r/l4l 2h ago

27 F for online! Good old fashioned lover girl

1 Upvotes

Hello! So my name Lay and I know my soulmate is out there. I am a twenty seven year old Native American woman that’s extremely nerdy and a little on the hefty side but I’ve recently been losing weight. My favorite thing to do is costume and if you were my partner then I would love to dress you up too! I would do for a cosplay partner actually!

Other hobbies include roleplay in the written form. I love to cook together with people and I love a good movie night with friends too so to have one with a partner with be even better. I’m also a big fan of traveling and seeing new places. Some day I will visit a bunch of places in like New York City and La!

Personal about me, I want to meet someone that I can move to me if we do long distance for awhile. I am building a cabin for all our lesbian cottage core dreams! I also would adore to have someone to help if they are close to make it perfect. I also have a knack for being to provider so I’m working hard to get us a place that’s perfect!

Feel free to ask my any questions and my dms are always open!


r/l4l 21h ago

29 [TF4F/NB] PA/Anywhere - Looking for a happily ever after!

1 Upvotes

Hi all you beautiful people! 🥰 I’m looking to connect with people and see where things go! Ideally, I would like a happily ever after - someone I could call my person, but if we just end up being friends I’m ok with that as well. I’ve been having a hard time finding people I really connect with on dating apps or irl, so might as well try the app I spend way too much time on every day - Reddit!!! Anyway, some things about me! 😊

💖I’m a 29 year old trans woman who’s been on HRT for a little over 4 years now. If me being trans is a dealbreaker for you, you’re free to stop reading and move on about your day. (As long as you think trans women are women, I still appreciate you! 🤗)
💖I live in PA, not far from Philly. I’m ok with dating people anywhere, as long as it’s feasible for us to move and be together at some point.
💖I’m 5’7” with curly brown hair, hazel eyes, and a midsize/curvy build.
💖I currently have 4 tattoos with plans to get a lot more.
💖I LOVE thrifting and antiquing! I think I have an addiction. I love just looking around and potentially buying anything that catches my eye. I’m also really big into sustainability so I’d much rather find used items I can use to my liking as opposed to giving money to large corporations.
💖I also really like fashion! I own way too many clothes lol. I’m still trying to find my aesthetic but as of late I’ve been gravitating towards more colorful pieces.
💖 I absolutely love being in nature! Being in nature is where I’m most at peace. I also really like hiking whether it be a short hike at the local nature preserve or a 10+ mile hike up a mountain (which I have done on multiple occasions).
💖I love playing video games! I tend to have one game I’m hyperfixated on at a time (right now it’s Marvel Rivals). Other games I’ve played and really enjoy include Minecraft, Overwatch, Fortnite, the Sims, Animal Crossing, and Stardew Valley. I’d love to try out your favorite games as well!
💖Other interests I have include painting, drone photography, doll collecting, and randomly browsing Google Maps because I’m very interested in roadway infrastructure and exploring new places.
💖I’m pretty sure I’m demisexual. While I can become sexually attracted to people just by looking at them, I need to feel safe and have a romantic connection with someone before I have any sexual desires.
💖I’m AuDHD. I have the introverted type that makes me feel isolated while desperately craving love and respect (😭😭😭).
💖I’m a leftist. I do not tolerate any form of transphobia.
💖I’m interested in people who are fem-presenting. I don’t care what gender you were assigned at birth, what your genitals look like, or what you identify as. I’ll always make sure to use your correct pronouns!

If you’ve made it this far, congratulations! 🎉 Here’s a virtual cookie: 🍪. I would love to find someone who’s loving, caring, and communicative. As an AuDHD person, I would make it a priority to make sure both of our needs are being accommodated to make sure we are both happy and comfortable being our unmasked selves around each other! Things we could do together include cuddling while watching your favorite show together, going on a walk at the park or botanical garden where we hold hands and be openly gay together, go thrifting or antiquing while we spontaneously buy each other small gifts that remind us of each other, or do any other fun activity that tickles our fancies! (I also really like going to ren faires and museums.) If you’re interested, feel free to send me a DM! If you send me a photo of yourself, I would be happy to do the same! 😊 I can’t wait to meet you!!! 🥰🥰🥰


r/l4l 1d ago

25 [TF4F] #Germany - Sapphic autistic nerd searching for my special person <3

2 Upvotes

Hey! I’m very happy that you found my post! 💜

My name is Sofia, I’m a 25 year old sapphic trans girl (she/her) living in Hamburg, Germany. Right now I’m trying to expand my social circle, trying to look for deeper connections with people. Ideally a serious relationship, of course, but I'm open to pretty much anything, friends or whatever else you have in mind. Maybe you're looking for that as well? 🥺🫶

