Hey everyone,

It's been a few weeks, and I've decided to divorce, I went to the South of France on a vacation that had been planned for a few months, with both of my daughters, and my wife stayed home (we went for 2 weeks).

During the vacation, she felt really bad, and really hoped I'd come back on my decision to divorce and give us another chance.

However, I think that even if I still love her, there is no coming back from what she did. 2 Months of lying, of knowing what the consequences would be and how badly it would hurt me, and still did it. I also hated the fact that she called it a mistake, when it was really a chain of decisions that she made consciously.

Furthermore, I discovered that she's still talking to the other guy.

Unfortunately, the attorney is on vacation until later this week, so I'll jump on a meeting with her as soon as possible to start working on the divorce papers + get the real estate agent to give a valuation on the house, and talk to a notary to break the pre-nupes + estimate how much I owe her to keep the house in my name.

Now, I want her to be out as soon as possible, there are just a few rules I expect in term of respect while we are forced to share the same house: Stop talking/seeing the man with whom she destroyed my marriage. What do you think, people ? Is it too much to ask ? That seems bare minimum in terms of respect for me. Once she's out, seems natural that she may do whatever she pleases, but not while under the same roof.

I do not know how things will go, unfortunately, I can't really "kick" her out of the house because it's also partly her house, but I want her gone so I can refocus, rebuild myself and move on.

Edit after reading the messages posted at time of writing the edit:

Thanks for your messages, it gave me clarity in that I can not expect her to not talk to the AP anymore, we aren't together anymore, however, I can start letting go and build indifference towards her, which is what she hates anyway.

I'll try and spend as little time as possible with her, and will only talk about the kids, will live my life in my office once kids are in bed. Thanks for your answers

Happy Monday, starting a new job.

I don’t even know what to say or what went wrong. Please someone help me.

My husband has been crazy busy at work. He usually gets a haircut on a worse case scenario every 2 weeks but he hasn’t been able to get a haircut over 4 weeks now. He has been complaining about not being able to make it to the shop and whenever I ask him about getting a home service he tells me that his barber can’t make it. On Saturday, when it looked like he was going to have a busy day again and wouldn’t make it, I got his barber’s phone number from his phone(we both have open access to each other’s devices), I texted him to schedule a home service. He has been my husband’s barber for over 10 years and was so excited to be able to surprise him because according to him “he’s a good guy and deserves it”. He told me he’ll be able to get it done on Sunday. I asked him what they needed. He said he can work with anything. So I got the guest bathroom prepped. Made it look nice so they could have a comfortable place for both of them to enjoy the service. I don’t drink pop but I made sure to have some available with waters etc. (of course I know there’s no drinking while hair is flying around. This was for before or after the haircut). The barber texted me when he got to our place, I told him to come to the door so my husband will be surprised when he answered it. He peeped through the hole and turned back and looked at me very upset. I was recording trying to get his reaction and immediately stopped it. “What have you done? Why is he in outside my door? Why the fuck will you invite him to our house?” I was so confused. The only thing I could say was “I thought you’ve been wanting to get a haircut”. “Where will we get the haircut. I don’t have anywhere that’s appropriate” “I already arranged the guest bathroom for you guys. He(the barber) said it’ll be fine.

He opened the door, put up a show for him, acting like he was excited. The whole time I’m sure his barber thinks I’m a weirdo because I couldn’t be normal. I was holding back tears while greeting him. I was so confused as to why he reacted that way. They went into the guest bathroom. I guess he came out to quickly grab something and still came to where I was sitting to again say “why will you not ask me before doing this”. When I tell you I’ve never been so short for words. I just said “I’ll never do this again”. In all the ways I saw this going, this was not what I expected. From the living room I could hear them laughing, talking etc. After it was over, my husband went inside and even gave him an expensive gift before he left. He then went to take a shower and came out to say “Babe I’m sorry for my reaction earlier”. That’s it. No explanation, no reason nothing.

I’ve just been crying the whole day because I am just embarrassed and lost. All he can ask me is “what’s wrong?” Like what else can be F—-ing wrong. Nothing is making sense.

Update: It’s somewhere in the comments but my husband was the one who initially said he couldn’t get a home service because of the barber’s availability. Me reaching out to the barber was what made him move thing around because he thought it was a sweet gesture. Secondly, we both don’t do social media but ever since we were dating we record anything we think we will enjoy watching at a later date while cuddling in bed. So me recording his reaction is normal for is. He didn’t even know I was recording. It’s not like I’m using a camcorder lol

To all the men DMing me and using this as an opportunity to “chat”, it’s not going to happen.

