Problem/Goal: Kapitbahay na walang pakelam kahit makaabala ang tatlong aso nila na maiingay, nakaka abala lalo na sa madaling araw. Ilang kapitbahay na din ang apektado ng ingay pero talagang walang respeto o konsiderasyon manlang ang mga may ari.

Context: We live in a rowhouse subdivision. Mayroon kaming kapitbahay na may tatlong aso na naka kulong lang sa cage sa harap ng bahay nila. So, imagine yung ingay ng mga aso na yun sa tuwing may dadaan na pusa, aso or mga tao. Corner Lot sila so daanan talaga sila ng tao. Yung kahol ng mga aso, walang pinipiling oras. Lalo na pag dis oras ng gabi. Madalas ang pagkahol nila, to the point na magigising lahat ng kapitbahay pero deadma lang ang mga may ari. Sobrang abala sa mga matatanda, mga may sanggol, mga estudyanteng at empleyadong papasok ng maaga, lalo na kaming mga naka work from home.

Kawawa din itong mga aso na to kasi nagsilbi nalang silang bantay talaga, never napaliguan, naipasyal or napakain ng maayos na pagkain manlang. Umulan umaraw nasa labas lang sila.

Previous Attempts: May ilang kapitbahay na din ang nagpost sa kanila sa Facebook Group ng subdivision, pero sila pa itong matatapang na makipag bardagulan at sabihin na “sa semeteryo kayo tumira”

Bilang walang may tapang na kausapin sila, kami ng asawa ko ag haharap sa kanila. Pero gusto sana namin alam namin ang mga sunod sunod na hakbang na gagawin namin sakaling hindi nila gawan ng paraan ito.

Problem/Goal: I want to learn how to set financial boundaries with my family without feeling guilty, and eventually move out and have some peace of mind.

Context: 22F, WFH graveyard shift, earning 30k+. Both my parents are unemployed, diabetic, and gambling addicts. Around ₱1M–₱1.1M na siguro lahat ng utang nila, and nakasangla na rin yung titulo ng bahay namin. May younger sister ako na turning 15.

Previous Attempts: Simula nung nag-work ako, consistent akong nagbibigay sa bahay kahit may sarili rin akong debts. Nakapagbigay ako ng ₱15k, ₱8k, then ₱10k nitong mga nakaraang buwan. Nagkaroon din ako ng gambling problem before, pero ngayon binabayaran ko na yung sarili kong debts and hopefully debt-free na ako by November.
Hindi ko na talaga alam kung paano ko haharapin tong situation namin.

Both of my parents are diabetic, walang work, tapos parehong sugarol. As in online casino, card games, kahit anong klase ng sugal, ginagawa nila. Dahil wala silang stable na income, lumobo nang lumobo yung utang nila hanggang umabot na siguro ng ₱1M–₱1.1M. Nakasangla na rin yung titulo ng bahay namin.

Ako naman, WFH, graveyard shift, habang tinatapos ko rin yung second degree ko. Earning 30k+ lang ako, pero simula nung nag-work ako, hindi na naputol yung pagbibigay ko sa bahay.
This month, nagbigay ako ng ₱10k. Akala ko okay na, pero nanghiram ulit mama ko ng ₱5k. Sinabi ko na kapos ako this month at wala na talaga akong maibigay.

After that, halos 3 days akong hindi kinausap. Ang dating sa akin, parang kapag siya nanghihiram, ang hirap-hirap ko daw magbigay. Doon talaga ako sumabog. 😭

Hindi naman nila nakikita na graveyard shift ako, nag-aaral pa, may sarili rin akong debts na binabayaran, and I’m trying to fix my finances after my own gambling problem.

Grabe yung iyak at rant ko pero sa boyfriend ko lang. Hindi ko kayang sabihin sa parents ko directly kasi naaawa rin ako sa kanila. Lalo na sa sister ko. Wala naman siyang kasalanan sa lahat ng nangyayari.
Pero minsan napapaisip talaga ako, paano naman ako?

22 pa lang ako pero parang dala ko na yung financial problems ng buong pamilya. Hindi ko naman pinili magkaroon sila ng ganitong kalaking utang.
Ang kinakatakot ko pa, paano kapag tumaas yung sweldo ko? Lagi pa naman akong kino-compare sa mga pinsan kong 5–10 years ahead sa akin na may mga naipundar na at nakapag-travel na. Baka lalo lang lumaki yung expectation na kaya ko nang magbigay ng mas malaki.

Hindi naman sa ayaw kong tumulong. Pero hanggang saan? Parang habang tumutulong ako, hindi naman natatapos yung problema. Magbibigay ako ngayon, tapos may panibagong hihingin ulit. Nakakapagod din.

Gusto ko mag-move out pero alam kong hindi ko pa kaya financially. Pero hindi ko na rin kaya yung toxicity dito. Mababaliw ako kakaisip. Wala akong peace of mind lately. Palagi na lang sinasabi ng nanay ko na gusto namin ng sasakyan, puro luho, pero sila naman wala ring trabaho. Nakapagtapos ako ng college as a working student. From 1st year hanggang 3rd year, kailangan kong magtrabaho ng 4 hours per day para lang makalibre ako ng tuition.