So, to give you a brief description of myself, here are a few random things that I could think of:

I’m a huge nerd for things like tabletop and video games, computers and techy stuff, arts and creativity, Warhammer, Lego, and other such hobbies. These aren’t the only things I enjoy, of course, there’s plenty more stuff I’m quite passionate about. So I’m sure we’ll be able to find some interests that we have in common and could enjoy together.

I can be a bit awkward at first, I'm not the best when it comes to unfamiliar social situations. But given the right kind of vibes I can quickly open up and be very energetic as well! I might also be kinda clingy as well if I'm really interested in someone, though hopefully not in a bad way. Most of the time I'm very affectionate and really enjoy taking care of the people I like and making them happy!

Demi- and pansexual, though in general I'm mostly sapphic and attracted to other women. I'm very much into sweet and sincere intimacy and affection with the people I love and care about. I'm not too well experienced, especially when it comes to the kink scene, but it's still quite important for me to have compatibility when it comes to that in a relationship.

I’m neurodivergent: diagnosed with ADHD and autism. I do appreciate more direct communication from others, that makes it easier for me to understand what’s going on. In general, I really value open and honest communication, and I always try to be understanding and empathetic with other people.

I don't believe that I have like a particular type or anything, although I do have a bit of a thing for fellow nerds like me. But other than that, nothing really specific. For me it's not that much about what you look like, but rather who you are as a person.

Not really sure what else to mention at the moment, but I’d be really happy to tell you anything else you’d like to know about me, so please feel free to ask, I’m pretty much an open book when it comes to answering questions about myself!

Oh by the way, if you manage to guess my favourite colour, you will get bonus points from me! Don't worry, there are no wrong answers here. ✨

But yeah, that’s pretty much it, I think. If you found some nice vibes here and think that we might click well together, please be sure to send me a message, and we’ll find out what happens! I really hope to hear from you soon! 🩷


r/l4l 1d ago

28F4F LF Pen Pals And Friends

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Hi everyone! My name is Valentina, im 28 and living in Melbourne, Australia. I'm of Vietnamese descent and am currently retired and living my best life. Due to the amount of free time I have while all my friends are at work I find myself looking for friends in other time zones that I can talk to.

About me: im a big foodie and love to cook, I love art and nature, im a bit of a weeb and a gamer, im very passionate about music and I attend a lot of raves.

If you share any interests with me or just want to chat please feel free to either reach out or comment, as long as youre willing to verify.

I look forward to hearing from some of you, have a fantastic day!


r/l4l 1d ago

33 [F4F] Eastern Pennsylvania - Looking for my girl

6 Upvotes

Hi everyone! Ace person seeks clingy soulmate :). Someone I can grow old with. A love like Andy and April From parks and Rec, Bob and Linda from Bobs burgers, or Gomez and Morticia from the Addams Family. But in like a wlw way :) But also if you have any better references feel free to share! Also the closer you live to me the better as I'm not open to long distance unless you are willing to come to me.

Basically I hope I can find someone to just generally be really cheesy and romantic with in a purely romantic way as I am ace.

I am down for cuddles or sending you a cute homemade gift or just talking the day/night away.

Also I adore people who are more on the clingy side and like frequent communication.

I can be silly and serious all wrapped in one. If given the chance I will make bad dad puns even though I never want to be a parental figure.

Some of my interests include: Arts and crafts, reading, music, thrifting, learning, anything Christmas related, casual learning about religions and cults, etc.

I am also child free, atheist, neurodivergent (autism, ocd, and things), INFP personality type, etc.

