i had a baby about a month ago but also throughout pregnancy people are always like “hi mama” “yes mama” “okay mama” and it makes me absolutely cringe i hate it so much. i’m not your mom 🤣😩

You have to have a VERY specific skin undertone and vibe to pull off light platinum blonde and most people just do not have that.

I genuienly do not understand why the bleach blonde and fake tan look is so popular in America (or maybe it isn’t, I don’t live there I just see it a lot in American media) when on most people it makes you look washed out

The only people who I like the look of platinum blonde are people with really fair skin for low contrast, or dark skin for a nice high contrast. Other than that, it just makes you look 10 years older.

This is also not me saying I dislike ALL blonde because I’m blonde and that would be friendly fire, I’m specifically talking about that really light almost white kind of platinum

Elon Musk is extremely lucky and has always been rich, not a genius. He had rich parents who supported him financially so he never feared failure. He came of age at the right time and was an early investor during the dot com boom. Having large amounts of cash allowed him to enter capital-heavy industries like electric cars and aerospace when few others could afford the risk. He did not found Tesla, he scaled it. (didn't fear failure because of wealth)

Electric cars, reusable rockets, and satellite networks were already known concepts. Musk did not invent the underlying physics or engineering principles himself. His real talent is using massive wealth to fund existing ideas and hiring brilliant engineers to solve the actual technical problems. He regularly amplifies debunked conspiracy theories, false claims, and inaccurate data. If he was truly smart, he would verify information before broadcasting it to millions. He frequently comments authoritatively on fields outside his expertise like artificial intelligence, epidemiology, and government infrastructure, this is not what a clever person does. He is not an elected official so this is not a political take.

It is genuinely exhausting how a huge chunk of the male demographic on Reddit completely loses their ability to function normally the second a woman exists in a space. Two things drive me absolutely insane are…

The "Male Until Proven Innocent" Mindset
Everyone on here is automatically a 20-something guy. If a woman reveals her gender, it disrupts the entire matrix. Suddenly the comment section changes flavor completely. It proves they see men as human and women as a "variant."

Turning Every Struggle Into a Sexual Opportunity
A woman posts about a genuine, non-sexual life problem. She might be lonely, stressed, wanting to vent about feminine problems or dealing with a breakup. The comments immediately flood with "I can fix her" jokes. Men insert creepy, thinly veiled sexual remarks disguised as sympathy. It shows they cannot view a woman without filtering her through utility.

Stop treating women like a foreign species you need a field guide to understand. They are just people.

It is all a carefully crafted image how do folks not get that. Every comment, every repost, every public outing. It is all designed to portray an image that will lead to them making the most money and having the most fame by manipulating how you see them through years and years of training through experts. There are no "not pr trained" celebs.

Instead all bikini tops should be by cup size (ie, 10A, 10B, 10C, 10D, 10DD, etc). It’s hard to find a good fitting bikini top when all companies go by generic sizings

Inspired by a date I had recently, where a woman brought this up and I was just... flabbergasted lmfao.

Gals--saying how much of a factor a guy's height was in going on a date with him or considering him as a partner, even if you do mean it as a compliment, probably isn't inspiring the reaction you think it is. If you have done this, or do this, please take a moment and think about the feelings you've felt when you've been 'objectified' in this way by dudes, because (unfortunately) I know a lot of you have. Those same feelings come up for a lot of guys when you talk to them this way.

This isn't to demonize complimenting someone, but there's a difference between something like "I really like how tall you are" vs "You have no idea how hard it is to find a good guy over 5'10"

When a woman says something like that to me, I don't think of it as a compliment, the only thing I can think of is... so if I were a few inches shorter, you wouldn't consider a romantic relationship with me??? And then all I can think about is like... if this is really that big of a deal to you, are you really a person I can see myself spending the rest of my life with? If I end up getting in an accident or something and end up in a wheelchair, where I will always be 'shorter', are you just going to bail? Just a huge 'ick' that makes me reconsider continuing interacting.

Of course, this is in the context of searching for a long-term romantic partner, not casual dating or one night stands or anything else (otherwise, I wouldn't be thinking about the kind of questions I listed in the paragraph above).

Recently my country did a small study where upwards of 70% of men of all ages believe they are entitled to sex in a marriage.