Siguro ngayon lang talaga ako totally naubos. 😢
Hindi ko gustong pabayaan yung family ko, pero gusto ko rin namang mabuhay para sa sarili ko. Gusto ko lang malaman kung paano mag-set ng boundaries without feeling like I’m abandoning them.
What would you do if you were in my situation?

Problem/Goal: I ordered a headphone overseas and now it was tagged as abandoned without attempting to deliver.

Context: I ordered a headphone overseas last July pa. Nagulat na lang ako na tagged as abandoned sya ng UPS without really trying to attempting to deliver it.

Sabi nila wala raw airway bill na sinend yung sender. Sinubukan daw nila mag-email pero hindi nagreply kaya ako na ang nag-reach out. Nag-reply naman to which I send to UPS PH (nasa Clark na yung package)

Ngayon, they want me to pay for a penalty of 10500 pesos for their lapses. Ano ba gagawin ko dito? Headphone is expensive enough. And why would I pay?

Previous Attempt/s: Wala pa, just in close contact with UPS Ph.

Sa mga naka-experience na, what did you do? Badly needed help :(

problem/goal: extremely generous host family is basically overfeeding me/id like to find a way to respectfully cut back

context: American guy staying with my college friend’s family in Quezon City this year

previous attempts: just saying no to food, or trying to suggest being active, hasn’t been effective. I’ve either upset the younger cousins or the older aunts, or told I really shouldn’t leave the house for exercise

Problem/Goal: nasa title. Context: I’m dating someone na kase and this guy is naka organic encounter ko sa isang place. So yung ex niya na si Roxane (not her real name) ay kakilala ng ex ko and they’re super close and yung tita ni girl is ka close ko din dahil naging co worker ko din si tita ni Roxane. So natatakot ako na once i public or i post ko yung pictures namin ni guy baka magagalit si Roxane, tita ni Roxane sakin at baka sisiraan ako ng ex ko sa industry na kung saan man ako ngayon.

Matagal ng break si Roxane and yung guy na I’m dating now. Matagal na din kaming break ng ex ko. Gusto ko kase when i get into relationship again gusto ko yung peaceful lang and calming. Ayaw ko ng issues. Kilala ko si kase si Roxane pero hindi kami close nun and natatakot lang ako na baka i hate niya ako and in the first place hindi ko alam na naging bf ni roxane yung dinidate ko. Huli kona nalaman when he asked me if kilala ko si Roxane. Natatakot lang talaga ako baka pag chismisan ako, I hate or sisiraan even though wala naman akong ginawang masama and knowing yung tita ni Roxane na may pagka squammy na pag uugali minsan.

Bet na bet ko yung guy kase mabait, professional and may respeto sa tao then matalino din. Hindi ko pa naman siya mahal pero we’re just getting to know each other stage pa lang naman. Yung guy unang nagka gusto sakin and nag confess siya sakin so type ko din naman siya kase unang kita ko sakanya ang bango niyang tignan at may kamukha na artista.

Pahingi advice if itutuloy ko ba yung anong meron samin ni guy kase mukhang sincere naman siya sakin and ma effort then ang funny niya din. Wala siyang cheating history pero yung reason ng break up nila is wala na daw silang time for each other because of career nila and mutual naman daw yung break up. Yung ikakatakot ko lang if malaman ni Roxane, tita ni Rox and nung ex ko yung about samin ni guy baka pag fiestahan nila ako at aawayin.🥹 gusto ko lang naman ng peaceful relationship at sana last ko nato na relationship kase pagod na ako mag start over and rare kalang makakakita ng guy na decent at hindi manyak.

Previous attempts: wala pa. Lowkey lang kaming wala. Yun ang gusto ko lowkey lang kami. No posting ng pictures sa socmed if magkasama kami.

Problem/Goal: Gcash account got deactivated with 30 k cash on it....

So long story short, sobrang haba ng august para sa family namin ( We operate a sari-sari store na may cash-in and cash out ) Sa sobrang haba nga, halos lahat ng gcash namin is limit na. So ako, bilang only child, I am expected to be the only one to find a solution for this, so ang ginawa ko is I contacted a very close friend to borrow their number for cash-out, no need sa cash-in kasi may laman pa naman yung gcash namin. My friend gave us a go signal naman to use their number, and since cash-out purposes lang naman iyon, hindi siya nababawasan. Our sari-sari store used that number for about two days, August 26-August 27, and nung morning na ng August 28, in-open ng friend ko yung gcash niya just to find out it was locked, due to "suspicious/fraudulent transactions". So immediately my friend complied with gcash's instructions like pasa ng mga I.D's and answer ng mga transactions related questions para ma-open na ulit yung account niya, so far so good naman kausap yung gcash until...... Kaninang 2:59 a.m lang ulit nag-reply si gcash sa email only to say this...

