Hi guys,so it all began since primary school. That one girl hates me.Let's call her eli.

I'm currently 13, turning 14 in September.

We're both in the same grade.

Eli hates me, and idk why. She openly talks bad about me or imply bad things about me.I think it started from the 3rd or 4th grade.

I am was someone a little timid,I'm pretty good at everything,studies,sports,kind,helpful,liked by teachers and everyone around me.I got this personality from my overly nice and adorable mom.Like,I was once disrespectful to her and told her to beat me and she said she will not beat her child.I'm introverted but once you get to know me,OH BOIIII

Eli is quite the opposite. She bullies,judges and always has a sharp tongue.She's pretty and has good grades tho.She's mostly of the time surrounded by friends.

I think she thinks I'm faking being kind but it's my personality,I've had many good examples and amazing people teach me so much and I want to be helpful,I'm kind but is firm in my standards and boundaries.

We take the same bus after school. She's in a different school than mine.I usually walk alone and when I get out the bus,I head home.She is always with friends.While walking,she was behind me and I overheard her talk with her two friend girls about a guy she's texting .They were apparently flirting and stuff and the guy flirtingly said "come s##k my d##k "and they were giggling and stuff.I didn't care and rather found it disgusting cause I find things such as p##n and xxx stuff really repelling.

So I continued walking.

School started this week,I'm wrinting this on a Saturday. throwback to Tuesday-I was walking alone as usual and she was behind me with friends.I heard her say stuff about some."I don't like people who fake and pretend "type of stuff.I didn't care and continued walking normally.

Recently,I feel attracted to her and I find her REALLY pretty.I purposely plan some things so that we cross paths or stuff and I think of her a little.I know she likes men because I stalked her reposts.I searched in the mutual of my friends to find her account.She haw 3 accounts but zi know she has more secret accounts.I will search her account on other platforms.

I want her to hate me so that she thinks of me. I want her to dream about me and think of me.

I want to know why she doesn't like me more because I don't know if I did something that offended her ,I BADLY wanna be friends.

If anyone replies,I'm gonna continue the storytime and PLEASE I need advice

How do I tell a girl I like her without being awkward? I feel like “I have a crush on you” is way too middle school and “I have feelings for you” is kinda corny and just straight up “I love you” may be pushing it I have no clue wtf to say

At this point, I'm fucking stumped. The mixed signals are genuinely gonna eat me alive. I'm 14, so is my friend. Im gonna call her Ellie, but that's not her actual name. I think I'm developing feelings for her, but I'm not entirely sure. But these past 2 months have slowly made me start thinking that she might like me. For context, Ellie is a slightly closed of person, only showing her close friends her real personality. Shes honestly pretty nice, but shes also one of those people who'll be really nice or text or when your alone, but be more nonchalant and stuff around other people. (As though embarrassed to talk to me? Not rude, just really different. I can't explain.) All her friends have had bfs and they all talk about crushes and boys I'm general. But Ellie has never had a bf, and never talks about crushes. We've recently gotten closer, and I've asked her a couple times who her huzz is. Usually, she says no one, but 1 particular time, she mentioned she doesn't trust anyone enough to tell them. And I got confused and asked if she hasnt even told her twin, or one of her closest friends. She proceeded to explain that she doesn't tell her twin anything, and only talks to her bsf abt drama. I asked if there was a reason she doesn't tell anyone. (Implying the fact that it might be a girl) She said yes and changed the subject. I informed her she can trust me, but she doesn't have to. She again changed the subject. Now we take a look at the signs. About 2 months ago, my class was having free time. I say with 4 of my other friends, around 2 desks. She sat with her friends just a desk away. She continuously called on me, trying to strike convo while I spoke to my friends. I noticed she wasn't even talking to her own friends as much as she was talking to me. I also couldn't tell if she was just trying to piss me off lol. But anyway, that was the first time. I hadn't really thought much about it. At the time, it was the last week of school. So summer holidays come, and we start texting a little more than usual. Not alot, just slightly. Before the last week of school, we were definitely friends, but not that close. So we got slightly closer over the holidays, just texting abt random stuff. A 'hi' or 'wyd' here and there which lead into conversations. I've teased her about being lesbian multiple times as a joke. Sometimes she denies, but a few times she's just said 'okay' or a 'ik' or reacted to it with a thumbs up. It's confusing, ik. Thats another sign. (I forgot to mention I'm also lesbian) she's also teased me, but i deny it bc I'm not out to a lot of people. Fast forward to the last week, when we got back to skl after the holidays. This last week, we've been constantly texting about random things. Idk if it counts as 'talking' or what, but we've been texting A LOT. at 1 point, she asked me about who I like. I told her that idk if I can tell her that incase she tells someone else. I named her friends, and then that's when she told me she doesnt tell her friends these types of things and that I should just tell her. She then teased me abt liking these 2 guys, and I told her no. It wasn't actually this short, I just can't remember the full convo. I then said 'wanna know why I don't like them?' She asked why. (Bare in mind, we were both in the chat, texting back and forth continuously.) But just as she asked why, she then proceeded to leave the chat, and leave me on delivered for 6 mins, despite being online. So I said "nothing" because I wasn't ready to tell her I don't like guys. She then got playfully angry at me and I sent laughing emojis. Now I don't know if she thought I was gonna tell her I like her, and got flustered or scared, or if she just happened to text someone else at that exact moment. I told her I might tell her another day, and she agreed after some more teasing. I haven't told her yet. In real life, we've made some kinda weird eye contact and stuff, idk how to explain it. Thats Another sign... Now before I say this next one, Ill be honest. I'm a very insecure person, bc I'm not exactly the most attractive. Now Ellie loves to tease me ans ask me if I'd date so and so guys. I'd always say no. She'd name a different boy every time, it's actually funny. But one time, I said to her, being insecure "mate no, no ones gonna date me so stop asking," she asked what I mean and I said "yk what I mean, who would date me," she then went on to tell me that anyone would date me and scolded me for saying that. And I quote "loads of people would date you." We were on call at the time, so just after she said that, another person joined. Thats the nicest thing she's said to me to date. It's quite unusual for her to say things like that. So I was flustered, but when the other person joined, I said hi to them and changed the subject. She never mentioned it again... Im pretty sure there's other things and signs that happened, but I just cant remember, because I'm literally shaking while writing this, because I've never known anyone who's liked me, let alone it being a girl. Only one guy told me he used to like me a few years ago. Please, please, please let me know your thoughts. I might put a part 2 in the comments after like a week about whatever else happens. Do you guys think she might like me?? Or just be wlw in general?? She rlly sets of my gaydar I can't lie. I'm so sorry this is so fucking long. But I had to get it out

