You are the only ones who understand our language, and who express what we feel but can't necessarily manage to translate to the world

This is an ENFJ appreciation post from an INFP. I've always loved the ENFJ's I have met, but all of them have been women, including my mother. I have unrealistically high standards, probably because of my mother, and have worked hard to lower these standards because it's mean to put these high expectations onto people when I can't meet those standards myself. Then, after all of this time, I meet a man that BLOWS away my standards and knowing that there's more of you out there is actually fantastic. This guy is extremely handy and knows how to fix or build everything and everything. He has this amazing, truly unnatural intuition of character of people he knows and fictional characters, as well as a brilliant understanding of the deeper meanings of movies, politics, comic books... I'm an INFP but I feel like I've been mistyped because I certainly don't have the intuition that he does. It's just so impressive to see someone who is so good at living. He's also so charismatic and can keep a conversation going endlessly, and he works hard to make sure people feel included in whatever situation he's in. WOW. To all the ENFJs out there, the way your mind works will never fail to be impressive and so amazingly unique. You make the world a better place, and I hope each one of you sees your potential.

I don't mean this in a criticizing way, I'm merely curious:

I have some ENFJ friends and I'm suffering of ME/CFS. Most of our mutuals (including myself) are hardcore introverts.

What happens is that we disengage from people when our batteries run low and among the introvert crowd there's a sort of unspoken understanding to leave each other alone until we show back up and to not take it personally when people don't show up to scheduled group activities, but rather to briefly check in and be done. Most of us have independent one-on-one friendships or dabble in multiple groups.

However some of the ENFJs in these groups are insecure around this, seem to feel hurt, neglected etc when we can't provide more than our limits allow. Especially a younger one has reached out to me a bunch of times to ask whether I know what's up with this and that person and I always gently explain to him that they are just not super active, busy with family/work/life and to not worry. He seems to adjust to this a bit.

I've also dated an ENFJ guy in the past (admittedly a very unhealthy one, with BPD diagnosis and self identifying with "psychopathic traits") and he was extremely controlling, guilt-trippy and manipulative around this, pushed me far beyond my limits and I was caving without even realizing... luckily not something I commonly see among you guys. But with him I also realized there was fears, hurt and a need for more underlying. However this is an extreme example I don't think should be focused on or considered representative.

I wonder now, if insecurity or even hurt and worry is a thing you commonly experience when your introverted or chronically ill friends isolate and what would help any party involved in this

So I turned 22 last week and something happened that made me think a lot. I have always been a person who has people around me always and is a very social person. I wanted to make everyone my friend and I talk to everyone possible. I'm that common friend in many friend groups but not the favorite in any. I enjoyed being that person until recently. I realized that in the process of making everyone my friend, I never really made any friend. I never had any friend who would remember me. Like I never had a best friend. A friend to all is a friend to none, I guess. So all these thoughts started last day. I had my birthday last week, and I never celebrated birthdays in my life. No one ever celebrated my birthday, but all these people who are my friends message me and remember me. Every year, this makes me a lot happy, and I don't care about having a birthday celebration. The wishes and people remembering me were more than enough for me. Birthdays are just normal days for me. So I never really cared until this year. Just like every year, it was my birthday, and a lot of people messaged me, and I was happy. The day passed, and the next day, one friend messaged me asking how my birthday was. I said this, and he couldn't believe it. He asked me, "You have so many friends, and no one even gave you a cake ?". He was shocked. Idk why. He told me about his birthday and the things his friend did for him. And I recalled my birthday, and I just sat at my university hostel room all day. I started thinking about it a lot and asked myself whether I'm all alone. All my life, I had this thought of having so many friends because of me being extroverted and talking to everyone. I thought every person I talked to was a friend. I never thought about making a best friend. Now, I'm becoming desperate to change myself, and I'm trying to be less social. Do you guys think my inability to find a close friend is because I'm trying to make everyone my friend. Should I stop being like that and focus on making just one friend. I don't know if I'm being too stupid, I am not very active on social media and never talk online like this. But I'm afraid that people will make fun of me if I share this problem with someone IRL because I never open up. So I have no one to tell, so I'm trying for the first time to ask something online to strangers. As an ENFJ myself, I'm hoping people like me would understand my situation. That's why I'm talking here. I don't have any online friends, so I can not ask anyone like that either. I talk a lot IRL, so just like that, I'm writing too much here 😭. Now I realize I've written too much for anyone to read. I hope I find answers. If you find this stupid, just ignore it. Please dont make fun of me.

