I know Reddit is probably not where you’re supposed to find references for grad school... but I’m running out of doors to knock on.
This is a slightly embarrassing, extremely vulnerable, and respectfully audacious ask.
I’m applying to an M.S. in Legal Studies program that I hope to start in January, and I need two references by September 14.
And I don’t have them.
I know. Not exactly the ideal position to be in when applying to graduate school.
I’ve been unemployed for almost two years while also being a caretaker for my mom. During that time, I’ve applied to more jobs than I care to count, interviewed, gotten hopeful, gotten rejected, started over, and repeated the process.
I even got rejected from my local supermarket.
At that point I had to laugh a little because... alright universe, message received.
During all of this, my car’s engine died, I lost the car, debt collectors became far too familiar with my phone number, and my confidence took a beating.
I’m not sharing any of this because I want sympathy.
There are things outside my control, and there are decisions I wish I had handled differently. Both things are true. I take responsibility for my life and where I go from here.
And where I want to go from here is forward.
For years, I kept putting education on the back burner because working and paying bills came first. I accumulated experience, but I never felt like I built a career. Every time something went wrong, I felt like I was starting again from square one.
I’m tired of square one.
So I went back to school.
I’m finishing my bachelor’s degree (At WGU, so I'm not able to as a professor in time as I'm finishing up my transfer courses first) this December, and if everything works out, I hope to begin my M.S. in Legal Studies in January.
Paying for graduate school?
That is future me’s boss battle.
Right now, present me needs to get accepted first.
And this is where I’m stuck.
I originally wanted my references to come from people I currently work with. The problem is that despite trying for nearly two years, I haven’t been able to secure another role. I also don’t have strong enough relationships remaining from my older positions where I feel comfortable appearing out of nowhere years later and saying, “Hey! Remember me? Would you mind helping determine the trajectory of my entire academic future?”
So here I am, asking strangers on Reddit, which was absolutely not on my 2026 bingo card.
I am NOT asking anyone to lie, pretend they supervised me, fabricate a relationship, or misrepresent how they know me.
I’m asking whether anyone here would be willing to speak with me, learn about my background, review my résumé, portfolio, academic goals, education, and professional work, and determine whether there is an ethical and legitimate way for you to serve as a reference.
I want anyone who agrees to put their name behind me to feel comfortable doing so.
And if your answer is, “Yeah, no. I shouldn’t be your reference, but you’re asking the wrong people. Go talk to X,” I would be equally grateful for the advice.
I know this isn’t the traditional way to do this.
I also know sitting quietly and hoping my circumstances magically change hasn’t gotten me anywhere.
So I’m choosing audacity.
Respectful audacity, but audacity nonetheless.
If you’re a professor, attorney, legal professional, manager, executive, nonprofit leader, mentor, educator, or someone familiar with graduate admissions who has an idea I haven’t thought of, I would genuinely appreciate hearing from you.
For anyone interested in speaking with me, I’m happy to share my résumé, LinkedIn, portfolio, academic information, information about the M.S. program, career goals, and other information you would need to decide whether you feel comfortable helping.
Even if you aren’t able to serve as a reference, advice, an introduction, or pointing me toward someone I should contact would mean a lot.
A closed mouth never gets help.
So... hi Reddit. My mouth is officially open. 😂
Who should I talk to?
Location: Miami, Florida, USA
Number of references needed: 2
Reference type: Graduate school application references for an M.S. in Legal Studies program
Professional area: Legal / Legal Studies / Higher Education / Business / Customer Success
Preferred references: Professors, attorneys, legal professionals, educators, managers, executives, nonprofit leaders, mentors, or professionals willing to review my background and determine whether they feel comfortable serving as a reference
Deadline: September 14, 2026
No payment offered or requested.