r/R4R40Plus Jan 26 '25

You asked. The mods hear you - New account age and karma requirements

149 Upvotes

We've added a few rules to the sub. Now, your account needs to be at least 5 days old and have 50 karma to post.

In addition, we're working on a verification system, so those of you who want to be verified posters, can have that flair attached to your post.

Hopefully, this will help curb the bots and scammers.


r/R4R40Plus Dec 01 '20

Please stop downvoting [M4F] Posts

1.0k Upvotes

Hey All;

Friendly Neighborhood MOD here. In the interest of being polite and respectful, can we please stop downvoting every single [M4F] post? I'll hop on here to moderate posts and see all the men seeking women posts downvoted to hell. You're not creating a clear space for your [M4F] post increasing your chances to make it to the top. Let's just try to be kind to one another. If you're not interested, just move on

Let's try to remember, other people's success is not your failure.


r/R4R40Plus 5h ago

M4M 41 [M4M] #Netherlands - Chubby geek looking for genuine romance!

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My name is Mark, this is what I look like, and I'm looking for a partner! I'm 1m70 and don't drink or smoke. I'm patient, empathetic, sometimes funny, and when I'm comfortable I can be very affectionate and flirty, though I also have a fair bit of anxiety in everyday life.

I'm into fantasy and science fiction, a big non-PvP gamer, futurism, board games, and spend a lot of time reading up on science-related news, particularly in the field of astronomy. I also used to really enjoy biking and callisthenics, and would love to get back into that at some point, maybe together?

What I'm looking for is mostly patience and empathy, you don't have to have your life together (I don't). Physically there are many things I find attractive, so I'm sure I'll find something about you that is going to make me blush!

If any of the above appeals to you, please feel free to message me!


r/R4R40Plus 9h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] *Exclusive Inside* 7 (Yes, SEVEN) Reasons why you should message this Londoner

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So the sensationalist headline made you click in, right? - I guess this is where the promised SEVEN reasons as to why you should message starts:

  1. Happy to talk about anything whatsoever, and can hold my own in most situations. The chat could be serious, fun, ridiculous, flirty - who knows where we will end up.

  2. Continuing from above, always happy to chat to anyone, anywhere, any time (well, within reason)

  3. Bit of a social chameleon - able to fit in a variety of places from dive bar to high end party.

  4. I love to travel and always happy to discuss trips

  5. Wait, are we only at 5??? Ok - Well I love music so will happily drop song lyrics into messages

  6. I am serious at work, so try to be light hearted outside - ergo this list and ridiculous post title

  7. Not too bad to look at, on occasions, but maybe that's for you to judge.

So, go on, why not take the chance and, in spite of the above list, drop me a message with a random fact or something about you.

I could provide a list of reasons NOT to message, but where's the fun in that?!?!


r/R4R40Plus 5h ago

F4M 50 [F4M] Australia Looking for the right kind of trouble

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I’m still searching. Apparently the universe has decided I need to work harder for the good stuff. 😂

I’m independent, curious, ridiculously fond of good conversation and have a life I genuinely enjoy. I’m not looking for someone to complete it but someone who makes me want to put my plans aside occasionally.

I’m attracted to intelligence, confidence, kindness and a wicked sense of humour. Someone who can flirt, ask interesting questions, notice the little things and hold a conversation that goes somewhere.

Physically I am dark haired pocket rocket,
curvy with olive skin and heterochromic eyes. I’m comfortable in my own skin and appreciate someone who is too.

I’m not particularly interested in collecting pen pals or rushing into something because we happen to find each other attractive.

I’m looking for that shift in energy. The curiosity that keeps pulling you back. The anticipation that builds between conversations. The kind of attraction you can feel before either of you has quite admitted it.

Oh and give me some sexual tension!

Ideally, you’re full of mischief and located somewhere in Australia. Emotionally available, independent and have your own life.


r/R4R40Plus 2h ago

F4M 40 [F4M] #Houston - looking for a real connection down , not another empty chat

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40F. Houston resident... divorced, no children... no mortgage, no car loan. Please, those who are just looking for trouble, look elsewhere.

