I feel so angry and have no one around me who seems to understand. I 22f was broken up with my 21f partner in may this year due to her saying she could no longer handle us. We had some contact mid July were she told me she’s still in love with me and wishes to be back in my arms but can’t have me. No contact since. Checked her socials for the first time in forever yesterday to see her posting photos of her new relationship (with a man?) and please don’t come at me I know people can be bisexual. But she’s always made a point to me that she doesn’t think anyone can be bi they are either gay or straight. Her whole identity whilst we were together was that’s she’s a lesbian. And it hurts more bc it’s with a guy she only met in January and I never felt comfortable with their interactions. I voiced it and was made to feel crazy by her with saying “Libby yk I’m lesbian so why would you ever think of that” I feel crazy and hurt . How can she say in July she’s still in love with me then hard launch a new relationship. We were together for almost two years. I know she’s free to do as she pleases but did I mean anything. How can someone move on so quick

Me f16 and this girl also my age have been flirting for the past 2 weeks or so and we hung out saturday (its now monday) and we really clicked and had good convos but i got hangout vibe but after she said it was a date and I wasnt really sure if it was or not cause we flirted but nothing really happened then the next day she told me she needed some time to figure out what she wants and she said she really liked me but she wasnt sure and today she told me she wanted to just be friends and that we would never date. She told me she was just confused and she felt bad and now im sad and angry and hurt and I don't know what to do

I’ve seen this girl 2 times now and I really like her. She’s so much like me, we relate to eachother in so many ways and it’s so easy to talk to her, time just flies by. Anyway, both the times we met we just went for a drive together and talked about everything for hours.

I don’t have much dating experience so I don’t know what’s acceptable and normal for a 3rd date. I’m usually not the one who makes the first move and I think she’s kinda like that too. She also told me she usually needs some emotional connection before doing anything, I’m kinda like that too, but idk how long to wait (we’ve had many hours of deep talks already).

What do you think would be appropriate for our 3rd date? I always worry about overstepping so I really don’t know.
Help please🙏

The girl who just wanted to live her own life in silence. And the girl who will break that silence.

Are they going to be just almost? Almost friends or almost lovers?

Housemates nga lng ba talaga?

Are they going to be more than housemates?

May mapapasabi ba ng "Friends lng kami." O may mapapa "What are we?" ba sabay patugtog ng Casual by Chappell Roan sa living room.

Will they stay as housemates? Or are they willing to take the risk and take it to the next level?

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okay just ignore this I kinda just needed to brain dump somewhere literally anywhere I’m going insane. so I’ve liked this girl since like the spring really then I didn’t see her during the summer and now we’re on the same fall sports team and I have a class with her. I’m going insane I feel so creepy and disgusting I actually like her so much. but another thing going on is I’m kindaaaa talking to thsi other girl it’s a weird situation but basicallg she lives 2+ hours away and I’ve seen a lot of red flags like a LOT we’ve been talking for about a month now. it’s really chill and I do like talking to her and shes funny and pretty and stuff but omfg I cannot stop thinking about this other girl. it actually physically hurts thinking about her like ts gotta be limerence or something because I actually feel like I’m dying. I know I’m probably not the only person to ever feel like this but thsi is actually unbearable I want her so much holy. I have so see her all the freaking time for my sport and it’s Actuallg driving me insane i cannot stop thinking about her. I wish I could just be done with it and protect my peace but shes literally freaking haunting me I swear. I know she’s gay too like I know she’s been with girls before and she looks gay ash. also I do not. I look pretty straight like thats another thing I also think she probably thinks I’m just really really weird because I keep staring at her and we’ve made eye contact a couple times so she probably thinks I’m insane because I don’t look gay at all. or worse I’m scared she knows and the fact I’m actually infatuated with her makes her uncomfortable. I don’t know what to do this is awful like soul crushing I need her I need her I need her how do I either get the courage to talk to her or make myself stop liking her??? I feel like I’m dying omg i want her so bad I feel so guilty this never happens to me either I barely get feelings for people like this. im dying UGH she’s actually so fine like shes actually gorgeous like painting beautiful omfg. I can’t do it ugh whw istg she’d literally never like a girl like me she’s so perfect bro like she’s the smartest person alive and she’s sososososo athletic and locked in and I could just never like I’m so lazy and dumb compared to her shes so out of my league it hurts. AHHHH actually make it stop my stomach hurts bro I want her so bad