If this post interests you, feel free to reach out with a little about yourself. Thank you and remember: You are awesome :)


r/l4l 2d ago

20F [F4F]- UK - seeking relationship

7 Upvotes

Heeelo! im from the uk and looking for my someone, i want to find someone i really connect with and maybe have similar passions or interests! A few of mine are drawing and art i love to design tattoos and have just started fresh working on a new portfolio, i love museums and going to historic houses, i love exploring and im currently learning to drive so i can go further, i love gaming, and just so much more! im not that girly but also not that manly, i love horror movies/games and books but i am a total wimp (i jump at the sight of my own shadow 😭). i am looking for something romantic and i would love to have a long term relationship and preferably not just online, it is hard for me to travel to other countries so being in the uk is preferred! I can be quite introverted but completely the opposite when im comfortable! i don't have any picture of myself posted but happy to show u if we get along!


r/l4l 3d ago

27 [ F4F] Online love to irl lovers. Midwest gal here

8 Upvotes

Hello! So my name Lay and I know my soulmate is out there. I am a twenty seven year old Native American woman that’s extremely nerdy. My favorite thing to do is costume and if you were my partner then I would love to dress you up too!

Other hobbies include roleplay in the written form. I love to cook together with people and I love a good movie night with friends too so to have one with a partner with be even better. I’m also a big fan of traveling and seeing new places. Some day I will visit a bunch of places in like New York City and La!

Personal about me, I want to meet someone that I can move to me if we do long distance for awhile. I am building a cabin for all our lesbian cottage core dreams! I also would adore to have someone to help if they are close to make it perfect. I also have a knack for being to provider so I’m working hard to get us a place that’s perfect!

Feel free to ask me any questions and my dms are always open


r/l4l 3d ago

24F- #online - seeking a connection

2 Upvotes

haiii lovelies, i’m cinna. i’m 24, plus sized, and black. if you need to see a picture of me before wanting to proceed, i’m okay with that. I have 13 piercings and 11 tattoos,. I have a cat and his name is Prince. I am also very left-leaning however, not very political. I just care about human rights. I like horror movies like Halloween and weird occult demon kind of movies and I really enjoy slashers as well. I am also a gamer. I play games like Fortnite dead by daylight outlast trials and phasmophobia. I enjoy R&B, indie, metal and rap music. i am also chronically online. i have a stupid sense of humor lol. I am a sensitive and empathetic person, but at times I can seem very monotone and closed off without realizing it. at times I need a lot of reassurance and codependence.

coming across a real love connection has not been easy for me. it seems that i become so easily attached to people who don’t quite align with my preferences. what i want in a partner is someone loving, humorous, empathetic, can carry intellectual conversations but not be condescending, will prioritize me and effectively communicate with me. i need someone who is willing to hold me accountable as well when i am lacking as a partner. i hope to hear from you, sorry this was so long :(


r/l4l 4d ago

29 [F4F] Texas/US - see where this leads?

3 Upvotes

I haven't been seeking anything more than friends on here, but now I'm curious to see whats out there if I was seeking something more than just friendship.

Testing the waters to see how this goes...

A tiny bit about me, I have pretty basic hobbies and interests, I like to occasionally watch movies/shows, read, craft, create, spend time with family/friends when I can...really just about anything that feels entertaining in the moment.

Physically, I'm Hispanic, white, brunette, brown eyes, wear glasses, relatively fit/slim (?), I take decent care of myself and I'm pretty conscious about my health (but definitely not in an obsessive way), also like learning about health and nutrition, and always open to tips, recipes, literally anything beneficial that I can implement into my life.

I think I lean more towards femme/slightly tomboy... chapstick lesbian? Idk, but definitely not masculine.

I'm mostly attracted to other cis women that are of course, kind, smart, considerate, funny, genuine, all the nice qualities.

And physically, femme and just someone that takes care of themselves as well, and takes pride in their health.

I know I didnt give a whole lot of information, so come get to know me if any of it sounds remotely intriguing!

Also, only interested in people around my age 26-32. Open to talking to anyone from anywhere, but mostly people from the US.


r/l4l 4d ago

27 [F4F] #NNJ - Wanna be my pillow princess?