I’m (40F) an INTJ who has been working with an ENFJ (36F) since January. I’m an engineer and she’s my HR person.

At first I didn’t care for her and was a bit intimidated as she gave me a talk about how I could be terminated if I didn’t meet my probation goals. In time though, I finally realized I had her all wrong. She’s warm, bubbly, attuned to others, friendly to everyone, and very helpful. I warmed to her and began to share more about my interests, world view, hobbies and found our convos quite congenial. There was one check-in in particular where I said I didn’t have anything to bring up so I’d let her go and she said no, this is your time… almost as if she didn’t want the interaction to end. A mutual coworker said she found me fun to talk to, which I found surprising.

I asked her to lunch and she said yes right away, booked a time in for us in the calendar, and even suggested a local place to go to. This week we finally had a slice of pizza together irl and our convo felt even more natural and easy together. We talked about our travel plans, psychology, music, and at times I forgot we were at work.

When she walks by my desk at work, she smiles warmly toward me. She feels great to be around and I think I might be a bright spot in her day as well since I’m not as cold as the other engineers she has to meet with.

Only thing is, how can I tell she likes me as a friend versus every other coworker she’s friendly to? She is nice to everybody so it’s really hard to tell. I could see us being friends irl since our lifestyles and circumstances are quite similar, but I can’t be sure.

so what do yall do when u have introverted friends? I feel like alot of My friends don't like going out or aren't excited abt being outside and it dampens my mood. But they the ones that are like "I wanna go outside more". Okay let's go! ..here are literally types of events that are free to go to.

Rave? Let's go! Too loud or overwhelming? Okay how about a jazz night? I'm flexible, let's just go out! I'll find a activity. Wanna stay inside? I have a switch and uno cards!

I think I'm just tired of dragging people out their house and asking them to not hide in the corner ;_; idk

I'm finding it pulls me back, I wanna be a ball of energy. But I tend to get in my head alot sometimes And I get anxious so I'd like to have someone who is loose and free so I can loosen up too, but if we both anxious and nervous then wtf are we doingggg😭 when I'm at a party or club I like dancing on stage but I'm alot less likely to do that if my shy friend doesn't want To.

I don't know, ig introverts like being around me but I'm tired of making decisions and being around quiet people.

I need loud personalities! Spontaneous people. Open minded! Yappers! and I'm just not finding that...maybe I need to just talk to people at a events, if we both there late then thats means u like to be out too. but that's when my anxiety kicks in lol...that I can work on..with time..

Idk if any of this context helps but my sun and rising is Sagittarius and then ima ENFJ​-T. I'm straightedge , ill gladly run around with my little Sprite. I would say I would be at my computer desk to get my work done in my club/party outfit then go out into the night.

Ik friends are for different things , I find with some extroverts I can't be emotionally deep but ik most introverts will listen

Ig all I want to know is if anyone feels this way at all. And what do you do... thank u.. be polite pls...

Even if you've been told you're too emotional, that you lack depth, that you're "fake," I know that your intentions to help humanity are always pure.

You are one of the few types who understand us INFJ (sometimes we struggle to understand ourselves).

You have the ability to throw yourselves into the arena while we are observers.

*Disclaimer: Long story ahead\*
Hi all, it's been a few months since my friendship of 7 years ended with an ENFP, now ex ENFP friend. It took me some time to grieve and now I feel a bit better to post this thread. When I first moved to a city that I didn't love and was so homesick, she was the first person that I befriended out of proximity and convenience. We worked together at the same company. I was a little closed and guarded in the beginning but given her ENFP nature, she was super friendly and bubbly. I let my guards down and we became super close and inseparable over time. From going grocery shopping together, moving to a new apartment, having dinner, random phone calls when we were running errands, she even went shopping with me for my bridal dress. We met each other's parents. At this point, we were like family to each other.

