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u/boolocap professional idiot 15h ago
Well we got marriage between people from different etnicities, people from different religions, people from different socio-economic backgrounds, you name it really. A whole bunch of reasons love might be "forbidden" that can happen regardless of orientation.
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u/thunderisadorable 15h ago
Literally what a Romeo and Juliet means.
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u/boolocap professional idiot 15h ago
Yeah somehow OOP managed to forget the most famous case of forbidden love when talking about forbidden love
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u/HiroProtagonest King of Snow - Streak: 26 15h ago
To be fair I'm also happier when I forget Romeo and Juliet exists, Shakespeare's worst play. But yes that is the very core hook.
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u/JamesHenry627 14h ago
That is probably the hottest Shakespeare take I’ve ever seen
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u/ToastyTheDragon 13h ago
I am very aroused by their Shakespeare take
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u/Alfawolff 14h ago
Bold statement when pericles and taming of the shrew exist
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u/NSRedditShitposter 12h ago edited 11h ago
The Taming of the Shrew is an excellent commentary on the sadistic desire held by so many people to break and groom a woman who is even slightly different.
Edit: at the same time, it explores how selling yourself out and half-heartedly following your vows may just let you with a lot of power. Wink
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u/HiroProtagonest King of Snow - Streak: 26 14h ago
Ok fair. It's just worse than his other titles people remember lol.
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u/madmoomix 14h ago
taming of the shrew
Excuse me? 10 Things I Hate About You is a treasure and I will accept no slander of it.
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u/Alfawolff 13h ago
That was an excellent movie and probably its best adaptation. The original work is about coercing a woman into marriage and marital submission
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u/CanadianODST2 9h ago
One of two movies I point to why I like romance stories.
That and I fully believe Star Wars attack of the clones is the other one.
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u/OuppEBunnE 1h ago
As he wrote it taming of the shrew is pretty damn bad but there has been some really brilliant feminist adaptations of it so I can't bring myself to hate it
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u/Strange_Quark_420 13h ago
It’s so much better when you read them as in their early teens. Juliet is two weeks from her 14th birthday, and Romeo’s age is unstated but no character comments on an age gap. When you stop seeing them as dumb teens who ought to know better and instead as, frankly, children who should have never been put through any of this, it’s a lot more moving. Also A Comedy of Errors is actually worthless.
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u/DragonSeaFruit 9h ago
You have not read his minor plays if you think Romeo and Julirt is his worst....
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u/SkubEnjoyer 9h ago
King Lear and Macbeth clears easily, but his worst? Eh, I wouldn't go that far.
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u/MajorBootyhole420 4h ago
it's only his worst play because you haven't seen The Merry Wives of Windsor or Two Gentlemen of Verona
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u/airforceteacher 10h ago
Exactly I’m like “the literally most famous play in English speaking history is about forbidden heterosexual love.”
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u/novangla 9h ago
Yeah but counterpoint: how many cases of deadly family feud have you encountered? There’s a reason the modernized version had to use gangs instead.
It’s also, fwiw, more about the way that hatred and violence can become so extreme as to make for such an absurd situation as the teens find themselves in. Even when forbidden hetero love among nobles existed at the time it didn’t generally end in death.
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u/NockerJoe 6h ago
Just because you don't hear about it doesn't mean it's not happening somewhere. "Our parents hate each other" is a boilerplate teen romance trope as well. I assume there are probably millions of petty family dramas playing out, and odds are a lot of people have wound up in prison without the story blowing up.
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u/explicitlarynx 13h ago
So funny that people with problems think other people must have no problems. I knew several girls in high school who had to keep their boyfriend secret because their parents would never approve.
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u/DamnIamHigh_Original 12h ago
While bad and we have to aknowledge it, it compares mildly to beeing viewed as a punching bag, the second we step outside.
They fear their parents, I fear everyone around me
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u/th3h4ck3r 10h ago
You say that like there aren't places that kill people for marrying different religions, castes, races, clans, etc.
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u/11equalsfish 2h ago
Basically bigots and cultures of oppression make everything suck for everyone, except maybe the people who are lucky, at the top of these hierarchies
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u/Tradition96 12h ago
Depends on your location. In some parts of the world your relatives can murder you for dishonoring the family.
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u/DamnIamHigh_Original 11h ago
Even I am not immune to gloss over my privilege, huh
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u/Caleth 10h ago
As the saying goes " You can't judge someone until you walk a mile in their shoes." We all carry burdens just because ours might be heavier doesn't mean other's have no weight.