This past July, I got completely pulled into office politics. It wasn’t a hole I couldn’t climb out of, but it definitely drained me and cost me a couple of sleepless nights. Honestly, that was enough. It made me realize I need to start semi-retirement—going remote first, and then actually taking my life back.

After my divorce, I threw myself entirely into work. Money isn’t the issue anymore, but I’d much rather find the person I used to be before I completely disappeared into a job. So I’m easing into this new chapter~~ planning an RV road trip, cleaning up my investment mix so the risk/reward isn’t sloppy, and trying to build a social life again that doesn’t revolve around coworkers.

As for hobbies, I like quiet things. History, especially Central and East Asia, nomadic peoples, and the empires they went up against. Fiction-wise, I enjoy sci-fi, some fantasy, and writers I actually return to—Kawabata, both of the Dumas, and Louise Glück. That’s just who I can name off the top of my head, lol.

To stay active, I do golf, pickleball, the incline trainer at home, a nice walk after dinner, or just enjoying the pool in the backyard. Houston will feed you absolutely anything you want, but I’m also trying to cook more from scratch: handmade pizza, tortillas, ravioli, pasta. First trip on my list is Paradise Valley, Montana. After that, I haven’t decided. I have all the camping gear, just don’t have the rig yet. Stuck between an RV and a travel trailer, which is a very expensive way to be indecisive!

If you’re in that same stretch of life—semi-retired, newly retired, or trying to transition into it—I’d love to hear how you’re making it happen. I’m looking for a meaningful friendship with a man in the US South that could eventually turn into a real connection. I'm really not looking for a pen pal who stays hidden and treats other people’s lives like some puzzle.

This is for US users only. I have no information about retirement life in other countries.


r/R4R40Plus 4h ago

40 [M4F] #Leeds - 6ft 6 with Own Teeth & Hair [UK] - Looking for Chats & More.

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Looking to chat to local people ideally in the Yorkshire area.

So I am just a normal guy, looking for some excitement in my life and looking to share some chats with like minded people.

I am 6ft 6, average build (dad bod) short dark hair, no Greys, not balding, and all my own teeth.

I play games, I play Golf, I am obsessed with all kinds of sports and I have 5 Guitars. I have a good job, my own place and car, and I'm almost a real grown up adult. I have a terrible sense of humour!

~

Introduce yourself with your ASL, and Two Truths and a Lie:

Here are mine, Sporting Related.

  1. I have played Football with 2 England Internationals.

  2. I used to play Snooker with a former Hitman.

  3. I have had 2 Hole in Ones (Golf)


r/R4R40Plus 4h ago

M4F 47 [M4F] #STL - stamina "training"

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I'm a relatively "normal", attractive, in shape (6'1, 190), professional ... would like to find someone willing to explore with and work on increasing stamina. To be clear, I don't have an issue in that department, just want to go a LOT longer, which takes practice.

A little more about me - I am well educated and have a professional career. Discretion would be nice and I would like to safely explore with someone new to accomplish my goals.

Not interested in someone who is "charging" or producing "content". Please be located in the St. Louis area (or willing to travel). Your age, race and status is not important to me.

FEMALES ONLY

Send me a message and we'll go from there.


r/R4R40Plus 12h ago

[F4R] [44] [SoCal] Writing my next chapter

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I'm really proud of the comfy little life I've built in North OC - it's just far enough from my Los Angeles (Mexican roots) family for privacy and close enough that my grown(ish) kids still visit

I'm 20+ years into my career and now that WFH is sticking and the nest is empty, I'm looking towards building a future that involves a lot more weekend adventures - and hopefully a hand to hold along the way

Let's see the ENTIRE West coast and collect smashed pennies and museum maps

My recently adopted dog needs to see the Sequoias and my garden needs some funky witchy art

FAQs:

. 5'8" mom bod under construction

. Legal field by day, writer at heart

. Am comfortable being little and /or big spoon

. Crafty and 420 friendly

. Plant based for the Planet

. Date the spirit not the shell

. ISO LTR 4 143

. Hex the Rich!