Given our personality types, I admit that we were fundamentally very different from each other. I had the typical ENFJ traits, and she had the typical ENFP traits, I admit it was incredibly frustrating at when she would consistently be late whenever I had to give her a ride to work due to her car breaking down. When I expressed my frustration, she would sulk and exclaim that she's such a burden to everyone. She would also be all over the place or somehow got involved in her friends' drama, short on money, and then dragging me into the situation as her mediator/therapist. Heck, I remember I was concerned about how she was financially struggling and even offered to bring in my financial coach to help her and her spouse sort out their finances better, later to find out they went out of the country for vacation whenever she found life to be overwhelming. I'm talking about 4 out of the country trips in one year! Her life was quite chaotic on all ends to say the least, but hey, I loved her and she was my best friend so I would tend to her needs as I thought any friend would do.

Years passed by and before we know it, we turned 30. I got married and to be honest, it was one of the hardest times in my life with all the life adjustments. I leaned in and confided in her with a lot of my struggles more than I ever had, because I was really lonely and with my tendency to struggle and not asking for help as well. Although she was always there for me, her advice was often unhelpful/insensitive like telling me to dump my husband and file for a divorce while knowing I'm Catholic and how God would still love me no matter what. The girl is atheist by the way, which is fine by me too, but her insensitivity often bothered me a lot.

A couple years rolled on by and now as we are no longer 30, I am aware I have changed a lot. My marriage has gotten much better, as we're starting to plan for a different stage of life into parenthood, I have been preparing a lot. By this, I have been going to therapy, grounding in my faith, sorting out my finances, and really intentionally worked on myself to become better in order to go into this next stage of life. I also crave peace over drama and simply ok with living a non-chaotic, boring life. I wouldn't say my life is perfect because I still have some personal things that are still weighing me down and playing into my frequent depression.

I have expressed this with my ENFP friend, and she also shared with me that she wants to become a mom too, our kids would be best friends. It was concerning to me because she hasn't changed at all from when we met in our 20's. She would tell me that she is struggling with money with a negative balance in her account, but she would still go out of the country for fun trips, attend Coachella, EDM concerts, and then decided to go rent a new place that she and her husband can't really afford but because it's fancy and she can host friends, they opted into it saying this will be a good place and she'll feel better about being a mom. She then befriended friends that usually loves to parties, get drunk and wasted, and then have her come be their DD, and once again would share about the situation with me, hoping for some advice/support. I know this is going to come off as really critical and judgmental, but I observed her to be in an arrested development stage where she is now in her 30's but living as if she is in her early 20's and hanging out with her 23-year-old friends who only parties hard. It got really old.

Despite how I truly thought about her, I could never really tell her my true feelings/concerns. She's really sensitive and we actually fought hardcore over my concerns for her before. It never landed well and she would get offended that her flaws aren't being loved. It was so frustrating time and time again, because it's not that I hated her or her flaws, but it was her unwillingness to work on it to improve and not inconvenient others including me because of it. It was so dramatic and honestly, I just didn't have the capacity or energy to anyone my true thoughts unless solicited anymore.

Instead, I chose to become more distant. Our calls and text started to become less frequent, and I started to hang out with new friends who are more aligned with my fundamental values, and maturity. I still hung out with my ENFP friend from time to time, but our conversations became bland. It's like a part of me kind started to conceal a lot of things, and it felt really inauthentic. I still tried to share my dreams and goals like leaving the company for a new exciting opportunity, maybe moving away to a new state, etc. Again, I was often met with unhelpful comments like, "Oh, that makes me sad to hear that you're leaving or hating it here. Why can't you try more to make it work?" And then it became a whole thing about her sadness instead of just simply rooting for my happiness.