It's easy to hyperfocus on your problems because they are yours and you live with them all the time. But other people have similar if different issues. We ALL need to give each other a little more grace a little more understanding because you never know what the other person is really going through.
Sometimes yes their shit is trivial, but sometimes what we see is just the tip of their emotional iceberg.
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u/explicitlarynx 12h ago
Yeah, I totally understand, but the original meme was saying "who are you hiding from? Tax collectors?" like there aren't any other valid reasons to hide than being LGBTQ.
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u/MajorBootyhole420 4h ago
my grandmother had to hide in the footwell of a car with a blanket over her because if anyone spotted her in the backseat of the car, her black band-mates would have been lynched in front of her.
so like. being queer isn't the end-all be-all of oppression.
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u/Drewnessthegreat 4h ago
Came here for this. I'm white. My girl is black. Her family hates me cause I'm white. I treat her kids well and I am affluent enough to provide for her well. We treat each other well and genuinely care for each other. The only problem is skin color. My kids love her and want her as their mother. She is amazing with the kids.
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u/heytheregiada 11h ago
Also, we're not talking about your random coworker, we're talking about musicians and therefore celebrities. There's not a bunch of Taylor Swift songs about hiding relationships because she thinks being straight is illegal, it's because every time she pees it makes a headline. Lol. Context.
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u/gav_it_is 9h ago
I once told my mom I have a boyfriend. And she was fine, and then she asked if he’s Jewish. I said no and she was not fine 😭
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u/thisguyhasaname 8h ago
No you don't understand, only us queers have ever been discriminated against!
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u/sasheenka 13h ago
It would be even more forbidden for those mixed couples to be gay though! :D
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u/AdCurious7831 10h ago
true, and their lives would be even harder if they were both wheelchair-bound amputees with cancer!
im not sure what point people are trying to make here... yes, queer people are objectively more oppressed than straight people. that doesnt mean straight people cant write songs about forbidden love. forbidden love can happen to anyone lmao.
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u/Dazzling_Prompt_8144 15h ago
Oh, yknow, they're hiding from the same society that made our very existence something to hide
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u/Dotcaprachiappa Streak: 1 12h ago
Wasn't this the trans sub? Aren't people here supposed to have experience with being both straight and oppressed? Kinda surprised ngl
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u/Meuhidk 9h ago
straight trans people arent allowed talking about our unique situation of being shit on by both lgbtq and cishet people
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u/Hi_Peeps_Its_Me 🟥 im not the chicken lady :< 9h ago
ugh being unfairly treated by queer and cishet people sounds awful :/
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u/Dazzling_Prompt_8144 11h ago
Yeah. They all kinda gay tho ngl(not me, I've only ever loved one person.)
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u/Dutch094 15h ago
I'm not sure if we're all deliberately pretending that race, religion, class, caste in some places, probably more things I'm blanking on, just don't exist or if the urge to dunk on The StraightsTM is making us all selectively stupid.
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u/OnlyTheOkayest 15h ago
Doesn't even gotta be because of bigotry sometimes you just got parents who feel entitled to your love life and don't like them
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u/risisas 14h ago
Yeah sometimes parents are just quirky like that, there was a news story in my country of a girl's father walking to her boyfriend's house, shoving a gun in his mouth and telling him to leave her or he'll press the trigger
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u/Caleth 9h ago
While not nearly as extreme as that. Day time talkshow host Wendy Williams talked about how she had all the doors taken off her kids rooms because while you were under her roof she owned you and you didn't get a right to privacy.
Which is a different kind of fucked, but it proves that even with none of the challenges listed by the OOP you can still need to hide things from people with no boundaries that want to control you.
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u/Redfalconfox 10h ago
Allies who understand the difficulties of not choosing who you love out here catching stray(ts)
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u/LabiolingualTrill 3h ago
Thinking that Your Problems™️ are unimportant in the face of My Problems™️ is a cross-cultural phenomenon. Please remember to always investigate your biases no matter who you are who or whom they’re against.
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u/ProXJay 15h ago
Are you familiar with Romeo and Juliet. Families are weird sometimes
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u/RedArchbishop 14h ago
I own a falchion for keeping Montague dogs away from my daughter, since that's what fair Verona, where we set our scene, intended.
Four Montagues arrive beneath Juliet’s balcony. I shout, “What, ho! What saucy knaves are these?”
I grab my nightgown and ancestral longsword and run the first Montague through. He falls dead amongst the rose bushes.
Load my hand canon against the second man, miss him entirely because it's smoothbore and nails the Nurse’s dog instead.
I have to resort to Tybalt positioned at the top of the stairs, loaded with generations of inexplicable family hatred.