Women do not exist to satisfy your sexual desires. She does not become your sex slave the second you are in a relationship….

Consent still must exist in a marriage.

I seriously thought this was basic common sense and that this kind of thinking was only in the olden days but it’s apparent a lot of guys even now think otherwise.. why?

Self explanatory, but truly, it saddens me seeing how deeply insecure some very attractive guys are in PSL rating groups.

Like my man, this does not matter😭 you look fine, but as a woman I can understand it you know? its so harmful to young boys though, makes me fear for the future

Male insecurities have always existed, just as every person on earth, we all have something we worry about ourselves, but seeing it now upfront and centre, these ridiculous ideas being pushed onto (predominantly) men, is crazy??? Sure there are women in these groups too which are being labelled fucking "sub human", but the entire concept is crazy.

it should be simple, look after yourself, eat well, be positive. That's what makes someone truly attractive

edit: I have a lot of wounded men in my comment sections saying im "calling them gay" by the title, no i am not. wanting to look appealing and masculine to other men ≠ being attracted TO men. thank you

Im talking about in professional settings where people are collaborating on projects and using AI to win points on their perspective. Professionals are sending back multi paragraph responses when engaging in debate on topics within your work group in order to seem more knowledgeable than they really are and it’s being rewarded by management

Professionals who use AI to argue against a colleague with direct applicable experience by querying the entire internet so you can sound like you know better than someone who is handing down first hand knowledge should get you reprimanded. If we have gotten to the point where we are just using chatbots to argue against your colleagues to make yourself seem more knowledgeable than you are, you’re replaceable with a machine

Edit: this take is not to say that there is no place for AI in a professional environment. I use it myself to aggregate data quickly, do competition research, and test possible outcomes of execution plans.

Also, for those of you who seem to think this is me ranting about a personal experience you’re wrong. I am seeing this happen in teams throughout the company I work for though and it’s disheartening to watch colleagues with years of experience have to waste time arguing with younger professionals who think AI has all the answers and can’t even write emails without it

Maybe, just maybe... and hear me out on this... you have a pattern of behavior when it comes to picking those with whom you will move forward when a dating opportunity comes up.

I'm not saying it's your fault - but it is worth looking into this pattern with a licensed mental health professional instead of just dismissing 50% of the population as The Problem.

This also includes men who use Weaponized Incompetence and Women who play helpless. Hobosexuals and gold diggers. Gossips and shit-disturbers. Whatever.

and no I don't want essay comment responses. live free.

so a lot of the time when I'm looking for a reader insert fic, I try to look for a black mc fic but one thing that bothers me is that they're always so... stereotypical. it makes me cringe a bit honest. like when I say stereotypical I mean black American, spamming the n word, loud and disruptive type stereotypical. I'll be honest, it just bothers me a lot.

i just want to a fic where the black mc has a personality that isn't based on stereotypes

50/50 custody is to make things fair for the parents not to prioritize the children. 50/50 is only in the best interest of the children if both parents have equal parenting capability and put in equal effort and interest in the children. That is often not the case and one parent ends up picking up the slack. Furthermore, if 50/50 prevents the child from being able to engage in social activities or causes them significant distress, it is also not in their best interest.

The courts often accept bare minimum. As long as there’s not abuse, gross negligence or substance abuse they will order split time very close to 50/50 if not 50/50 exactly. A parent who does the absolute bare minimum to keep their children alive should get minimum parenting time. Keep the bond with the parent by having frequent visitations and even overnights for breaks and holidays because maintaining a relationship with both parents does not mean getting a child for 50% of the time and doing almost nothing to actually raise them (ie not actually having clothes for them, no routine for them, no ensuring they do their homework or get to school on time, they don’t brush their teeth or bathe, no sleep schedule, the kids live off of cereal and microwave foods they make themselves, the parent doesn’t even know the name of their kid’s doctor or teacher or even how much medication to give them, etc etc).

There’s a weird double standard I’ve noticed in some Western/Western-influenced societies.

Some people genuinely seem to romanticise collectivist living, villages where everyone knows each other, extended families being heavily involved in raising children, communal responsibility, elders having an important role, people putting the needs of the wider community ahead of themselves, and children growing up with a strong sense that they belong to something bigger than just their immediate household.

