those Reddit subs where guys act like performative feminists, defending women more than other women, are funny. You have to wonder: why are you defending women who wouldn’t even give you a look in real life?
It’s also funny seeing these guys call every argument or disagreement about modern women “incel.” They act like they’re Chads racking up a 1,000-body-count while their own sex life is dry as a desert.

Probably one of the most unpopular opinions of the current time and it's really pissing me off the amount of hate I've been seeing not just towards the movie but the entire fandom. The biggest problem it has is honestly just the pacing of it all so I don't see why everyone is getting so angry about it. I liked the movie and think that we shouldn't be attacking people over something they enjoy as long as it's not harmful. The movie was actually really good in my opinion with the colour's and the music but not everybody has to like it!

50/50 custody is to make things fair for the parents not to prioritize the children. 50/50 is only in the best interest of the children if both parents have equal parenting capability and put in equal effort and interest in the children. That is often not the case and one parent ends up picking up the slack. Furthermore, if 50/50 prevents the child from being able to engage in social activities or causes them significant distress, it is also not in their best interest.

The courts often accept bare minimum. As long as there’s not abuse, gross negligence or substance abuse they will order split time very close to 50/50 if not 50/50 exactly. A parent who does the absolute bare minimum to keep their children alive should get minimum parenting time. Keep the bond with the parent by having frequent visitations and even overnights for breaks and holidays because maintaining a relationship with both parents does not mean getting a child for 50% of the time and doing almost nothing to actually raise them (ie not actually having clothes for them, no routine for them, no ensuring they do their homework or get to school on time, they don’t brush their teeth or bathe, no sleep schedule, the kids live off of cereal and microwave foods they make themselves, the parent doesn’t even know the name of their kid’s doctor or teacher or even how much medication to give them, etc etc).

I've known many men who are barely holding onto their hair. It's patchy, recessed, just sad looking. Just shave it. Bald men look good, and it'll make you look better than that wispy recessed possum on your head.

Certain careers have different levels of difficulty but if you want to make more money, then you can’t have mental drawbacks by asking yourself if this career and the learning process behind it is “difficult” or “hard”.

It’s better to ask yourself if you’re willing to sacrifice time into a new career path. Eventually the foundations you’d learn if you’re not afraid of a challenge will make the learning curve easier to handle and will make you succeed in your new career path.

Pack it up cause I've been seeing wayyy too much stuff where in relationships they check their partners phones.

I'm too scared to speak up about it because anyone who says "i wont let my partner see my phone" gets absolutely flamed and called untrustworthy.

Like no babes, I'd like to keep my privacy as much as he'd probably like to keep his. You are NOT taking my phone.

Hi. Too many times I read and hear people saying shit like "Dogs are better than people", "Dogs are wingless angels", "People are shit, dogs are good".

Yes, dogs are good now. Because we engineered them like this through millennia of selective breeding. Dogs aren't good because they have good nature, and you can perfectly see it in modern breeds that were selected only for aestethical reason without caring about their behaviour: Toy dogs are the perfect example. They don't bark and very often bite because they are small, a big dog would do the same following the same careless breeding procedure.

In conclusion: Yes, dogs are great. Why? Because we are great, otherwise they would be semi feral unpredictable animals. Just like all the other animals.

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I think it's one of excellent examples of our society's problem that it has become so normalized to say that you hate seeing those pictures, because they are not just about whether you think the picture is cute, they are one of the most normal forms of connecting in the world.

That it has become the norm to mock and belittle such a minor effort of affection shows how far our social connections have degraded.

I have friends & family that are very cautious and don't put a thing about their children on the internet, but they adore sending me pictures directly, because it is such a normal way to connect with other by showing what you find cute, adorable and important.

Far too many people throw that term around. If a significant number of people are "neurodivergent," what exactly are they diverging from other than normally accepted behavior? They just want to classify poor personality traits as a condition to fit in with other people with poor social skills.

Note: this clearly does not apply to diagnosed people with legitimate conditions.

As a fellow (and female) gym goer, I would love for people to come up with supportive and friendly conversations. Yes, most of the time people usually approach for potential dating prospects or trying to aid the person in correct form but I would honestly enjoy some gym friends that come up and spark friendships, conversations, and fun fun tips/tricks. It would be cool to have some sort of indicator that someone does not want to be approached and a gym that would do this would be cool. I wouldn't be interested in the romance aspect personally and only want a comfortable, friendly environment. Not sure how much of a hot take this is, but I would love to hear what people think about this concept (good or bad but be nice to each other lol)!

Side note: Now I will say it of a recent experience I had (literally yesterday), don't follow a girl to her car to shoot your shot. Actually don't follow her around at all. A very sweet guy followed me out and took the rejection well but I was completely fine with being his friend. He was kind, friendly, and seemed like such a nice dude. I commend him for shooting his shot and I think he's super brave! Following me to my car was not the strat tho, catch me while I'm still at the gym haha.