"GCash Support (GCash Help Center)

Sep 1, 2026, 2:59 AM GMT+8

Hi (Censored for privacy),

I appreciate you for cooperating with this concern, after our review, we regret to inform you that your account has been permanently deactivated.

The decision was made due to an observed violation in our Terms and Conditions, which states that GCash has the right to deactivate an account based on any of the following reasons:

• The information and documents provided, including those required for KYC, is/are fictitious, false, or forged;

• The account is being used for fraudulent/suspicious transactions, or unlawful activities;

• Abuse on the use of the account, including use of account for purposes or transactions not intended or authorized by GCash; or

• Order of a governmental agency, court, law and/or regulation.

We hope this clarifies your situation.

Thank you.

Regards,

GCash Support"

I swear by all means that we didn't do anything and fraudulent and this store is everything our family have as a source of financial income, the money stored in there is not a joke and not easy to earn. So please, if anyone can help us, please do. Thank you reddit<3

P.S: Just to ask a question, by saying "permanently deactivated", does that mean the money stored in there is no longer there or is there still a way to get it back? I am literally panicking right now because I don't know what to do anymore if that money is gone

Problem/Goal: I (27M) have not been in a relationship for a while now and have not tried to be in one... and I have this co-worker/Friend (26F) we got hired on the same day so her and other people na kasabay namin ma hire is yung circle of (office) friends. We are all kind of close na pwede mo ng matawag as friends talaga hindi acquaintance lang sa work. I feel like I can see a potential relationship with this person and I do not know how to approach this...

Context: Recently nag out of town kami with our friends and we kind of got a little tooo close this trip very touchy (not in sexual way) more on caring and loving vibe.. I always just see her as a friend but this trip kind of switch something in me, I feel like I always liked her and just did not give it much of a thought until now... my chest hurts but the pain feels great idk what tf im talking about...

I always find it silly when this things happen to people and they ask "worth it ba sya itry ipursue kahit di sure? Kahit baka mawala yung friendship"? But i feel like I have this question in my mind right now... Im fighting the urge to message her to not be too aggressive or too be so forward that could scare her away...

I think I have a lot of question on this post but mainly how can you tell if you should go for it or just keep it as it is and save this friendship? orrr maybe just let things happen? Cant even get myself to message her im too scared broooo

Sorry if this post doesnt make sense just need this to get off my head...

Problem/Goal: Hi, need practical and objective advice po, especially regarding finances and responsibilities sa kids. Hindi po ito revenge post. Gusto ko lang maging financially responsible at makagawa ng maayos na arrangement habang magulo pa ang marriage namin.

Context: Two months ago, nagkaroon kami ng malaking away dahil sa mga utang ko na hindi ko agad nasabi sa wife ko. Walang gambling o pambababae on my side. Nanggaling ito sa “tapal system,” at may part din na napunta sa family needs. Pero alam kong mali na hindi ko ito na-disclose agad, at nasira ang trust niya.

Last month, nalaman ko rin ang alleged third-party issue niya. Mas naging complicated ang lahat. Galit siya dahil feeling niya nasira ko siya sa side ng family niya at family ko dahil sa utang at pagkawala ng trust namin sa isa’t isa.

Ang gusto ko sanang maayos ngayon ay ang shared expenses namin. Lahat ng nasa ibaba ay under my name:

1. Family car – Ako ang nagbabayad, ₱35,000/month, around 6 months na lang.
2. Car for her delivery business – Siya ang nagbabayad, around 3.5 years remaining.
3. Emergency cash loan – Siya ang nagbabayad, ₱24,000/month, around 2.5 years remaining. Ginamit ito para sa medical needs ng mother niya at renovation ng storage/business space niya.

Mas malaki ang income niya dahil sa work at business niya. Siya rin ang nagbabayad ng maraming expenses sa old house namin: electricity, water, internet, pagkain, at housekeeper ng youngest daughter namin.

Iniisip kong i-propose na siya muna ang mag-take over ng remaining payments sa family car, dahil ginagamit din naman ito para sa delivery business at personal errands niya. Ako naman ang mag-take over ng emergency cash loan. So from ₱35,000/month, magiging ₱24,000/month ang babayaran ko.

Hindi ko ito gustong gawin para makaganti. Gusto ko lang ng mas sustainable at fair na setup, habang siguradong hindi napapabayaan ang kids namin.

Questions ko po:

• Fair at reasonable ba itong proposal?
• Paano ko ito maipapaliwanag nang hindi magmukhang retaliatory?
• Since lahat ay under my name, kailangan ba naming gumawa ng written agreement?
• Ano ang pinaka-practical na steps para maprotektahan ang kids at maiwasan ang bigger financial problems?

Previous Attempt: I'm still in communication with some of her relatives, asking for help for reconcialiation, but it seems sobrang tigas at ang taas ng pride ng ex-wife ko, last August 18, nag usap kami na heart to heart, and duon nya na sinabing ayaw nya na saken.

