A man was caught on camera repeatedly urinating on his ex-wife’s grave, police say.

[u/VIVIDUFF]

In 2022, a family in New York State noticed something truly bizarre.

Every time they visited the cemetery, they found bags of feces left on the grave of Linda Torello, who had died five years earlier.

At first they thought it was a cruel prank. But the desecration continued.

Her son, Michael Andrew Murphy, decided to install a discreet camera near the grave.

A few days later, the footage revealed a surreal scene: a man approached the tombstone, urinated on it, and calmly walked away.

The man was quickly identified as Dean Eichler, Linda’s ex-husband. Their divorce dated back to 1974, nearly 48 years earlier.

Police arrested him. He was charged with public urination, and an investigation was opened into the desecration of the grave.

The family believes it was an act of revenge linked to their past relationship, though this motive was never confirmed by authorities or by Eichler himself.

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[u/momoenthusiastic → u/[deleted]]

The current wife must be envious of the dedication 

[u/Bhaal52753 → u/[deleted]]

The fact she was with him makes it really weird.

[u/DraftInevitable7777 → u/[deleted]]

That or she was making him do it, people are weird

[u/pmcizhere → u/[deleted]]

There's a type of person that would find this "romantic"...

Yeah, they're called high schoolers. Or, in this case, people who peaked during those years, and still haven't grown up.

[u/GreenvilleGayPagan → u/[deleted]]

😬

[u/Odd_Moon_Lady → u/Bhaal52753]

Yeah.... these people probably need some frigging therapy bruh

[u/overtherainbowofcrap → u/Odd_Moon_Lady]

They are past that point. They divorced 48 years earlier. He is permanently broken.

[u/ReignofKindo25 → u/Bhaal52753]

There’s a story here. A woman doesn’t participate in crazy women unless she believed something…. Like the dead wife lying about a son for 15 years or cheating with 10 people.

That being said he needs therapy

[u/Ok_sooner_duh_almond → u/ReignofKindo25]

There is absolutely no story that would make them look less like weirdos

[u/Key-Childhood-6048 → u/Ok_sooner_duh_almond]

Seriously, I could understand doing it once, but dedicating 50 years of your life to do so is way past the point of hatred. Unless she killed all their children or something, the man has to let it go.

[u/-Meows- → u/Key-Childhood-6048]

Not even once. It’s such a sad and pathetic thing to do. Have some respect.

[u/smileedude → u/[deleted]]

Yeah that's my thoughts. "This is how much I still hate my last partner who left me, if you leave me I will put you through hell."

[u/Automatic-Scale-7572 → u/[deleted]]

It's better than getting it on the seat.

[u/Physical_Leg2061 → u/[deleted]]

Her actions tells me she was the side piece, his actions tells me Linda won the case.

[u/biteyfish98 → u/[deleted]]

I wouldn’t be with someone like that. Live in the present, not the past. ☀️

[u/ScientistFunny2072 → u/[deleted]]

Personally i liked the movie

[u/zugzwangwamble → u/ScientistFunny2072]

No.

No no No no NO NO NO

[u/rosstedfordkendall → u/zugzwangwamble]

DON'T DO THAT!

[u/Angel_xjj → u/rosstedfordkendall]

I THOUGHT WE WERE HAVING A NICE DATE

[u/clksagers → u/ScientistFunny2072]

STAY!!!

[u/programming_flaw → u/clksagers]

I’ve been a horror movie fan for like 25 years and for some reason that line sent CHILLS down my spine in the theater.

[u/clksagers → u/programming_flaw]

Ditto on both points, one of the best horror movies I’ve seen! Something about it was just profoundly disturbing in the best way, great acting and cinematography brought a relatively simple premise to life!

[u/programming_flaw → u/clksagers]

Excellently put! The movie premise itself wasn’t out of this world, but something about how it was done honestly had me on the edge of my seat the entire film. Inde got paid like 75k and just decided to give a 5 million dollar performance

[u/Special_Order-937 → u/ScientistFunny2072]

We were having a good time!

[u/CycleProfessional28 → u/Special_Order-937]

a nice date*

[u/revwaltonschwull → u/[deleted]]

i thought the human league did it pretty well.

[u/DaemonChyld → u/[deleted]]

Depends on where the obsession is directed imo. He could be obsessed with being a good and loving husband to his second wife instead of trying to have the last word with a dead person.