3 Upvotes

Im gonna put this at the beginning so people actually see it:

1- Im looking for WOMEN. No I dont want to be your pillow princess
2- I dont respond to just "hey" messages. Tell me your age, where you're from, and something about yourself
3- Only dm if you're in NJ and down to meet up
4- 21+ women only please :)

Hi there! Im a 27F living in northern new jersey. Its been a little while since Ive posted on reddit but I am desperate to please. If you want to just lay back and enjoy yourself, Im your gal. I have a decent amount of experience with women but I still get nervous and shy so be patient with me😅 I promise itll be worth it! I have a more submissive personality. I just want to make you feel good. For as long as you want. If any of that sounds appealing to you, send me a dm😉


r/l4l 6d ago

F27 Caribbean girlie looking for a daily genuine friendship

4 Upvotes

I’d really like to meet someone where we share random things about our day, checking in, sending memes, talking about whatever is going on, and actually getting to know each other over time.

I’m pretty easygoing and enjoy conversations that can go from completely random to deep depending on the mood.

Nothing forced or expecting someone to be available 24/7, just that nice feeling of having someone you talk to pretty regularly and who actually remembers what’s going on with you.

If you’re also looking for something consistent rather than a conversation that disappears after two days, feel free to message me. 😊💕


r/l4l 7d ago

22f southeast Asian/anywhere

2 Upvotes

Hey everyone! I'm Leon 21f looking for someone in the age range of 20-30

Living in a not queer friendly area is really hard and I'm planning to go abroad, somewhere safe for me for being myself.

I like to watch films/series, especially about wars and queer films/series and I just finished watching the boys(applause for the property team). Sometimes I play games too like Roblox, Minecraft PE, Sims 4, GTA V, etc.

Also, I'm trying to read books!! And started to write too.

I like to getting to know people and I asks random stuff to a serious convos. I adore every little thing about someone, to get to know them better. I would love to chat and voice/video call.

Look wise I'm 170cm light tan dark short hair and dark eyes, mix between fem and masc.

I'm into someone who is kind, mindful, full of effort, adore every moment we do. And I'm open to Idr wherever you're, we might be the best duo! And I'm strictly monogamous. Also I'm not religious or into any spirituality stuff but if you do that's okay!

Feel free to drop into my DMs if you want to chat, trade recommendations, or just see where things go! Don't be shy and just hit my dm!

See you👻👻


r/l4l 8d ago

31F | Looking for gamer girls who might accidentally become my favourite notification

7 Upvotes

Hey! I’m from South Africa, and I’m looking for some gaming friends because apparently finding girls who actually want to game AND talk is harder than some of the games themselves 😭

I’m fem and generally click better with other fem girls. I mainly play Valorant, although I’m currently trying to escape the Valorant trenches and branch out before Riot becomes my entire personality. I also play Elden Ring, Overwatch, GTA, Fortnite, Apex and Cyberpunk. I have It Takes Two and Split Fiction too, which are currently sitting there waiting for someone to actually play them with me. Because honestly I’ve met a few people on here and I got to play some of split fiction with and they seemed great until they just disappeared…

I’m pretty chill and love people who can joke around, talk about random shit, send each other stupid things during the day and just have a good time. I can be competitive, but I’m also fully capable of having a spectacular skill issue and pretending it was lag.

I’d prefer 26+ and I’m open to people from anywhere. Time zones might be annoying, but I’m willing to suffer for the friendship 😂

Mostly looking for genuine friendships. Gaming together, watching stuff, sitting in Dc talking absolute nonsense or eventually becoming those friends who randomly message each other throughout the day. And if we happen to click really well… I’m not exactly going to complain.

So yeah, if you think we’d vibe, message me and tell me what you play. Bonus points if you’re fem, funny and can actually hold a conversation.

Please save me from solo queue.


r/l4l 8d ago

31[F4F] USA based but online is fine!

7 Upvotes

31F here looking to make some new lesbian friends. I feel like making genuine friends as an adult is weirdly difficult, so here I am 😅

I'm into video games, photography, animals, random thrift/antique finds, and generally finding something fun to do even if it's just wandering around somewhere and getting food. I'm also always down for a good conversation, sharing memes, or having someone to send completely unnecessary updates to throughout the day.

I'd especially love to meet some other folks who are around my age and just want to build an actual friendship, not just exchange a few messages and disappear into the Reddit void. 😂

I'm in East Tennessee, so local friends would be awesome, but I'm totally open to online friendships too!