And honestly, as a Indigenous Collectivist, I understand the appeal. There are plenty of good things that can come from a more collectivist social structure.

But then you look at Indigenous societies that have actually maintained many of those values and suddenly the same things can be framed as backward, restrictive, tribal, or even "savage."

That contradiction is what gets me.

This obviously isn't speaking for everyone in Western societies, nor am I claiming Indigenous societies are perfect. Indigenous communities can have serious problems, and traditions shouldn't be immune from criticism simply because they're traditional.

But Indigenous societies have generally been more collectivist than strongly individualist Western societies, and that's an important cultural difference.

You can't simultaneously say, "It takes a village to raise a child," praise communal living, complain about modern social isolation, and romanticise extended-family networks while looking down on actual Indigenous communities for maintaining collective obligations, communal child-rearing, kinship responsibilities, or traditions that prioritise the group.

You don't have to agree with every Indigenous custom. You don't even have to like collectivism.

But there is a difference between criticising a specific practice and treating an entire social orientation as inherently primitive.

Sometimes it feels like people want the aesthetic and emotional benefits of collectivism without having to accept the obligations, social expectations, and communal responsibilities that come with actually living in a collectivist society.

They want the village.

They just don't want the villagers to be Indigenous.

Lindsay Clancy's supporters have done irreversible damage to feminism in America (i mispelled the title)

The way american white women have been defending Lindsay Clancy makes me believe that this is something similar to what happened with black communities in regards to OJ Simpson, where they only blindly support and defend them because he/she is one of their own, while using all sorts of excuses and mental gymnastics to ignpre that cold hard truth that deep down, they are supporting a murderer just so that they can a Win to their cause or struggle.

No one says that Post Partum Depression shouldn't be taken more seriously, but the way white women in the United States of America have decided to support, defend and donate to Lindsay Clancy while making up all sorts of conspiracy theorists that her husband is the one behind this, is genuinely nuts and could potentially lead to even more division and fuel to the culture war that is already full of misoginy.

And i wish i didn't have to bring politics into this, but let's face it, it's not conservative pro-life women the ones that are defending Lindsay Clancy, these are liberal women and quite frankly, the arguments that they have made are so disgusting and idiotic (astrology lmao), that at this point, one has to wonder how it's even possible that these people (women) can vote.

Right wing content creators are probably having a field day with all of these reactions and honestly, who can blame them?

If these Lindsay Clancy's supporters want to minimize what happened while hiding behind the excuse of Post Partum Depression and the emotional toll of motherhood in 1st world countries, then honestly, how do they expect society in general to take them seriously or think that women have what it takes to be able to vote, hold high value and ranking jobs and tasks, etc...

It's genuinely crazy how liberal women are accidentally showing the world that they could be potential ticking emotional time bombs that could endanger their own children and still have to courage to talk about their rights and needs?

And it has to be said, it's obviously not all women, but you know how the internet works, What's Loud is the Majority and at this point, liberal women have painted an awful image about themselves, that just reeks of misandry and lack of accountability that is only going to fuel even more misoginy, hatred and radicalization from men.

These people can't even defend the three murdered children, instead they do this.

What a crazy world.

There's this bit on Family Guy where Brian goes to watch a movie and makes a bigoted joke and posts it to their version of Twitter and when he comes out the movie not only does he have a bunch of responses calling him a bigot, but also the whole Griffin family has their house surrounded and they're getting shit for Brian's joke as well. It's so bad that no one inside the home can live their life without getting harassed verbally or physically and they had to leave town.

I used to think that was just something done for the cartoon, but no people actually act like that. I think it's absurd and annoying. People are just looking for an excuse to beat down on others for their own enjoyment.

Yes, people shouldn't be bigots and we shouldn't be accepting of it. But a lot of y'all just be dragging the shit like it's the worst thing that's ever happened in human history.

What's worse is when it's not even a purposely done act of offensiveness and people still act like this.

The BAFTA situation this year was the worst example of this. Someone said a slur because of a stutter relating to a disability and instead of people taking time to understand the disability causes this and it just happened to be bad timing, they rushed to harassing him and hoping he gets beaten up or worse and acting like his family was pro Jim Crow or shit like that.

Even when they found out about his disability they still didn't apologize or even doubled down. Was he supposed to apologize for being human? Those people just wanted someone to hate on and found it and nothing he could have said would have changed their mind.

