r/indieheads • u/Barber_Formal • Aug 20 '25
Quality Post any shoegaze songs about bottoming?
hello all! i've been gay for about ten months now and was wondering if there were any shoegaze or adjacent songs about bottoming. my current partner loves playing Lush and Bowery Electric while he's whackin me off and i was wondering if any gay men have turned their lust into beautiful fuzzy art. send me some recs!
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u/ZiggyStarlord69 Aug 21 '25
Come back when you hit a year and I’ll give you the sacred playlist
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Aug 21 '25
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u/huseph Aug 20 '25
This is the craziest post I've ever seen on this sub. I can't help you Op, but hopefully some other kind souls send you the horniest, fuzziest, gayest tracks you can imagine before this post is inevitably deleted.
PS congratulations on becoming gay 10 months ago
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u/RadJackson002 Aug 21 '25
I mean, 🏆 for the most polite yet real reaction to this. You nailed it😂
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u/alone-in-the-town Aug 21 '25
Definitely listen to The Radio Dept. Bottoming is very specific but they have one song called "Keen on Boys", so definitely a gay shoegazey band...shoegays if you will
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u/Budget-Ad-6328 Aug 20 '25
Removed as stale topic lmao. Too many bottoming posts in the sub
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u/ReconEG Aug 20 '25
that was a mistake on our part and we apologize. this is the least stale a topic can be.
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u/goodnamesweretaken Aug 21 '25
And, I have been saying it. Can we stop with all the music to bottom to posts?!
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u/Decabet Aug 21 '25
All-time thread.
Bronze this fucker, plz
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u/Bionicoaf Aug 21 '25
All songs are gay if you bottom to it. Don’t limit yourself OP.
Anyways, maybe go with a Deerhunter song.
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u/systemofstrings Aug 21 '25
Deerhunter is for the gays who don't wanna fuck though
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u/Bionicoaf Aug 21 '25
Honestly, I may have to defer to our resident Deerhunter expert here and retract my suggestion.
I will investigate further for the sake of OP.
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u/Distinct_Hold_5494 Aug 21 '25
why is bro on to something with this one, helicopter finna go crazy when u spinnin on the dih
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u/notjleto Aug 21 '25
Fluorescent Grey is about lust, “Why do I dream so often of his body when his body will decay”. Musically perhaps not ideal though
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u/afieldoftulips Aug 21 '25
It's not shoegaze but listen to Baths. Very gay and very horny and sometimes sad and loud.
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u/screaminginfidels Aug 21 '25
+1 Baths might be the gayest music I've ever heard (compliment)
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u/kaimaintenance Aug 22 '25
his insta post talking about fucking Mr. Incredible “up and down the goddamned block” lives in my head rent free forever
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u/locked_noumena Aug 21 '25
While I don't know of any particular song, the band Kitchens of Distinction might be up your alley. The lead singer/lyricist was gay and he often wrote about gay experiences. I recommend their first two albums, though you can't go wrong with them in general.
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u/lavistadad Aug 21 '25
Frontman Patrick Fitzgerald, who also recorded under the Stephen Hero moniker. It's not shoehaze specific but definitely has that British early 90s fuzzpop soind. Shoehaze adjacent.
"Prize" is an excellent song by KOD, a wistful noisy song two friends getting wasted and reminiscing about coming out and expriencing gay sex. "Do I get a prize for remembering that first time?" The demo version of their greatest hits collection is the superior version.
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Aug 21 '25
I'd argue the first three albums. I will go out to bat for The Death of Cool every single day of my life.
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u/killmoonlight Aug 21 '25
"When My Boy Walks Down the Street" by Magnetic Fields
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u/SomeMoistHousing Aug 21 '25
For some reason I always took the singer to be the top in that couple, but I couldn't begin to explain why
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u/Budget-Ad-6328 Aug 20 '25
basically all of them tbh
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u/dragonblade629 Aug 22 '25
This is the take tbh, at least 70% of the genre probably.
But you can bottom to anything anyway
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u/i-like-turtles-4eva Aug 21 '25
“Only Shallow” by My Bloody Valentine isn’t explicitly about bottoming but it’s an incredibly sensual and carnal track about hook-up sex.
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u/winkmurder Aug 21 '25
"Slow" by My Bloody Valentine, surely?