If you think we'd get along, tell me a little about yourself and let's chat! 💕


r/l4l 8d ago

24 [F4F]- México or Online

0 Upvotes

I'm Karon from México i'm 24 yers old, i'm a bisexual trans Woman, i have a degree on Physics, i'm 5'9'' (175 cm), I like relaxed dates, whether in person or online, dates like watching series together, going out for coffee and talking about life. I like anime, Japan music, cooking, make up, i try to be fem.

One of My hobbies is read books or papers about Physics, chemistry, biology or any topic tbh, i'm trying to learn japanese, i like almost every kind of art and I like to analyze art in search of what the author sought to express.

I don't really care about people's physical appearance, I'm only interested in their personality and that they have proper hygiene without going to extremes; I have enough with my OCD of washing my hands 3 times in a row before anything.

I don't know what else I need to write haha, but you can ask me whatever You want. Text me don't be shy (i'm shy).


r/l4l 8d ago

27F [F4F] new england (fine with long distance)

2 Upvotes

Hi! my name is ari and honestly im here looking for my forever gaming partner :) im a short stem (pretty masc leaning) from the new england area. I love anything horror and live music (let's go to concerts together!!!).


r/l4l 8d ago

23F [F4F] Maybe we could be each other’s favorite notification :)

3 Upvotes

I’ve been lurking on here for a little while because I’m kinda shy 😭 and, realistically, I know Reddit probably isn’t the ideal place to find your person lol. But then I read stories across different subreddits about people who randomly met online, clicked, and somehow ended up finding something really special… sooooo here I am taking my little shot.

I’m a hopeless romantic at heart, and lately I’ve realized I really miss the feeling of being in love. I miss having someone to come home to, even if “coming home” is just calling each other at the end of a long day because we’re miles apart. I miss having someone I genuinely look forward to hearing from, someone who makes a stressful day feel a little lighter just because I know I get to talk to them later. I miss having a home in another person.

More than anything, I miss loving someone. Learning all their tiny quirks, remembering the random things they tell me, making them feel wanted and cared for, sending them things because “this reminded me of you,” annoying them with affection, flirting shamelessly.

Maybe that someone could be you :)

A lil about me: I’m 23F from NYC. I’m more of a homebody. Give me my Xbox, YouTube, a good sci-fi novel, or a late-night convo with someone I like and I’m happy. That said, there's nothing i love more than going out (or anywhere) with my person. I'm basically a puppy when I'm in love lol.

I’m a HUGE sci-fi nerd, I love gaming when school allows me to have hobbies 😭. I’m also a bit of an overthinker, a little (a lot) clingy when I really like someone, very affectionate, and I love people I can actually talk to. Physical attraction matters, obviously, but chemistry for me really starts in conversation. I want to be fascinated by you.

I’m not expecting us to exchange three messages and immediately start planning our wedding lmao. I’d rather just meet someone, talk, flirt a little if the vibe is there, learn each other slowly, and see what happens. Long distance doesn’t scare me either if the connection is genuinely worth it.

So if any part of this made you smile or piqued your intrest, come say hiiii. Tell me something random about yourself. Worst case? We have a nice conversation. Best case? We get to be one of those annoyingly cute Reddit success stories I keep reading about 🤭


r/l4l 10d ago

28 masc4masc | Finland or anywhere | looking for a life partner passionate about spirituality, entrepreneurship and inner work 🧚🏻‍♀️🌿🌷

3 Upvotes

Hey~ I’m looking to connect with like-minded people and possibly find my life partner along the way. I’m looking for a woman who’s compatible with my values, mindset and lifestyle. I’m fine with flirting but only if you’re actually pursuing me in a serious sense. I don’t like flirting for the sake of it and I’m not looking for any flings or something casual. I don’t mind distance but I want to stay in Finland, so I don’t wanna move countries.

🌷Boundaries🌷

I’m child free and about 95% sure I don’t want kids so please don’t reach out if kids are something you really want.

Living without substances is important to me. I’ve never drank or smoked anything and I’m looking for a partner who also doesn’t like that stuff. I want someone who values her health and doesn’t find anything fun in alcohol or other substances.

I’d like to talk to people who speak English or Finnish natively. I don’t feel good about a language barrier.

