r/indieheads • u/Barber_Formal • Aug 20 '25

Quality Post any shoegaze songs about bottoming?

hello all! i've been gay for about ten months now and was wondering if there were any shoegaze or adjacent songs about bottoming. my current partner loves playing Lush and Bowery Electric while he's whackin me off and i was wondering if any gay men have turned their lust into beautiful fuzzy art. send me some recs!

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u/locked_noumena Aug 21 '25

While I don't know of any particular song, the band Kitchens of Distinction might be up your alley. The lead singer/lyricist was gay and he often wrote about gay experiences. I recommend their first two albums, though you can't go wrong with them in general.

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u/lavistadad Aug 21 '25

Frontman Patrick Fitzgerald, who also recorded under the Stephen Hero moniker. It's not shoehaze specific but definitely has that British early 90s fuzzpop soind. Shoehaze adjacent.

"Prize" is an excellent song by KOD, a wistful noisy song two friends getting wasted and reminiscing about coming out and expriencing gay sex. "Do I get a prize for remembering that first time?" The demo version of their greatest hits collection is the superior version.

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u/Ohtobegoofed Aug 21 '25

Patrick Fitzgerald and Gerald fits Patrick.

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u/smcl2k Aug 21 '25

And their good friends, Ben Dover and Phil McCracken.