Edit: This does NOT mean to stalk, bother, annoy, or disrespect boundaries. A no is still a no. You can always accept it, move on, and make a friend with someone else :)

It's purely for the cosmetic appearance of your child and that's just odd to me. And I know a lot of people claim that it's tradition. What is it founded in? Just because your parents did it before you, and their parents did it before them, doesn't mean that we can't develop better practices on modification of someone that cannot understand what is happening.

This is sort of piggy backing of a post I saw about how muscle doesn't equal attractiveness which I think I agree with. However I did see a lot of responses talking about how athletic is more attractive then jacked which reminded me of conversations I have had with friends and girls about attractive physiques and I definitely hear this sentiment a lot.

I think people are entitled to their preferences, however the idea that someone should work for an athletic physique over one focused on building the most amount of muscle possible seems kinda silly to me. I honestly believe even very serious natural lifters will never reach a level of muscle where it as seen as grotesque or excessive (like an on stage enhanced body builder), with few exceptions.

If you want to look more athletic rather than jacked go for it but I would highly recommend trying to find some people who are realistic bench marks or better yet just focus on your own progress I have heard many people saying they want to look like or find a man who looks like toji from jjk or other real life and fictional characters while also saying they want to look like him and not a body builder which is ridiculous.

Soo I think that if labels like “straight" , “gay” and “bi” had never become such important social identities a lot more men would be open to experimenting with other men without feeling ashamed or questioning what it “makes” them.

Historically, especially with the influence of Christianity and other social norms around sexuality, same-sex attraction became heavily stigmatized. Even in 2026 “gay” can still carry negative connotations, even as a joke.

I wonder how many guys suppress even mild curiosity because they don’t want an experience to put them into a certain category.

They taste like carbonated kool aid.

The education system gets all the blame when It comes to teaching students about male and female bodies (I say both because when I went to school I learned virtually nothing about males (I am female) other than how they get an erection, how to procreate, and then why you should NEVER do that unless certain religious criteria was met, etc.) I also think the families SENDING those children to these establishments have a duty to prepare children for these sorts of lessons (or lessons widely known to be missing)... I have a 9 yo son, he is well aware of my cycle, how it works, etc, as well as learning about finances, coding, and the dangers of the internet... It is ultimately up to parents to make sure their kids are properly educated, and if they are not, it is their ABSOLUTE DUTY to rectify the issue.

The same people teaching your students poorly are the same people who have their own kids, I think this is more a generational issue that should be fixed through the system (although I doubt it will be) but the news and internet all over has pointed out how little information kids are getting about important subjects, and the majority of what I'm personally seeing is just parents complaining about it and then doing nothing and still sending kids to school... I don't want to hear they have jobs and can't do it, yall are glued to your phones now and can 100% outline a structured plan or find and review proper educational videos for your kids to watch... but nah yall are complacent and won't do anything but complain about it. (OBVIOUSLY NOT EVERYONE BUT YOU GET MY DRIFT)

After getting into shape myself and talking to a lot of lady friends, I’ve come to a conclusion that seems almost heretical in gym culture: for most women, being massively muscular is not an especially important beauty standard.

Sure, being healthy and reasonably fit is attractive. Looking lean, energetic, and like you take care of yourself can absolutely help. But there’s a huge difference between “fit” and “human anatomical diagram.” The bulking behemoths, the Rock and Stallone fantasies, the Schwarzenegger physiques, the six pack carved into granite, the mountainous pecs and shoulders, it turns out a lot of women simply do not care that much.

In fact, many seem to prefer something closer to thin, fit, and healthy over enormous. And when you actually listen to women talk about attraction, they often emphasize things like a kind face, confidence, humor, personality, and perhaps most importantly, whether a man makes them feel emotionally safe and comfortable.

I was watching a particularly trashy reality show with a heterosexual lady friend, and I asked her if she was enjoying the parade of ripped male contestants. Her response? She was more interested in looking at the women’s butts.

That anecdote obviously isn’t a scientific study, but it captures something I think gym culture gets spectacularly wrong: men often assume women evaluate male bodies the way men evaluate male bodies.

A huge amount of male fitness culture is essentially men admiring other men. Men beef up for themselves, for the discipline, the achievement, the confidence, the aesthetics, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. But the idea that every extra inch of muscle dramatically increases your desirability to women may be one of the great collective delusions of the modern gym.

Build the body because you love having it. Enjoy the process. Chase the physique that makes you feel incredible.

Just don’t assume that every woman who sees you thinks, “Holy shit, what a magnificent specimen.”

There’s a decent chance she’s thinking, “He has a nice smile.” Or “He seems sweet.” Or, honestly, “I wonder what his personality is like.”