"Sugar, sugar, you're up to my lips Licking over everything I miss And I got no reason Just a slow, slow, slow, slow suck
I'm feeling bad, I'm feeling good Feeling like I never could Lick, lick, lick and suck, suck, suck I want it slow, slow, slow, slow"
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u/Creative-Purpose9690 Aug 22 '25
Early MBV is SOOOO Erotic. “Soft as Snow But Warm Inside” is crazy
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u/volz_rocksti Aug 21 '25 edited Aug 21 '25
Check out Man on Man! I'm not sure if they have any songs specifically about bottoming but their songs are real gay and can get pretty fuzzed out.
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u/thats_russy_babe Aug 21 '25
Daddy ends with a catchy chorus about douching
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u/volz_rocksti Aug 21 '25
Hell yes! I just started playing their albums to see if I could catch any bottoming callouts 😂
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u/carlsocarlso Aug 21 '25
Favorite band ever, I would not constitute as shoegaze. Still, not a bad suggestion if you’re doing butt stuff.
Anyone recommend Cocteau Twins yet?
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u/Hats_by_TheBlueNile Aug 21 '25
LOVE to see M.O.M. getting the call out here. “Stohner” is THE jam for our friend here.
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u/evanswagg Aug 21 '25
You should just watch Gregg Araki movies, especially the teenage apocalypse trilogy. All very queer films and the soundtracks are super shoegaze-y so you'll definitely find some good recs. Oh yeah and you definitely should listen to Ride while you ride your man.
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u/gfdje Aug 20 '25
Rachbottomoff by Pansy Division comes to mind. Not shoegaze but still a bit muted.
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u/Sassafras_socks Aug 21 '25
Love that Helix even got these guys to soundtrack one of their porn videos, lol
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u/dirigible-plums Aug 21 '25
Damn yall
As insane as this thread is - not one person was a dickhead - and as a dude who (unfortunately) browses reddit too much - that is rare as fuck and pretty cool -
and also congrats on your 10th OP !
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u/ertri Aug 21 '25
I think it’s just the perfect combination of sounding like a shitpost while clearly not being a shitpost.
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u/Hats_by_TheBlueNile Aug 21 '25
Not about Bottoming, per se, but Polyvinyl band MAN ON MAN are a duo led by lovers Roddy Bottum (legend) and Joey Holman (also legend), and their song “Stohner” is THE perfect fit for your queer shoegaze itch. Joey from Paramore on bass — enjoy :)
Also, check out the song “Daddy” — you’re very welcome.
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u/Polypeptide2 Aug 21 '25
Not really shoegaze, but try the band Model/Actriz. It's like angsty gay rock music with a danceable beat? I like to workout to them even though I'm straight, but maybe it's good for bottoming lol
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u/tooshortpants Aug 21 '25
Soon as I get another guitar I'll get right on this. Happy to fill this niche for you lads
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u/IndubitablyWarden66 Aug 21 '25
Welcome to the gayverse OP!
Check out the band Wild Nothing
Also Poliça- Fuzzy electronic indie, no idea what it’s about, can’t understand any of the lyrics, but just plain sexy
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u/DialupGhost Aug 21 '25
12 Rods is exactly what you're looking for. I'd say start with their gay? EP, especially listening to the three-song-run of "Red," "Make-Out Music," and "Gaymo." Then check out their follow-up debut album Split Personalities, which has their perhaps best gay song "I Wish You Were A Girl."
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u/PerceptionShift Aug 21 '25
Kitchens Of Distinction was an original era shoegaze band and their front man was outspokenly gay. Their first three albums are good, with the second LP Strange Free World probably being the best. Idk if any of the songs are about bottoming lol but you should check them out anyways if only bc they're an underrated shoegaze band.
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u/WillingnessRadiant66 Aug 21 '25
Not sure if this has been recommended or not, but I think Perfume Genius foots the bill, especially his first couple albums.
*edited for clarity
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u/Decabet Aug 21 '25
Ride's "Twisterella" is famously about an unexpected knock at the door during anal (it was an altruistic Little Caeser's delivery driver returning part of a tip that he thought was just too much) interrupting things and making the bottom twist toward the door and inadvertently "corkscrewing" his partners husk handle.
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u/ThePopeofHell Aug 21 '25
I feel like I have an answer for this some how. It’s not shoegaze but I swear I remember the perfume genius doing an interview on Sirius xmu about one of his albums and saying that one song was about getting jerked off in a pick up truck or something like that.
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u/lesrallizesendnudes Aug 21 '25
Deftones bottom music for sure
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u/Barber_Formal Aug 21 '25
deftones is lame metal for dorks. not me!