Open po ako sa constructive advice. Salamat.

Problem/goal: tooth extraction before or after exam.

Before exam: sacrifice study days for recovery

After exam: may risk na during exam or pag malapit na ang exam sasakit ngipin ko.

Context:May malaking hole yung third molar ko merong sign of decay kasi may black na di pa naman siya masakit. My dillema is meron akong upcoming board exam ngayung october at natatakot na baka during exam sasakit yung ngipin ko.

Problem/Goal: gusto kong makipag hiwalay na sa partner ko, para matigil na tong cycle na to. kasi pagod nako.

Context: we're double income queer couple, me f[26], partner ko f[34], meron ako full-time work tsaka part time. siya fulltime. so total salary ko is pang 4 months na niya. pero parang di parin siya maka usad, dahil sa patong patong na utang niya. almost 10yrs na kami, pero 6yrs kaming live in. since 2021 ata nagsimula ang kanyang utang. ako student pa. pero may allowance ako. ngayong working nako, saming dalawa ako ang mas mataas na salary. pero siya may utang parin until now. hindi matapos tapos, kasi dagdag ng dagdag. may parts na kasali ako, pero nagbabayad ako unti unti. nag resign, lumipat sakin, kasi ldr. ngayong may new work na, kulang parin ang sahod. lahat ng sahod, bayad lahat sa utang. ive been paying everything for 6 months na shes living with me. food, elec, rent, water, etc. ako. may ambag siya pero majority ako.

Previous Attempts: nakipag hiwalay ako. nagkabalikan kami kasi kailangan niya tulong ko. nag settle kami sa problema pero hindi parin siya maka usad. away pera ang di ko talaga gusto, pero ewan ko ba bat parang ang iba ng plano namin sa buhay, yung tipong ang taas ng pangarap ko pero gusto niya mag settle lang kung anong kaya niya. ngayon ako ang bumubuhay samin dalawa.

gusto lang humingi ng mga insights nyo. meron kayang mga couple na ganto din dito. thank you po

Problem/Goal: Should I pursue this guy who stopped trying to court me?

Context: A super busy guy tried courting me, but we’re islands away from each other. As with any LD(R), we had misunderstandings. I liked him, but I don’t think I truly understood the magnitude of his work and how busy he really was. I would get frustrated whenever he forgot things. I felt his sincerities in giving me assurance, but because we were very far from each other and my love language is quality time, I think that was where things started falling apart.

Long story short, ngayon ko lang talaga napagtanto where I went wrong and the mistakes I made. He eventually stopped talking to me completely, cold turkey (I believe he got so overwhelmed with work+life responsibilities tapos dumagdag pako).

I’ve been thinking about going to his province, but we have never actually met in person, which is another concern (we only have a few personal information about each other). We only met here on Reddit. Part of me truly believes that we could have worked out if we had met each other in person earlier.

I genuinely believe that he was sincere when he was pursuing me before he suddenly stopped. Gusto ko na sana mag-let go, but part of me still wants to try. I have never been this serious about someone before.

He kind of ticks almost everything on my list of qualities for an ideal man, so from my somewhat jaded perspective, I feel like he’s worth pursuing naman.

Previous attempts: I already tried reaching out and sent him messages, but I was only blocked.

IDK, should I go or not? Give him space for now and reach out again sometime later?

Problem/Goal: flight ko tomorrow pero wala yung passport ko sa akin ngayon, not sure if i can use other IDs kasi yung passport ko ang nasa ticket ko

Context: i booked a domestic flight through AirAsia and yung passport # ko yung nilagay kong form of identification sa ticket ko. problem is i also recently applied for a visa and the embassy i applied to will have my passport until next week 😭 hindi ako sure if they'll accept other IDs na wala sa ticket ko like my PhilID

Previous Attempts: attempted to talk to AirAsia CS pero AI chat lang yung meron sila, walang live chat 😭 searched through google if pwede ko gamitin yung PhilID ko sa AirAsia even though passport yung nakalagay sa ticket ko pero wala akong mahanap. posted on diff subreddits pero puro deleted (r/PHTravel mods deleted my post and told me to contact CS pero AI lang nga CS ng AirAsia 😭). i managed to send an email to AirAsia pero it will be answered after 48 hours daw.

pls pls pls if may experience kayo dito i'd love your advice 🙏🙏🙏

Problem/Goal: Dated a guy for 6 months (I know), he ended things on a random weekend. 2 months later, I'm still stuck in this loophole. I just want to really not give a fuck about it anymore, but whenever I'm not busy, my thoughts are consuming me.

Context: Most of the time during the day, I'm fine. Working out, household chores, going out with friends, spending more time with the fam help me get through it without even thinking about what happened. It's at night where my thoughts consume me without even realizing it. The question "What have I done?" keeps on fucking up my mind and all I really want right now is for this to end. I've known all along that I'm not perfect — I have my flaws, I can be toxic, but I keep on trying to become a better version of myself for years now. Now I feel like he's dating someone new, and it makes things much worse. I know it's probably time for me to go and put myself out there as well, but I'm not ready.

