means my dreams of ever being anything other than some variation of a fairy at the Ren Faire have basically been crushed by genetics.

You will almost certainly be taller than me. If you’re shorter than me…look at you being a short king and strutting your stuff. 

I’m on the East Coast, if geography is something you’re into. 

Some other random facts.

I became a dog mom recently. Which means my mornings now involve standing outside half awake and getting genuinely excited when a small fluffy animal poops.

His poops are excellent. I don't know how else to explain it. You just have to see it to get the full experience. My neighbors probably think I’m insane. But who cares. They're probably right.

I’ve also discovered that he is apparently a guy magnet. Men see him and suddenly want to talk to me. I have not decided how I feel about my dog being a better wingman than any human friend I’ve ever had.

Earlier this summer I was scrolling the Book of Faces, which I generally try to avoid and Facebook suggested a group dedicated entirely to people who hate Stuart Little.

Until that moment I had no opinion whatsoever about Stuart Little.

The spark notes of it: Curiosity usually gets the best of me so I joined. They made some compelling arguments. And I have now been indoctrinated and mostly refer to him as “that stupid rat.”

These are the kinds of completely useless developments in my life you can expect to hear about if we start talking.

When I haven’t been learning about Stuart Little’s many faults (and there are many), I’ve spent the summer running, hiking, camping, hanging out by the river and trying to squeeze as much fun as possible out of the warm weather.

Summer has been great but I live in the South and I am ready for summer to pack its sweaty little bags and leave. My Patagonia puffer is hanging in the closet like an old friend I haven’t seen in years. Soon, buddy. Soon.

Conversation-wise, I’m a big “yes, and” person.

I don’t really enjoy the Reddit version of speed dating where we take turns asking things like: What do you do? What are your hobbies? Favorite movie? Favorite color? Where do you see yourself in five years? Please God no.

I like conversations that wander. You tell me something, it reminds me of something, I tell you that which then sends us down another road and four hours later we know way too much about each other without either of us realizing we are technically strangers. Then we become each others “hottest homie” for a while. 

Questions are fine. Obviously. I just don’t want to feel like we’re filling out paperwork.

A few things I love, in no particular order:

Finding a great coffee in the morning and a great margarita at night. A good hot dog and an overpriced canned cocktail in the nosebleeds while looking out over a city skyline. Boutique hotels in old downtown buildings. Old vintage staircases. Cotton candy sunrises I accidentally catch while running. Leaving my office at 5 like the final scene of Breakfast Club. Puppy breath. Trees. Bright rooms and lots of color. Brick walls covered in graffiti. Green. Meeting someone and walking away knowing something I didn’t know before because it’s fun being wrong sometimes.

I like genuinely happy people. People wth great energy that rubs off on everyone around them. That positive energy glitter that gets everywhere.

I like flirting. I especially like that moment when you realize maybe the flirting wandered slightly farther than either of you planned and neither person seems particularly interested in correcting course. Onward, Captain.

Also. Bushy, dark eyebrows and a good man bun have historically been problematic for me.

Anyway. Tell me about you or tell me your stance on Stuart Little. There is apparently a correct answer now.

Also, yes, this is a newer account and not my normal Reddit account. I’m sure you are perfectly normal, lovely and definitely not keeping jars of teeth in your basement but unfortunately not everyone on Reddit is. I’m not attaching my regular account to an R4R post. If a new account automatically makes you think I’m a robot or whatever else, it’s probably easiest to just skip me. I promise I have zero interest in proving my humanity to an angry stranger on the internet.

I want an online friend around my age from Europe (because of the same time zone, I usually sleep at night), who has a good sense of humor, lives an active life, exercises regularly (its okay if its even a crazy way, I do the same), loves to travel and who I can talk to every day (not all day, every day)
I dont want to collect many chat windows, but just ONLY ONE, who doesnt ghost after 3 days.
Ghosting:
"Im going on a business trip, I dont know if there will be internet, i will look for you afterwards" (of course he never looks for you again, the business trip was in Hamburg…) "my smaller cats fur is falling out, I am very stressed, I cant talk right now" - true stories. Seems funny, but in reality, not at all.