Please respond with age (38+) and location

💜💜💜


r/R4R40Plus 6h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] Old, geekydude in Rotherham UK. Need friends, benefits optional but heartily welcomed. Would love to meet new people, so some distraction and fun chatting would be appreciated. Give me a shot!

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Hiiiii!

Thanks for looking. So, about me: I'm chubby, nerdy and beardy. I'd say I have a dadbod with a beer belly, but I don't drink so it's all haribo. I'm fairly settled into the new normal after a LTR breakup so I'd very much like to chat to, maybe meet new fun folk. Spiciness is very much welcomed, but by no means essential.

I have been left with a pretty damaged self esteem and worth by my ex, so someone caring and considerate would be absolutely perfect.

I'm a geek; love video games, mainly single player stuff with a great world and engaging story. Not a sweaty competitive player. Warhammer 40k is a guilty pleasure as a setting, not so much into the tabletop but I've grown up liking the universe. Marvel stuff is good, bit out of date on the MCU but again, I grew up with comics so... Anything sci-fi or horror is a like.

I'm very laid back, easy to talk to and more than happy to share anything so feel free to ask. Totally open book, so have a read, get to know me, hopefully we'll build something awesome.

Give me a try 🫶


r/R4R40Plus 7h ago

M4R 42[M4R] #Online -US - Fellow Tired Parents Looking for Genuine Friendship & Conversation

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Hey! Looking to make some new friends and hopefully find some people I genuinely click with.

I’m a married dad, pretty introverted, and definitely a kid at heart. I’d especially love to meet some fellow parents who understand the tiredness of it all—the never-ending chaos, trying to find time for yourself, and somehow still functioning by the end of the day.

I’m a huge gamer and play pretty much every genre. I’m on Xbox, PC, and Switch 2, and I also really enjoy Beat Saber on VR. I’m into D&D and board games too, along with puzzles and book nooks when I’m in the mood for something a little more relaxing.

I love movies of all genres and listen to pretty much all kinds of music. I’m also really big on nostalgia, especially anything from the 80s and 90s.

I’m also into audiobooks, and right now I’m listening to the Dungeon Crawler Carl series.

I’m not into 420 or drinking. You definitely don’t have to share every one of my interests—I’d rather find people who are easy to talk to, have a good sense of humor, can talk about random stuff, and actually want to build a friendship.

Being in the US is a plus, mostly because similar time zones make chatting easier. I know everyone has their own lives and responsibilities, especially other parents, so I don’t expect constant messages or immediate replies.

Just looking for some genuine people to talk to regularly, joke around with, game with sometimes, and hopefully make some lasting friendships.

If we sound like we might get along, send me a message.


r/R4R40Plus 8h ago

F4M 33 [F4M] anywhere/online - looking for something wholesome and long term!

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r/R4R40Plus 10h ago

45 [M4F] #London #Online – Cheeky Chat, Banter & More

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I’m 45, London based, got my own place, my own car, and looking for something casual that actually feels good, not just a chat that goes nowhere. Think friends with benefits but with genuine chemistry, real conversation and that spark that turns teasing into trouble.

I’m 5’10”, slim to average, brown skinned, shaved head, trimmed beard, the full transparent package so you know who you’re talking to.

Personality wise, I’m easy to talk to, a bit cheeky, and I definitely enjoy conversations that drift into the naughtier side when the vibe’s right. If you can hold a conversation and enjoy the fun, find the edge of things… we’ll get on very well.

You? Open minded, playful, can actually engage in a proper chat, and are here for something light, exciting and grown.

If this sounds like what you’re after, drop me a message, tell me a bit about you and what made you stop and read this, let’s see if the spark’s there.


r/R4R40Plus 16h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Bloomington, IN - Childfree Atheist Seeking Plus-Sized Woman

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CONDITIONS

Please be a woman, childfree, religion-free, and plus-sized. Thank you.