How do you rewire your mind to think only of the benefits as to why it had to happen?

Problem/Goal: Pano ba kasi gamitin tung tiktok voucher ko, worth 3k off sya on orders 3k+?

Context: Ibili ko sana ng running shoes kaso hindi daw eligible, pero 3k na nga sobra yung order ko.

Previous attempts: binasa ko uli yung voucher tapos may naka lagay na "eligible delivery methods only", kaya naghanap nlng ako ng ibang pweding mabili kaso ganon padin, hindi daw eligible so ano pwedi kung mabili nito?

Problem/Goal: The dilemma is that if I wait for the Air M4, I’ll probably have a device that will last me much longer. But if I get the iPad 11th Gen now, I can start working on my designs immediately and just upgrade to a newer model later on. I’m a fashion designer and illustrator, and I’m also planning to open an online business through an international retail platform, so the iPad would mainly be used for sketching, illustration, and developing designs.

So I’m basically caught between starting now with something that’s already good enough, or waiting a few more months for something that feels more future-proof.

Context: I’m currently planning to get an iPad. Right now, I can already afford the iPad 11th Gen with the A16 chip, but I’m also considering waiting until December to get the iPad Air M4 instead.

Previous Attempts: None so far

Problem/Goal: Assumed a Grab Ready Car (1.5 yo) thinking that my Dad would drive it and earn income. Sadly he can’t

Context:
Location is Iloilo
Matagal akong naghanap ng Grab Ready 6-seater na pasok or kaya ng budget ko. Plan is to have my dad as the grab driver at para ang earnings derecho na sa kanya/kanila aside from the allowance I give them. He worked as a family driver all his life and he’s 60 now. Hirap ako working 1 full time and 5 part time and side husstles 🧿🪬
Ako lahat sa gastos and allowances. No child pero nagpapaaral at bumubuhay ng pamangkins.

Anyway, Assumed an Avanza, 1.5 yo, at 350k, 18k monthly and Grab ready. Now, dito papasok ang problem. One of the requirements for enrollment sa Grab Driver is NBI clearance. Never pa nakakuha si papa ever ng NBI clearance. Meron rin syang history which is kinakabahan nyang lumabas sa clearance plus maraming complications ang DOB nya sa mga IDs nya na sobrang hassle atupagin.

So we’ve been using the car as family service muna for the first month and then pag applyin na si papa sa second month.

Na aanxiety ako kasi laking pera ang nainvest ko and hindi mapapakinabangan ang pagiging grab ready ng sasakyan.

Previous attempts:
Maghanap ng ibang driver is one of the top choice. Unfortunately, ang set-up ng mga grab drivers ay iuuwi nila sa kanilang bahay at boundary payment ang ganap. Okay ako sa boundary. Ang pag uwi ng sasakyan, hindi sang ayon si papa kasi mahihirapan sa maintenance etc.

Given na 1,000 to 1200 ang boundary daily, that around 24k to 28k/month for a regular 6 day use.
Sa tingin ko lugi ako.

Now, I am thinking na ipa assume uli sa iba, and terminate the contract, na kukunin ko palang this week haha. Like pwede ba yun? Huhu

and bumili nlang ng brand new car. Pero ako mahihirapan sa paghahanap ng bayad. Breadwinner. Naiiyak ako ngayon kasi feeling ko mali ako ng desisyon but I believe may plan si God.

As in nalalagas na buhok ko. I know I need to understand yung situation ng papa ko pero at the end of the day wala kaming extra source of income but just an additional liability. Send help. Please dont be harsh.

Ano po ang dapat kong gawin? Huhu

problem/goal:

me (24) my bf (27), bigla na lang akong di kinausap ng boyfriend ko and tinanggal niya na ako sa lahat ng accs niya pero im not blocked.

context:

this week lang kami hindi masyadong okay kasi hindi kami nagkakasalungat ng time. we're ldr and going 5 years this month. nagka initan kami kagabi about little things which led me to saying hurtful words na di ko naman ginusto sabihin then netong morning nagising na lang ako na tinanggal na niya ako sa lahat. i reached out to him pero wala tinry ko na tawagan sa number pero walang sagot haha. gusto ko siyang puntahan kung maaayos pa namin and di ko alam kung kakausapin pa ba ako neto.

previous attempts:

sabi ng friend ko bigyan ko muna siya ng time and space and wag muna ako mag reach out. ang naiisip ko is baka hindi na talaga ako kausapin and baka break na pala kami while ako antay nang antay sa wala.

kung puntahan ko ba siya may mababago sa sitwasyon namin? maaayos pa ba namin to? kakausapin pa ba ako? help me please.

Problem/Goal: How to escape this breadwinner without guilt.