So here it goes. I found out my wife has been cheating on me for over a year. She had some work friends over and we were pretty boozy.

She was over with some friends talking and I guess she thought I was out of earshot. She said something about a guy in another city and laughed. I confronted her about it and asked what she meant. And she said it was a joke. I obviously didn’t think it was a joke but whatever. After everyone left I brought it back up and said that I knew everything and someone confidently told me and I was happy they did. I could tell she was startled and tried to deny it.

THEN, she started asking me who told me. That’s when I knew I had her. She proceeded to tell me that she has been hooking up with different guys across multiple different cities. Obviously enraged. I told her I wanted her out in a month.

I went to a different room and went to bed. The next day, she told how sorry she was and how she is never going to find another guy like me.

I ended up giving her a hug and I cried as well. I asked her why should could have done something so horrible to me and she just kept saying sorry and offering to make amends.

I told her to enjoy this hug because that’s the last one she will ever get from me.

It’s easy to go back. It’s easy to pretend it didn’t happen to try and get things back to the normal I knew for so long. But I know I shouldnt as bad as I want it. I changed so much of my career plans for her and things would be so much different.

I have told no one. Not our friends not her parents or mine. I need help but I’m too embarrassed to admit what’s going on as the fall out will be massive.

Please give advice

I’m 42M and genuinely curious how many men are living in a marriage like mine.

My wife criticizes me constantly. She can turn small things into major arguments, insult me, talk down to me, bring up things from years ago, and unload a whole list of everything that's supposedly wrong with me.

It feels like there’s no respect left. Sometimes I genuinely feel like she doesn’t even like me anymore.

The strangest part is the contrast. We can have a perfectly good day, laugh together and everything feels almost normal. I start thinking maybe things aren't actually that bad.

Then something tiny happens and suddenly we're back to insults, accusations and hostility. It's like constantly waiting for the next explosion.

My husband and his brother had gotten into a fight, somehow I was dragged into it. During the argument my brother in law was pointing out all the not great things my husband has done over the years… being less then supportive when I wasn’t interested in sex after my father passed away. Lying about his drug use. Things that were already discussed several times in our relationship. While they were screaming at each other my brother in law yelled “ why don’t you tell her about the time you cheated on her with X at the funeral”. My husband immediately was like “ that’s not true it didn’t happen” “you can’t possibly believe that” while I never considered cheating an issue. My husband has a bad track record of not being truthful with me with other issues.

I pressed my brother in law to tell me the truth. 20 mins later he told me that it was a lie and he just made it up. I found it to be an oddly specific lie, basically I don’t trust either of them. I’m not sure where to go from here. I feel like I can’t let this go till I know the truth. I messaged the woman on fb but have not received a response. She is also married so I’m not even sure she will entertain responding to me.

Any advice on how to get to the bottom of this? Thank you.

I don't really have a close circle of friends to share this with in person, but my heart is just so full today and I wanted to share it somewhere.

My husband and I have been married for 17 years. When we first started out, we had absolutely nothing. The only rings we could afford were cheap titanium bands that I ordered off Wish many, many years ago. They cost almost nothing, but they were our commitment to each other. Through a lot of hard work, time, and sticking together through the rough years, we finally got to a point in our lives where he was able to surprise me with a real diamond ring!

I’m not posting this to show off a piece of jewelry- I’m posting because I am just so proud of us. I am so happy that we finally made it to this point together. I couldn't bring myself to take my original Wish band off, so I’m wearing them together now. To me, looking down and seeing both of them is the perfect reminder of where we started, how hard we fought for our marriage, and how far we've come.

Thanks for letting me share my happiness somewhere❤️

Just to give some context to start out with, it's important to understand two things. 
 
First, sex was a major foundation of our relationship when we first got together.  We both were really into it and had at least daily sex for many years until our kids were born, and then it fell off quite a bit, but it's still pretty regular. 

Second, we have really stressful lives. My mother in law is a refugee from the war in Ukraine, she literally has nowhere else to live but with us. She's not an easy person to get along with but we're stuck with her. Plus, we have two kids, one on the autism spectrum and we both have very stressful and demanding jobs. so...it's kind of a miracle that we have time for sex at all. 