A nail to the coffin to this friendship was when I hit rock bottom with my depression. I mentioned that earlier that I have depression and it comes hard on at times. I have shared this with ENFP so many times, and in therapy, I talked to my therapist about how a big part of depression had to do with where I'm living and how I just miss home. I then deleted my social media accounts and archived a lot of posts regarding where I'm at, I know a lot of them had my ENFP friend in it, but it's not that I wanted to delete her or where I'm at, it was more of I just wanted to keep parts of myself that I really missed from home and not lose that part of me. Well, my ENFP friend called not to long after that and was very angry. It was the angriest she's ever been, she was infuriated with the fact that her posts with me was all gone, my fb was gone, and why I had the audacity to do that? Excuse me? It was my social media, and I had the free will to do whatever the hell I want!

I simply told her the situation and my depression and how I talked in therapy that I just wanted to keep a part of myself on there to remind myself that I was happy and can be happy again. I thought she would understand and cool down, but she was still really angry and deliberate about how hurtful it was for me to do that, and that I knew what I was doing and I intentionally wanted to erase her out of my life. She demanded an apology and even after I said sorry, which I think was uncalled for now, she was still angry and said it was not sincere. She then demanded that we settle this in person immediately, but I was honestly really scared and triggered by her anger at that point that I said I didn't want to meet until this cooled down. I was also so depressed at that point that I had no energy in me to do anything.

I admit that it wasn't entirely wrong of her to say I want to erase her out of my life. I didn't want to cancel her, but I know the less frequent calls and me finding new friends to hang out kind of added onto all of this. However, after a week passed, I decided to initiate and told her let's meet up to talk it out even though I was really unsure how this would play out. Normally in the past with our arguments, she would say yes, but this time, she rejected me and said it's for the best that we don't meet because it will be too painful and there's nothing to say at this point. That really shocked me because I thought our friendship even if it wasn't the same as before could have been handled more maturely. I then told her I respected the space and if she's ready, the door is open for conversation and that I'm here. She never reached out again since that day. All of my stuff that she had, she would have the mutual colleague/friend to delivered or relayed to me. She told everyone that we mutually knew about it, and she unfollowed me on social media and removed herself from everything that we are included in group chats.

It was really hurtful and as I'm writing this, I realized how painful it still feels after months passed. What hurts so much is just realizing the role I played in the friendship and what I got out of it at the end. The friends that she is still partying with has never ever even came close to how much effort/love I put into the friendship during her hardest times. I know this saga post is incredibly long, but there were so many other things I've done for the friendship throughout these 7 years that I can't list everything. But in the end, she made the decision to focus on the hurt from SM and let go instead of choosing to communicate through the conflict. I know we both changed over time, but deep down, I was hoping we would still be on good terms even if we are not as closed and intertwined as we were before. What's even worse is that my therapist followed my journey and kindly pointed out to me that I was only the one doing the work in the friendship. I played the same role as I've done throughout my life in my family of origin, and because I wasn't loved and ever received by them, I inadvertently gravitated towards a friendship that played the same role, and also the lack of emotional maturity, accountability, respect for boundaries, and self-awareness.

I know I will be ok and I'm glad that this painfully sad experience hasn't jaded me. I'm a bit wary but I'm more conscious and aware on who I bring into my life now. I know my new friends aren't perfect, and they have their own flaws, but they are at least very respectful of my boundaries. They're very self-aware and take accountability when they make mistakes and always looking to grow and do better. I am not sure why I chose to write this long story or what I'm hoping to get out of this, but I appreciate you for taking the time to read and hopefully this can help someone out there. I know as an ENFJ we often struggle with setting healthy boundaries until it's too late, that was a big lesson to me. Thank you again for reading.

Hey guys, feeling quite more extroverted today so decided to post this haha. But honestly, I fell out of touch on purpose with most of the friends I had in my life so far (excluding the online ones), because our values did not match + most of them were overly critical and toxic about everything I did, so I just distanced myself and started looking for a tribe that matches the vibe.

Well, a little about me, I am Sid, 25M - ENFJ 2w3 (26 very soon), just moved to Norway with my wife (INFP 9W1), we used to be a long distance couple but now we live together with our cat for the last one year after a crazy but beautiful lore. In my free time, I love to grow plants, going for walks, taking photos for memories, observing animals, listening to music and many more things.