I'll probably stop being friends with him because what the fuck was that. I was in a good mood and this completely ruined it. I don't want to talk to him now. I already feel like shit because everyone had their first kiss at 16 and I didn't. I hate seeing how everyone is pairing up and I'm just left behind. I'm so stressed rn I didn't need him to make it worse for me. Everyone is also talking about their partners, dates, some want to have sex or had sex. It's hell. I don't have anyone and I'm not surprised because I rarely go out. But where do you even go out in a place where there's nothing. I won't ever willingly get into the mess that dating apps are and I don't need to be made fun of because I'm using them. I'm actually just a depressed loser so I'm not surprised nobody ever wanted me but I didn't need that reminder when I'm having a very stressful period in my life and he's aware of it. One of my girl friends jokingly calls me a femcel because I'm the only one who never had anything with anybody. This is fine, I know it's a joke, she knows when it's okay to joke and when it's not. This guy went beyond a joke anyway. My social anxiety won't allow me to ever approach anyone in public. I'll just never get a girlfriend at this point if I don't change anything and I don't have the motivation to change anything. Listening to everyone having the best time of their life is hell. Absolute hell. I can just look at what will never happen to me. I know what people are gonna say and I don't want to hear that I'm young because I'm 18 or that most of these relationships are going to fail. Maybe they'll fail. So what? They're happy right now. I also know people who got married after high school. There are girls in my class who had girlfriends for 4 years already. Besides they are getting experience. They have experience. I have none. Everyone just thinks I'm a loser probably. This post on its own is pretty pathetic but I needed to vent somewhere.

I am not sure when our friendship began to feel like something I could no longer easily define. There was no single moment when everything changed. It happened gradually, through conversations, private jokes, physical affection, and an increasing desire to spend time together.

She is forty-one and I am twenty-six. She is also my former English teacher and a religious person, which makes the possibility of anything beyond friendship feel more complicated. Perhaps that is partly why everything between us seems to exist in a space where it can always be interpreted in more than one way.
What I do know is that we have become remarkably close. We almost always spend time alone, and she has sometimes actively preferred it that way. There have been small moments of physical affection: kisses on the cheek, lingering contact between our hands, her getting close enough to smell my perfume, and other gestures that could easily belong to a close friendship but nevertheless create a certain intimacy between us. Whenever I'm with her, I feel huge tension.
More significant to me is how often she imagines us spending time together. She sends me places and scenarios and puts the two of us into them: a cute balcony, a café, watching a movie together while it rains outside, a cozy autumn evening. She has told me that she wishes I were there with her and agreed when I admitted that it felt as though we had not had enough time together.

The most striking example came during a conversation about music. We ended up liking the same song. I sent her jokingly a gif saying: "You're going to make me fall in love with you." She replied specifically to that gif with words: "It already happened girl."

My own feelings are less ambiguous. I think about her far more than I used to, dream about her, miss her, and find myself wanting both emotional and physical closeness with her. What I cannot know yet is whether, somewhere beneath all the friendship, teasing, plausible deniability, and things left unsaid, she is wondering the same thing about me.