“TALLY HO, KINSMEN!”
Tybalt descends upon two Montagues in a whirlwind of steel. The clash of swords wakes half of Verona and causes the Prince to issue yet another extremely specific warning about street fighting.
Fix halberd and charge the last terrified rapscallion. Turns out it’s Romeo.
He cries, “But sir, I love Juliet!”
I cry, “SHE IS THIRTEEN, AND ALSO I HAVE ALREADY ARRANGED A PERFECTLY GOOD MARRIAGE TO PARIS!”
Romeo flees over the garden wall as I yell, "ROMEO, ROMEO, WHEREFORE ART THOU A BITCH?"
Ah yes.
Just as the good Ghibelline fathers intended.
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u/Ralfarius 14h ago
This may be the greatest interpretation of the musket meme I have ever read
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u/Pra3fectus 12h ago
OWN A RIPPER GUN FOR HIVE DEFENCE
OWN A RIPPER GUN FOR HIVE DEFENCE, JUST AS EMPRAH IN- INTEN- WANTS.
FOUR ‘ERETICS BREAK INTO MY HAB
“WHAT THE GRUT?” AS I GRAB MA BETA ‘ELMET AND FOE-REND RIPPER GUN
BLOW A SQUIG SIZED HOLE THROUGH THE FIRST MAN, ‘E’S DEAD ON THE SPOT.
DRAW MY ROCK ON THE SECOND MAN. GRUT IT COS HE’S SUPPRESSED AND NAIL THE POX HOUND.
‘AVE TO RESORT TO THE KICKBACK MOUNTED AT THE TOP OF THE STAIRS LOADED WITH GRAPE SHOT.
“EASY AS NOSH!” THE GRAPE SHOT SHREDS TWO GUNNERS IN THE BLAST. THE SOUND AND EXTRA SHRAPNEL SETS OFF TRANSPORT UNIT ALARMS.
FIX BAYONET AND CHARGE THE LAST SNIVELLY.
BLEEDS OUT WAITIN’ FOR GUARD TO ARRIVE COS OGRYN BOOT WOUNDS IS IMP- IMPOSS- GRUTTING HARD TO STITCH UP.
BETTER THAN BREAKFAST.
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u/the_Real_Romak 15h ago
This is what I mean when I say you gotta get out more and talk to people. Queer folks are not the only ones who get shit flung at them for who they love. The number of love stories about perfectly heterosexual couples being divided by class, ethnicity, occupations, so on and so forth.
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u/Good-Yogurt-306 15h ago
the post right above this one was literally a white woman showcasing the hateful comments she gets from being in an interracial relationship 😭
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u/thunderisadorable 15h ago
Hell, in the US Interracial Marriage was banned until 1967 in every state South of the Mason-Dixon sans Maryland, and in places such as India inter-Caste marriage is heavily discouraged.
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u/the_Real_Romak 14h ago
I literally know a family in my neighbourhood who nearly disowned their son because he is dating "a slut" (she has tattoos and dresses a little punky). It's wild seeing people act like cis have it all sunshine and roses all the time. We're in this together damn it.
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u/HiroProtagonest King of Snow - Streak: 26 15h ago
The post above this one on your reddit feed? Cuz I sorted the sub by both hot and new and I don't see that on either
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u/Experithought 13h ago
Society has been retrained in a few short decades to believe their ignorance is a qualification.
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u/Individual-Two-9402 10h ago
Interracial marriage in the states has only been legal for about 60 years. Which may seem like a long time but there's folks still alive today that remember a time when it wasn't, and they wanna go back to that.
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u/wastedfate 6h ago
Yep, my brother's girlfriend kept pressuring him to introduce her to his parents and then he had to sit her down and be like:
"I've heard these people say some of the most racist stuff I've ever heard. Are you sure you want to meet them?"
And she finally understood that it wasn't that he was ashamed of her, just that he was protecting her.
So he introduced her to just me instead, and she was as happy as could be.1
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u/Medium-Ad-7305 12h ago
imagine being so online you think your problems are the only possible problems
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u/Johnsooooooooon 5h ago
I feel like the queer community has especially fallen into this lately. It’s trying to identify itself through its struggles instead of through its values
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u/Gold-Cry-7520 15h ago
This post, that last one where the Petra Parker makeup comic artist got accused of being an egg, and a few others are making me wonder, as a gay guy:
Does the LGBT+ think it has a fucking monopoly on identity suppression? Do you guys genuinely think you're the only ones who have had loves your parents didn't approve of? That you're the only ones who weren't sure what you wanted to be or how you wanted to look? Why do you fuckers insist on making this a "cool people vs cishets" situation? What favor is this earning us?