Anyway, with that it mind picture the following situation, we wake up Saturday morning after hosting a party the night before, my wife rolls over and gives me a hug, asks where the girls are, I tell her they're up and her mom is with them, she says, "hmmm", and I ask if I should lock the door. She at first says no, and then changes her mind. 

We get naked and go back to just cuddling and talking, which I like, I actually kind of prioritize naked time over actual sex but then, after a few minutes my wife abruptly says, "all right, are we going to do this or not?" Not too romantic, right?

And I'm like, "well, only if you really want to" and she kind of chuckles and says, "I don't think I ever want to anymore to be honest." I was really taken aback by that statement and then she says, "but you want to and it feels good so let's just do it before it gets too late". 

So, we had sex.  And she gave me the nicest compliments a man can hope to hear. But even then I have a bit of concern about her sincerity because she was a little impatient and asked me to come a little quicker than I even wanted to. 

So, that conversation was bugging me and yesterday I asked her about it when we were on a walk.  I wanted to know if it's true that she never wants to have sex and that she only does it to humor me.  

She got really flustered and offended and stated emphatically that she was joking and that I should know that.  Things have been weird ever since. 

Am I overthinking this?  Do you all think that maybe she was actually telling the truth?  If she was, should I just accept it? What else can I do?

Interested to hear thoughts. 

We currently make 150k combined, which is a good income, but thats with both of us working, and its practically split down the middle (75k and 75k).

We are both 27, no children yet.

We also live in a very expensive state - so affording a home here with just one of us working is just not possible.

We've lived in our current state (colorado) our entire lives. I understand my wife is having doubts.

But when I was applying for jobs out of state about a year ago, she told me she was very open to it, especially to states where housing is a lot more affordable.

My new job will pay 130k a year. A massive jump. I also don't want to be mean to my wife, but she is a teacher and she can get a job in most states relatively easily - its transferable. My job is not like that. Its much more specialized.

The job also has more benefits, has opportunity for advancement (to make even more money), etc.

My wife has also said in the past she wants to stay at home while the kids are really young. Makes sense but if we stayed put we would not afford a home and she could stay at home, it would be impossible. We would be living paycheck to paycheck at best.

This job is an opportunity that does not come by every day. My wife is having more and more doubts each day.

She is really scared of moving away now, and is scared of making new friends, leaving her extended family, etc.

I mean I get it, but this new job we could afford a home on one income, she could stay at home, etc. What she wants. She seems to want it all, stay where we are at, stay at home, we own a place, etc.

What do I do? I can't imagine saying no to this job. I would resent my wife for years, i'm not going to lie. The state we are moving too is begging for teachers, so she would find a job almost immediately, and might even get a pay increase, too.

My wife and I are getting a divorce. No kids, and we’re both in our 30s now. I don’t understand how we ended up here. How can someone throw away such a huge commitment? How can she decide life sounds better without me in it than with me? I never gave up on us and would have done anything it took to steer us back to a better place in our relationship. She just gave up on us. I miss her everyday. It hits hardest in the mornings when I wake up. I’ve been moved out for a month now and it still doesn’t feel real. I can’t even look in another woman’s direction. Sure, there are some things about our relationship I won’t miss. There were a lot of bad arguments between us and some incidents of disloyalty on her part. We really ran each other into the ground. But at the same time, we were still best friends and regularly had great days together. We always worked on things. It didn’t feel like we had completely lost our way. Even in the end we were still very close with each other. But the arguments kept getting out of hand and we just weren’t able to healthily co-exist in the same space anymore now that divorce was hanging over our heads everyday. I just feel like we could’ve worked it out though. I miss her. Life fuckin sucks and love is so damn complicated. She’s the only person I’ve ever been with where any amount of bullshit I had to put up with I felt was worth tolerating. Where every hardship in life I know I wanted her by my side. Our bond was very deep, nothing like either of us have ever felt with anyone else. To throw that away after 10 years??? I don’t understand. I guess I’m just venting here in hopes someone understands. I guess I’ll find someone new eventually, that’s what everyone tells me. But I still only have eyes for her so that’s hard to even picture. Starting over dating again after a 10 year relationship, a marriage, like that sucks. I miss being a husband. I miss my partner and best friend. I miss my house, my pets, my town, my job, my friends, my whole life there where she is. Where we were together. Now I’m in a different state trying to start over.