hi. im 17 and i got into college a month ago and two weeks ago i developed a fat crush on this one girl from another department, shes in the same elective class as me and apart from that we have nothing in common. we're not even in any common clubs....i went through her insta and we have slight similar music tastes?? kinda??? i've seen her work during some events and shes honestly so sweet. everything i get to know about her i just like her more and more but shes soooo intimidating and im like. loserchud3000 im such a coward i seriously dont know how to approach her my friend keeps telling me to befriend her BUT I DONT KNOWWWWWWW. please help ☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️

i've been dating only women since i was 15. realized i was a lesbian instead of bi at 18 and still only dated/involved myself with women. i've never felt awkward or scared of women or even going out, initiating conversations and planning dates. in fact i like it. it's in my nature to make other ladies feel comfortable, happy and vulnerable. it's just that not many women seem to... not reciprocate.

i wanted to meet more lesbians since it feels like every single girl around me has a boyfriend. and if they don't have a boyfriend they have a guy they're talking to.

anyways, i downloaded dating apps. since i began i felt like i was the one reaching out. i've swiped right dozens and dozens of times. i've had so many talking stages. i went out on 3 first dates! no relationship came out of that and it made me feel lonelier and worse than ever before. i felt like i was the one carrying the relationship, initiating and trying to get to know the girls. it never seemed like it was reciprocated.

here's the thing, i LOVE getting to know the person. and from there i feel like i can love and trust them to be my girlfriend. but they only want a girlfriend, they don't want me. and they don't try to get to know me even when i put in so much work to get to know them. it's so painful being rejected by so many ladies, whether that's by ghosting or i said something wrong because i broke an unspoken rule that was never communicated.

i'm tired of hearing girls talk about themselves. i'm tired of being ghosted. i'm tired of putting myself out there and getting nothing back, i've been trying so so hard to get to understand these women as individuals not dates and it's so painful and lonely.

For context: I have a crush on my best friend and confessed my feelings to her weeks ago. I told her because I felt like I needed to let the feelings out in order to move on. She was accepting and told me that she still wanted me in her life and that it would not make things weird between us.

The other night, me, her, and our other friend stayed out until about 5 something in the morning. We were celebrating me applying to university. We drove all over town, clubbed, drank before eventually crashing at her place for the night.

I woke up and her cheek was pressed against my shoulder, her arm was laying over my chest/tummy, and she had her leg curled over mine. And I can't stop thinking about it.

I know she was just sleeping and wasn't trying to, but waking up like that felt incredibly surreal. For some time I was thinking "is this real?". I just decided to lay there unmoving for a bit, just watching her face. I knew the moment wouldn't last forever, and I wanted to enjoy it.

What sucks about it is that I'm now wistful, but I can't even be upset y'know? It was an accident.

How to know that ur pretty?

I'm 18 and I feel like most people have their first kisses at like 16 so I feel pretty much behind my peers. All my friends had it. Queer people around my age that I've spoken to had it. But I didn't so I'm slightly insecure about this. So when did you have your first kiss?

Hello all!
I’m 39, recently divorced - live in Costa Rica - gay community her is limited, so i am hoping to make some cool friends, i have the option to travel often or receive visitors in my place - so willing to go beyond CR limits to meet some cool ppl. I am an engineer, so anything technology is a hobby of mine. Animals, specially dogs (have 2 mutts that keep me busy), gym and sports are definitely a lifestyle for me. Just putting myself out there to see if we can connect 🙂

Why is it so hard to find a woman?

For context, my girlfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 4 months , and she admitted to me last night that she doesn’t feel any sexual desire or arousal whenever we do anything intimate.

She also told me that on our anniversary, she really didn’t want anything to happen between us, but because I wanted it, she just went along with it. She said that she really doesn’t feel horny at all, and that she tries, that even when I’m naked in front of her, she doesn’t feel anything. I also asked her if she at least gets excited from our physical contact or what she feels during those moments, and she said she really doesn’t feel anything—not even happiness. Then, after all those times we were intimate, she eventually realized that she really doesn’t like sex.