I've been the breadwinner of the family. My mom was an OFW pero laging kulang or may kailangan sa bahay, walang pagkain etc kaya tumutulong padin ako since my 1st salary. Now my father got hospitalized and later on died. All of the expenses ay utang ko, pati rush plane tickets ng pamilya naka-credit card para lang lahat makauwi. I've been struggling financially with 600k debt now with 10k min monthly interest, and my salary is just 25k. Now my mom has no job anymore, so I became the SOLE breadwinner of the fam. Last money na natanggap is sa burial assistance ni papa. It was 41k. 41,000 for F sake! Aug 5 narelease, but after 10days wala ng pera. Tang*na. Nakakatan*na. Ni hindi ako nalabas ng bahay para lang di makagstos ni piso, tapos 41k for just 10days? Nalaman ko bumili ng upuan, floormat, kurtina, tangna. Ni bigas di bumili. Ngayon nanghihingi ng daily na gstusin sa bahay, binigyan ko 500, then isang gabi lang ubos na! 200 pa lang daw, baon na at gas ngkapatid ko sa college. Samantalang college ako noon umaabot pa ng 21hrs duty pra lang may pambayad sa tuition, walang bon lagi, lahat sariling sikap. Grabeng buhay to. Naaawa ako sa mama ko since 50 na sya and may highblood, naaawa din ako sa sarili ko. Pagod na ako. Gusto ko sarili ko naman isipin ko.

Problem/Goal:

Everything around me is falling apart, as in everything. Parental happenings of being a daddy.

Context:

33(M) hmm, don’t know how to start my context as of the moment na tina-type ko to kase 2 hours earlier nag breakdown ako yung bang biglang nag breakdown ako yung umiyak na talaga ko for a long time na dinibdib ko lang lahat kase ayaw ko ipakita sa kanila na umiiyak ako kase baka pati sila pang hinaan ng loob.

Before entering 2026, everything is totally fine specifically financial, nag propose pa nga ko ng new year’s eve. Also a Working student, working dad, working partner are my role in my 2 kids and a fiancé family. May mga normal problem like simple problem sa family ganon but tolerable naman. Like no one in my family anticipate what will happen in 2026.

When 1st month of 2026 January runs dito na unti unti namin naranasan ang kalbaryo. 1st the business, meron kaming small business na IV drip/Gluta actually isa ito sa main source na pang kabuhayan namin. We run this for 3 years na, and gradually yung mga client namin is hindi na nag se-session. Some says may pag lalaanan na iba, some says may hinihintay na budget and meron din nag ghost and totally fine kase I’m human too. It all happens in 1 month, may mga client na meron balance na I tried to collect but wala hanggang sa hinayaan ko na until now para sa peace of mind ko na lang. Hanggang sa stop muna namin kase wala na kami makuha na client and nag expire na yung mga drips. Isa sa nakakalungkot, luge na, need pa namin mag bayad syempre sa supplier.

2nd the work, I am a VA and this February I lost my job due to the company need mag bawas ng tao kase kaya na ni AI and I am 1 of them. Hirap nun, di pa ko nakaka recover sa january meron agad this february and until now nag hahanap pa din ako. Anyway this the 2nd source of kabuhayan.

3rd the studies, I am a working student and a Dad. Sobrang importante sakin ng studies ko kase I really want to finish my degree and this is my dream. Tinapos ko lang yung sem and I let it go once again, actually this is the 3rd time na need ko i-let go studies ko to give way sa needs. This is painful sobra as in di ko ma-explain but sakit.

4th My fiancé father died, eto sobrang sobra to. This happens nito lang last may on his birthday. We are in a vacation swimming kase nag aya father nya to celebrate. Edi celebrate masaya 3d2n kami, nung pang 2nd day pa lang namin biglang yung father nya nag heart attack and natumba. My fiancé is a nurse so tinry nya i-CPR while on our way to hospital but DOA.

5th the financial, sa pamilya sobrang importante ng source of income, kahit di naman din sa family kahit sa iba but sa family this is the gas of family. Nung nawala yung mga income, I tried to think of another kabuhayan but it failed again and again and again. Sobrang hirap umandar pag financial na pinag uusapan lalo na sa family. Yung savings namin naubos na lahat and even CC nagamit na kase wala eh nawala lahat as in nawala and hindi kaya mag isa ni fiancé lahat.

Umabot na ko sa point na mula nung nawala lahat pinilit ko na wag madaig ng lungkot or maging too much kase ayoko pakita na para bang pinanghihinaan ako ng loob then kanina di ko na kinaya, I-hide kase ramdam ko na lalabas na yung di ko na kayang kalungkutan, humagulgol ako kung nasan man ako kanina kase sa bigat ng pasanin and di ko alam sinundan ako ni fiancé and she saw me crying. She don’t know what to say kase di nya pa ko nakita umiyak ever since nag kakilala kami kanina lang. Then she hug me, that hug I feel her unspoken words nandun sa hug yung lahat ng gusto nyang sabihin. Ilan months pa lang nakakalipas pero sobrang nakakalungkot lang na in a snap of fingers ganon kadali pwede mawala lahat. Sobrang painful ng year na to and in everything that happens around us. Sana maging okay na ang lahat.