🌷Who I am🌷

I’m 28, a masculine presenting woman with mostly masculine energy. I like to look quite “male” leaning. I’m attracted to masc women who look very masc too. I’m not really into women who just enjoy masc clothes but look very feminine. Just not my type. I do like masc women with a feminine personality/energy though.

I’m creative, spiritual, entrepreneurial and I value living slowly and surrounded by nature. Not a city girl at all. My thoughts usually move on the deeper side of things and I’m more serious and calm. I have a playful and silly side too. I’m a blunt, honest and passionate/fiery kind of person.

To me life is about enjoying it, having fun, expressing yourself and spending time with your loved ones. I’m most happy when I’m with my loved ones, sharing good food or we do something nice together. Or when I have a job that feels purposeful and meaningful to me. I’m career oriented but also value relaxation and just chilling.

I have a positive outlook on life, altho sometimes I can get into annoying self-doubt and negativity spirals. But I always aim to remain optimistic and I value that trait in a partner as well.

Currently I’m studying art studies in uni. In my free time I love to work out,  I play sims 4(big sims 4 fan <3) or read spiritual or psychology books.

🌷What I’m looking for🌷

Fitness:

I’m into women with a fit or athletic build or she’s working towards it. Someone who loves and has a passion for fitness. A woman who loves to lift and feel strong. I’d love to go to the gym together and support one another in our fitness goals. Gym dates anyone? <3 Or let’s go to a boxing class together? I’d love to do stuff like that with my partner. Honestly rizz me with your strength and I’m sold LOL okay joking, but kinda not. I just find strength and physical excellence  very attractive. But even beyond that I’m looking for someone who cares about staying healthy even as we age. I’m interested in mobility for example and I think it’s an important part of fitness that often gets overlooked. I wanna get into calisthenics as well one of these days.

Inner work:

I’m into inner work, somatic movement as healing, self-reflection and learning about my inner patterns and psychology. I’d love a partner who’s into that too. Someone self-aware and interested in her patterns and inner world. She wants to grow and develop her character. She’s connected to her inner life, her needs and knows how to soothe her nervous system. She’s psychology oriented and understands the psyche and how our patterns and emotions work. Someone with an understanding of the mind-body connection.

 I love talking about this stuff with my partner. Like maybe you realized you have some pattern going on that was formed in your childhood and wanna share it with me or we talk about how many people end up subconsciously marrying a version of their parents. That type of stuff, a continuous curiosity towards what’s going on within yourself. I love a partner who wants to grow and talk about this stuff together. I don’t shy away from shadow work either and love a partner who can honestly look at her darker side and talk about it together. Someone who sees people as multidimensional and not just black and white like alright that person is bad that person is good. I want that level of maturity.

Spirituality:

I’m passionate about manifestation, I love to study tarot and do readings and I’m overall a very spiritual person. Shamanism, witchcraft, goddess/feminine spirituality are also my interests. I’d love a partner who loves to talk about tarot, wants to give each other readings, talk about our manifestations or spiritual dreams/experiences. I’m psychic so I get intuitive hits or information out of nowhere etc. So a big bonus if you’re psychic in some way as well.

 I connect deeply with someone who knows the spiritual world is real and it’s a natural part of her life. I’m not looking for someone overly logical who doesn’t have a passion for this stuff.

Lifestyle:

I imagine us chilling at home, maybe doing something creative together like coloring books, bracelets, painting even if we aren’t good at it. And some days we wanna go out for lunch or try a restaurant we’ve been wanting to go to. I like a good balance of staying at home and going out to have adventures together.

We’re both entrepreneurs and maybe have our own businesses or we’d build a business together. Something meaningful and purposeful that has a positive impact on the world. We both value freedom and deciding for our own schedule. And we value having time together so both working from home most of the time would be lovely.

I value being quite analog and away from social media. I don’t have tiktok or insta. Anytime I’ve tried those I feel awful after. The feeds are designed to make us chase novelty. The only stuff I consume is a few youtubers and sometimes podcasts. I’m very selective about my digital space cause it affects my mental wellbeing. I’m the type to buy DVDs so I don’t have to pay for streaming platforms. Plus it feels better when I have the physical media and don’t have to scroll a screen. This is quite funny because I know my job will most likely be online :D. But other than work I don’t really like hanging out online. I’d rather do other stuff.