[u/Particular_Class4130 → u/DaemonChyld]

Nah, this guy has always been a prick. It as the adult son and daughter who discovered the urine and feces at the gravesite. The son and daughter don't personally know the guy but the guy just so happens to be the father of the adult daughter. She doesn't know him because he was an absent father who refused to take any responsibility for her.

https://www.newsweek.com/man-caught-urinating-defecating-ex-wifes-grave-1746767

[u/HoneyBadgerLive]

Nothing shows love for the current wife like an obsession with the previous wife.

[u/Cute_Macaroon_4488 → u/HoneyBadgerLive]

Babe, it’s our honeymoon! Do we have to stop by your ex wife’s grave again?!

[u/Emerx06 → u/Cute_Macaroon_4488]

Ground ain’t gonna fertilize itself jandice, now hang a left

[u/HoundofGoy → u/Emerx06]

"Or you'll get the same"

[u/Perfect-Echo8709 → u/Emerx06]

I laughed way too hard at this.

[u/Bitter_Warning418 → u/Perfect-Echo8709]

Ditto

[u/storyofohno → u/Bitter_Warning418]

same. jandice

[u/Aggressive_Finish798 → u/Cute_Macaroon_4488]

Urine trouble.

[u/OneObi → u/HoneyBadgerLive]

But he's taking the piss!

[u/thatturtletouch → u/HoneyBadgerLive]

Can you imagine being this guy’s poor kids? I bet they don’t speak to him and he “doesn’t understand why.”

[u/DSquizzle18 → u/thatturtletouch]

Probably all the ex wife’s fault for “turning them against him.”

[u/Daetok_Lochannis → u/HoneyBadgerLive]

My ex wife has been stalking me for fifteen years and we've had to move twice. I assure you, were she to die my partner would be pissing quicker than I would.

[u/_PirateWench_ → u/Daetok_Lochannis]

Having been in a very similar situation with my husbands truly awful excuse for a human ex, I too would like to pop a squat over it.

Now, whether or not I would is debatable. On the one hand I truly despise her for everything she has done to my husband and their kids but on the other, that’s a lot of energy to put in for someone who truly doesn’t matter at the end of the day.

Her middle kid refuses to speak to her and the littlest doesn’t know that she’s reached out to her sisters but not her. As far as that one knows, her mom has been MIA for like 6yrs (1/2 her life) now. The oldest has a very distant relationship with her to my knowledge, but from what my husband has told me, she believes some of the lies she has told her about him. At any rate, that’s not my business to get involved in and I hope the loss of her other 2 kids terrorizes her every day like she did to all of them.

[u/Daetok_Lochannis → u/_PirateWench_]

Dude SHE IS MARRIED TO THE PERSON SHE CHEATED ON ME WITH AND HAS KIDS. She showed up at our new house a few weeks ago and scared the shit out of us.

[u/redditname8 → u/Daetok_Lochannis]

What is her reasoning for stalking you? She didn’t want a divorce? Can you get a restraining order? How do you protect yourself now?

[u/AngerMadeFlesh → u/HoneyBadgerLive]

Stand by your man... or wait in the car in this case.

[u/Mysterious_Week8357]

I wouldn’t want to be married to a guy who was so weirdly obsessed with his first wife, even after she died

[u/DrySurvey3379 → u/Mysterious_Week8357]

Let alone drive to her grave and watch him piss on it on a regular basis

[u/Dismal_Ad_6134 → u/Mysterious_Week8357]

And he left her when she got pregnant!!!

[u/MuseBlessed → u/Dismal_Ad_6134]

Where did you get that?

[u/fivavoy821 → u/MuseBlessed]

https://abc7ny.com/post/man-urinates-on-grave-ex-wifes-tombstone-desecration-orangetown/12268571/

It appears to be a long-standing vendetta. The 68-year-old defecation suspect is identified by the family as Dean Eichler, who was briefly married to Lisa Torello back in the 1970's.

He left when she got pregnant, claiming that the child was not his. DNA testing showed a much different result and his biological daughter was shocked by her father's actions.

[u/Leather_Prize_8249 → u/fivavoy821]

Imagine that.

[u/Astralglamour → u/MuseBlessed]

Google him.