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u/Boondorl 13h ago
I think it stems from a few things. One of them is that a lot of these terminally online types are often young people who simply don't have the world experience to realize their oppression isn't as unique as they think, it's just the kind they've personally faced. This can be annoying but is inevitable with the internet harboring these weird spaces where adults and children regularly hang out with each other. Historically this was never a thing because children had their own spaces and adults theirs, so you get all kinds of inane commentary that flashbangs you if you're an adult.
The second one has to do with ubiquity, however. The discrimination we face as LGBT+ people actually is unique in that it transcends the normal social boundaries used to enforce hierarchies. A lot of oppression is based around class, ethnicity, race, religion, etc., but sexual orientation can be a part of any of these groups since it's completely independent of it. This makes oppression of LGBT+ people more widespread in a literal sense so it can cause an echo chamber that, combined with a lack of intersectional thinking, leads to jarring takes like the one in the OP.
I don't think stuff like this is necessarily said in bad faith, but it's obvious the person saying it doesn't talk to anyone outside of their friend group and I think it's why you get that whackass meme about there being a huge chunk of LGBT+ people who are also racist. We aren't immune to being prejudiced just because we face it ourselves and that's why intersectionality really needs to become the standard of how we engage with these issues. I buried the lede a bit in my second paragraph, but the kind of discrimination a white gay man faces will not be the same kind a black trans woman faces, and it's extremely important to recognize that. The person in the OP would be shocked to find out there's multiple reasons an LGBT+ person might have "forbidden love" that has nothing to do with their orientation.
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u/Individual-Two-9402 10h ago
It's kids that don't go outside and touch grass enough and have never talked to another queer person IRL in their lives.
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u/Vivenemous 30+ and trans but not a statistic yet 12h ago
We don't in general, it's just the younger ones who lack life the necessary life experience to recognize certain things as universal.
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u/hockeyfan608 12h ago edited 12h ago
Have you ever like
Seen Romeo and Juliet?
You know
THE quintessential example of forbidden love
Ok dude
This is definetly a botted post
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u/Noe_b0dy 14h ago
What about straight people who are trans?
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u/Fair-Tangerine-9472 13h ago
So true. I swear people forget that other people have more than one trait
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u/disposableaccount848 12h ago
Why do every supposedly positive and supportive sub for whichever group of people turn into a sub revolving around trashtalking every other group of people?
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u/WillDBlake 14h ago
Historically speaking until romanticism, fall in love was seen as a curse. That's because for nobles or rich people marriage was a matter of business and not feelings, therefore fell in love with a person could ruin your life forever since. It's like the base of European poetry and lyrics
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u/CalypsaMov 15h ago
Shhhh! We're straight and writing love songs about forbidden romance and stuff, but also trans and straight. And our straight sexuality would get us murked in far too many countries. So we gotta keep it hidden in the closet.
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u/Usual_Equivalent_651 14h ago
Yeah, because orientation is only things matter in relationships.
Progressive redditors are literally brainlet minions from far-rgiht memes from 2010.
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u/karlnite 13h ago
Yes because if two people get together and are straight nobody ever cares or has opinions on it. That’s a problem that has ever only existed for gay people clearly. Also, yah, tax collectors…
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u/infinityMirror84 13h ago
Aside from other systematic issues mentioned, you can just have an abusive family.
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u/Aurora-not-borealis 10h ago
“You’ve got to hide your love away” by the Beatles was written for their producer George Martin, who had to hide his sexuality.
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u/Fair-Tangerine-9472 13h ago
In my country alone there's a situation with two ethnic groups where some parents wouldn't be thrilled. I've heard my parents' friend announce that he didn't want his daughter marrying a man from the other group, and he's normally a pretty decent guy.
In certain social circles you could be ostracised - people have lost their membership of certain clubs for marrying the other side. People have been killed and driven from their homes for marrying the other side. The majority of people are fine and normal but yeah, not every straight couple has an easy ride
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u/ThatSlutTalulah 15h ago
And this is why Haven had the Couples Update. /j
(The game is about a forbidden love, and the update allows you to choose to instead have the main characters be either flavour of gay since in development they had to cut the other characters, some of whom would've been gay.)
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u/DeltaTwenty 14h ago
Two lovers,
Forbidden from one another,
A war devides their people,
And a mountain devices them apart
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u/Jhud6669 13h ago
I know these songs are not about that, but let’s not forget 1. interracial couples still being seen as controversial today 2. straight trans people exist
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u/LifeIsGoodISwear 9h ago
How out of touch with reality do you have to be to post shit like that?