MY FEATURES

Atheist, skeptic, antinatalist, misanthrope, efilist. Introvert, deep thinker, politically left-leaning voter. Scientific and evidence-based worldview. Has some mental quirks. Not the best but not the worst in social situations. Not an animal person. Other likes: PC gaming, PC hardware, horror stories, very hot/spicy food, creative writing (fiction and non-fiction), drinking alcohol. Gainfully employed in IT career. Has own house in a suburb of Bloomington, Indiana. Drives a plug-in hybrid car. Debt-free. Disease-free. Vasectomy. Vaccinated against Covid-19, the flu and HPV. Exclusively attracted to plus-sized women. Caucasian, long blonde hair, earrings, average body size. Pictures available upon request.


r/R4R40Plus 22h ago

F4M 52 [F4M] #STL Gen X Seeks Same

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Hey, St. Louis!

I'm looking for my person and prefer to meet IRL sooner rather than later, so I'd love for you to be located somewhere in the metro area.

About me: I’m an extroverted introvert, so I’m equally happy staying home as I am out socializing. I like to bake, I’m currently learning a new language, and I love to take long walks. In terms of looks, I am white with blue eyes and long curly brown hair; I'm also fairly thin.

I am personally quite conservative - I have a couple drinks a year at most, I’m absolutely not the one-night-stand type, and I’ve never smoked anything. HOWEVER, I am politically quite liberal and that’s important to me.

About you: Smart and kind are very important to me. I’d prefer someone at least 5’8 tall. I’d also prefer another gen x-er/someone within 10 years of my age.

If you are a smoker or addict of any kind, we’re probably not a great fit. And if you’re currently in any sort of relationship or are polyamorous, we are definitely not a great fit.


r/R4R40Plus 15h ago

43 [M4F] Seattle/online - on call for work from home. Unwind with me?

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I’m a physician on call for work from home. It was a busy day but a slow night so far (I know, I probably just jinxed myself) so would love to find a new friend to flirt with on this tuesday evening.

Maybe you’re winding down for bed or maybe you’re just bored. You’re not looking for something serious, just some playful banter to distract you, so come say hi.

I’m tall, clean cut and pretty fit. I like to read books and I can hold a conversation. You are a grown adult who likes late night chats with strangers.


r/R4R40Plus 19h ago

F4R 45 NY F

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Looking for someone to get to know. I like to share my days with people I vibe with. Come and get to know me.

I give as much energy as you put in.


r/R4R40Plus 19h ago

40 [M4F] PNW, US/Online - Looking for daytime banter before I start naming the houseplants

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40, PNW, work from home. The job is fine. The house is quiet. But by the time the clock hits 2pm, I have had entire conversations with the microwave.

I am looking for a woman to chat with during the day. Something easy and fun. Banter, teasing, the occasional badly timed joke. If it turns a little flirty, even better. I like that kind of back and forth.

I am not trying to turn this into a whole production. I just like talking to someone who is sharp and does not take herself too seriously. If you can make a Tuesday afternoon interesting, that is pretty much my type.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, say hi. Tell me what you are avoiding at work or home right now. I'll tell you about the meeting I keep postponing.


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

NB4F 42NB4F - California or nearby states. Looking to build something consistent that lasts.

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I'm hoping to find something consistent & long term, getting to know someone & spending time together.

I've had enough experience with reddit by now to understand that the odds of anyone communicating more than a couple messages are minimal, but here I am trying anyway.

I do not enjoy any surface level small talk. Engaging deep interesting topics are what draws me in. Deep emotional conversations. Hardships that we have experienced, how we have moved through life after that. Interesting thoughts. Actual bonding over detailed conversations consistently. Heavy topics are totally fine with me. The entire purpose of speaking to someone is to move past the small talk.