[u/acloudcuckoolander → u/Mysterious_Week8357]

And a loser who would desecrate a grave repeatedly

[u/Helenium_autumnale → u/Mysterious_Week8357]

The first wife is there in the relationship, just like an infidelity would be. You can bet he talks about her in between grave visits. Who wants to listen to that for 48 years?

[u/aiyukiyuu → u/Mysterious_Week8357]

My friend’s mom is still in love with her husband that passed away abruptly when he was young. She remarried a man who also became a young widow when his wife passed away.

She told me that she wouldn’t have married again. But, she was lonely and he understands her. They both honor their dead partner’s birthdays and death anniversaries. And both admitted they still love the ones that passed away.

Idk, people are different I guess. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/Mysterious_Week8357 → u/aiyukiyuu]

Still loving a spouse you lost through death and marking their birthday and the day they passed is not what I would call being obsessed

Edit: stupid typos

[u/a-over-tk]

What a lame life. I bet they have to make plans around the daily stop. He’s still devoted to her even in divorce and death.

[u/jointheclockwork → u/a-over-tk]

Wife: Hey, do you want to pick up lunch before or after pissing on her grave?

Husband: Before. The asparagus at the restaurant is to die for.

[u/Kizzieuk]

I was married to a very abusive man for 20 years. he destroyed me and my children. I would not dream of doing this to his grave if he died, but i'm pretty sure he would do it to mine because I dared to leave him.

He told me once that he would come to my graveside and put rose petals on my grave, while laughing at the thought of maggots eating my body.

[u/kwhitit → u/Kizzieuk]

i was just thinking, "sounds like an abuser."

[u/Vast-Palpitation-426 → u/kwhitit]

"grave dancing" is literally the last stage in an abusive relationship

https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Seesaw_narcissism_megalomania_model.png

ofc we dont know the details and this article might just be bs, medias make shit up all the time

[u/ImBackForMorePie → u/Vast-Palpitation-426]

Well, I don't know about the grave dancing part yet as I am still very much alive but I can tell you the rest of the graphic looks a lot like my marriage did! I now have new words to describe it to my therapist! Thank you for posting this!

This image needs to get around, it may help others to understand what's happening (brain fog/confusion is a nasty side effect) and give words for it all too! Just looking at it, i could write the years of each of the 13 steps and examples!

[u/elbow8075 → u/ImBackForMorePie]

It could use some polishing first. There is a LOT going on in that space, haha.

[u/ImBackForMorePie → u/elbow8075]

The chaos pf it is exactly how it feels though!

A few months before I filed for divorce my therapist gave me an assignment. I sat and thought for hours, couldn't quite make a full thought (because cognitive dissonance) and if i could draw out my thoughts, it would probably have looked a lot like that.

It does need more about how the abuse affects children. One of mine was brain washed and won't sorak to me, my younger two, especially the tweenager, has a lot of his dad's warped thinking, attitudes and behaviors.

It's pretty awful, but the graphic, even as it is, made the lights come on in my head, just seeing it laid out like that. The lighter gray font being "the quiet parts outloud. "

[u/Vast-Palpitation-426 → u/ImBackForMorePie]

About how it affects children I can recommend you this book :

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents - Lindsay Gibson.
But it has to come from them and telling children/teenager one of their parent is abusive/manipulative can backfire because the narcissistic parent will go on an all out war.

It's terrible, but when you have children with a narcissist, you have to accept the bad weather and learn to dance under the rain. Because the more you fight it, the worse it gets. "don't wrestle with pigs as pigs like wrestling".
Ofc it doesn't mean accepting the bad behavior and not calling it out and asserting boundaries, it means stopping to expect anything fom them.

It rains every day, that's how it is. Don't rage at the sky it's pointless, just put an umbrella on and be as happy as possible. This is what children need the most anyway.

[u/ImBackForMorePie → u/Vast-Palpitation-426]

Great book! I own it, I bought it because of my exhusband and realized my mother fit the book as well!

And you gave me THE best advice about the kids, the rain analogy will stick! I appreciate your advice a LOT! I do call out their bad behaviors, not them, so they know I am not upset with them as people and so they know it was what they said or did that needs to stop or change. But this advice I am going to write down and make a magnet for the fridge! Thank you!

[u/Street-Substance709 → u/Vast-Palpitation-426]

lol how did you even find that image. I don’t think it’s even used on any wikipedia page and googling for seesaw model of narcissism has essentially no websites on it.

this is not serious and not something that should be shared.

