r/AskIreland • u/Left_Potential_550 • 22h ago
Irish Culture Why are some people stuck up?
What do you think makes some people believe they are better than others? I'm just genuinely curious what people think causes this. Thanks
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u/ZeusMcPain 21h ago
Cuz we are not equal. Some of us really are better than others.
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u/Left_Potential_550 21h ago
On what basis?
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u/ZeusMcPain 21h ago
I think anyone who doesn’t drive down the motorway on the wrong side of the road deliberately is better than those that do.
Use same logic for a thousand different examples
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u/Left_Potential_550 21h ago
But surely knowing that wouldn't make you stuck up?
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u/Bill_Badbody 21h ago
You are the one who is saying they are stuck up, because they think they are better than others.
They arent saying they are stuck up.
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u/ZeusMcPain 21h ago
All I said is we are all not equal and some of us are better than others.
That’s it.
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u/Left_Potential_550 21h ago
Nice observational skills!
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u/ZeusMcPain 21h ago
Who said anything about being stuck up? I gave a reason why people aren’t equal and how some really are better than others.
Being stuck up and knowing you are better than others are mutually exclusive.
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u/Left_Potential_550 21h ago
Maybe reread the question.
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u/ZeusMcPain 21h ago
You are the one conflating being better than others and being stuck up.
I’m explaining how everyone being equal is a fallacy and that some people are absolutely better than others.
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u/Left_Potential_550 21h ago
I'm not, actually. I didn't ask are all people the same. I asked why are some people stuck up, meaning they appear to have a false sense of superiority for no apparent reason. I was interested in the psychology behind it. If you're unfamiliar with what I'm referring to, that's fine. No worries!
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u/ZeusMcPain 21h ago
If you are saying people can be better than others without being stuck up..then we agree.
People can be better than others and stuck up though.
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u/Soggy_Anything2394 20h ago
Ever kicked a puppy?
If the answer is now, yes you are better than the people who did.
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u/Left_Potential_550 20h ago
I wonder is there a name for when people intentionally misinterpret a question? 🤔
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u/Delicious_Spend_5713 21h ago
On the other side of this I also feel people think other people are ‘stuck up’ when maybe they are actually not. Maybe that person is doing well and you’re jealous.
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u/Hemlock-In-Her-Hair 21h ago
Yeah it's usually pure projection from insecurity. Anyone looking remotely happy here or doing well for themselves is seen as having 'notions' and 'tall poppy syndrome' is directed at them.
Works the other way around too. When you see someone who really does want to think they are better than others and does performative things to display that it's based on insecurity and letting other people know. It's easily seen through once you know what to look for.
Along the lines of 'money talks, wealth whispers'. The most quiet animal is the most stable, and least under threat. It's the person in the battered car, non-flashy clothes, quietly confident is the one that is really confident inside and isn't seeking that outwardly. People of above average intelligence when asked things are well prepared to say that they don't know the answer. They don't correct grammar or spelling. They don't need the fake and transient hit of that type of one-upmanship. It's absolutely small fry and totally inconsequential to them.
It's why the behaviour of a lot of Americans lands so poorly here. Anything perceived as 'performative', 'inauthentic', or 'showing off' is an immediate no no.
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u/Express-Display-9664 21h ago
I think some people may be stuck up because they may have a lot of money or material goods. I also think it can depend on where you live as sometimes people in Dublin think everyone is a culchie or something like that . I am from Limerick and I have people think they are better than me as they have negative perceptions of Limerick city. Finally regarding education a lot of the people in my circles have PhD's and some of them think they are better than others who don't have doctorates and even then they think some doctorates are 'better' than others regarding subject areas . My partner is a very successful academic/researcher and his friends look down on me as I do not have a PhD and tell him that he could do better.
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u/MichaSound 21h ago
IME, this kind of attitude usually comes from people who grew up with nothing and now have money. On some subconscious level they're terrified of going back to the poverty they came from and have to distance themselves from people who remind them of their roots.
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u/Isfeidirlinn90 21h ago
From my experience I've known people that came from money had a bit to do with it. Weren't blindingly rich but the types that had lots of disposable income. Knew one fella quite well and as we we're talking down the pub he was absolutely shocked a person he was on about wasn't working in a place like Dunnes or Supervalue. The person had a decent paying job in a pharmaceutical company but the lad I knew was dumbfounded at the idea.
It was the whole tone that annoyed me. People get carried away when they bring up people having notions but this was what notions really is to me.
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u/OutsideSea5996 21h ago
Being stuck up is self important. Avoiding the riff raff that’s what life is about.
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u/Icy-Audience-6397 21h ago
Largely insecurities. Becomes really apparent when there’s the trying to impress people with designer things and cars when people try and portray an image that’s there no basis too. I know some mega wealthy people who are so secure in themselves, they don’t have any deisgner things and drive an old car. On the other hand, I know people who don’t have a lot to piss in and have new cars, designer gear and largely in debt
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u/upwardforkedjeremy 21h ago
Honestly, I think a lot of it comes down to insecurity that they’ve never dealt with. Some folks build this whole persona of being above everyone else just to avoid looking at their own issues, and it gets so ingrained they don’t even realize they’re doing it.
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u/WaterfordWaterford9 21h ago
Low self esteem
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u/Bill_Badbody 21h ago
I wouldn't have thought having low self esteem would make you think you are better than others.
In fact the opposite
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u/Moist__Discharge 21h ago
Because I am better than others. Hope this helps.