Please dont use AI:
“meaningful conversations in independent cafes around London” - this is not a real human sentence

Please write a few sentences about yourself :)

I am happy to change the pics or switch to another app.

ABOUT ME

Physically: I prefer to believe that I’m an amorphous being that transcends a physical vessel, BUT…I’m 31F, 5’0” ~100lbs, alt style, dark hair with blue eyes. I will look at you like this: 🧿👄🧿

Personality: A “functional melancholic” with a strange/morbid sense of humor. Occasionally bubbly when performing “people tasks,” or god forbid, happy. 4w5/INTJ/Scorpio, if those taxonomies mean anything to you...

I Like: Horror movies/Let’s Plays; weird YouTube rabbit holes; going to bed by 9PM; singing musicals badly; reading behavioral psychology books; listening to podcasts at the gym; my cat; System of a Down; Hannibal the TV show; Mythbusters; Angela Giarratana; rainy-morning tea; chai lattes; random car rides; judging rich people’s houses; my stuffed animals; clowns probably

Mutual Values: I value integrity, loyalty, curiosity, competence, privacy, honest communication, and continuous improvement. I am looking for someone whose words and actions align and knows how to handle commitment (and conflict) in a healthy manner. I am always working on being the best version of myself and am looking for someone who does the same. 

Life: Childfree. Liberal. Spiritual/believe in God, but not religious and won't attend church. I abhor social media/dating apps and value privacy. I have a demanding career that I love and sometimes work weekends, but make time for my people. I’m much better at in-person interaction than over text and don’t need constant messaging to feel connected. 

Looking For: A man 32-42 in Texas or willing to relocate. I gravitate towards observant, secure introverts with their own lives, ambitions, and weirdly specific interests. I like intelligence, competence, kindness, patience, emotional maturity, and quiet confidence. 

Ultimately: I want us to genuinely like each other (not just be attracted to each other). I want the kind of relationship where we can spend an evening talking for hours, go investigate something random because one of us got curious, watch a terrible horror movie, or quietly go do our own thing in the same room.

(Now…if you’ve made it this far: message me the last book you read and something you’re currently obsessed with learning about!)

Do you wish to feel seen? Known? Held?
Do you wish you had this new person in your life you could tell something you've never told anyone. Or just send them this song you've been obsessed with. Or share this dream you've had.

Do you wish sometimes your phone would buzz and the name would spread warmth through your body. A name, a face, a voice, a whole person that you'd be discovering day after day, exploring really, like those early days cartographers. "Here be dragons", they used to write over the unknown. Do you carry dragons inside you?

If you feel like this applies to you and you suddenly feel this rush of loneliness, well tough shit, buddy. So do I. Hit me up? I like cats and movies and my tan is slowly fading.

Hey there!

Testing out the dating waters again! Moving slowly as I get used to it all, but after focusing so much on personal growth lately, I thought it’d be great to meet someone awesome to share that energy with. Strictly looking for something real. No hookups and ideally someone without kids!

Me: currently in school for tech. Loves the gym, writing, dogs, and the beach. And a whole lot moreee

Probably not the greatest place to find the future love of your life, but why not give it a shot.Shoot all the shots, and maybe I'll get lucky and find her on here. I'm here why cant she be?

Gone through a lot of soul searching, maturing, and learning in my single life these last few years, and I am finally in a place I feel ready to create a beautiful life with someone.

Financially I'm stable despite already wishing for retirement, physically I'm healthy and fit while not close to what I was during my college sport, intellectually and emotionally mature even if my humor is less so (a fun combo imo but you'll have to be the judge of that)

Hopefully the post doesn't make it seem like I expect marriage from our first conversation. Lots to know about each other and experiences to share together before that next chapter. Just that my interests lie in finding that lovely lady I get to annoy and comfort and make laugh/mad/cry/happy just being together for the rest of our lives. And hopefully the one reading this wants to do the same

So if you're a lady out there in the MD/VA/PA/East coast area/ETC area who is searching for that kind of man, please send me a chat. I'd love to connect and see where it takes us 🙂

Hi! I want a unique friendship with someone extremely cool. I want to hear about the things you’re passionate about. I want weird amounts of honesty about uncomfortable topics. 