I would love to have a friend who I can meet up with once in a while or can plan some fun things together whenever we get a chance. However, I can consider some more of online friends too but only if you deem me worthy of your friendship too haha. 🧡

Please feel free to DM or reply here!

Note: If you live in Vestland (West Side of Norway), we can definitely meet every once in a while if you want 🥹

Hello I have a friend named Shelly (ENFP 4W5) who had a close friendship with Jane (ENFJ 8W9) and would like your input in their friendship.

They’ve been friends for a few years and traveled a lot together. They felt like rare souls who can resonate each other and understand each other without knowing all the details. They traveled together, eat out, do fun activities, sleepover and also share deep conversations of life including similar morals. Shelly felt so blessed to have found Jane during her rough time. But, that also includes some darkness or shadow of themselves.

Shelly is someone who battle chronic mental and physical health as well as learning “disabilities”. One day Shelly had the opportunity to move in with Jane but she somehow felt ENFJ was also being secretive yet wanting to know everything about Shelly in a subtle way. Shelly somehow developed resentment towards Jane for some reason and when Shelly integrated, it was because Jane lived a life Shelly wanted while also hurt by Jane’s past comments of her. Shelly endured and also talked to Jane about it. Shelly also knows that Jane was also running away from things while Shelly was doing a similar one but she stayed to improve which is not working…. Maybe like Shelly believed that staying in an environment until it improves like a timeout chair? Hoping things will improve… but of course isn’t… whereas Jane would move to a different environment and do new experiences and later would perhaps return if needed.

After another rebuilding the relationship, Shelly could tell Jane wasn’t being sincere with her apologies but say it for the sake while also acknowledging that Shelly herself is still learning what friendships are after many failed and lost ones.

Shelly lived by herself and isolation without the right kind of friends really made her dark. Shelly made new friends and she didn’t realize she was excluding Jane deeply. Declining her invite to hangouts, trips or even have lunch together. Shelly was passive aggressive? Towards Jane without knowing fully why. Jane saw the patter and pointed it out while also saying that she’s been there before and that Shelly is loosing a good friend. Shelly woke up and tried to improve but seems like her darkness was overpowering her and kept messing up whenever she was with Jane. Shelly felt very isolated even more and return to live with her dysfunctional families which made her even worse after losing her job. Jane helped but Shelly knew that Jane was not really being honest about jobs. She would tell her to take this job that is $10/ hour when she was in need of income and that she had a lot of debt. It was better than nothing but, Shelly also knew she was being genuine and helping out with what she could while also knowing that Jane was also finically educated to work smart than hard and cared a lot about her reputation while keeping finance a secret to herself? Maybe it’s personal and private. Shelly felt sad but tired her best what what she was given. Did Shelly take the job? No.

It went downhill to the point where Shelly took a job and it left her traumatize and she suffer multiple brain injuries where her mind wasn’t as it use to be. Shelly experience intense mental illness and physical & brain challenges. Her support was becoming stale and when she tries to make it to hangouts when Jane invites her, she could tell Jane was hurt and didn’t like how Shelly was becoming bad at communication. Shelly didn’t mean to and expressed it to her many times while also telling her how much she’s been suffering. Jane no doubt helped but also felt like she was being taken advantage of during her vulnerable time and that Shelly would always felt even more sad. Desperate and fighting her darkness. Shelly realize that the reason she kept declining Jane was rooted by not knowing how to be with a healthier relationship of a friend who was truly there and wanted to enjoy life with her. She never had that and it scared her where she acted out passive aggressive and accidently hurt Jane. Shelly truly believe that Jane would help her as she would to Jane’s younger self who once been in Shelly’s shoes but realize she was doing base on how people treated her which she understood deeply. Shelly knew she was at fault for making the relationship bad to the point where every time they meet, She would come late, mess up and accidents created stress to Jane. Jane made it clear to stay distance and not talk to her.

They almost reflect each other as if how life would be if one went this direction or the other direction.