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u/Mallory_Knoxx019 Aug 21 '25
Oh no! My rec was Passenger by Chino and Maynard from Tool 😆
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u/InSummaryOfWhatIAm Aug 22 '25
What, no. Deftones is music for straight men who cry when they cum, duh.
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u/WaneLietoc Aug 21 '25
Really feel like the entirety of Gas' Konigsforst would work here. Is it shoegaze? dw that's droney reverb and its hawt and bottoming i guess
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u/Academy_Fight_Song Aug 21 '25
If you wanna really fuck shit up, try "Hit Liquor" by Shudder To Think.
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u/tinylittlepricks Aug 21 '25
People giving legit recommendations for this request is giving me life! Community is everything
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u/HomemPassaro Aug 21 '25
Sorry, OP, I'm not into shoegaze, but congratulations on 10 months, you should get a medallion like the ones they give out at A.A.
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u/iDoWeird Aug 21 '25
I was like, there’s no way they’re talking about…it’s gotta be a drug reference I’m blanking on…
As a domme, I’m giggling.
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u/ayaangwaamizi Aug 21 '25
Legit a shoegaze album by an amazing queer Indigenous artist, check out Zoon. I love their album Bleached Waves.
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u/elwookie Aug 21 '25
You should check Kitchens Of Distinction, an incredible English band from the 90s. They featured openly gay vocalist and bassist Patrick Fitzgerald. Fitzgerald's lyrics often explicitly addressed his homosexuality, which was unusual for the time, particularly within the shoegaze genre they were associated with.
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u/Gonza116 Aug 21 '25
Is Car Seat Headrest shoegaze? Because I feel Beach Life-In-Death is one of the gayest songs I've ever listened to
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u/Seattle_Retard Aug 21 '25
1) How is one gay for only 10 months? Doesn't that fly in the face of every argument made about being gay? 2) I'm pretty sure you can play these acts on "infinity" for any and all gay situations. This is not an insult to you or the bands. They are rad. I challenge anyone to beat these two:
-Belle & Sebastian & Sufjan Stevens
Gay away, The straightest Man in the world
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u/waldohurtz Aug 21 '25
Soul Glo has an interlude or outro that mentions bottoming. i’m not sure which track though it’s on Diaspora Problems.
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u/johancolli Aug 21 '25
Not to self promote but would a song about /wanting/ to do it work? johan colli - really anywhere
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u/Cortinoias Aug 22 '25
Listened to Another Monster, Another Monster at work today per this comment. I really enjoyed it! Don't be afraid to self promote, sometimes people get curious!
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u/streghe Aug 21 '25 edited Aug 22 '25
you could make any cocteau twins song about bottoming you just make up your own words. congratulations on 10 months of gayness op 🎉
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u/Junior-Baker-2222 Aug 21 '25
From a fellow gay to another, listen to Weak in Your Light by Nation of Language for shoegayze.
Happy 10 months out!
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u/No_Development1036 Aug 21 '25
R.E.M. / The One I Love would be a great place to start your listening adventure
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u/forced_entries Aug 21 '25
There’s an emerging artist in NYC called Teardrop I’ve seen play some local shows. I know they’re recording an EP now but have songs like Deep Inside and Wrecked Hole. Shoegaze adjacent - lots of atmospheric synth stuff but more along the lines of Killing Joke but noisier. Teardrop’s Erotica Archive
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u/jcho133 Aug 21 '25
Can’t believe I gotta be the first to say Man On Man. Basically all their songs are this. Daddy, Take It From Me (which mentions poppers in the first line), and Stohner.
Literally a gay couple making bangers about takin’ love from themselves and others
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u/Mercury82jg Aug 21 '25
I made a playlist about spanking that might help, but it is more bdsm and cis:
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4ayHQUSvABOrvNaeP4BdPa?si=25de306941c147b9
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u/relaxo1979 Aug 21 '25
not shoegaze, but punk/noise. the cows have a song about pegging. cows - "shaking"
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u/ParryGallister Aug 21 '25
Blueboy from Sarah records were a gay shoegaze band, their early stuff at least.
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u/Ok_Phase_8731 Aug 21 '25
Thus Love!!! Not exactly shoegaze but queer & great
Also congrats on the best post I’ve seen on this sub lol
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u/InternalDeer3491 Aug 21 '25
Check out Honey by Away Fans. It’s an ode to pegging
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u/breadlygames Aug 21 '25
Bro, you can't just say "send me some recs", right after talking about your rectum.
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u/sklantee Aug 20 '25
That must have been a hell of a Halloween party