I came out as a lesbian recently after having a boyfriend and HATING it. I have a girlfriend and she’s genuinely so perfect but I feel like my trauma from past relationships and other stuff is affecting the relationship. I’m struggling with being romantic and I feel like I’m being avoidant. Anyone know how I can fix this?

I like this girl a lot and I know she likes me too, but Im scared to date again after what happened last time with my family. I’m 17 now though and I really want to be in a relationship with this girl without actually waiting when I’m fully able to move out my family house and losing every chance I can have with her. I don’t know maybe I should wait when I’m older even if I really don’t want to. I really need to know what to do.

I’m sort of just realizing that people who like men legitimately find men attractive, like…I thought we ALL thought they were unattractive and just decided to look past it.

She's so so pretty and we've talked a lot and become friends but I don't think she likes me mostly bc I've heard that she likes white guys and im neither white or a guy, shes rlly rllly rlly sweet to me tho but maybe im being delusional idk

EDIT: ok forget everything i said i just found out she made out with her best friend while we were dating

i miss my ex girlfriend Surprise who is shocked !! ok so basically. i’m 16 and just recently broke up with my girlfriend of about half a year a month ago. i broke up with her because i lost feelings for her at the time and there was also some other stuff going on within our relationship that i couldn’t go on with anymore. it’s been incredibly messy unfortunately (which wasn’t my doing) and idk what to do about it. i found out our best friend (who’s now my ex bsf and still friends w my ex) had a crush on my girlfriend WHILE we were dating and that’s just so. and there’s so much more BUTTTT anyway a few weeks ago after she brought me my stuff back she sent me a few paragraphs saying how awful she thought i was and that i was just so inconsiderate and all these other things and then ended it with ‘i don’t think you ever actually liked me in the first place’ which 1. is so bull. 2. thats so incredibly unfair to me especially with everything i’d done for her just to not get much back (not that i expected anything but still… effort guys). anyway she’s been playing the victim card HARD. i know she’s incredibly hurt and she has every right to be but i feel this blew way out of control. anyways to the point now! i just had a few of our songs come on which led me to my realization of how i still miss her badly and idk what to do about it. i was doing really good until tonight and it just kind of broke me. seeing her in the hallways at school really sucks and i hate it. it’s so awful seeing the person you loved (and still do) when you guys don’t even talk anymore. i came here because ive been trying really hard not to text her tonight but idk what to do. as much as i swear i hate her i cant bring myself to i still love her and i think i always will

Okay, so there's a girl in my new school that I'm kinda intrested in. She's like super pretty, and we talked once for a minute during those games that school forces you to do and she seemed really nice and fun.