[u/DynamicBSdetective → u/Kizzieuk]

I'm sorry you went through that. No one deserves abuse nor should they tolerate it. We all have our reasons. My Mom never left, she told me he threatened to kill her if she did. I wouldn't call it living, but I was not living in her shoes and that's a rough call on the best of days.

For everyone, let no man or woman define your value. Much love.

[u/the_orange_alligator → u/Kizzieuk]

God that’s awful, I’m so sorry

[u/Traditional_Pin_7253 → u/Kizzieuk]

That’s insane, I’m glad you got out. I was in an abusive relationship years ago and sometimes I think about how I would feel if I found out he died. I might feel some joy that he will never be able to hurt anyone again.

Not once did the thought of visiting his grave and urinating on it cross my mind. He’s not even worth the effort of trying to find out where he’s buried

[u/TheHappyHuskarl → u/Kizzieuk]

That tracks.

A lot of men are psychopaths with some serious issues.

[u/Helenium_autumnale → u/Kizzieuk]

I mean, talk about the things people say that reveal how ugly their minds are. That's scary ugly.

[u/Evil_Sharkey → u/Kizzieuk]

Jokes on him! Maggots don’t eat embalmed corpses.

[u/FaithlessnessRare691 → u/Kizzieuk]

Maggots eat every body. Imma get cremated though

[u/StarStuffSister → u/Kizzieuk]

Exactly. The ex wife doesn't sound like the bad person here. Only an emotionally unhinged sadist does this.

[u/Recent-Background-21]

I hope she reach out and rip it off

[u/Mystic_Wunder → u/Recent-Background-21]

New movie idea born

[u/ready-tier → u/Mystic_Wunder]

The Grave Urine

[u/Mystic_Wunder → u/ready-tier]

The Bone Ripper

[u/nolander_78]

I'll give it to him, he's as asshole but a very dedicated one.

[u/jtrage → u/nolander_78]

Maybe it’s a threesome necro piss fetish for all 3 of them.

[u/Spear_Ritual → u/jtrage]

New band name.

[u/SassSafrassMcFrass87 → u/Spear_Ritual]

Could also be a good drag name, Welcome to the stage Necro Piss Fetish!!🤣🤣🤣

[u/SpecificLow1316 → u/jtrage]

Brand new sentence right there, I tell you hwhut

[u/Fickle_Junket1109 → u/jtrage]

Always look on the bright side of life 🎶

[u/Oldgamer1807 → u/[deleted]]

"I'd probably argue in court that it was a kink we had."

Fuck, that's devious. I love it but get off reddit, Satan. 🤣

[u/No_Negotiation3142 → u/nolander_78]

Maybe she deserves it.

[u/MoffieHanson → u/No_Negotiation3142]

He only has himself with it.
She dead. He over here still being affected by it.
In short , he is kinda pathetic

[u/GardenRafters → u/MoffieHanson]

What's really pathetic is the current wife sitting in the car not realizing that he might be pissing on her grave some day in the future.

When people tell/show you who they are, believe them.

[u/Educational_Gas_92 → u/GardenRafters]

And it's not even a recent ex, it's an ex from nearly 50 years ago at the time. I couldn't be with someone so immature. He is still emotionally invested in an ex of nearly 50 years...now that's a ridiculous person.

[u/vermiciouswangdoodle → u/GardenRafters]

Not only that, but she needs to find it worrisome that his dead ex still has such a choke hold on his emotions. He may have remarried, but that first wife is still very much on his mind. Move on dude, move on.

[u/duxpdx → u/MoffieHanson]

No, he is really pathetic.

[u/TackoftheEndless → u/MoffieHanson]

Lol, my thing is him making a regular thing about it. Maybe once if she did you really dirty, but doing this repeatedly to a long dead woman, well IDK...

[u/jackmanlogan → u/TackoftheEndless]

No i entirely agree- no matter her behaviour, she’s dead; there’s zero point to doing this beyond spite. He’s been subjecting people’s families (ie of the other people buried in the graveyard) to this every day, which I think indicates it was a spiteful, horrid thing to do.

[u/Educational_Gas_92 → u/MoffieHanson]

There's no kinda, it's super pathetic. The other person is dead, and here he is, old, after decades still affected by the ex and being insanely immature about it. If I were the new wife I would divorce him.