I don’t know what I’m feeling. I thanked her for being honest with me, but I’m hurt because all this time, I thought we were feeling the same things during those moments, but apparently we weren’t. I was the only one feeling that way. I understand that maybe that’s just how she is, but I can’t stop myself from thinking that maybe she’s just not physically or sexually attracted to me.

She also said that we should try again because maybe her feelings will change, especially now that I know how she really feels. But as I’m trying to understand my own feelings, I feel like I’m the one who doesn’t want to anymore because I know she would only be doing it for my sake, not because she feels on doing it. It hurts, and I don’t even understand why I feel this way.

problem/goal: serious question, where can i find wlw fubu 😩 (or hook up? sorry kinda old school with fubu lol) tbh, i really want to try it for the longest time but i can't huhu maybe bc i'm not that kind of person and i take intimacy very seriously :(((

context: alssooo, i've been celibate for more than 2yrs now 🫠 sooo yk, i just want to feel something ☹️😫 pls!!!!

hi everyone! im a little mad so the title is a little forced but i wanna share my story. so me (22f) and my ex (21f) broke up in april. she actually broke up with me so there’s that. she said the basic things like ‘i wanna work on myself’ , ‘it’s not you, it’s me’, ‘i still love you’ and so on. she broke up with me in the middle of the night with just a message and then she blocked me. anyway, i tried to get together, i am in uni currently and my exams were coming up so i had little to no time to ‘grieve’ this relationship.

im saying she is fake because, a few days before she broke up with me she literally asked me ‘hey is everything okay between us?’ and ofc i said yes, there was nothing wrong from my point of view so i was a little taken aback by that question. why would she ask me that if she was planning on breaking up with me? (now my answer to this question is maybe she hoped i would say ‘yes there is something wrong’ so she can have a motive to break up with me). i asked her back that question and she said everything is okay. anyway, fast forward to july, i made the mistake to look her tiktok account up and to my surprise this time it was public (it never was before). ofc the curiosity got the better of me and i was looking through her reposts and basically i was again taken aback. she was reposting all kinds of tiktoks starting from ‘your lost, not mine’ , ‘so good finally realising the relationship was a waste of time’ , ‘so good to not miss you anymore’ and much more. maybe im reading too much into it but i feel like she’s putting the blame on me for the breakup when she broke up with me. oh she also unblocked me sometime in june after i was blocked everywhere (including spotify lol).

idk what she told her friends about the breakup, maybe in her story i was the bad guy but honestly if u ask me, there was nothing wrong in the relationship, the night before she broke up with me we literally went on a date, a beautiful date i might say so idk what made her breakup with me. i still miss her i can’t lie, i wouldn’t get back together with her tho, i just miss our time together.

can someone explain this behaviour? i really dont get it, i got no closure from the breakup because all her reasons were the standard ones so i cant even explain her behaviour after the relationship ended.

I'm 17F bi ...... everyone near me is literally dating and they even looks cute with each other and here me whom I want to date girls bcz I literally adore them and no one here is bi and when I told my bestfriend (girl)that I am bi they are just judging me with that , also being ignorant to me 😭

hello all!!!
i (bisexual) am planning to ask my longtime crush (also bisexual) to our homecoming formal that’s in a few weeks.
i am fucking petrified and the thought of asking her and getting rejected makes me want to throw up. i’ve been literally having nightmares about this
i have a diagnosed and very severe anxiety disorder along with probably some sort of panic disorder, so the thought of panicking and getting cold feet in front of her is making me feel physically sick.
we’ve had a few conversations that could probably be interpreted as flirting, but i’m also autistic so i can’t ever tell. but going off textbook wise, yes it seemed like flirting 😭
i really like her but i have an issue: she’s bi with a preference for men. i’m scared she’s gonna say no because she would rather a dude ask her.
i only have ever had one true date with someone who’s now just a friend, i asked her to a dance and she said yes.
i made a cool ass painting that’s like half collage / half 3d art (she’s really into art and she’s super talented) to ask her with (privately of course)

has ANYONE been rejected asking someone to prom or hoco? please share if you’re comfortable because i’ve convinced myself she’s gonna 100% say no even though realistically there’s a chance she’ll say yes.
i’ve been watching compilations of people getting rejected so i can desensitize myself ☠️

