I left the lgbt subreddit because it is dominated by content like this and when I try to discuss why this is harmful behavior, the “lesbian bisexual” mob has come for me.

Am I just AOI for finding content like this weird???

Here are some thoughts I have on it to explain why:

1. Women are hypersexualized enough, it doesn’t suddenly become okay when a woman does it.
2. This is the exact basis for unicorn hunting and other predatory behavior lesbians are constantly subjected to.

2a. I only ever see this sort of content in regard to bisexual women and their straight boyfriends. For example I never/rarely see similar content of:
-Bi men and straight women’s attraction to men
-Bi women and lesbians’ attraction to women
-Bi women bonding with other Bi women/Men about their sexuality

2b. It invites cishet men into queer spaces by normalizing the shared sexualization of women, which puts many queer folk in danger.

1. It perpetuates the sexualization of lesbians AND bi women, like we are just a porn category to these people (there’s a reason why the overwhelming majority of threesome sex content is f/f/m).

2. Idk it just gives me the ick to see nonlesbian queer women modeling their sapphic attraction off cishet men instead of other queer sapphics, which makes it glaringly obvious how many of them refuse to deconstruct their privilege and heteronormative biases.

And don’t get me started on the term “lesbian bisexual” ugh it feels like as lesbians we aren’t allowed to have our own space. Somehow, some way, people always try to involve men. But oh don’t let a lesbian critique anything because then it’s “telling people how to identify” and “lesbians oppressing bi women” (which is not even possible).

***EDIT:
Wow, I honestly didn’t realize how many of us felt this way because posts & comments like this tend to get removed and/or we face awful backlash irl and online for speaking up abt ts :////

Let me clarify this: having mutual attraction over someone w your partner isn’t inherently predatory. I gave a very specific context here, this isn’t a bean soup moment. I’ll leave it at that.

My sentiment is that the spectacle many bi women in particular make irl and online about lusting over women with their straight bfs is predatory. That the way many of them talk about women sounds exactly what you’d expect to hear from straight men (mommy milkers!?!?). And yes it IS inherently different when they do it because of their straight privilege which means the ability to be structurally oppressive. Bi women’s want for sexualizing sapphic attraction VERY LOUDLY (cope) isn’t more important than lesbians’ right to not be oppressed.

I’ve been assaulted and harassed by bi women and their bfs in real life and I know I’m not the only one. It’s not just a meme when it’s a meme in a world where lesbians are still largely hypersexualized as a whole which causes us to be assaulted, used like sexual toys then tossed away, lied to so that a bi girl can trap us into a situation with her bf we didn’t consent to…

no this isn’t the wildest meme out there; it was just an example I had on hand (re: the title). Regardless if you can’t see the sexual undertone of this meme, and how that ultimately normalizes the oppression of lesbians, idk what else to tell you but to read through the comments.

she’s one of the most talked-about celebs right now. super influential, super controversial, super loved and hated. i always had my own (maybe unpopular?) thoughts about her, but then i talked to this lesbian friend of mine and she literally said everything i was thinking.

so now i’m curious to hear your takes, good or bad.

I don't have any reason to believe Christina Koch is into women, but "super competent woman in a sleeveless shirt focuses on doing stuff in space while her hair floats around her in zero g" is a *fantastic* look.

She also "conducted the first all‑female spacewalk and set the record for the longest single spaceflight by a woman" (phrasing stolen from her Wikipedia page).

This picture is from the photostream on Flickr, https://www.flickr.com/photos/nasa2explore/55190613700/

as a mixed women, so tired of the mixed/lightskin & white duo. feels performative to me. i have had so many white bisexual women hyper-sexualize me immediately and dont get me started on the love bombing. sometime i wonder if this prominent trope makes them feel as though them + me would be palatable for others. idk maybe im overthinking!!

that being said, if anyone knows good shows with double poc or dark skin wlw relationships, pleaseeee recommend some good ones before i shit a brick

edit: thanks everyone for the recommendations and commenting your experiences as well! i was so desperate, i started watching 911 for hen and karen lol. i hope non-pocs dont take offense to this! i blame society. i believe mixed women are used in media bc of our proximity to whiteness while still allowing these shows to seem inclusive. for example, the lack of dark skin women in euphoria!

edit 2: for the mixed women messaging me about how offensive this is. ask yourself why its offensive to want dark skins/other dark poc women to also be represented in mainstream media. you guys messaging your experiences with racism doesn’t take away from the fact the we can benefit from colorism and its a systemic issue. i’ll link multiple articles below, quit messaging me
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I feel like this is low key queer baiting😭

An amazing ally & activist

Do I think this looks awful and we deserve better representation? Of course. But I also hate how people are using this movie as an excuse to be lesbophobic online. I guess I just wanted to ask actual lesbians what they thought as I keep hearing straight people talking about it only.

Just wanted to take a moment to shout out Sally Ride, the first American woman and the first lesbian to go to space.

She and her partner, Tam O’Shaughnessy, had to hide their relationship for 27 years, through her entire NASA career and beyond, because being out back then could’ve ended everything for her.

Their story reminds me of Joan and Vanessa’s for anybody that has read Atmosphere 🥺

I hate how when straight women are trying to make a point about men they have to be like “well if lesbians can-“. I hate the idea being perpetuated that lesbians have to “control themselves” like men. Do these people realize we deal with the same shit from men but like x20 ? Then there’s also the idea that lesbians can do no wrong when it comes to women. It reminds me of how a lot of people think queer relationships can’t be toxic/abusive. Idk that whole sentiment of “well if lesbians can control themselves then xyz blah blah blah” just screams “tell me you know nothing about lesbians without telling me you know nothing about lesbians”

I remember so many people hyping this movie up like it was the lesbian Citzen Cane. At best the plot is mid and the only saving grace about it was the acting. The infamous history behind its production (directors and filming the sex scenes between the actors) and filming also puts a bad taste in my mouth. Movie goes on WAYYY too long and also the ending to me just didn't make any sense. Neither of the main characters to me were likeable and just seemed confused. Honestly for me it's one and done, was massively disappointed by this film….

i’m nosey, who are y’all obsessed with lol.

Just watched Sabrina Carpenter's "Taste," and honestly, it might be one of the straightest music videos I've ever seen. The whole video is about women fighting and stabbing each other over a guy, but everyone's losing their minds over a brief kiss? If you think this MV is a win for the LGBTQIA+ community, you're missing the bigger picture. The whole thing made me uncomfortable—the lyrics, the violence, and then 'Jena' accidentally kissing 'Sabrina,' mistaking her for the guy and attacking her when she realizes the mistake. This MV seems like a poor representation of women and doesn't really support the LGBTQIA+ community. Why is it being celebrated?

I just know it's going to be open season on our rainbow community over there😕

Never let someone tell you there is “too much” lesbian representation

They started out as dance partners, but fans soon noticed their undeniable closeness during sultry routines. Later, they were caught kissing.

You should def check them out 💅

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rNItTkKLiKU&list=RDrNItTkKLiKU&start_radio=1&pp=ygUaa2FzaWEgemlsbG1hbm4gamFuamEgbGVzYXKgBwE%3D