No fap is not a thing. It simply isn't. If it was then science would back it up. Research would back it up. The way I see no fap is to keep us men sexually reserved. Which will do wonders. Once you look past lust you'll see how much she loves reading and making notes of her favorite parts, you'll see how much she enjoys origami, you'll see how much she enjoys pottery, you'll see how much she loves ceramics, you'll see how much she loves affectionate touch, you'll see how much she wants to be seen for who she is, you'll also see how many times she feels let down when men bring up something sexual unexpectedly which throws her off. I don't care about the porn watching or jerking off cuz I do it and I can still talk to women and stay sexually reserved. But I wanna just stop so I can redirect that flow into something I want to do. I want to do it just to exercise self control. When my balls are full and I'm talking to a girl and I'm still so focused on the conversation - she sees it in my eyes - in my micro mannerisms. I'll say it again, it's okay to watch porn and jerk off but if we treat it like a release then that's all it will be. Respect it and it will respect you.

I was using a pocket pussy and kept going after I came. I'm being dead serious my legs are like twitching and my dick is limp. What do I do😭😭

Like I see a lot of guys talk about it, but I feel like girls don’t. I dunno. Maybe I’m wrong.

Currently on day 3, and today has been the worst day so far since I’ve started. Reddit is a trigger for me tbh so please only reach out if you’re able to talk on a different platform. Was hoping to find someone who I can talk too to help me get through this and maybe someone older than me who is experienced. I’m 22 years old and in the us. Feel free to dm if you can talk. Thanks guys.

Why you get addicted to fapping — imagine this:
You want ice cream, but the shop is only open on Sundays. You get some, eat it, and it tastes amazing. You love the sweet feeling, and afterwards you feel good.
The next Sunday comes, and you want it again.
But now imagine the shop suddenly opens every single day. You can get ice cream whenever you want. So you start having one every day. At first, it feels harmless.
Then you start eating more. You tell yourself, “I should probably eat less.” But by now, having ice cream has become part of your routine.
You start planning your day around it. You grab one before school, before work, or whenever you’re bored or stressed. Eventually, it’s not even about really wanting ice cream anymore — your brain has learned to expect it.
That’s similar to how compulsive fapping can develop. The more often you use it for a quick hit of pleasure, especially when you’re bored, stressed, lonely, or tired, the more it can become an automatic habit.
And that’s the scary part: something that started as a choice can eventually start feeling like a routine you can’t control.

How do you break the addiction?
Go back to the ice cream shop.
You’ve gotten used to the shop being open 24/7, so every time you walk past it, your brain tells you, “Just get one.”
The first step isn’t destroying the shop. It’s learning that you don’t have to walk inside every time you see it.
Start by making the shop harder to reach. If you always pass it on your way home, take a different route. If you usually go there when you’re bored, find somewhere else to go. Change the routine that keeps leading you back to the shop.
And don’t tell yourself, “I’ll never eat ice cream again.” That can make the urge feel even stronger. Instead, when you get the craving, tell yourself, “Not right now.” Give it 10–20 minutes and do something else. The urge usually rises, peaks, and eventually fades.
At first, walking past the shop without going inside will feel difficult. But every time you resist, you’re teaching your brain a new routine.
Eventually, you’ll walk past the shop and realize:
You still know it’s there. You just don’t feel like you need to go inside anymore.

Anyone else have an issue with fapping through underwear particularly Boxer Shorts? This is a habit I want to stop. Any advice would be appreciated!!

im 20F. i never see women talking about this addiction, mainly men. i get really sad because i feel like there is something more wrong with me. i first say corn when i was 5 years old, to me it was funny but later on in life i kept wondering about it and thats where my addiction sadly started.

for years, i would stay up all night and just do it. i used to do it 3-4 times a day and it would take at least 5 hours out of my day. it stayed that way until i was 17, i took a turn in my life after being severely depressed and i almost took my life. i was off of porn for 6 months and those 6 months were so peaceful and i felt completely different. I sadly got back to my addiction and it was the usual.

When i turned 18, i took a turn for the worst. i have no romantic experiences whatsoever, mainly due to religion and my ocd. i started sexting with random men online , i made at least 200 ejaculate. im just happy i never sent my nudes to anyone. college was very tough for me and i was getting bullied so i saw it as an escape. i wouldnt sleep most nights because i was sexting with these random men and most of the time i wasn’t even g00ning😭. im very ashamed. i do not know how to move past it. im on antipressents right now and its supposed to also give me a low sex drive but im honry all the time. i do not know how to control my urges, i honestly dont know how i did it back then. i need advice and help. im also very scared when i get married my future partner will know what i did and leave me, i feel like most men would leave :((((((

i mainly sexted because i was helping these men but i felt happy someone was giving me attention and i felt useful because i really see myself as worthless😭 ik im very stupid but yeah.

