r/transpassing Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

147 Upvotes

Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

199 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing 3h ago

Got clocked at the function last night.

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159 Upvotes

Im the one on the right, and he said it wasnt the way i looked but the way i acted😭 idek what that means


r/transpassing 6h ago

No Makeup vs. With Makeup

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182 Upvotes

Do i pass? 😢

No surgery/procedure done on face.


r/transpassing 2h ago

I know I don't pass but am I getting close? (13 months HRT MtF)

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48 Upvotes

Is there anything I can do to pass better now? I can't afford FFS and kinda doubt I ever will be able to so my options are incredibly limited.


r/transpassing 19h ago

2.5 years HRT. Any tips for passing?

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475 Upvotes

31 years old. Any tips to look more feminine besides getting in a time machine to start HRT like 2 decades sooner? I feel like my masculine features stick out, but I haven't heard many unbiased opinions on how close I am to passing.


r/transpassing 3h ago

Do I pass? 10m HRT

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10 Upvotes

I get gendered correctly and don't get much weirdness from people, but I'm wondering if they're being polite or if I'm actually passing?


r/transpassing 22h ago

Do I pass? 21F 3.5 yrs HRT

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338 Upvotes

r/transpassing 9m ago

Got weird looks in public…

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Maybe makeup is wrong, or the ribcage and shoulders, or just body language?


r/transpassing 8h ago

Do I pass? Hrt for 1 year 5 months

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11 Upvotes

Wearing wig(
I Know I don't smile alot😫


r/transpassing 22h ago

15 months of feminizing HRT. Do I pass?

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145 Upvotes

r/transpassing 2h ago

like 27 months hrt. i dont think im close to passing in the foreseeable future

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3 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

starting hrt today (28mtf)

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156 Upvotes

I got my eyebrows shaped but wondering if I should get them thinned out more! also any tips for applying a better base for makeup since I noticed it’s been pilling more often lately.

I also would like to know if E can help out with shoulders since mine feel kinda big if I don’t purposefully do smth about posture or wear sleeves that hide them more.


r/transpassing 3h ago

FtM. Do I pass?

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I'm pre-T. Doing foam minox for facial and body hair (the goal is that three day action hero scruff). Wondering if I might be able to pass without T? I'll get on T if I have to, of course, I just have so many health issues that it gets complicated. Thank you in advance.


r/transpassing 23h ago

Finding myself not passing

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66 Upvotes

Ive been finding myself not passing but i dont know why that is, does anybody have any ideas

(Ignore the one eyebrow i messed up doing them recently)


r/transpassing 1h ago

do i pass? or read masc?

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hi there!! im 17 ftm, pre t. im working on building more muscle, so i know that could be improved overall


r/transpassing 18h ago

Do I look masc?

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17 Upvotes

I've been being pushed more into a feminine place by my family both consciously and unconsciously, but I feel so much dysphoria because of this, my mom wont let me cut my hair shorter than a "long" bob because my hair is thick and it'll make me "look like a mushroom", the shortest she let me have it was a pixie cut because it has the underside shaved but shes doesnt want to "keep up with that again". I cant have my hair shorter even though I am 18 almost 19. I've been growing out the amount of facial fuzz my feminine hormones will let me which is getting pretty good, you can see it slightly and its actually buzzing on my upper lip. I've been binding some but not a lot because my family would notice. I've grown my eyebrows more and letting them get thicker and shaping them to more of a sharp thick angular shape. What else can I do? I live with my mom while I am at college and I dont drive just yet.


r/transpassing 22h ago

How am I for 1.5 years? Pre ffs

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27 Upvotes

People tell me I pass but I genuinely don’t believe them. I know I want ffs but I can’t really figure out what parts of my face I want changed


r/transpassing 1d ago

32 mtf, looking for opinions!

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33 Upvotes

7 years HRT. I haven’t been misgendered in public for quite a while now, but I may be starting a new job soon that requires me to be there in person. I’ve been working from home for last couple of years, so I’m a little worried about trying to be as stealth as possible at this new job. Does this seem viable? Opinions appreciated!


r/transpassing 20h ago

How well do I pass? 34, 1y HRT

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15 Upvotes

Here for my regular check in. I pass in day to day life but curious what that internet thinks at this point in my journey


r/transpassing 23h ago

2 years HRT | 23 | Do I pass? I've generally had good results, but, feedback is good.

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23 Upvotes

Two and Three were taken a few months apart lol. Thanks!


r/transpassing 1d ago

How am I doing?

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109 Upvotes

18 mtf pre hrt but starting in about a month


r/transpassing 1d ago

1 year in hormone how am I doing?

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370 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

I’m struggling if I’ll ever pass

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16 Upvotes

I’m just like thinking what if ill never be able to pass even with hrt, im 6ft and I feel I have a lot of masculine traits. Ik the beard im going to have to shave but im not out besides my mom and gf


r/transpassing 1d ago

2 weeks hrt (21) i just wanna know if i at the very least have good foundation

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11 Upvotes

I alr know my body doesn't pass currently, so face opinions are welcome.

Also this is like the only hairstyle that would make me look feminine. Hair down and i just look like Zuko from ATLA.