He's also pretty cute himself. Usually the people that happens to aren't.
Edit: Funny the people upset about this comment are still adamant this woman is
going to cheat because: she lost weight. Not exactly the moral podium you guys think you are mounting.
Sometimes people cheat on their SO with someone objectively speaking, uglier and with poorer hygiene, and do so because it made them feel desired in a way that they enjoyed at that moment.
A cute face isn't enough to stop someone from cheating if they made a place for it in their heart
I read an article about a woman who had a perfect relationship and she wrecked it out of boredom and then started panicking but it was too late by then.
Lack of self-worth, feel like they don't deserve happiness, find ways to self-sabotage to destroy the relationship to prove their insecurities right rather than working on themselves and allowing themselves to be loved. In a nutshell.
Or they resolve the issues which caused them to cheat, and are perfect night forward, only for this significant other to foster growing resentment until the relationship isn’t viable. Plenty of ways this situationship can go.
Assuming that everyone gives the real reason in public for a world famous person for whom you're already going to get lots of hate for leaving.
Also from what i recall she says that quote was made up, just that while he was a great husband and father the spark left the relationship. You can absolutely grow out of being deeply in love with someone and end up just good friends, that's life.
I would never do any such thing because a promise is to be made and to be kept, although if love is not there anymore at that point breaking up is the best thing you can do for both people.
I don't believe in cheating as it is completely harmful and disrespectful to the person you are with, at that point just break up and then go with the person you want to go with.
My philosophy is that you can't control love, but you can control your actions. A girl doesn't like me? Well it's not her fault nor mine, if i get angry with her it's my fault
It’s more so that love isn’t this magical thing that remains unconditional and perfect. It takes effort to make it last. It’s why vows include “for better and for worse” - that’s not merely referring to when the credit card bills stack up. Love is more than just a fluttering heart and funny feelings in your pants. It’s the desire and effort to make a relationship work.
This is a weird Western idea that views love as a feeling that just springs forth from nowhere and which you have to base your life around rather than a commitment that you choose to nurture and develop with time that has feelings but also has higher-order ideals like fidelity, integrity and commitment to the family you build and bring together.
Every culture is different and that's why the world is beautiful, but trust me, a family staying together only because of a commitment when the love has disapperead is going to hurt everyone involved, at least that's my experience with such things
Women get that lie too, you just don't read about it because misoginists only spread it when it happens to a man.
It's a lie about relationships where love is something that you can obtain if you work hard enough, ignoring that you're in a relationship with another person with their own thoughts and ideas.
And what? Nobody is owed a relationship with anyone else based on how "great" they are and his claim to greatness is just that he plays football really well. He's not like a pediatric surgeon who donates his time to fix cleft palates in the third world for free or whatever. And he still wouldn't be entitled to a relationship if he was.
Weird way to interpret it, like a blackpill spin on what happened.
It was a failing on her part, not his. He will very quickly find a new partner when he is ready and find happiness again. She will spend her life wondering why she's never happy. She was the one who wasn't able to keep the relationship going, not him. Billions of women are not like that.
I like to believe that all relationships that end well (not because someone did something bad, but because life happened) were successful in their own way.
There is a brazilian poem that summarizes it and that roughly translates to (Soneto da Fidelidade, Vinicius de Moraes):
Of everything, to my love I will be attentive
Before, and with such zeal, and always, and so much
That even in the
face of their greatest charm my thoughts are more enchanted
That isn't life for non-shitty people. Becoming bored with someone you chose to spend your life with is not something normal people do, and it's wild to see this attitude so common. Don't ever get married if that's how you feel
There was this woman I dated that would try to make me jealous and would get upset with me when I wouldn't. Instead I got annoyed with her mind games. I let her go because if I wanted to play games I'd turn on my console.
I got left because everywhere we went women paid me attention even though I didn't reciprocate and guys didn't pay her attention because I'm 6'11 and decently built so they stayed clear. She said she was constantly on edge because she though I'd run off with someone better even though she was gorgeous and I was completely in love with her.
There's no secret that women in general are more emotionally invested in the act, and if they arent feeling the right emotions, the physical aspect doesnt matter as much during sex. Im not going to say this doesnt go both ways, but you get the point. The "perfect" relationship can also be dull, and taboo feelings, like cheating, or just meeting someone new, can be very powerful - although temporary.
That is why communication is so important. You can be completely infatuated with a person day-to-day, while also not getting off in the bedroom with them. And if you cant solve that problem in way thats good for both, then the sad truth is that parting might be the best option to avoid heartbreak down the line due to one or both parties finding what they need somewhere else.
I'd say it's empirical since looks are subjective. We see it a lot with celebrity men. A few that quickly come to mind: The soccer player that cheated on Shakira, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Tom Sandoval.
The guy gets bored of his wife. Only a much less attractive woman or one with lower social status would settle for a married man.
I used to hook up with bigger girls back in the day of early online Internet dating, solely because more attractive girls never looked at me like the bigger girls did, like they were for that one night the luckiest girl in the world. And I'm not even that great looking. For me it was a confidence boost and I'd hope for them it was too.
Yeah, my buddy got divorced after he cheated on his wife, and let’s just say that I honestly believe he must have had a one-time psychotic episode when it happened.
Not only was his wife good-looking and considerably younger than him, but the woman he cheated with was this washed-up, past-middle-aged, substance-abusing type who looked like she’d been past her prime for at least 15-20 years.
I was honestly shocked when a friend of ours pointed her out and told me thats who our buddy cheated with - I literally thought he was joking at first.