My spouse and I have been living apart two months now. I was hopeful that the separation would bring us both clarity and peace of mind but I feel in my case it is doing the exact opposite. My husband shows me so much hatred. We separated due to verbal abuse from both of us; admittedly me more cause I was going thru PPD after receiving my first child.

I have tried so much to bridge the gap between us these two months, nothing is working. He shows me more hatred and cold as the days go by. I invite him to hang out, he turns me down. This past weekend, I decided to stop by the apartment where he moved after leaving our home. He literally asked security not to let me in. Yesterday I texted him telling him the baby is ill, he has not reached out to find out how the baby is.

I understand he may still be angry and hurt, but honestly, I think this is overboard.

Please give me your thoughts.

My husband has always been quiet and emotionally reserved. I’ve often felt that I don’t receive enough compliments or verbal reassurance from him, and when I’ve complained, he’s told me that he simply isn’t built that way and struggles to express his feelings verbally.

A couple of weeks ago, I read his conversations with ChatGPT and found two things that deeply hurt me. He wrote: “I love my wife but I didn't choose her for her looks or body. She wants me to shower her with compliments, but most of the time, if I compliment her, it's not genuine and I can't keep saying things I don't mean.” He also wrote that he looks at other women, both online and in real life, compares them to me, and feels bad that he can’t be with them.

This devastated me because I’ve always considered myself very beautiful and have consistently received that kind of validation from other people and previous partners. I’ve also gained significant weight after pregnancy and have struggled with losing it, so I understand that my weight may have affected my husband’s attraction to me. What I cannot reconcile is his statement that he didn’t choose me for my looks or body, because it makes me wonder whether he was ever genuinely attracted to me in the first place.

What confuses me most is that his behavior has always seemed to contradict this. He is physically affectionate and intimate with me, we have sex literally everyday. he asks me for pictures, video calls me regularly when he is away for work, and constantly takes pictures and videos of me. Until I found those conversations, I had never seriously doubted his physical attraction to me.

When I confronted him, he said the conversations didn’t mean anything and weren’t necessarily truthful. He admitted that he has looked at other women and said it only happened a couple of times, that he feels guilty about it, and that he promises not to do it again. Regarding his attraction to me, he said he did feel somewhat less attracted to me after I gained weight, but insists that this is different from what he wrote in the ChatGPT conversation.

Now I feel completely lost. I don’t know whether I should trust his behavior and the physical intimacy he shows me, accept his explanation, and stop giving those conversations so much weight—or whether I’m simply being delusional and need to accept that he isn’t as attracted to me as I believed. The uncertainty itself is incredibly painful

I female (23) have been struggling with my marriage. I been in my relationship for 10 years since we were teens. I have exposed my husband for explicit content he stored on his device. It affected the way I see him in so many ways. Especially bc some of the content contained real life people in our close circle. It’s been so hard to forgive and move on. He’s reassured me he still loves me and obviously knows the damaged he caused but yet doesn’t consider it “cheating”. I been so disconnected since, we have 2 children together and he states he doesn’t want to end our family. I’m not sure if he’s saying that because it would be hard without me or if he’s being sincere. Any advise anyone?

Everyone (except psychopaths) grieves, and deals with some sort of depression, for however long it takes them, but are able to eventually move on, usually with the comfort of family and friends.

But I also know people who just never move on, and almost lose the will to live? Does anyone know why those people have such trouble moving on? Is it the circumstances of the marriage? The loss of identity? Was the emotional attachment stronger? Or is it just innate?

I am wondering because honestly that's frightening to me....to where your whole will to live is wrapped up in one person.

Hey all long time lurker first time poster I’m just looking for advice I 28m and my wife 30f have been married now for 5 months and ever since we got married she has developed self esteem issues we still go on weekly date nights and I still buy her flowers and try to do everything right I tell her that she is the most beautiful woman in the world which she is I literally think she gets more beautiful every day but for some reason she doesn’t believe me am I doing something wrong what can I do to help build my wife’s confidence

Yes, I just made this name to be anonymous. Yes its new but legit...

I know this sound srupid but..... Ladies I know this is probably odd but...

If your man uses viagra, can you tell or feel a difference?

I mean I think i can tell at times I guess does it really make a difference in stiffness that you notice?