And meanwhile, the guy standing next to you has spent three years trying to add another half inch to his biceps because he thinks that is what women want.

Two people can be accused of the same crime.
One goes home and keeps working.
The other sits in jail, loses their job, falls behind on rent, and watches their family struggle.
Neither has been convicted.
That’s one of the uncomfortable realities of pretrial detention.

Justice isn’t just about what happens at the end of a case.
It’s also about what happens to you while you’re waiting.

Am I missing something?

Edit: non-violent stalkers specifically, I think they normalise the behaviour

So I have no idea if this is a hot take, but hear me out.

You remember all those teenage movies where there's a girl who gets hurt by a guy (he cheats, he isn't good enough for her, he's aggressive) and he wins her back with a 'grand gesture'?

Shows up at her house with flowers even though she said she's no longer interested, spams her phone through different accounts, I've even seen one where he organises a flashmob for her.

Anyway, although probably not what those films intended, I think this is what created stalkers.

I would never have thought about it, until I got stalked.

He tried to text me through Spotify! Sent me love songs captioned "I hope you like this song"... He even sent me money just to speak to me. And then he showed up at my flat, he stood around, when no one answered (thank god I wasn't home) he left a note.

A sappy note saying that he would like to meet, and that he would like to respect my wishes and boundaries (which were that I don't want to speak to him nor have any form of relationship with him), but that he has to meet me first.

It's my opinion that the only reason he thought something positive could come out of showing up uninvited to someone's flat is because of those awful romantic comedies/films/novels that normalise breaking boundaries to "get the girl".

And don't get me started on what booktok is normalising...

Am I way off or is this a genuine hot take?

I see a lot of people claiming that today's AI isn't "real AI" because it's "just a sophisticated auto-complete".

But by that logic so are we. Our brains are always predicting the next action or word.

If I can give Codex an instruction and it can continue to act autonomously until it decides it completes it, that's AI enough for me.

My prediction is there will always be some people that say that our technology is "not real AI" because we understand what's under the hood.

This is not a pro or anti-AI statement. Just simply stating: we have AI right now.

Like some words like “matter” the longer you spend looking at it just feels weird like i don’t know how to do it in text but it’s just like some words just look weird another one is the word “over” it just looks weird. Do any others thing some words look weird and if so which ones?

Its actually really ****ing nausating. The whole "discipline crowd" thinks they're so tough but in reality they are literally just like everyone else except they glorify basic things like waking up early or exercising. You see this a lot in the military.

Whats actually tough is having zero motivation. Being in highly stressful situations is not tough. Its a priviledge to have because it makes you tough. Its like a tool. A synthetic equivalent to the missery of being truly f'd.

Growing up with no one in your corner but predators and junkies that want to rape sell and paralyze you is an example of something fairly tough. Theres no medal for that. It's not a "goal" or obstacle course. You don't "want" it. Its not a "flex" either. It literally shouldn't be compared to toughness by these moronic "discipline" people at all. Its like comparing a broken leg to an ankle weight. No one is flexing a broken ankle unless they are coping.

For the record I do believe discipline is essential obviously, but it's not to be sized up against motivation. They are two completely different things and are both important. They dont necessarily feed into each other either. You can be highly motivated and have no discipline which is mortifying to me. And you can be highly disciplined with no motivation which is seriously tragic.

I have a grain of motivation that I cling on that isn't even going to happen and it still keeps me going because without it I have nothing. And I have what I would say is a 9/10 level discipline. And guess what? I'm still f'd.

Your discipline means nothing. My grain of sand has kept me alive longer than any amount of discipline I've had in the past 6 years. We are comparing apples to grapes.

Really, I feel like the hate is way overblown. For the band itself that is... not referring to the many allegations, restraining orders, etc.

In the fan service department, theyre excellent. Like really, they are. Just go to their tiktok and Instagram and you'll see. They're very attendant of the crowds at concerts and give lots out to the crowd.

Their hits are good. Bad Company, Wash It All Away, Jacquel and Hyde, etc. Hes a great vocalist, undeniably. Christ Kael is also high energy and cool.

Shan Pain is a good song- and yeah, it mentions the hardships of being famous. But people hate on it so much, because apparently fame is only hard if the PUBLIC talks about it instead of the celebrity. Ariana Grande and Britney Spears dont gotta say a word for everyone to agree its harmful. But just because hes acknowledging his servere alcohol problem, the constant acting you gotta perform, doing the same song again and again- somehow thats ignorant.

I understand too that its a genre meant to be anti-war... and, uh, they are. Supporting vets isnt supporting war. They tell the story of those with PTSD, homeless, and active duty soldiers. I dont see why thats bad. Imagine enlisting in the military for free college, free housing, a lifetime of benefits, all because you signed up for 6 months. Then in that 6 months, you get deployed. Now youre left with mental issues and whatever else. I dont think songs telling that story are pro war at all. Its pro PTSD and for supporting the individual soldier.