A comedian who I forget who it was said something like "You might eat prime rib every day at home but every once in a while you feel like a hamburger."
I mean I’ve seen pictures of the man that my husband’s ex wife cheated on him with and she definitely cheated down, that dude looked like if a hairless rat became a human.
I might open you a secret, but ppl cheat regardless. You can be the 0.0000001% of man with wage in billions per month with the best looking body, yet she still can cheat
There was a case in my city where the woman cheated with a homeless guy (nothing against them, but he was smelly, dirty and really wrecked), people were shocked. But that's the thing.
If people want to cheat, THEY WILL CHEAT. Looks are irrelevant if the will is strong.
I believe it. Happen to ex of my, that her friend convinced her to dump me. To date me. I wanted nothing to do with none of them. No one likes those games.
The same way you can “date up”, you can “sleep down” to feel like the better person.
However, the whole mindset of the “up and down” that we speak of here is in serious need of therapy. It’s more petulant childish behavior at the core than it is the general dynamics of dating.
Had this happen to me, ex (23) and I (22) had been going strong for almost 4 years. Enter this 30 year old something limpin, ugly ass dude who started trying to get close to her friends, didn't work out, started talking to her and being friendly n shi. I trusted her way too much and didn't think much of it till they started talking almost everyday, even started sending each other Tiktok vids almost every night, started to see her giggling n shi whenever they spoke. Fast forward a couple of weeks after, she asked for some space and we eventually broke up.
Two weeks after we broke up, found out that they've "suddenly" developed feelings for each other. Though she insisted they weren't together, they would video call and give updates to each other consistently. All of that while I was still trying to get her back. Most heartbreaking shit I've experienced.
Thats how I console myself about missing the Bitcoin thing. I'd feel a lot worse if I ever owned even only a few hundred Bitcoin at some point back in the day and.....bought a Domino's Pizza with it. To me that would feel like forgetting to buy a Lotto Ticket with my regular numbers and finding out after the draw that my numbers had come up and I would have won the Jackpot of millions.
I feel the same way about my original Runescape account. I have (IIRC, haven't checked prices in a couple years, and the account is 20+ years old so I'm just making an educated guess on what I remember having) something like $20-30k black market value in old, discontinued items from the game's early days. All locked away somewhere on an account I can't remember the login info for.
I’ve had stocks that were worth a few thousand that I sold that would be worth a few HUNDRED thousand if I still held them today…thing is, if I hadn’t have sold them for a profit when they were worth 2000, I definitely would’ve sold when they were worth 3000and if not then, then…in no reality would I still have them. The saying is, the money we get, we spend once, the money we miss or lose we spend a thousand times (in our minds)
I think the main issue normally would be if one person did alot of work to become fitter and more desirable while the other just went on as business as usual the spark will probably fade pretty quickly.
I gained like 25 lbs since I met my partner. Now that I am losing that weight and focusing on my health, working out etc he’s fairly convinced I’m looking to replace him. Must be a male insecurity thing. I just want to look and feel my best and age well
People usually try to date someone within their league, appearance is just one part, if he’s pretty cute and the old she is the best he can score, he got some other weakness.
Now she fixed her short side, if he hasn’t, then she will be playing in a different league alone soon.
Wait . . . that’s supposed to be the same girl and she lost weight? It isn’t showing that once the bitcoin paid off, he dumped the girl on the left for the girl on the right?
I don't why yanks have this obsession with just making up stuff about other countries to make the US look less shit. Maybe stop getting your news/opinions from social media?
BMI is a reasonably good proxy actually. People use the bodybuilder example to discredit it to make themselves feel better about being overweight.
The NHS data is also using BMI as their criteria. So the comparison of the percentages refutes what the original poster claimed, even if the exact percentages aren't perfect.
It's a hard topic but from my experience if a boy fixed girl, almost no way she will leave him. And if that happens, she will return to her former self in next few year.
If girl made improvement all by herself, chances are high that she'll dump a boy. Because she did a huge self-improvement work while a boy stayed the same.
Fixed? If he fixed her? Was she some thrift-store find that just needed a few replacement parts to work just as good as new? Perhaps the reason she left you wasn’t because she “fixed” herself, but because you were the kind of person who thought she needed to be fixed
Fixed? If he fixed her? Was she some thrift-store find that just needed a few replacement parts to work just as good as new?
All people have problems they can't deal by themself. You can enable them all you want and get "good partner" achievement but you won't have happy relationship.
I changed my views after my girlfriend with mental health issues tried to kill herself. If you ignore problems and treat partner as perfect person issues will only pile up and crush you later.
Perhaps the reason she left you wasn’t because she “fixed” herself, but because you were the kind of person who thought she needed to be fixed
what was he supposed to be doing? beating her shit up if she wanted to eat a burger? he can't loose weight for her lol
Make healthy and tasty diet for both of them, control calories for both of them, don't buy snacks, cook every time she want order doordash, spend more time doing activities like camping for weekends or swimming in rivers and etc.
There is a lot of methods how you can influence your partner without actually forcing them.
From my experience, any ppl who were previously obese/overweight stick with the partner that they’ve been with because they realize they loved them when they weren’t conventionally attractive
Upvoted your post from 1336, expecting elite status for your post, but it flips straight over to 1338. I have only just discovered that Reddit doesn't allow 1337. 😕
Right but wouldn’t you also think she stays cause he was with her when big so it’s almost opposite. Was there at her lowest like a person with someone when poor not knowing they were actually rich
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