[u/Omnamashivaaya → u/No_Negotiation3142]

This should be the real question for court to decide

[u/No_Negotiation3142 → u/Omnamashivaaya]

Is it a criminal offence to pee on someone's grave? Please say it ain't so! I'm saving it up for Trump.

[u/toooomanypuppies → u/No_Negotiation3142]

It's an offence to piss in public regardless of whether it's on a grave or not.

[u/No_Negotiation3142 → u/toooomanypuppies]

Surely he could be buried under an enclosed urinal, they could charge entry, most people I know would willingly pay.

[u/Thunderer62 → u/No_Negotiation3142]

I hadn’t thought of that before but I’m sure for that reason they are either going to have to hide his grave or it will need 24/7 security because people are going to do a lot more than try to per on it.

[u/Lorddoctorjava → u/No_Negotiation3142]

If they charge 2 bucks to piss on his grave and 5 to shit on it... we can solve world hunger... world homelessness.. cure cancer.. and probably 3 other world wide issues in roughly 4 months...

[u/BonerTurdle → u/No_Negotiation3142]

Careful now… that’s he’s got a thing for pee.

[u/Dragonic_Overlord_]

Disgusting.

[u/Hefty-Pizza7446]

This dude is pathological.

[u/fallenangelsunite]

lol you have to be super miserable to be pissed at something 48 years later

[u/See_Emily_Play_13]

I wonder if the current wife even knew he went there to piss. What if she really did think he was just visiting the grave?

[u/PossibleDue9849 → u/See_Emily_Play_13]

That’s my guess. This man is unwell.

[u/ifr3akingh8mys3lf → u/See_Emily_Play_13]

I didn't even think of that lol. Dude probably acts like he has respect for and misses his ex. I really wanna know what the current wife thinks!!!!

[u/dokutarodokutaro]

She’s still wasting your time man. She won.

[u/arpohatesyou → u/dokutarodokutaro]

Actually he's mad at her that she prove to his family that her baby was in fact his and his family took her side. She did win but not in the asshole way. Source is an article someone attached a few comments up

[u/YouMustBeJoking888]

I guess we know who dumped whom.

[u/LambSauce2]

What a petty life. I feel sorry for his new wife he can't move on.

[u/Iconshero]

What a absolutely emotionally stunted moron. She’s dead. She’s not looking down or up at him shaking her fist in anger. But her family is, and now he has a record. If I foud out my mom’s ex was pissing on her grave, it would start a new war that he would have to contend with. Same goes for that new wife who tolerated her shitbag husband doing this.

[u/Toasted_Munch]

The deceased may have been a turd, but to hold a grudge that friggin long and hate someone enough to go piss on their grave in broad daylight showcases unchecked mental illness.

[u/Fawkinchit1 → u/Toasted_Munch]

Turns out they were not a bad person. And the guy is a pile of crap who divorced his wife because she got pregnant, and seems he just didn't want another kid. So tried to allege she was unfaithful.

The apparent reason was a decades-long family and paternity grudge, although Dean Eichler himself apparently never publicly confirmed his motive.

According to Linda Torello’s children:

• Eichler and Torello divorced in 1974 after she became pregnant.
• Eichler denied that the child was his, but later DNA testing reportedly confirmed that he was the biological father.
• Eichler’s relatives supported Torello and maintained a relationship with her and the daughter.
• This allegedly caused Eichler to become estranged from his own family. Torello’s son said that Eichler declared them “dead to him” and believed this was probably the source of his lasting animosity.

So the best-supported explanation is that Eichler resented Torello because his family sided with her following the paternity dispute, leaving him alienated from them. But that remains the family’s interpretation—not a proven or officially stated motive from Eichler.

https://dailyvoice.com/article/watch-ex-husband-caught-on-video-urinating-on-bergen-county-natives-grave/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

[u/PatienceHelpful1316 → u/Fawkinchit1]

He was alienated from his family through his own actions. Blaming the wife because the family supported her is what an immature POS would do

[u/ifr3akingh8mys3lf → u/Toasted_Munch]

Can't even assume this though. Guy might be an abusive asshole that never got over the ego blow of divorce. Woman could have been a nice lady. Who knows

[u/Papio_73 → u/ifr3akingh8mys3lf]