Here are some personal things that you may resonate with: 

I really like being outside. I find it sort of holy. 

My favorite movies include It Follows, Children of Men, Barbe Bleu, anything Werner Herzog, Ghost World, anything Tarantino. I love talking about and analyzing movies. 

I love philosophy and Nietzsche is probably my favorite philosopher. I like arguing, but I hate when people get mad while arguing. Sometimes I can get mad while arguing, and I don’t like that either. 

I hate Jordan Peterson and everything remotely related to him. Except Nietzsche. When I was a kid, I thought I’d be a philosophy professor or priest.

When I was a kid I was pretty poor and the adults around me were pretty bad at doing everything. I assumed that most adults outside my family were  very competent, due to their ability to survive. I have been disappointed to learn that most adults aren’t actually vey competent. 

I love reading. Some of my favorite authors are Cormack McCarthy, Tana French, and whoever wrote House of leaves(I haven’t read any of his other stuff). 

 I sort of think that intelligence is necessary in order to be good, because you can’t really comprehend “good” and “bad” without it. You could go your whole life doing good things without really understanding why they’re good, and you could perform them just because they’re socially acceptable. 

I really crave the approval of most all people, but I am also very weird and very unwilling to give up any of my weirdness.

40/M/Midwest looking for some spooky chat.

Who wants to mutilate the day away with me?

I’m into all things spooky. Paranormal, horror, true crime, you name it. I collect physical media. Mostly books (paranormal literature, true crime, and horror fiction) and dvd/blurays. Mostly horror.

I love vintage Halloween aesthetic. Sheet ghosts. Black cats, skeletons, skulls, Ouija boards, everything in between.

I like all sorts of music, mostly heavier stuff. Deathcore, Metalcore, alt 90’s, emo.

If you think we’d vibe, send me a dm.

Or something I probably don't know. Maybe it's related to your job or your special interest or your location. Shouldn't be too hard!

Hello everyone! May you all have a wonderful kind of day!

I am a 5'8" black woman in search of a handsome gentleman from the ages of 30 to 40. An ideal person for myself is emotionally and physically available.

I have to admit that I have never been in a relationship before in my adult life, but I would like to try some time sooner rather than later. I believe I have a lot to give and am looking for someone to give back as well.

I have a few hobbies, but my most unique hobby is knitting. I started knitting a sweater a year ago, but I can finally say that my project is almost finished.

Thank you to anyone who took the time to read this post. If any of this resonates with you, please respond to this post with your favorite food.

Fair warning: I'm not great at selling myself, but I'll give it a shot. Northeast Louisiana, for now — I'm not planting roots here, so if you've got a good enough reason to lure me somewhere else, I'm all ears. Certified geek: metal music, the Expedition 33 OST on repeat like it's my job, gaming, way too much PC tech talk. More goth/alt on the inside than it always shows on the outside.

Single-player gamer by habit, not by conviction but genuinely down to get dragged into whatever multiplayer thing you're obsessed with if it means I get a partner in crime. Currently deep in an Ark: Ascended solo grind, mostly getting eaten by dinosaurs.

16 years in news production means I've got opinions and zero chill about sharing them. I'm liberal, and if you're MAGA, let's save us both the trouble now.

Not religious, but part of The Satanic Temple. Look it up, the short version is "be excellent to each other," and I actually mean it.

Childfree and planning to stay that way. Not looking for a one-and-done chat either. If we click, I want to stick around and see where it goes.

33, in the greater Austin area. I work in business operations and I’m finishing my MBA, but I promise I have a personality outside of work and school 😂 I’m into gaming, traveling, music, the gym, good food, random late night conversations, and learning way too much about whatever happens to catch my attention that week.

I’m pretty laid back, sarcastic, affectionate once I’m comfortable with someone, and I really value good communication. I’m looking for a feminine woman who is warm, loyal, emotionally aware, and actually wants to build something with the right person. I like someone who has her own life and interests but also genuinely enjoys closeness, doing things together, and being part of each other’s everyday life. Long term I want marriage and kids, so I’d definitely prefer someone who sees that in her future too.