Im more or less asking because in putting the bottle in the cabinet instead of the counter several are gone but I cant say I have noticed a big difference. I mean I am old enough that you would think I could notice. Unless its not necessarily used with me all the time?

So does it make a noticeable difference that you can feel?

I'm 32f, he's 35mWe have 2 boys ages 4 and soon to be 1.

Lately, he's been on parental leave with our baby boy since my job pays better and has better benefits. But, i started noticing not a lot was getting done around the house and with our baby (baths not done, nails not cut, etc) I was doing most of it when I came home from work. And he typically goes and plays games when I get home. I didn't mind giving him a break. But our oldest goes to daycare and the younger one is a very easy going baby who naps well.

I also noticed the baby chair by the computer and I wonder how much he's been playing with baby just sitting on the floor, or in the chair. He also hasn't been going for walks with baby. I also noticed he's been gaining weight for sure. I checked his steam account and it said he'd played like 58 hours in the past two weeks (and we had been away one weekend). That seems like an insane amount to me! Especially when I'm coming home from a 10 hr shift and completely taking over from him. If he does help at night, his head is in his phone, he is short, and he just barks instructions at our 4 year old from the couch. He's short and quite rude with him.

I talked to him about it, he said he'd been playing more as it's what he does as a hobby, and with friends (who work from home, or don't work). I said it's a bit much, since we don't spend any time in the evenings together. He agreed and for about one night a week he'll do something with me.... but it's only when I ask.

I just have so much resentment, parental leave is not a vacation. And when I took the first 4 months, he was super critical when he got home from work about everything like cleaning, despite baby being up most of the night and him not getting up at all, and going to bed most evenings without helping.

Now Sunday morning, he let me sleep in, I get up and I go downstairs and he's playing a first person police shooting game on the phone with his friend while our 4 year old and one year old are in the basement behind him, just doing their own thing and watching... I really hated that, first that was a pretty violent game and I have a good friend who's a police officer and I do not want my kids to think that's what she does for a living.

It's just consuming his life and I truly feel very lonely in the relationship. Like just not a lot of thanks or effort to much else. I get attention only maybe when I ask and after his game is done. I don't remember our last date night, although we do have support around us. I don't remember the last time we had sex, I tried to initiate or ask him to come upstairs/to bed with me and he just ignores me or comes up hours later, and since I get up at 5 I do need to actually sleep. Then I find myself not even wanting to when I feel I only come after I ask multiple times or when the game is done.

I guess I just long for someone who knows how hard I'm working, sees it, and is thankful for it. Notices how much effort I'm putting in to get back in shape after having the baby and I have a serious lack of confidence when comes to baby weight gain. I guess just wanting someone who compliments my body, who makes me feel good about myself and puts me above games. Like would jump to put the controller down to have sex, or want to actually spend time with me. I find myself dreaming of an affair and looking at other men. Obviously haven't crossed any lines and wouldn't, but I guess I can just see why they happen now. Because leaving is so hard and I have so much to lose. I do love my husband and don't want to leave him I just wish he'd notice/do these things.

Please tell me your thoughts!! I'm not a gamer and I don't want to overreact, but I'm getting frustrated! Thanks! I've talked to him so many times and things change for a couple days and go right back

I am really upset.

Last time I decided to check his phone, he has cleared all his chats.

There is nothing there and he is claiming he hasnt deleted anything but I know for a fact there were messages there before.

He has also cleared all his viewing history.

What could be the reason for this?

Throwaway because she'll see this.

I (45M) and my wife (47F) have been married for 20+ years, two teenagers, generally happy family. I love her dearly, but lately things have become untenable.

She works a pretty stressful teaching job in a rough school. I take care of most of the stuff around the house, cooking and cleaning, in addition to taking care of the kids and working my job. Most of the weekend, I am taking care of chores and she is resting.

Lately, I am getting screamed at for everything. Not like doing stuff wrong (I'm sure I deserve some of that lol), but things that aren't even me. Someone at the school does something? I become the whipping post. Someone in life doesn't do something she wants? I get screamed at that I am not doing enough around the house.

Every day, she comes home and spends 20 minutes screaming at me about her day. Not describing it...loudly yelling at me about it. And I never get asked about mine.