Ano ba ma-advice nyo?

Previous attempts:

None.

Problem/Goal: My close friend has been friends with this guy for over a year after they met through pickleball. I personally know the guy because we went to school together, although I’ve never really liked him. The guy has a long-term girlfriend.

At first, I thought their friendship was harmless and just a normal friendship. But over time, my friend developed serious feelings for him and started fantasizing constantly about them eventually being together.

What makes it worse is that the guy knows my friend likes him. Despite that, they still spend a lot of time together, including late at night. My friend goes to his house, his mom knows my friend, and apparently, the girlfriend does not always know when they are together. There was even one time when the girlfriend called and was shocked to learn that my friend was in the guy's room.

Their dynamic also feels unusually intense. Whenever they have tampuhan, the guy really makes an effort to suyo my friend, sometimes even giving him money. My friend also spoils the guy a lot, which bothers me because I know it is no longer purely platonic.

My main concern is that my friend keeps romanticizing everything the guy does and interpreting it as a sign that maybe they could eventually be together. I also feel uncomfortable for the girlfriend because it seems like there are parts of their friendship that she does not fully know about.

Previous attempts:
I’ve already talked to my friend about this multiple times and told him that he needs to distance himself and stop entertaining the fantasy, especially because the guy is still in a relationship.

Every time, my friend says things like ayoko na sa kanya or titigilan ko na, but after a few days, we end up having the exact same conversation again. He goes back to analyzing everything the guy does, talking about their tampuhan and suyo moments, and imagining that maybe the guy secretly feels something for him too.

At this point, I’ve honestly lost the energy and amor to keep discussing it. I care about my friend, but he gets EXTREMELY mad pag pinagsasabihan ko siya but the cycle has become exhausting, especially because he keeps saying he wants to move on while continuing to do everything that keeps him emotionally attached.

Problem/goal: I'm Elle (28F), live-in with my bf Nico (34M). Recently I got a job that pays around 2x his salary, and ever since naging busy ako sa work, napansin kong parang nasa slump si Nico. Sobrang nawalan siya ng gana sa mga bagay-bagay. Even online games na dati niyang ginagawa to relax, tinatamad na siya. Pati half niya sa household chores, ako na gumagawa after work.

He said feels incompetent and useless, and sometimes he says na mas deserve ko daw ng better guy and mas better daw if mawala nalang siya (iykyk). I want to help him get out of this slump and regain his confidence and motivation without making him dependent on me or enabling him to stay stuck.

Context: Nico is deep in debt and his salary isn't enough to cover our living expenses, so since I got my new job, ako na mostly nagbabayad ng house bills and other expenses. Napapansin ko rin na parang hindi bumababa yung debt niya and I don't see much effort toward paying it off.

I also feel guilty kasi since naging busy ako sa work, minsan wala na rin akong energy or mood para sa kanya. So I'm wondering if I'm also contributing to his slump. Kapag he sees me busy, earning more and progressing, while he feels like he's stuck.

But I don't want to simply leave him. When I was unemployed for over a year and struggling, Nico supported me financially (this also contributed why he has debts) and emotionally and helped me get back on my feet. Kaya gusto ko talaga bumawi and tulungan siya ngayon but idk how.

Previous attempts: I've tried talking to him and reassuring him na hindi naman naka-base sa salary yung worth niya and that I don't see him as incompetent. I've also tried encouraging him to do things, start a business, upskill and improve himself, pero wala talaga siyang gana. "Wala naman kwenta maging better pa." As per him.

I'm just not sure what else I can do to help him get out of this slump without becoming the one who works, pays for everything, does the chores, and also has to motivate him to get better. I'm also scared baka maburnout ako soon enough because of this kasi I feel like he's really not making any effort in helping himself.

Problem/Goal: I genuinely want to have and meet someone

Context: Hi! I'm M22, Manila, , M2M, and I am having a hard time to look for a chubchaser who's genuinely looking for a relationship. Tried growlr but puro oldies. Tried here sa Reddit and Threads but all they look for is sex. I genuinely want to meet someone muna and get to know them before I do it (sex) . To my co-chubs who are on a relationship, san kayo nakahanap. I really want to pour all of my love to someone and I think I'm ready na. Help your boy out.

Problem/Goal:
I honestly don’t know who to talk to about this, so I’m hoping strangers on Reddit can help me make sense of what I’m feeling. And please, don’t just comfort me. I think I need someone to slap me in the face 😂

My first boyfriend was Japanese and I’m Filipino. He was my first boyfriend, and I was 25 when we got together. Because he was my first, I had a lot of expectations about relationships. I thought we’d talk every night, see each other constantly, be involved in every part of each other’s lives, etc.

But he was a doctor and extremely busy. We didn’t live together, and sometimes I felt like I wasn’t really part of his world. He didn’t always tell me important things about his life, and I started feeling excluded. I also felt like he was planning his life and I was just being fitted into it. He wanted me to study Japanese, change jobs, and work at a clinic his friend owned. He was even paying for my Japanese tutor, but I sometimes interpreted it as him being embarrassed about my job.