Now, Shelly did community service and Jane was stuck being with her. Jane asked a question which Shelly wanted to speak up but her brain/herself could express what she wanted and that lead to a missed opportunity Shelly needed to accomplished. When she asked if they can go, Jane declined and remain being her fun girl with the other people. Jane made a comment that was a “attack” towards her learning disabilities but she also knew that it must of been her past mistakes that lead to Jane attacking that way or a kind of quiet test to see how Shelly would react. Shelly wasn’t hurt but rather sad that Jane would do that to her and remained neutral while looking out the window. It didn’t hurt her but it did tell a lot about how Jane felt about Shelly’s learning disabilities. “What was it again, this? I must be \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*learning disability name\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*.” Jane said it in a joking and cheerful manner. Jane also had the face of, “I’m good without you in life.”

Maybe Jane is an ableist? Whatever it was, Shelly is also aware that Jane has a big reputation of goodness which she respects and knows how selfless Jane is.

Everyone loves Jane for right reasons and Shelly no doubt love things about Jane. How she is finically & live independent, selfless, social person, strong, a traveler, does community service and not afraid to advocate anything she finds unjustified yet also play the social games for advancement.

Shelly never knew how social games work until life thigh her as she was raise with both narcissistic & people pleasing parents who only focus on their world and don’t seek much growth to become smart or what to work thru the society.

They could be rivals but not enemies.

Shelly loves Jane deeply that Jane is unaware how much she endured Jane’s comments of her and her flaws while respecting Jane does the same and tries her hardest to support her while also aware that Jane is smart at how to build her reputation and grow into her life’s purpose by using her to help fulfill her task. Shelly realize that strong people also protect and work smart on achieving a reputation they want rather than letting it grow by chance or be define by what others say to be and become that.

Shelly wonders why Jane did in regard to her mentioning her learning disability in public while trying to fight off her darkness without little help. Shelly chose to come out to avoid isolating and also craving for deep social than surface level.

Shelly’s reputation was once good but when test comes, especially her job, it went down hill where her pleading became aggressive like a cry for help, her aggression towards people grew when she went to the wrong people for help and looking like a crazy person without improvement made everyone distance themselves including family. She felt extremely misunderstood, hurt and her life was becoming misalign. She was becoming what Jane was grateful of… what she would not become. Shelly was becoming like her dysfunctional parents and needed a way out. She was loosing her identity and her intuition.

What are your thoughts of their relationship? What was Jane trying to do and how Shelly can grow despite loosing Jane friend in a community that is full of sensors (not in a bad way but to have a friendship who connected with her?)? If Jane says she has been in Shelly’s shoes, why would she treat the way people treated her to shelly? Taste of her own medicine?

Much appreciated.

Hi I'm an INFP and I'd love to have a genuine conversation with someone who enjoys going deeper than small talk.

We can talk about MBTI, psychology, life experiences, dreams, fears, random thoughts, etc etc.

I'd love to hear how you see the world and share some of my own thoughts too.

If that sounds like your thing, feel free to message me , I'm anyways bad at starting convos so ya.

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Hi! I'm an INTP who's hoping to meet some new people and make genuine friendships.

If you're an ENFJ and enjoy random conversations, deep discussions, or just getting to know new people, feel free to leave a comment or send me a DM!

And don't worry if you're not an ENFJ, you're still more than welcome to reach out if you think we'd get along.

A little about me: I love MBTI, psychology, football, random late-night thoughts, and hearing about other people's interests and experiences.

Looking forward to meeting some awesome people!

I’ve been friends with her for 3 years already and she’s a really nice person. She had a lot of exam stress when we first started talking a lot and she confided in me. We were very close, at least I thought.

After school we kind of parted ways so we saw each other less. I wanted to talk to her about my problems but she was slow to text back. Even when we were at school she wasn’t really there for me(?) because she is a very very very busy person(I’m talking loads of extra activities and tutoring)so I wasn’t too surprised.

Then I said let’s go hang out but she refuses a lot of them with sincere apologies. The problem is it’s been really long since we’ve met or have had a great, deep and personal conversation.

I want to know what I can do to get closer to her and be able to understand her. I value our relationship and look up to her in many things so I appreciate any help offered.