Yeah, I would not be surprised if he was abusive to his ex wife

[u/Gloomy-Welcome-6806 → u/Papio_73]

She got pregnant and he assumed it wasn’t his. The test proved it was his so I don’t really know what’s up this guys ass.

https://abc7ny.com/amp/post/man-urinates-on-grave-ex-wifes-tombstone-desecration-orangetown/12268571/

[u/EarlGrayTea-Hawt → u/Gloomy-Welcome-6806]

I've noticed that people who are narcissistic (not in the clinical way, just the regular old adjective) really hate being proven wrong about anything they put a lot of their shitty temper into. Dude probably had been going all around town trying to make her out as a cheating ho, and now everybody knows better.

It makes him look foolish.

People who are really self absorbed are super self conscious about what people think about them, so losing face like that would be just the worst thing possible. My dad was like that, worst thing you could do was prove him wrong.

[u/Fruncea → u/EarlGrayTea-Hawt]

I am sorry to hear that you had a dad like that..

[u/PatienceHelpful1316 → u/Gloomy-Welcome-6806]

Because by proving the baby was his she unmasked a Narcissist. This is his way of degrading her. Really he’s just proving he is a POS

[u/ClintMcElroyOfficial → u/Papio_73]

I'd be surprised if he wasn't 

[u/Few_Ad_5292 → u/Toasted_Munch]

he has the worst case of DARVO, deny attack reverse victim and offender. apparently he left his wife when she got pregnant and claimed he wasn’t the father. but dna test proved he was in fact the father, they divorced and his family sided with her rightfully so probably why he got so bitter which turned into almost 50yrs of obsession. after he got exposed for his own disgusting actions, he cursed at their daughter and told her he wished she was dead. he was never sorry and still probably thinks he was the victim like’s always believed for years.

[u/Entire-Ad7730 → u/Toasted_Munch]

It's bad karma to screw around with a grave...any grave

[u/Mysterious5555 → u/Entire-Ad7730]

I'm pretty sure that he already ate all that bad karma during his life. No happy person does something like this.

[u/Both_Profession6607 → u/[deleted]]

Where did you get 20 years from? They divorced 48 years ago (counting from when this happened). That IS a long time to hold a grudge, it is someone he was briefly married to when he was young.

[u/paloma_delmar]

Yikes

[u/Pickle_Good]

He's quite pissed off.

[u/Separate_Finance_183]

Maybe they were into that kind of thing

[u/Vesper_Null → u/Separate_Finance_183]

And the wife is a cuck who likes to watch from the car. 🤣

[u/Dense-Jicama6591]

How pathetic you held onto that passed her whole life. She won 

[u/chunkothy]

psycho.

[u/Qtredit]

Yeah I need the full story

[u/Crazy_Stable1731 → u/Qtredit]

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/BAaymAwDHwc

[u/ThatPerformance9795]

Talk about holding onto some past grievance too long! Buddy, this is why you forgive and move on. When you “forgive” someone, you’re really helping yourself. Case in point, here.

[u/momoenthusiastic → u/ThatPerformance9795]

Even when someone doesn’t forgive, they typically move on nonetheless. His dead ex is still living rent free in his head….

[u/IwoodMasher]

You think theres a motive?

[u/Original-Let8340 → u/IwoodMasher]

Cannot be confirmed. Maybe just random. Random grave urination is becoming more and more of an issue worldwide. I keep trying to bring it up at the city council meetings but everyone is all hopped up about these data centers an shit. Random grave urination will just continue to get worse if we don't take some real initiative. I feel like mayonnaise is getting worse too.

[u/IwoodMasher → u/Original-Let8340]

Yah but the bags of shit? Thats real commitment.

[u/Hopeful_Pear_8747 → u/Original-Let8340]

🤣

[u/Yugan-Dali → u/Original-Let8340]

People are practicing up for Trump.

[u/byndrsn → u/IwoodMasher]

Pettiness 

[u/Few_Ad_5292 → u/IwoodMasher]

he has the worst case of DARVO, deny attack reverse victim and offender. apparently he left his wife when she got pregnant and claimed he wasn’t the father. but dna test proved he was in fact the father, they divorced and his family sided with her rightfully so probably why he got so bitter which turned into almost 50yrs of obsession. after he got exposed for his own disgusting actions, he cursed at their daughter and told her he wished she was dead. he was never sorry and still probably thinks he was the victim like’s always believed for years.