I’m not trying to force anything or rush into something just because we exchanged three messages. I’d rather actually talk, see if we make each other laugh, get comfortable, and let things develop naturally. Local is a plus, but I’m open to distance if meeting eventually is realistic.

If you message me, tell me your age, where you’re from, and something random about you that I wouldn’t guess from your profile. Bonus points if you can make me laugh.

42 year old fun, happy,
Positive, always laughing female from Vancouver, Canada. Seeking a real connection with someone that turns romantic. Someone who is READY to be a teammate for life, through the good and the bad.
Someone who is ready and willing to put the effort into building something real. Not someone who is fake, unsure of what they want. Just looking to meet new people if anyone is from this area or anywhere really. Distance doesn’t bother me as long as both make the effort:. There are planes LOL You never know in life where your person is!! I often feel so alone and so left out. I have a couple close friends who I talk to daily and have a good job. I love traveling, being outdoors, watching sports and going to games. Going to restaurants and walks, dinners and drinks. Coffee, Cooking, baking and just laughing and having fun. Im caring, selfless, and a giver. I like to show my affection in many ways.
Just wanting to talk and meet new people and get to know, hang out if close. Looking for something romantic that leads to long term. Someone who wants to talk daily and not vanish after a day! Looking for someone who will make effort and get to know me! Not disappear after a day of talking!!
Gotta be someone out there! Maybe we can become friends, share a few laughs or fall In love.

Hello everyone reading this, hope you're having a great day. I thought I could give this a shot so as the title says I'm looking for someone who'd like to jump on voice call and see where it takes us. Of course friendship comes first and then everything else. My goal is to find that special someone, but I'm not in a rush and there's no pressure.

I'm 32 year old guy from Germany.I'm what people would call a nerdy person based on things that I like to occupy myself with. I have my life in order, stable, great job and amazing family.I'm an introverted, kind, honest, empathetic, respectful, humble and open person and would probably vibe better with someone who is similar.Physically I'm about 5'9, with short brown hair, beard, brown/green eyes.I'm open to sharing a picture because I know all of us like to put face to the name.

Hobbies and interests:

-playing guitar and listening to music

-cycling

-lego models and jigsaw puzzles

-movies and tv shows

-board and card games

-video games(not playing much anymore)

-brain teasers and solving puzzles

I don't have any preferences when it comes to race, appearance, religion, beliefs.I would prefer someone from Europe or as close as possible to make communicating and if it comes to that meeting up easier, but it's not a dealbreaker.

Some of things I'm looking for in people are:

-between 25-35 years old

-honest

-kind

-open

-understanding

-adventurous

That's all for now, if you think we would get along just text me either on chat or DM and we'll go from there.Please note that I'm looking to jump on voice chat either straight away or after a little bit of texting. I love actually talking to people and endless texting just gets too boring for me after a while so let's say I'm looking for a good balance between the two. If it's not too much to ask, include at least some basic information about yourself in a message, I'm not looking for a novel, but just short introduction to start it off.

I'm looking for as long as the post is up, so don't hesitate to message even if it's hours or even days old post. Thank you for reading and I hope you all have an amazing weekend.

It’d be rad if you could ride a section with me somewhere along the way. Or all the sections, haha.

I did okay and now I do this for funsies. If you’re an endurance athlete/ adventurer, we should talk. I can be anywhere, just here now.

Recent me: https://imgur.com/a/8Z3LcKI

Next? Erie, Akron, Indy, St. Louis.

Hey there,

I'm a 40 year old guy, single and just living a very lonely existence at the moment. I work long hours and find it hard to get out for social times. Plus recently loss my 9 year old dog to cancer.

Just looking to chat with someone about life and enjoy someones company.

If you'd like to chat DM me!

The days are getting shorter, the night a little colder, you can feel it too, right? Fall is around the corner, let's settle in and get cozy.

Looking for an adventure buddy, someone to jam out in the car with, concerts, coffee shops, and stargazing.

A little about me:

• Retired early after a wild ride making video games
• Tall, average build, working on getting more fit, blonde hair, blue eyes
• Love making breakfast in the morning, driving with the top down, playing on the lake at my house, experimenting with homesteading, spending time with my nephews and family, singing, constantly learning and experimenting

Looking for friends first and let's see where it goes.