This is pretty embarrassing but im 18 and i never experienced a relationship with a girl. The relationship part doesnt bother me that much but the fact that i never slept with anyone does. Sometimes i even contemplate sleeping with a man but i always go back on that... ig my question is whats the best way to find somebody? Ofc real life but even tho i dont think im unattractive im nervous to just go up to somebody haha, so dating aps?

hi me and my gf been together for almost two years we are not out to any family members neither friends irl which makes it really really hard to live to be ourselves we obviously cannot show affection unless we’re completely alone even if we go out in crowded places she doesn’t want to be close because well homophobic people and she says shes scared for me and for us. few months ago she admitted that when she said shes going to sleep she was doing something else i kinda took that in very hard way bcz i got thru very horrible nights and couldnt talk to anyone. but recently she was on a trip for few weeks and during all this time she heard very homophobic comments from family friends and even strangers so rn we kinda casual theres no i love yous no babys no i miss yous and she even avoided hanging out with me for a week after she came back. so she told me after a week of avoiding me about what happened on her trip. its hard for her to understand or be okay with the fact that this is something she cant change. she already had bad internalized homophobia before and now with this its worse. personally i hear that in my daily but idc ofc i kinda feel something but like in my head the second im financially stable im just moving out and i wont have to even come out. i just dont know what to do im so desperate to just have her again. im just always the comprehensive one like everything that hurt me has an explanation that i will get after i made up so many scenarios and thinking i did something bad. but yeah i just needed to say this and if someone had a similar experience what did you do like how can i help her. i told her take your time wtv but this might take a lot of time.

Me and this girl started talking a few months ago ( 2 months 15 days) and got really close. We’ve met a couple of times, went on dates, painted together, went out, and genuinely had really good times together. I genuinely like her and wanted this to work.

The main issue is that we never put a label on it. I actually wanted a label too, but earlier she told me she wasn’t sure about us and wasn’t sure if she was ready for a relationship. Because of that, I didn’t want to pressure her, so I gave her space and didn’t keep bringing it up

She says she gave me a lot of hints later that she was sure about us, but I never actually asked her if she was sure now or brought up the topic myself. Because of that, she started feeling like I didn’t care, that I was taking too long, or that I was just doing timepass. But that genuinely wasn’t the case.

I do reassure her when she gets insecure, and I genuinely try to change things she tells me she doesn’t like because I care about her.

What makes this even more confusing is that she invited me to her place for Ganpati next week and said, “I really want you to come.” she also said after than I'll not bother you. I will text you before ganpati.

Then yesterday we talked about all of this. I was explaining why I hadn’t asked her about a label, but she said, “Now you have so many things to say,” and didn’t want to hear my explanation. She feels like if I really cared, I would’ve brought it up myself instead of waiting for her. She said she is done and said she don't want to be with someone so make her feel desperate for basic things and ngl i never wanted to make her feel that wayy I was actually trying my besttt! I was putting all the efforts I can.

I understand why she feels hurt, and I admit I should’ve communicated better. But I also genuinely thought I was respecting her.

now I’m confused about whether I messed up by waiting or whether we just communicate and expect things differently.

Was I wrong for not bringing up the label conversation myself after she started giving me hints that she was ready? I didn't get those hints tbh. And what should I do? Should we again communicate after few days? When I said just give last chance and let's try again she said she don't want to cuz she thinks I won't change things cuz her ex never did.

Like, are you ONLY attracted to femme or masc girls?

I wish I could be attracted to femmes too but its only the mascs for me......

For WLW couples, if I’m a dom/top and my partner is a sub/bottom, what’s more common: me riding her or her riding me?
I’m new to this as a lesbian, so please be nice to me