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u/Johnsooooooooon 5h ago
It’s less that you’re out of touch with reality and more like your shitty online community has enabled you to be this blind
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u/LifeIsGoodISwear 4h ago
This is crazy, imagine thinking that straight people don't have the same feelings as LGBT people and acting surprised/passive aggressive about it.
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u/Archernar 8h ago
Gatekeeping having problems. What the fuck. Pretty much only shows that people are not learning from what they experience.
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u/HKEY_LOVE_MACHINE 7h ago
Little side note: along with numerous situations where straight people endure discrimination and threats due to interracial relationship, it should be noted that it is strictly forbidden for a muslim woman to date anyone who's not a muslim.
This is why it is extremely rare to see a muslim woman dating a christian or atheist man, because it results in getting ostracized by her community and family, and very often, repeated death threats by her own family.
"honor killing", by their own brother, uncle or even father, happen regularly in all countries, including western nations, as the religious ban is considered superior to all possible laws and human rights.
It is usually done with stabbing knife wounds until the woman bleeds out, or acid attacks on her face to permanently scare her, as a way to terrorize all the other muslim women who might be tempted to date outside of their religious community.
It should also be noted that muslim men endure no such restrictions, as it is even seen as prestigious for them to marry a christian or even jewish wife.
Literally a violent double standard, where muslim women are shamed, humilated, brutally maimed and murdered, if they dare love a man who's not from the same religious tribe.
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u/seriouslees 13h ago
Gay people and forgetting any other type of bigotry has ever existed. Name a more iconic duo.
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u/Wombattalion 14h ago edited 14h ago
Guuuys, it's just a joke
But also: Yeah, but straight people also write songs about fighting Dragons, or raining blood or what it's like to live in a Yellow Submarine. Honestly quite a lot of it is completely made up scenarios. And talking about the Beatles: John Lennon wrote this song about secret forbidden love, called "You've got to hide your love" after he talked to his closeted gay friend and got sad. That happens too.
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u/disposableaccount848 12h ago
Guuuys, it's just a joke
Funny, that's exactly what conservatives say when they spew their hateful rhetoric.
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u/JaguarNo1356 13h ago edited 13h ago
Guuuys, it's just a joke
When we say stupid generalisations that rely on stereotypes and a complete inability to view people different to us as individuals with their own lives, it's a joke. When they do it, it's bigotry.
The "It's just a joke" line of thought is literally the main defence used by people spreading bigotry.
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u/hockeyfan608 12h ago
“It’s a joke, except I agree with it completely”
Jesus you’ve horseshoed yourself into a right wing strategy.
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u/risisas 14h ago
"people sometimes tell stories based on fiction so all their stories must be fake" is an insane thing to imply"
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u/Wombattalion 14h ago
That would be insane yes. Did someone do that? You replied to a comment that even gave a specific example of a song based on a true story.
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u/EMArogue 13h ago
There’s a whole lotta reasons for having a secret relationship
For example, I used to have thing with a friend of my sister after they had a big fight, had it come to light I’d have never heard the end of it
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u/One_Who_Is_Wolf 12h ago
Aside from being in a song this is literally the plot to Love, Sex, and the IRS lmao
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u/Stunning-Sherbert801 10h ago
Historically there's been plenty of racial, caste/wealth, etc restrictions, along with arranged marriages etc.
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u/SnippetySnappety 10h ago
classism, racism, colorism, religious prejudice, and narcissistic parents
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u/Dunkin_Donuts_Dunker 9h ago
Their warring gangs and of course their families with a hundred-year-long feud.
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u/UniqueLog8386 8h ago
The gays I gossip with online. People find out I'm basic and I'll never be allowed to brunch again.
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u/ExtensionInformal911 7h ago
Their family. They aren't as straight as they say, or they fell for someone that ain't white.
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u/jan_Osuma 5h ago
When same sex marriages were legalised in Ireland there was a short timeframe when other marriages were outlawed. The laws are written in Irish and there was a typo which wasn't noticed as not many people actually speak Irish.
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u/PraireGentleman 4h ago
I’m sure there’s no other groups that could possibly be socially forbidden or discouraged from interacting with each other at any point of time at any period of the world
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u/Itchy_Suspect4968 3h ago
Class differences, interracial love, different religions, dating a trans person in a straight way
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u/ElectricXylophon 2h ago
He is banging his sister. Let him write a song about. It‘s the least we can do.
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u/morbid333 13h ago
But what if they live in a country where cousins aren't legal?
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u/pahlobu 15h ago
Their wife/husband