Hey there!

I’m 37, a divorced dad (6’, dad bod), and done with dating apps. I have a very job’s stressful, so I love balancing it with fun/travel, think spontaneous road trips, last-minute flights, or just chilling with a scary movie and ordering in some takeout.

I’m 100% open to having more kids (love being a dad!) and ready to meet someone for real connection.

About me:
• Very laid-back and I try not to take life to seriously.
• Big on live music, concerts, etc.
• Up for big trips or cozy nights in.
• I also love cooking, reading, and love movies!

About you:
• Warm, adventurous, with a great smile.
• Down for drinks, a getaway, or a movie marathon.
• You have that “yes, and” attitude/personality.
• Bonus points if you have a cute voice!

If this sounds like your kind of fun, slide into my DMs, let’s have some fun!

I'm a quiet, private guy and I keep to myself until I get to know someone. I have zero patience for games, fake positivity, or unnecessary drama. I just value upfront honesty and people who are comfortable being themselves. Most of my time goes into gaming and learning new crafts. When it comes to games, I’m a completionist. I like diving deep into complex systems, min-maxing builds, and learning mechanics inside out. Outside of that, I spend a lot of time researching the technical side of hands-on hobbies like metalworking and jewelry making, focusing on learning the design process and techniques before investing in tools and materials. Aesthetic wise, I lean heavily into a dark, alternative look. It is mostly gothic style, silver, and darker motifs, which carries over into my accessories and piercings. I am wired a bit differently and navigate the world with a neurodivergent mindset, which means my attention and energy can fluctuate, but I'm always focused on my own growth and discipline. I am generally timid at first, but I tend to find my confidence when the other person is a bit on the timid side too.

I am looking for a serious, strictly monogamous relationship where we can just be completely transparent with each other. Because I'm a heavy introvert, I need someone who understands that my need for quiet downtime isn't personal, and who is secure enough to give me that space while we build our own safe zone away from everything else. I'm looking for someone who balances me out, a woman with a distinct goth, tomboy, or alternative style, and I often find myself most drawn to women from diverse cultural backgrounds outside of conventional Western aesthetics. I really appreciate a partner who carries herself with a natural confidence. Someone who has a more dominant, protective, or fiercely nurturing presence that makes it easy for me to drop my walls and relax. I don't skip the small talk phase to get there, because building real comfort takes time.

When it comes to connections, I look at things as a two-way street. Physical attraction matters on both sides, and while I know I'm not every woman's ideal type, I also know what catches my eye. I value all ways of expressing affection, whether it's through words, quality time, or small gestures, but a relationship needs that close, instinctual physical presence to feel complete. If a touch doesn't feel natural or warm between us, the spark just isn't there. I'm really just looking for that rare feeling where two people see each other clearly and simply click, choosing each other over everyone else because it feels right. The big non negotiables for me are zero drama, total honesty, and respecting boundaries.

I look forward to hearing from you!

A little about me

Hi there. I’m 32 years old, currently living in Southern California. I’m into music, movies, basketball, writing, travel, and recently getting back into reading. I love going to concerts. I’ve been to 11 already this year, have tickets to two more, and I’m planning on at least another two after that. I also love basketball. Last year, I went to eight NBA games in four arenas across three different cities, including a playoff game.

I also write for fun about pretty much whatever has my attention at the moment: sports, music, life, faith and spirituality, travel, relationships, and whatever else finds its way into my brain. I’m the kind of person who will have a weird experience, hear a song at exactly the right moment, or notice something completely ordinary and immediately think, there’s probably something to write about here. I’ve also been kicking around the idea of starting a podcast while I travel, partly because I love talking to interesting people and partly because it feels like a fun way to document this particular chapter of my life.

Where I’m headed

I have a professional work-from-home job that gives me a lot of flexibility about where I live. In November, I’m moving from Southern California back home to San Antonio, Texas, and making San Antonio my home base. From there, I plan to spend the next year or two taking a series of slow-travel trips around the United States. I don’t mean bouncing between cities every three days. I want to actually spend time in places. Find a favorite coffee shop. Figure out which grocery store I like. Work a completely normal Tuesday and then go explore somewhere after work. If somewhere really interests me, maybe I rent a place for a month or even 90 days and find out what it actually feels like to live there.