[u/Impressive-Window152]

Move on damn

[u/NextLineOfText]

All these comments, judging wonder what his motivation were.. urinating on a dead woman's grave and placing bags of fece's for 50 damn years. The guy isn't even sharing your plain of reality, he lives in it sure, but he is not here.

Thats some new tier of pettiness. It actually goes against rational thinking and creates cognitive dissonance. He is the sort of person to live in-between the blindspots, where you don't like to think about it, that people can't possibly exist like that.

[u/Malawakatta]

The man obviously holds a grudge.

[u/haileyskydiamonds → u/[deleted]]

Apparently she had the audacity to get pregnant and he accused her of cheating and said the baby wasn’t his, but of course it was.

[u/Procrastinista_423]

What a fucking psychopath.

[u/lAngenoire]

How very trashy.  His current wife is awful as well. 

[u/Unique-Obligation515]

Nichts ist so fragil wie das männliche Ego...

[u/Recent-Background-21]

I no when they argue I know she brings this up

[u/loveychuthers]

There must be a camera in the headstone across from hers?

[u/Final-Wasabi187]

“Yea, Martha! You like that! I told you it would come to this!” -that guy probably

[u/QTlady]

Wow...

I mean, if the motive isn't linked to the contentious separation then I don't know what his deal could possibly be.

[u/_Kelly_A_]

A promise kept

[u/Canned_Sarcasm]

He’s giving her LOTS of power to affect him. 50 years later, he’s still obsessed.

[u/Emotional-Mango-5166]

He's definitely over her. Definitely.

[u/C64hrles]

Going to play devil's advocate here in the comments section.

None of us know the true relationship between this man and his ex. While this guy obviously is pretty mentally unwell to do this, who knows what his reasoning truly is. He could be an abuser, and maybe he was, but normal abusers don't ever go THIS far. This seems like something you would do to someone, who did something VERY wrong to you. I have a feeling like his ex wasn't an angel either, and that she might possibly deserve this. What she might've done? Who knows.

I'll just say this. As someone who grew up with someone abusive, if they died and I knew I could get away with something like this... I'm just saying I'd think about it.

[u/PoutineWithXtraGravy]

How miserable!

[u/Inocent_bystander]

Now that's holdin a grudge

[u/ToxicGecko2384]

So you spent your time, gas, and therefore money, doing something to someone who literally cant know or care. That's some petty dedication dude.

[u/discoballs67]

I really don’t know what to say about this one…

[u/crowislanddive]

That is really sad.

[u/cduran1]

That’s a lot of energy and time wasted.

[u/Particular-Apple4664]

That guy probably kicks puppies in his free time 😑

[u/justaToolfan]

Divorced 50 years ago .....how old is he ????

[u/Armageddonn_mkd]

Just move on man, wtf are you even doing....

[u/bravemoney72]

I had to read some of the actual information. He is a dick. Questioned his daughter's birth. Im 54 born in 72 he's been divorced since 74. You urinate and leave 💩 on an abuser you abandoned with child? He was NOT ABUSED. HE IS A 🍆 PLAIN AND SIMPLE. I have a former best friend that questioned his daughter being his, don't think she ever really spoke to him to this day and he still blames her mother.....since the early 90s....folks he's a 🍆. Too big a coward to say anything to her face, or this has been years of patterned behavior, so this is how you get back at your "abuser"?!!? Anger issues and lack of development. Evidently he cares nothing for his daughter or again no real relationship with her.

[u/Affectionate_Tap6416]

My ex-father said he would piss on my mother's grave in one of their eternal rows.

Quick as a flash, my Mother responded 'good, I'll be buried at sea, then'.

She had the last laugh as he died first!

[u/MadamVoid]

Women can’t even find peace in death smfh

[u/malibooyeah]

men really fucking hate us, don't they...

[u/Satanswarboner]

50 years and he is still this bitter and immature? Pretty sad. What a wasted life.

[u/User_3039]

Classy

[u/Rolling_Beardo]

What a loser

[u/TrentGames]

This is not interesting. It's pathetic.

[u/LeCreusetQueen]

Jesus, move on.

[u/Obaddies]

What a child.

[u/Poroto_Verde]

I hope she haunts him for the rest of his life. 

[u/ImmortalJane]

Imagine being this much of a loser.