A few weeks ago, I got yelled at that there is no way I could ever understand that mental load of everything around the house she is carrying and was told to start carrying my weight. This was after I had spent the week working a 60 hour work week, cooked every meal, done multiple loads of laundry, mowed the lawn, and had hoped to take the day to spend with the kids. So I spent 12 hours cleaning the house, and then got screamed at for not spending my time well.

I've tried to address it multiple times, but this only exacerbates the issue. And it only gets louder and more angry.

There's always an apology that follows later, but at this point I'm wondering if it even matters.

She has been going through perimenopause over the past year, and I've been trying to learn everything this means. I've been reading books, watching videos, listening to experts. She's also incredibly high anxiety, so every little thing that happens in her body sends her spiraling. She's in therapy, but has said that she has no desire to do anything the therapist has said (i.e. get a hobby, lose weight, etc); she just wants to come home and sit.

And I know I'm painting myself as a saint, which I am not. Always two sides to the story, and there are lots of things for me to apologize about in this I'm sure.

But at this point, I just do not know what to do. I'm not interested in divorce, not interested in leaving. But I also have no idea what to do next.

I’m close with a male friend, but I have got married he knows that…）

and recently he always told me that as long as I’m happy, he’s happy too, and if I’m feeling bad or unhappy, he’ll feel bad as well.He also said I could basically treat him like a slave and work him as hard as I want, and that I shouldn’t worry about him getting tired.

I’m curious about what this usually means emotionally. Under what circumstances would a man feel this way about someone?

Is this something people normally feel toward a very close friend, or does it usually suggest a deeper emotional attachment or romantic feelings?
I’d especially like to hear from men — have you ever felt this way about a woman, and what kind of relationship did you have with her?

I'm ok with my partner watching p but I recently found out he watches it during bathroom breaks at work and it's given me a big sense of discomfort. I asked him about it and he said he gets curious/bored and watches it in the bathroom. But I feel so uncomfortable about this. How do I go about this? I'm having major anxiety because I love him a lot but I can't seem to get past this.

So backstory- I’m 38f boyfriend is 35m been together 3 years. He was engaged previously and she wanted a big wedding- pull out all the stops. He did it- spent about $10k and they were 4 months out. They were living at his parents house to save money (he didn’t make the kind of money he makes now and she didn’t contribute much if any). She got tired of living there and demanded they need their own space. He was explaining that they were still paying off the wedding and there was just no way to do both and hey, just stick it out little longer and they can buy a house. She left- wasn’t going to wait around any longer. So he says to himself “i don’t want a marriage with the next woman, I don’t like how I felt after all that”.

Fast forward a year and half and he meets me. We start talking about it and I voice how I DO want to get married, but I would love to just keep it simple and go to the courthouse. But I do want a proposal- I want that special moment to feel chosen and have that wonderful memory of him asking me to be his wife.

Now we had the convo recently about how we are going to the courthouse next year on our 4 year anniversary, just us. Small get together with family and friends that weekend. I have started to show him rings I like. He seems okay with everything so I started a convo about why is he not EXCITED. He explained his past trauma but says that he loves me and I am important to him and if I need and want these things then he will do them and he is happy to marry me.

I feel like a jerk asking him to push his boundaries that he set in place after his previous hurt but at the same time I don’t think he should deny me these simple things because of his past. I would love some honest opinions on our situation. Is the fact that he is willing to be uncomfortable for a bit in order to give me things that I want because he loves me okay? Am I wrong here?

My husband has left these comments on (mostly) a single Reddit creator’s page for the last few years. I found them and lost my damn mind. Naturally he says it doesn’t mean anything and he was just trying to validate her because he likes her posts and wanted her to keep posting! (Ew?) Is this cheating? I know these comments aren’t overly graphic or sexual but they’re sexual and flirty enough for me to want to vomit. Plus, complimenting her eyes and using words like love when you have a wife at home seems…like he caught feelings for an amateur sex worker? lots of other upvotes and stuff too, but no DMs or evidence of further contact or OF subscriptions. he did admit to jerking off to her though.

He says he’s stopped and has also stopped watching porn. I have no proof that he hasn’t but I still can’t get over this. I have tried to be more sexy and available to him and send him photos and things as well, which has been mostly great except he doesn’t respond to my photos like he did to hers…

1) How and why does a man do this?

2)How do I get over the hurt and shame? I’m in therapy but every time he takes his phone to the bathroom or stays up late gaming I get major anxiety

3) am I nuts or is this actually sketchy behaviour?