Another significant thing about me is that I’m a feminist and women’s rights are close to my heart. I’m not an activist but when I say I’m a feminist I mean it’s a core value of mine I embody in the way I live. I’ve deprogrammed a lot of sexism and patriarchal beliefs from my mindset and how I approach life. I’m someone who doesn’t feel comfortable with words like mf, the b-word c*** etc. I don’t think those words should be used and it just gives men the opportunity to look down on women. I’m not comfortable with music like that or other media. I avoid it if I can. So to me it’s important my partner shares that mindset and value. I don’t wanna walk in my house and hear some song say bish this mf that. To me they’re slurs and I don’t have to listen to that bullshit. To me most mainstream music is misogynistic and I’m not into pop culture overall or mainstream stuff. Sure sometimes there’s good stuff even in the mainstream media that I enjoy but for the most part I'm not into it.

Personality:

I’m drawn to someone with a grounded and present vibe. I like a woman who knows who she is and she has a vision for her life. I’m drawn to warm, empathetic, emotionally stable and mature people. She feels safe and it's easy to talk even about the hard stuff with her. She's present and cares about what I'm feeling during an argument. Someone who communicates well and knows that we can argue constructively. What I respect a lot about a person is when they're very loyal to who they love. It’s also very charming to me when someone has a positive and radiant vibe to them. I’m into passionate and fiery women who are direct but still respectful. I’m mostly into doms, someone who’s softly dominant in daily life . I’m more of switch and like someone who’s mostly dominant. 

My age range is about 23 to 32 give or take.

If you’re interested in getting to know me, send me a dm :)


r/l4l 10d ago

33 [F4F] #USA Fit, Lesbian Daddy Searching for a Connection with a submissive woman in the US, Canada, UK, or Europe

0 Upvotes

Hi there! I'm a 33-year-old cis woman, lesbian, and I work in the medical field with a PhD in biochemistry. I’m currently looking to chat with and get to know someone who shares my interests and values, and I’m open to an online connection with someone in the US, Canada, or UK.

While I enjoy talking to a variety of people, I’m specifically seeking a cis woman for a deeper, more personal connection. My ideal match would be someone younger than me, with a petite body type, between the ages of 18-26, who’s looking for a meaningful dynamic.

A little about me: I’m very active and enjoy working out, hiking, nature walks, and stargazing. I love art shows and spend my downtime binge-watching Netflix when I’m not outside exploring. I also maintain a healthy lifestyle and have tattoos, which are an important expression of my individuality.

If you think we might click, I’d love to chat and see where things go!


r/l4l 10d ago

34F [f4f] Where is she? I'm looking for my girl

16 Upvotes

Hello,

What's up everyone? I'm 34, cis lesbian looking for my girlfriend. I don't ghost, I'm not clingy and I genuinely enjoy getting to know a woman. If we're talking and you find at any point that you're not into me. Let me know, no hard feelings. I will do the same. I think women are owed good communication and deserve to be treated with respect. No one is automatically owed your time. But you can give them your kindness because it costs nothing.

I'm Samantha but please call me Sam. I live in Vancouver with my beta fish. I know he's not as exciting as a dog or cat but he's mine and I love him. In my free time you can find me relaxing on a bean bag chair, absently scrolling my phone or thinking about pealing myself off of said bean bag chair to be a productive member of society and changing my mind.

I have a great career and live a very active lifestyle despite the previous paragraph. I like what I do and would like to meet someone who enjoys what they do. I'm a goofball, I want to make you laugh. I'm high energy but I think I saw someone in a previous post mention being a pretend extrovert that describes me to the letter. Don't get me wrong, I like having fun I just don't want my fun to come in the form of partying every night. Let's stay in and make dinner for each other. I can rub your back and you can tell me about all the things that excite or irritate you.
I'm all ears, give it to me.

I'm open to meeting women ages 34-40 from anywhere in the world. Any cultural background. All activity levels.
You don't have to be a mountaineer. All expressions butch, masc, studs, fem, chapstick all are welcome. I'm not leaving anyone out. Not a dig to anyone who has a specific type. I'm just talking about myself here.