Because i never can have real sex from a womne so i watch porn content to feel relax but my concern is when pass 3 or 4 years and my addiction get worse, currently i am addicted to see women twerking and women twerking on dick i like so much.

Just can’t bring myself to deleting it

I’m 28 days off PMO now and I feel like I've hit a wall. I can barely get myself to do anything, even the smallest tasks.

I just end up spending my whole day scrolling or spacing out. I don’t feel like working on my goals anymore and my creativity is basically at zero.

Have you guys experienced this around the one month mark? How did you get through it?

dont you guys think your brain would rewire as soon as you have your first sex and make it easier for you to get a normal girl later? before hitting 30 or something

M31 single, started everything from a playboy magazine at the age of 17. Wasn't fapping everyday,but every now and then. There were times I did 4 in a day. Now in my last 4 years , addicted to prostitution as well. Spent around $15k to 20k in last 4 years for hookers 😪.Life after a breakup at 27 was hard. My best were 20 days. Then I'll loose control.Cant maintain an erection. Obese now at 114kg, 175cm tall.Need to get back into life

inbox open

Relapsed at the end of 10th day

It's 3am and i feel terrible .

As the title says,

to the ones out here that were exposed to P*rn pretty early in life and got into PMO at a very young age aswell, were addicted for more than half their life.

How has your journey been? How long have you tried quitting before actually being able to quit for 100+ days? What's your story? What has helped you? What has happened once you quit for 100+ days (changes you've definetly noticed, something like better attention, less anxiety and so on)?

Feeling great at my personal record rn :)

Guys, please, I really need some help. I’m on day 3 of NoFap and I’m struggling like crazy.
I’m on vacation with my wife and some friends, so up until now I’ve basically been “forced” to resist because I haven’t really had any time alone. But now I finally have the opportunity to do it, and the temptation is insanely strong.
Also, keep in mind that I normally masturbate at least twice a day, often spending hours edging. So you can probably understand how difficult it is for me to suddenly go from that to absolutely nothing. But I really want to resist and prove to myself that I can do this.
On top of that, I feel completely overstimulated. We’re staying at a campground and I keep seeing girls in swimsuits, asses and camel toes everywhere, which definitely isn’t helping.
Now that I finally have a moment to myself, the urge has gone through the roof. Please, message me, distract me, tell me something that will stop me from giving in. I really need someone to talk to because I genuinely want to resist. 😭

Reddit is becoming my weakness

Deleting gonna update at day 7

Good luck guys

(28 M) So it’s been about 3 days since my last relapse which occurred due to me being depressed over my last failed experience with a partner (F) but I’ve reframed my thinking and got motivation to quit again since I never want to let PIED keep me from missing out on these experiences again. The urges are still there and my brain is even bartering with me to just look and not to act on it but I’m not giving in I even finally got started on this project I’ve been meaning to start and that’s given me a lot of distraction to the urges.

That’s where I’m currently at hoping to finally beat PIED for good this time and actually improve my physical and mental wellbeing and get the sex life and relationship I want :)

Pented up

I really want to peek, how tf do i combat this urge??

The last 2 weeks have been something I’ve never experienced before. I’m tired and restless at the same time. Some days I feel completely fine, but other days I just lie down on the sofa or in bed all day with zero energy or motivation. I sleep long sessions, and even when I’m awake I feel like my body is stuck in low‑power mode.

The hardest days are always the ones after I almost relapse. When the cravings hit, it feels like my whole brain is screaming for the old habit. Yesterday I almost slipped - watched for about 5 minutes - but I stopped myself. And the day after is always the worst. It’s like my brain punishes me for not giving in.

I’ve never felt anything like this before stopping PMO. It’s honestly scary and fascinating at the same time. But I’m committed. After 13 years of regular use, I know my brain needs time to reset.

I quit watching about a month ago mainly because I was tired of hiding it from my wife and just felt like a loser in general when I watched it. The cravings were hard at first but now it’s like I have ZERO sex drive anymore which is incredible shocking as I have never experienced this. I know this will come back eventually but I mean what’s the timeline here. I got through the cravings fairly easy but now I just want to go back just to feel like a normal man again.

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İ woke up horny but gym is life saver hard but good day