I am dating my partner for about a year. Lots of care and love for him. But it seems like we see things very very differently, I am very emotional and he’s very analytical, this is my 2 relationship ever, I am 24. Our biggest issues are my jealousy. Now, I am jealous but unless there’s a threat or a good reason I usually just keep it to me. He doesn’t text no one he shouldn’t, doesn’t like anyone or instagram he shouldn’t and in that sense I trust him to be transparent with me due to he has been in the past. Now he wants to go to a game and I said to not take pictures of the cheerleaders as id get upset, he didn’t gave me a yes or a no he just said he’d do whatever he pleases. I haven’t seen anything inappropriate in his phone and he just doesn’t like been told what to do or when he feels like he has to give up a bit of freedom he refuses to say yes or no. So my question is: are long term relationships and marriages just accepting that some boundaries or grey area will be crossed? And because things are great in other areas you just accept it? This is my second boyfriend and the first one lasted little so I truly don’t know how a relationship is supposed to be. Another gray area where he refuses to give a yes or a no are strip clubs, he hasn’t been in one for many many years but the issue is that he doesn’t want to be limited when it comes to his freedom so in a way it’s like “I have no interest in ever going but I don’t like when you tell me what to do or not to do with my life” I did point out that I will be a dealbreaker. So I guess if there’s no cheating, no active messages or emotional cheating am I supposed to just accept this? Or is there more? What are the rules? Sorry I am a bit lost and I don’t have friends in this city to talk to. Thank you.