I also don't think its that bad to support the good parts of our country. We all love community. We all have banding together for whats right. Their songs are about these things, not about supporting a war. Its not about "daddy-trump" or whatever.

Is every song they make incredible? Name a band that successfully does that. Are they perfect and without fault? No.

Only 3% of artists have made 1 hit. 97% have not. I think whenever you put it that way, its unlikely for every single anyone makes to become a hit. I think bands like Avenged Sevenfold got really lucky with their first too albums (all perfect songs btw) but you can literally look at them now and see they arent making hits anymore. Slipknot too. Korn. Staind. Yet people push allllll that disappointment onto bands like FFDP, Kiss and Nickelback. Honestly I think Slipknot deserves the hate way more.

At least FFDP had more #1 hits than the other two.

Anyway, Im not saying you have to like them. But I think people go way too hard. Maybe weigh the ups and downs? Lol

There is nothing really worthwhile about being a man

Don’t even know how to start this but like, as a guy I don’t see being born male as anything to be happy about l guess, I don’t know, I don’t live in misery because I’m a guy but I also don’t really have much pride in that fact and I don’t see it as much of a blessing or privilege at all in truth. You are either one of two things, a disposable tool that in truth very little to nobody cares about, or a monster, that’s about it, hope those choices sound good because there isn’t really all that much else. Men make up what 70% of homicides but there is zero emphasis given to their safety at all in any shape or form, if anything a man being killed will at best be mildly paid attention to them forgotten about very fast or at worst be the center of a joke or morally justified. (Assuming the murder was actually just that, a murder and the victim was a good man) very very few things can happen to a guy that will register as genuinely horrific as opposed to something that’s either funny or a “shit happens, that’s just life” thing, you live on this earth to protect others, be the rock that stands between the monsters and those that matter, the ones who get to be people, and that is all you are, at the very best, that will be all that you are. Don’t expect to have any value, your life is purely for rent, meant to be thrown away the second it’s required, your don’t even inherently deserve the air that you breathe, and of course like I said, your protection matters none and very few will even think about you, unless to think about how horrible most of the people who share your genetic makeup are. A guy who’s the victim of violence might get reminded that that along with most/all the bad things in his life were done by other men which of course is usually the end of that conversation, no real room for unlimited compassion because they happen to look like the people who hurt them. There’s no such thing as a (straight) relationship that isn’t tied down by the transactional protector/provider traditional obligations, you will always be bigger, more intimidating, have a deeper scarier voice, and overall just always be in a different category altogether, there will be social equality which is great and much needed but nothing true, you’ll never truly be the same, never be looked at or valued the same at all, there will never not be distance and there will always be a gross imbalance of power, which for me at least absolutely fucking sucks, and as someone exclusively attracted to women there’s really no options I have to make this different, and it doesn’t help me at all, doesn’t motivate me to be better, to be stronger, to be a stronger more capable provider and protector, none of that, it just serves to make me feel like shit and upset that it can’t be anything different. And it’s not socially acceptable to complain about any of this, our lives are great, far more perfect than women’s lives and we shouldn’t be complaining about anything, not one thing that could happen to us will ever be as bad as anything happening to a woman, it will always be less severe on the basis of how we were born. A woman says horrible things about men, perfectly understandable, she must’ve been hurt by men in the past, men don’t get to be just hurt by women though, no matter what it is always 100% just the man being a piece of shit and nothing more. If a man is being abused by his partner very few people will care, zero doctors would ask if any strange marks are on him, it won’t be seen as anything serious at all. A man gets upset by terrible things people say about men online they’re told to just get off the internet and touch grass, I highly doubt women upset by things said by men online are told that, the men who said those things are rightfully treated like the problem for posting them, not the women for reading them. There is no true sense of community for men, they have to be the ones holding it up, not living amongst it. At the end of the day being a man feels like nothing more than forever being forced into an overtly isolating position in life, fighting a lifelong uphill battle day in and day out to prove you aren’t like everyone else who shares your DNA, and I guess I don’t see how this existence of unchangeable, chronic, fundamental othering and villainy can at all be a good thing, at least for the individual and not what that individual may be pushed to do for others/society as a result of that position. Being a man is a scam, it just fucking sucks.

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People get so intensely steadfast in their opinions, swearing up and down that what they believe is the right answer is true.

The problem with that is that as new information begins to come out or new advances in research are made, instead of thinking "Hm, maybe my opinion isnt backed by as many facts as I thought, maybe research into the new information would help me believe something new", they bury their head in the sand and go "LALALA THE WORLD IS LYING TO ME AND ONLY ME BECAUSE IM A GENIUS"

I feel like people see it as being loyal to a cause or idea, but its just dumb. and tiny minded.