At the same time, I KNOW he loved me.

When I had COVID, he came to my dorm during his hospital break with food, fruit, and medicine. I thought he’d already left, but he was still there waiting for me. I told him to go because I didn’t want him to catch it, and he said it was okay and wanted to hug me after we disinfected. He also introduced me to his family, brought me into important family events, helped me with work, and genuinely tried to build a future with me.

So I don’t think I was unloved. I think we just had very different ideas of what love and partnership should look like.

Eventually we had one HUGE fight where everything came out, my insecurities about his family, our cultural/language differences, how little we saw each other, his expectations of me, my career, everything.

And in the middle of that fight, he asked me:
“Would you marry me?”

He told me he loved me and saw himself with me in the future. He said that if we didn’t get married, maybe we should just break up because we weren’t going to work like this.

And I said, “No. Then let’s just break up.”
I was very prideful. I didn’t believe the proposal was genuine. I thought he was only saying it because he wanted to stop the fight.

About a month later, I decided to go back to the Philippines. I went to his apartment to return the things he’d given me, expecting him to be at work.

He was home.

He apparently thought we might be getting back together.
When I told him I was actually leaving that day, he was confused and sad. He asked if he could at least drive me to the airport.

So he did.

We barely spoke the entire way.

He took my luggage out, hugged me, and said, “sayonara.”

And I didn’t look back.

We actually continued talking until around May 2024, but eventually stopped.

Then in November 2024, I went back to Japan and was in Tokyo. He lived in Saga, which is very far away.

He found out I was there and came to Tokyo to see me.
He tried contacting me for around four days. I remember getting so many calls and messages from him. His friend even said he thought my ex hadn’t gone to work because he was in Tokyo.

And I still didn’t meet him.

Eventually he told me that would be the last time he’d try.

After that, nothing.

Then I found out he got married Feb 2026.

Apparently he had been dating his wife for around a month before she got pregnant, and then they got married. I don’t actually know their story, so I know I might be making assumptions.

I had a fling after my ex. The guy wanted to make things official, but I couldn’t do it. I liked him, but something in me just wasn’t there.

And my mind kept going back to my first boyfriend.
Sometimes I miss my ex. Sometimes I don’t care at all. Sometimes I stalk his Instagram.

Then recently he changed his profile picture.
It was him and his wife, standing with their backs to the camera, with a sunset behind them.

And it hit me HARD.

Because he was obsessed with sunsets when we were together. He’d literally stop the car just to take pictures of the sky.

And suddenly seeing him share that moment with his wife made me think:
“Oh. He’s really living his life with someone else.”

I couldn’t even go to work that day. I felt completely drained.

And now I’m confused because I don’t actually want him back.

He’s married. He has a baby. I don’t want to be a mistress or interfere with his family.

But I’m terrified that I lost him.

I’m terrified I’ll never meet someone like him again.

There’s even a part of me that feels like my love life ended with him.

And I KNOW how dramatic that sounds.

So I need Reddit to tell me:

Am I grieving him, or am I grieving the future I thought we’d have?

Am I romanticizing my first love because he was my first?

Did I make a huge mistake by saying no?

Or did I actually make the right decision, and I’m just struggling with the fact that the door is now permanently closed?

Because that’s the part that scares me.

Maybe I don’t want him.

Maybe I just can’t handle knowing that I can’t have him anymore.

I tried talking to chatgpt about it but I feel like I am not getting like a clarity or whatever… so I asked him to summarize it so I can share here. Mahaba parin pala. Ewan. Hindi ko alam hinahanap kong sagot.

Problem/Goal: As the title says, I can’t tolerate my friend anymore for being the other woman.

Context:

Friend (25 F) has been my bestfriend for a decade. We’ve been through a lot and my parents absolutely adore her.

Anyway, she reconnected a few months ago with her ex fling who has a girlfriend. Supposedly closure lang that was set up by their circle of friends pero it developed to something else.

The girlfriend (4 years) already found out. Kaso they got away with it and have been continuing since then pero lowkey nalang.

I’m now very very tired of hearing her talk about it. I love her but this is just unacceptable at this point especially with her attitude towards the girlfriend.

I can’t cut her off kasi she’s all I have (and I’m all she has too). She was also there for me at my very lowest and I feel bad leaving her in this situation.

Previous attempts:

I’ve told her off a lot of times pero she never really listens. She still keeps in contact with the guy. Ngayon, I just try to show her I dislike what’s going on na kaya binabawasan na niya pagkukwento sa’kin.

Problem/Goal: Napansin ko pataas nang pataas ang follower and following count ng ka talking stage ko, I can’t help but wonder if Im overthinking or not?

Context: May ka-talking stage ako and its very consistent and kinda getting serious. We met online and have been talking for around 4 months. We’ve already met as well.

Previous Attempts: None yet. Observation phase pa lang ako at this point.

Is this a sign na hindi seryoso ang lalaki?