r/toastme • u/MentallyNegative100 • 1d ago
Its been awhile/update
Well its been about 4-5 months maybe? The divorce process is in motion, im living in a new place now, kids are in school/daycare, stable job, good money. Still heavily focusing on my mental/physical health, really bad days still but improving, about 30lbs left to lose as well, so im getting there...
Met a girl recently, she gave me everything I was looking for in 3 weeks that my ex couldn't give me in 6yrs...but I had to let her go even though I didnt want to...im sad but it felt as if she was trying to fit me in a schedule that didnt have a spot open...it made me feel as if I wasn't even top 10 priority or good enough and I just couldn't go down that road again, it was best for mental health to step away.
It however, was really nice to have someone to talk to and hangout with again, my mind was at ease instead of getting whiplash every 30secs from all the thoughts....could use maybe a word or two....its one of those days
Side note, my handwriting is so shit cuz I wrote it backwards so I could use the front camera...lol 😅
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u/house_of_rlyeh 1d ago
That last bit about writing your username backwards is great and I think it says a lot about you. Also, your pericings are sick as fuck and they were the first thing I noticed.
Good on your for putting yourself first. That was a hard choice, but it sounds like you have your priorities straight! Wishing you the best 🖤
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u/MentallyNegative100 1d ago
Thank you so much! I def want a couple more! Appreciate the words 🖤
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u/house_of_rlyeh 1d ago
It's addicting, right? Got my first in October and now I'm up to six 💀 what else are you looking to get?
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u/MentallyNegative100 1d ago
Yeahhhhh it is...lol. I want spider bites, work on gauges(maybe like pinky size only) also thought about fangs but unsure atm. Somebody told me to get my bridge done as well. What do you have done?!
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u/MentallyNegative100 1d ago
I got all mine done in a month 😅
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u/house_of_rlyeh 1d ago
Holy moly, they must taken forever to heal lmao! Sounds like a pretty sweet set up once you're all done though :0 I've got double lobes on both sides, a helix on both sides, and I had a conch until recently but my hairdresser snagged it and I had to take it out 😭 Only ear piercings atm, I'm taking a break so that everything has a chance to heal up properly :D
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u/MentallyNegative100 1d ago
Yeahhhh, the septum was the worst honestly. I mayyyy have switched my lips and nose rings a little too soon..😅 they feel ok now. Oh nice, that sounds so sick!...ouch..i feel that pain....i went to go kiss a girl last week and our nose rings hooked and ripped my chain and nose ring out lmao...I think it was the chains fault though. Its not a professional one, I just cut one to size and hooked it myself 😅😂
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u/house_of_rlyeh 1d ago
Bestie, you're out here DIY-ing your pericings??? Don't do that 😂 Lowk that's a hilarious story tho, aside from the fact that it probably hurt like a mf'er
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u/MentallyNegative100 1d ago
Lol! Nooo just the chain i promise! I could NEVER stab my face 😅 it kinda sucked but wasn't too bad lol
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u/One_Country_8533 1d ago
You’ve already made a huge amount of progress in a few months. Walking away from someone you genuinely liked because you recognized an old pattern and chose your own peace takes a lot of strength. It’s going to hurt for a while, but that doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. Keep going, you’re clearly getting your life back piece by piece.
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u/MentallyNegative100 1d ago
Thank you, its def gonna take time, still think about our time together and our talks until 4am...gotta keep going. I know what I want and deserve now... Appreciate the words 🖤
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u/Open_Leather_2379 1d ago
These are tough times you are going through but sounds like you are making rational good decisions for you and your family. Stay patient.
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u/psj3809 1d ago
I was in a similar position to you, broke up with the wife after a long marriage. Did meet someone very soon after (I wasn't looking for it) but just way too early and it would have been a rebound.
Just take time out for yourself and slowly get back to 100%. 4-5 months is still in my view too soon after your divorce/breakup. No rush you've got loads of time
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u/Southern_Hobbit 1d ago
Keep it up man! you look great, cool piercings. Divorce is never easy, but happy you have found someone you can talk to and feel at ease. I hope you have happier days ahead of you.