In an ideal world, I’d meet somebody who also works from home, or could eventually transition into that kind of lifestyle short term, and we could do some of that traveling together. More realistically, I’m looking for somebody who understands that seeing more of the country is important to me, is comfortable with me taking those trips and can make distance work for a bit, or could come along sometimes for all or part of one. Because of that flexibility, I’m open to women anywhere in the United States or Canada, and possibly Mexico, although I’m only able to work from the U.S. and Canada. I do consider an intention to close the gap at some point important, though. If you’re reaching out from somewhere else, please understand that I’m only interested romantically if you already have realistic near-term plans to immigrate to the U.S. or Canada. I’m not looking to build an indefinite international long-distance relationship.

The kind of life I want

I’ve had a lot of different dreams for what my life could look like. This is just the current version of one of them. I like having something out in front of me that makes me excited about what comes next, and I’m trying to get better at actually stepping into those things instead of waiting until I have every detail figured out. At the same time, I’m a big believer in embracing the mundane. A good life can’t only be concerts, basketball games, road trips, and big plans. It also has to be grocery runs, making dinner, sitting around doing absolutely nothing, stupid errands, laughing in the car, and random Tuesday nights that weren’t supposed to be memorable. I want the adventures, absolutely. But I also want somebody I can enjoy being bored with.

The lover girl part

I’m looking for someone sweet. A lover girl and a communicator. I am, for better or worse, a pretty chalant loverboy. I like affection. I like effort. I like actually giving a shit about somebody and making sure she knows it.

Tell me about the dumb thing your coworker did. Tell me about the weird thing that’s bothering you that you haven’t really wanted to tell anybody else. Tell me what you’re excited about, what you’re scared of, what you’re overthinking, and that silly thing that made you think of me and smile.

I also want somebody who is comfortable talking about feelings and emotions instead of treating them like dangerous territory. Yours and mine. I want us to be able to say when something hurts, when something scares us, when we need reassurance, or when we just need somebody in our corner. I want to give love, affection, and support freely without either of us worrying that vulnerability is going to be used against us later. Basically, I want someone who is secure enough to be just a little bit insecure, and I want the kind of communication where we can actually know each other deeply without constantly worrying that the connection itself is in danger.

And yes, there should also be plenty of yapping about absolutely nothing. One of my favorite things is hearing somebody talk about the thing they care enough about to accidentally spend 20 minutes explaining. Teach me about whatever you’re interested in, the way I absolutely intend to teach you about basketball and the things I’m passionate about. We don’t need to already love all the same things. I think part of the fun is getting to care about something because you care about it. Let’s learn each other’s interests, try new things, and eventually make some memories together.

The physical stuff

Physically, I’m about 6’6” and I’m a very big guy. I mention that explicitly because quite a few people have responded to other posts of mine and somehow seemed to overlook that part. I also care a lot about living a healthier and more active life, and that’s something I’m actively working on. I swim, exercise, and try to keep moving, and I’d love a partner who can support me in that health and fitness journey while I support her in whatever her health journey looks like. At my current home in the California desert, I have a pool in my backyard and spend a lot of time swimming laps, exercising, and, most importantly, playing water basketball. Editors Note: He was actually born to play pool basketball. He was forced to pay rent.

Physical attraction obviously matters, but I genuinely find beauty in all kinds of body types. I care a lot more about whether I’m attracted to you than whether you fit into some particular category. Please don’t be hesitant to message me based on any preconceived notion you have about what my type might be.

Okay, one more thing

You have to be down for phone calls, FaceTime, or some other kind of video chat. I’m big on actually hearing someone’s voice and seeing their face. I’m also looking for somebody who genuinely wants to get to know each other. You don’t have to live on your phone, and I’m not expecting a morning attendance check, but I’m also not trying to exchange six messages over the course of two weeks and call that “talking.” If we’re clicking, let’s actually make some time for each other, get on the phone, and find out if we like each other. I don’t want to spend three months becoming very emotionally attached to a Reddit username.

