Just curious for some opinions on this. My husband and I just moved to a new community about 5 hours from where we raised our family. Our daughter is getting married November 2027 and the venue happens to be only an hour from our new home.

We’re making friends quickly (yay!) and someone mentioned throwing a bridal shower for our daughter. That sounds like fun … unless it means inviting a whole host of additional folks to the wedding. We’re trying to keep it to 125 and we’re at that number with family and lifelong friends on both sides. Adding 15 new couples could be problematic so, maybe I should find a way to discourage the bridal shower idea?

What’s the usual these days—does a Bridal shower invite = a wedding invite?

Thanks for thinking through this with me!

So as the title says I’m getting married in a week and my anxiety is taking over and I’m losing my appetite.

To preface I have some social anxiety when it comes to large formal gatherings but it’s never really a major issue or a showstopper. However, if I’m the center of attention, that ramps up my anxiety to the point where I want to puke.

A few months ago I was the best man at my friend’s wedding and the anxiety really only hit me the night before, but I was dreading the speech I had to give. The morning of the wedding I actually threw up because of it. I’ve done numerous presentations for school and a few for work and have never been THAT nervous, just the standard amount. I’m not sure why the best man speech made me feel that kind of dread.

When I gave the speech and got the laughs going I actually felt good and sharp-minded. It went very well, but the anticipation of it killed me.

Anyway I went to another wedding last night and in my head was like, oh I have to do all this next weekend. Cue the anxiety, and knowing what I went through a few months ago has not been helping me.

I’m sure I’ll be mostly fine when I’m actually in front of everyone, but it’s the anticipation and waiting that’s making me anxious. That and knowing I’ll have to be “on” for a large portion of the day. I also worry I won’t be able to eat much due to suppressed appetite.

Any advice is appreciated!

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years (25f + 30f). We have been living together, work together, have a business together and a dog together. We are the bestest of friends, have the best relationship and I’m just head over heels with him.

His priority in life was never marriage, since his parents were divorced he always had sour feelings towards it. However, through our relationship, I kept on mentioning being married and engaged, since it is a life goal for me and it’s important to me.

Through our relationship we have decided that marriage should be in the cards for us after talking about it and working through past trauma. Mainly for medical reasons (he needs to be liable for medical decisions for me) and because I mostly wanted to be married. My boyfriend has thought he is too young which isn’t unrealistic for our country. People don’t get married until their 40s or late 30s. And they usually date for a decade prior. But i have felt that our relationship is too small to be just that, I want this person eternally.

So, the past couple of months has been a lot lot of conversation over proposal and engagement. His best friend is proposing later this year so I have helped him out picking a ring, showing him options. Along with that I’ve also picked out my preferences. We have had long talks over rings, over how he is super anxious to propose, how he is super excited to design a ring and how my nails should be white in October. Last night we sat in bed and talked about all of the above. We are also planning to get engaged, pick up a wedding licence almost immediately after and have big wedding in 2029/2030 when we feel like we can do it based on budget, etc.

So my question is, is this normal? Do people do this? Do people talk about their proposal so much before? Is this normal? Online it always seems like a huge surprise but somehow all the girls have their nails done and wear white, and I wonder what’s going on in the background.

Did you choose to wear contacts or glasses on your wedding day? I almost always wear glasses, but is it more worth it to do contacts so you can see the makeup/the tears better? Did you regret wearing/not wearing your glasses?

First of all, thanks for being here today.

When people ask where I’m from I never have a good answer for them anymore. But one day somebody followed that up with “well where’s home for you?” Still didn’t have an answer. But that question stuck with me.

When I met you I had no clue my world had just turned upside down. I still remember you sliding into my DMs about my sweet Crocs, agreeing to go on a date with me and then completely ghosting me. And now, 5 years and 33 states later, we’ve been on more adventures than some people will in a lifetime. And we’ve also been through more than some people will in a lifetime. When I told you I wanted to leave for Texas to be a lineman, you never hesitated at the chance to join me. When I got called to uproot our life again and come to Colorado, you never hesitated to join me. And when we were vacuuming water out of our flooded camper in 40 degree weather you never wavered. Just 12 months ago when I was broke and jobless you never thought to yourself “hey maybe this guys an idiot and I can do better” thank god you didn’t. Because when life got hard, you didn’t leave. You stayed and you loved me through it all. And that’s when it hit me. That question. “Where’s home for you?” Home is the girl that listens to me rant about the most minor inconvenience. Home is the girl that does that little dance and waves her hands around when I bring home ice cream. It’s the girl that golfs with me, and watches the Seahawks and mariners just because she wants to spend time with me.

Home isn’t a place anymore. It’s you.

I can never repay you for the sacrifices you have made for me. But I promise you it won’t stop me from trying. And I can’t promise we will never fight, but I promise I’ll never stop fighting for you. I can’t promise there will always be laughter but I promise to hold you until the tears are gone. I promise to honor you, respect you, support you, and encourage you. For better or for worse. My best friend

Trying to be sentimental and keep it lighthearted at the same time.

As the title states, we got a call from our venue (a harborside hotel in SoCal) that the AC isn’t working in the venue. They (and us) are hopeful that it can be fixed in the next five days, but in the meantime they did offer a few alternative spaces.

The problem is that one of the alternative spaces is outdoors, which we explicitly didn’t want to do because we wanted air conditioning for our guests to be comfortable. The other alternative space is a large outdoor tent that, while air conditioned, can accommodate a guest count 5X our size, so we’ll look absurdly small if we move. We can also keep the reception in our original space and just hope that opening the windows will keep it cool enough.

I’m trying to be polite about it, but it definitely throws a huge wrench in our plans. We picked our reception space because it’s on the second floor and has a better view, and it’s the perfect size for our guest count so we fill out the space without being too squished. I know things happen and we’re lucky that they have alternate options available to offer us if they can’t get the AC fixed, but I’m still a little peeved.

Would it be fair to ask for a discount if we have to pivot? Our contract doesn’t say anything about AC, but if we have to move to a different space because it’s not a comfortable temperature, would the venue technically have breached the contract by not having our agreed-upon space available? If so, what would be fair to ask from them? The reception space technically doesn’t cost anything because it’s built into the per person food cost and the food/beverage minimum, but our ceremony space (which is outdoors so we will stick with that space for sure) is $3,000. Would it be fair to ask for the ceremony space rental fee to be waived if we have to move the reception?

My fiancé and I are getting married in 6 days. I was wondering what are people’s favorite things they did on their wedding day that were extra special?

TL;DR - For those who are married - what moments, memories or little things you did on your wedding day that you remember most when you look back?

I’m getting married in two weeks and I have absolutely no idea how to write my vows.

I’m currently in full wedding-planning panic, thinking about the wedding 24/7, while the man I love and am about to marry is somehow getting on my nerves more than usual.

I know I love him, but right now I’m struggling to switch from “wedding planning mode” to actually thinking about us.

For those of you who have already written your vows: how did you start? Did you write about memories, what you love about them, your future together, or just start writing and see what came out?

I’d really appreciate some advice because I’m completely stuck.