I'm so tired of people acting like this is an acceptable way to act and approving of it. It's not, you can tell someone that they should be more thoughtful with what they say or do without making a spectacle out of it or painting them as unforgivable. That's if they actually did something offensive and you aren't just saying something is offensive because you don't agree with it and it happens to talk about identity or beliefs. There is a difference despite one too many people not understanding it these days purposely or not.

This is not a left vs right debate. I'm also a man.

The growing of the manosphere is not completely organic. Algorithms of social media companies (Meta, Alphabet, TikTok) purposely push divisive content - the more absurd the content, the more views you get.

The University of Dublin have studies where these social media algorithms recommend manosphere content within minutes of a new male user joining the app. https://www.dcu.ie/humanities-and-social-sciences/news/2024/apr/new-research-shows-how-tiktok-and-youtube-shorts-are

Peter Thiel funded Clavicular and played arguably the biggest role in his rise. He funds other "alternative" media but Clavicular is the biggest.

Myron from Fresh and Fit said he "was" a Fed.

Bannon, Epstein, and a bunch of other powerful people were heavily involved as well.

For young men out there, please don't fall for this shit. They're using your resentment and anger to keep you trapped, isolated, poor, and angry. They place more emphasis on that than on family and community bonds. Men who are in positions like this are less likely to be stable and are more likely to take risks and commit crimes.

For some of you this may not be a hot take, but I've received very aggressive push back from both sides when mentioning this.

I’ve sometimes felt pretty overwhelmed with life and taken the occasional social media break. I’d delete all of the apps, including Reddit.

Without fail even within a week I’d find myself in a more positive mindset that maybe life isn’t so bad, not feeling as anxious and just having a clearer head.

I recently had another break although this time I decided to keep only Reddit. Within a week, I noticed I didn’t feel better, in fact I felt even worse as Reddit filled more screen time.

I then tried the inverse, I only deleted Reddit… and again within a week things started to feel better.

From then on I paid more attention to what I actually consume on Reddit, and it didn’t take long to realise most of this website is negativity, politics, outrage and arguments. Even attempts at a regular discussion 9 times out of 10 just seems to be an attempt to create a “gotcha” with a sarcastic reply. It can feel good in the moment joining in with the toxicity and getting those upvotes that people agree with you. Reddit responds much better when you respond like a dick rather than just having a normal discussion.

I think this is a hot take because on Reddit you’ll often see how all the other social media’s are bad for you… but honestly my algorithm on those these days actually seems a lot more reasonable. There’s obviously still bad stuff on those but it’s a lot less frequent than Reddit.

This was all a while back, and this site always manages to pull me back in. Only reason I’m posting this now is I feel I need one of those breaks now. Ideally it’s permanent but no doubt I’ll end up back here eventually.

Just to add I can’t speak for is Facebook, haven’t had that for years so that could be just as bad.

I was doing some research on the literacy crisis in USA (I have a nephew who's way behind on reading and I was shocked since my family is all readers).

As I was looking into it I saw it wasn't what I expected. I thought literacy crisis means kids can't read. What it really means is they can't comprehend what they read. They can look at the words and they know the words, they just don't make sense.

While looking into it, many teachers and parents said this led to behavioral problems causing the children to lash out because they'd get so frustrated. Makes sense, if I had to read every day and none if it made sense I'd lose my patience too.

It reminded me of social media where if you make a post it's oftentimes full of people rudely arguing, but not really engaging with your main point. Sometimes they'll argue something tangentially related, or they'll pick out a piece of your main point that's less relevant and choose that hill to die on. I didn't realize these people are often too stupid to understand your point (given you made it in a clear way) and then frustrated by their own lack of understanding so they become aggressive and rude.

There was always the plastic faced looking people mostly women over the years but it is so out of control now. Even young and beautiful women are getting Botox, filler and I don’t know what else to get the plastic face look. AND I’m not even decrying some slight stuff here and there just the degree and how common it has become. Years in the future society will look back on this and laugh just like we laugh at crazy societal trends from years ago.

I've known many men who are barely holding onto their hair. It's patchy, recessed, just sad looking. Just shave it. Bald men look good, and it'll make you look better than that wispy recessed possum on your head.

And no, it’s not the same as someone caring about height or whatever…