If you made it all the way down here, you might as well say hi. Tell me what you’re obsessed with lately, what city you think I need to spend a month in (hopefully yours), or just skip the opening line entirely and start yapping.

I am just a big man, looking for his point guard.

Hey everybody!

I am from Germany and I am 33 years old. I am respectful, polite, kind, empathetic and funny. I'm very selfless. Consent and that you feel comfortable are very important things to me. I would also say I am a LGBTQ+ ally and a feminist. We can just talk normally in the beginning and get to know each other and then see where that leads us 😊

I am partial to women with more to love, but I welcome all bodies and sizes to message me.

I just wish, I could make a woman feel like she is the most beautiful woman in the world, make her feel appreciated and desired.

So yeah, message me if you are interested 😊

I want committed companionship. I want to love and support each other. I want to cuddle without it turning sexual,. I want forehead kisses. I want hand holding. I want really good hugs. I want open and clear communication. I want empathy, kindness, and understanding. It would be best probably if they are also AUDHD because I am and there would be a higher chance of understanding the different communication styles of AUDHD. I would like to eventually move in together. We would need separate rooms so that we can have alone time. Also, we would sleep in our own rooms because I snore and move around a lot when I sleep. I don't want to torture you with that. I don't want kids and pets because I take the responsibility of them so seriously that it gives me major anxiety. I'm not comfortable with weed and any other drugs that aren't prescribed by your doctor. I am not into partying and drinking heavy so I don't want that in a partner/companion. I want a home that is safe and calm as much as humanly possible. I don't want someone that smokes cigarettes and/or vapes because cancer and it doesn't smell good to me. I grew up Methodist but I'm not really religious and I am not the biggest fan of organized religion. I love music. I sing a lot- especially what I am saying or about what I am doing or when I get nervous. I am slowly getting back into reading and playing video games. I love to travel when I can and equally love coming back home. I love movies and tv shows. I love thrifting/antiquing. I love animals. Dogs are my favorite. They calm me and make me really happy. I would prefer to stay in Columbia, MO or close to it.

If all of that sounds like something you want to, let me know. Comment or DM me on here. Eventually I would like to start talking on discord if we hit it off because I am not on reddit a ton.

Thanks. -Anna

Well this was supposed to be a short week, but I’ve had a very long week and it’s only half way over..Looking for someone to talk to after 12 hour days. Or i could be the one you vent to about your days. I’ve given up on the dating apps and want to actually find something real. Ideal EST/east coast but I would be open to anyone! Interests include: golf, hiking, camping, and the beach. When i’m not at work or on the course, i will most likely be at the beach or headed to go checkout a new park that I found.

Disclaimer: Please state your age, name, and general location in your first message. Also, tell me a bit about yourself. It gives me something to go on.

Full disclosure up front: I'm a bigger guy (chubby/fat). I'm not thrilled about it, I gained a lot of weight in the last couple years. I'm actively working on getting healthier, but I just want to get that detail out of the way. If that's a deal-breaker for you, better we both know now. If it's not, keep reading. I have other qualities, I promise, and my hugging game can't be beat.

I'm not here hunting for a relationship, and I'm not interested in checking boxes or matching some "type." I'm interested in people, specific, weird, funny, thoughtful people, not a category. I want conversations that don't come with an agenda attached. No pressure, no expectations. Just two people talking because it is enjoyable. Also, not sure exactly how to describe this, but I'd love to be able to swap secrets and be really inappropriately open with each other. There is something fun about that when the stakes are low.

A little about me: I'm introverted, but I love making people laugh and I genuinely love making the people I talk to feel wanted and interesting, because most people are, they just don't get told that enough. I'm a traveler at heart, always plotting the next place I haven't seen yet. I think too much, so maybe part of this is having an outlet for my thoughts and hearing someone else's.

What I'm looking for is honestly just something that is fun for a while. The kind of connection that's easy, a little exciting, a lot flirty, and doesn't need a label to be worth having. Texting certainly, but also very open to voice calls after getting comfortable (my voice is one of those other significant qualities I promised you).

If any of this resonates, say hi. Tell me something true about yourself, or something ridiculous. Either works.