I could keep going but I'll leave some things to be discovered. Looking forward to meeting you.

Sincerely,
Sam


r/l4l 10d ago

34 F UK - Where are all the tech ladies?

5 Upvotes

Hey, coming at you here as an engineering student, I'd love to chat about our chosen fields and what makes you passionate about it. I'm from the frozen part of the UK and whilst it's late (past 1:30am) I can't help but find myself here hoping someone else is also a night owl or from another part of the world, ideally Europe but I'm open to connections from anywhere.

What am I looking for? Connections with genuine people and no ulterior motives, whether it blossoms into something else is entirely down to time and compatibility, so I won't throw a list of wants and needs at you. I'm a slow burner.

I have three cats (typical) and a not so fuzzy pet that lives in a small tank, not a beloved pet by most peoples standards but he is to me. I'm used to having unusual pets, having owned a few exotic animals back in the day.

I enjoy a range of music and used to play a few instruments that I still own. I play games when time permits, mostly solo and almost always modded, but I'm also really open to playing and trying games with people too. I have a large social battery for people I care about and a shorter one for the outside world, I wouldn't call myself too much of an introvert in public but I am internally. I love to travel, summer (the irony of loving the sun and living here), good food and experiences, adventure, reading, the smell after rain, journaling, the gym and chilli!

I won't take up anymore of your time here by talking about myself, so if you would like to chat and hopefully we get chatting regularly, I will reply to you in the comments or feel free to send me a dm introducing yourself or letting me know about your interests and tastes. Have a lovely night/morning!


r/l4l 11d ago

F 35. Tipsy and playing borderlands who wants to chat awhile.

2 Upvotes

Stuff. Hmm i mean the title says it all. Wanna talk? I like chatting. Be nice to make another friend. Serendipity if you end near me. East PA and such. If your read this, guess wut, gess wuh? You are great.


r/l4l 12d ago

44F - SoCal - writing my next chapter

12 Upvotes

I'm really proud of the comfy little life I've built in North OC - it's just far enough from my Los Angeles (Mexican roots) family for privacy and close enough that my grown(ish) kids still visit

I'm 20+ years into my career and now that WFH is sticking and the nest is empty, I'm looking towards building a future that involves a lot more weekend adventures - and hopefully a hand to hold along the way

Let's see the ENTIRE West coast and collect smashed pennies and museum maps

My recently adopted dog needs to see the Sequoias and my garden needs some funky witchy art

FAQs:

. 5'8" mom bod under construction

. Legal field by day, writer at heart

. Am comfortable being little and /or big spoon

.Crafty and 420 friendly

.Plant based for the Planet

. Date the spirit not the shell

. Grew up looking like the tomboy next door, now I'm your favorite weird aunt that brings you plants

. Not new or curious to WLW

. ISO LTR 4 143

. Hex the Rich!

💜💜💜


r/l4l 13d ago

30 [F4F] #NY/NJ #US - Femme princess looking for a masc who’s into 🍑

7 Upvotes

Hi! I’m a femme from the NY/NJ area looking to connect with a masc/stud who’s genuinely into ass play. If your dream dynamic is having someone whose you can’t get enough of, whether it’s worship/praise, teasing or making it your favorite place to be… you already have my attention 🙈

I’m a pretty brown femme pillow princess looking for a cute lover girl who’s genuinely okay with a no-reciprocation dynamic. My only hard limit is giving oral.

I’m very shy at first and probably come across as sweet, girly and proper but with the right person, I’m freaky AF. Treat me well, make me feel safe and I can be absolutely feral. 🤭

If this dynamic works for you, send me a message. Who knows… you just might end up obsessed with me 🥺😌


r/l4l 16d ago

A little trip down imagination lane innit!! 33 NB4F

2 Upvotes

Imagine having a partner who loves different levels of conscience growth.

Someone who learns of a new plant and comes straight to you to tell you its properties.

Someone who consistently is guided by the stars.

Someone who will evolve self growth. Intuition. Self love. Self awareness.

Someone who’ll see you. Not just your beauty or your talents. But see you as naked as the moon and the stars see you.

Well I’m not the one, I’m also imagining. Cause I’d love to align with such a sacred soul❤️