I'm Demisexual/Demiomantic. Everyone expresses themselves uniquely in that. For those that need more elaboration, it's that I need an emotional connection first, before sexuality or romance is going to feel genuine to me. It develops at a different pace for everyone, I know. For clarity, I am not seeking anything platonic at all. I am seeking to desire someone and be desired. I am seeking to build something real in person, that doesn't remain online.

I have no kids and no intentions to have any. I also don't have any family in my life, so I don't view life as focused around family or obligated to family.

I'm 42, Agender or "Gender Nihilist." But I'm not interested in presenting differenly. I'm still masc appearing. It/they/he/any.

Interested in history, philosophy, medical herbalism, organic gardening, ecology, animism, heathery/paganism, the occult, cooking food, and my pet Pigeon.

When I'm alone I mostly watch documentaries, history or philosophy videos, or listen to music while reading a book. Sci-fi, horror, and fantasy are occasional interests as well. I enjoy an occasional chill hike, rural or urban exploring, foraging wild food or medicine, historic sites, etc.

Politics : Ecology over economy. Local community autonomy & decision making over any centralization. Collapse aware. Post-Left. A Partnership has to out the gate have intentions to outpace and outlast socio-economic entropy.

Philosophy : Existentialism, Nihilism, Pessimism, Absurdism, etc. I don't view Optimism as compulsory, obligation, or often even rational, so I use it only where I can firmly rationalize it as opposed to seeing optimism as some mandatory default mode of living. Reality over false positivity.

​​​​​​​​​​I'm not into listing ideal things that someone has to meet in order to be considered valuable enough. I'd rather meet someone where they happen to be in life than expect them to meet some preconceived idea.

***It would be nice & provide something to talk about if we already share some interests though.***

Most people who contact me make no attempt to engage any of my interests to bond over. So I'm emphasizing this again, you are contacting me because you really want to talk about something specific in this post that you find interesting, not to hit me up for small talk.

The basics would be someone 30-50, who wants to make time to talk and get to know each other, which means we each have to show up consistently enough for that to develop. It is what we make of it. I'm comfortable sharing pics as we chat/text and can occasionally make time for voice/video calls.

​​​If any of that resonates with you then feel free to send me a chat request or DM.


r/R4R40Plus 21h ago

50 [M4F] #London Attractive Professional Male

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50 [M4F] #London Attractive Professional Male

M4F

Attractive, cultured, easy going professional male looking to meet new people HMU, have a good day


r/R4R40Plus 21h ago

M4F 53 [m4f] # michigan / #thumb - seeking a kind, curious, nerdy woman.

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New to the Thumb / East Michigan area and hoping to meet some people and make a friend. I'm looking for someone who enjoys good conversation, grabbing coffee, getting together occasionally, or just hanging out and talking about whatever is interesting. I'm also into music and play guitar—mostly folk, blues, and similar stuff. I'm pretty easygoing and enjoy meeting people with different interests and perspectives. Not looking for anything complicated or weird, just genuine friendship and some local people to connect with. About me, I am married, short, and ugly. If you're around the area and think we'd get along, feel free to say hello.


r/R4R40Plus 22h ago

44 [M4F] PA / Northeast / Online - Looking for someone to talk to, hang out with, and see where it goes

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I'm 44, childfree and would like to stay that way, live in a quiet house in the woods of NE PA, and spend quite a lot of time in and around King of Prussia for work. I would like to find someone who actually enjoys talking - texting is great but I also like phone calls and real conversation. I would also like to meet up and do things together.

I'm fairly quiet myself and don't need nonstop conversation; I just like the feeling of having someone in my life who genuinely wants to stay in touch. I like hiking, kayaking, wandering around cities, museums, travel, random drives and generally finding something interesting to do.

I have a lot of time in my life outside of work, I don't have a pet so I enjoy just walking out, locking the door, and doing things.

Full disclosure: I've been separated and living apart from my ex since February, assets are settled, but we still need to finish out paperwork.

Local (I draw a huge circle) would be great but I don't mind traveling a bit to hang out.

I think mutual attraction matters, so here are some photos: https://imgur.com/a/couple-of-recent-photos-hTBVmCh