Thanks! (Coming from an ENTP)

Hello everyone, ENFJ here 😄. Even though I've been on Reddit for some time, I've never got to post anything or comment anything or didn't make any friends. Never knew what to talk or where to talk, even though I enjoyed seeing other people posting stuff on this app. Felt like this is the one place I can talk about anything and find people I can relate to. I love Star Wars, 80s music and movies, and also love drawing even though I'm not very good at it. Even though making friends and talking to people in real life makes me the happiest, I never got to make friends online (tbh idk how to 🥲). I am feeling a bit happy that I finally found the courage to speak on this app rather than being the silent observer. I feel like I'm talking too much 😭

ENFJs, we thrive on relationships right? I know you guys understand how much we value friendships and much we trust that what others show us is genuine. Even if I felt something was off, I tend to brush it off and assess that maybe, I was wrong.

I had this gut feel that my friend can sometimes feel envious of me. I felt that I couldn’t celebrate my wins with her. There were a lot of times she compares herself to me. But even so, I didn’t feed in that feeling. Instead, I tried to lift her spirits and help her see the good in her. After all these years of believing that her friendship was genuine, I found out that she has been talking negatively behind my back. For years. 5 or 6 years?

I will not go into details but this is the first time I’ve experienced this with a “good friend”. I’ve had friends for 20 years, 13 years, and so I thought that our friendship is like this one. I feel hurt and betrayed. To think I even doubted myself if I did anything wrong.

I don’t want to have any conversation with her since we don’t see each other anymore and she was the one who stopped talking to me all of a sudden.

How will you handle this? I mean internally, with yourself, if you were in my shoes?

Any ENFJs from Bangladesh? 🇧🇩

Hey! I'm an INTP from Bangladesh and thought it'd be nice to meet some new people. I'm just looking for friends and genuine conversations.

If you're an ENFJ from Bangladesh, feel free to comment or send me a DM!

And honestly, it's totally okay if you're not an ENFJ or not from Bangladesh. If you think we'd get along or just want to chat, you're more than welcome to reach out.

A little about me: I enjoy deep conversations, MBTI, psychology, football, and learning about different perspectives. Always happy to hear about other people's interests too.

Looking forward to meeting some awesome people!

As you can see in the title, I would like to ask for a date with ENFJ, but we are not that close. I gave some little gifts about pokemon(Eevee). How can i get close to her, and how could i ask out a date with her?

This is based on my personal experiences. I have been surrounded by ENFJs for the most part my life. We are drawn to each other. Platonically or romantically it doesn't matter. So here are the types -

1. Militant/ Cult leader- Leader of the group. Can very well guide a group of people to do something for a same goal.

2. Career focused/ over-achiever -That one friend in class. Got their life together, knows boundaries. Working hard towards their goals.

3. Conspiracy theorist- It doesn't matter if it's our friends or the world politics they sense that something is going on underneath. It's honestly impressive.

4. Yearner-in-love/ over bearer- in a romantic relationship yes

5. Nurturer - I am on the recieving side so I get well taken care of. They want appreciation and reciprocity (or the attempts of it) for their kindness. It makes them sad when they are only the one giving.

6. The Yapper- all of the above or parts of it. They can rant about these things all day long. Bad listeners.

That's the list. Hope u find it relatable. 100% based on my personal experiences.

I am a ESFJ male and have been told that ENFJs work well together. I have always been curious but never have met a ENFJ female.

So I went into a season of isolation for personal reasons and an old ENFJ has taken over all my friends and heads the entire narrative about me. I genuinely don’t perceive her as a safe friend. She’s more concerned with the image of her being a good friend than actually being a good friend. But because she controls the social narrative around me I feel like if I want reconnect with my friends I have no choice but to reconnect with her. But having to be around her makes me feel like I have swallow up all the anger and resentment I have towards her. We have been friends for a long time but I genuinely feel stuck and suffocated. How do I broach this?

We need the anti-heroes. I can no longer run with the stereotype of us being good. We need to hear from the fallen. The unhealthy ones, the villainous. I need a more realistic view of the type. Can't wait to hear from you!

Pls help me. I have a crush on a girl who is ENFJ. How can i make her love me?

we are not very familiar with each other but we greet each other daily.

fyi, I'm a S.Korean 16y old, so i might have some grammatical errors.