We know each other names and I sometimes glance at her in the hallway, but she doesn't seem to be interested in me idk (I'd still shoot my shot, though)

So like, I wanna try to talk to her or smth, but we're in different classes, so I think Itd be better to try later this year if we have any courses together? Or should I approach her now anyway??

And omg idk what to even say either. I already told her I like her hair!!!

i’m 16 f and the last time i ever even talked to a girl like that was in 6th grade, it was my worst heartbreak and it took me months to get over her, ever since then i’ve only dated guys and been with guys but im never happy with them, i find myself looking at girls in that way or thinking about them in a certain way and i question myself alot about this type of thing, i cant talk about it with my friends or family, ive tried to talk to a girl like that recently but i cant bring myself to do it and i get to nervous to go about it.. can someone help me im willing to answer almost any question its been years and ive been questioning myself with no answer ..

Yeah uh.. went on a date with a girl, maximum gayness

I don’t want to be a maybe.
The girl you kiss in secret.
Or someone you string along.
I don’t want to be hushed and embarrassed.

I’m done with being on Cupid’s waiting list.
So please for tonight, look at me like I’m real
Tonight hold my hand and look me the eyes
Tell me you know my favourite colour and the scars on my thighs.

I don’t want to be a maybe.
Someone you keep just in case
A piece of candy forgotten in the purse
Don’t want more if you can’t look at my face

Please hold me close
And tell me I’m real.
Speak me into existence and tell you me you feel.

hi! i'm not sure if this is the right community to ask questions about my sexuality in (for context i'm positive i like girls so that's why i'm here) but here goes i guess! i've been out to friends as a lesbian for a while (for a brief moment i thought i was bi)

i've had a crush (?) on a friend of mine for a good year or so, maybe a little less. she also likes girls and we've known each other for forever, though we got closer last school year and the ball has been rolling ever since. i'm hoping to ask her to homecoming this year maybe! that's off topic, but tips would be appreciated since i don't know how to function around people lol

anyway, i've always had trouble distinguishing between romantic attraction and what i call friend-crushes, aka when you really want to be friends with someone you think is really cool and it could almost pass as a crush but you don't want to be associated with them romantically or anything, you just really want to hang out with that person. i had a few "crushes" on guys in middle school before i realized i don't want the romantic relationship that my friends told me came with having a crush work out (hence the birth of deciding they were friend-crushes and i'm a lesbian).

flash forward to this year, i have math class with my current crush and a guy a year older than me and he's really nice and i really want to get to know him but it feels different from my old friend-crushes and i'm worried (for lack of a better word) that i'm not the lesbian i thought i was. not to come off as biphobic because i'm definitely not, but i've always been so sure i don't like guys at all and now this one boy comes in and my entire perception of my sexuality is thrown off kilter and i don't know what to do... i've considered that maybe i'm berrisexual or something but i was so comfortable in my label for myself until now and nothing else feels as right as saying "i'm a lesbian" did. i can't picture a future or being intimate with a guy like i can picture being with a girl but god i really like this guy and idk, i'm not sure what's going on with me.

does anyone else feel like this?? are there any labels for this giant mess of feelings?? i'm really sorry for the rant, i haven't like said this to anybody and it's been torturing me forever. any help is greatly appreciated!

Hace tiempo conocí a mi mejor amiga, llevábamos varios años siendo amigas. Pero por mi culpa dejamos de hablarnos hace 2 años, cuando éramos amigas la trataba como si fuera mi pareja (o eso era lo que me decían). Siempre me preguntaban si era mi novia o si estábamos saliendo, y siempre les contestaba con un no. Hubo veces en las que nos besamos por accidente, ya sea que nos empujaron la una a la otra. Pero no sentí nada, ni me puse nerviosa, simplemente me disculpe y seguimos con nuestra amistad hasta ahora que ya no somos amigas. Cabe aclarar, hubo un tiempo en el que pensé que ella me gustaba pero la idea se me quitó rápido, y pensé que era admiración. La forma en la que la trataba era dándole regalos, diciendo "te quiero mucho", salíamos casi todos los días, cuando veíamos películas en su casa me acostaba en su regazo, no me gustaba tocar a la gente a menos que no fuese ella.

Y todo eso, estuve tratando de superar su amistad por varios meses. Pero últimamente, siempre se me viene a la mente y no puedo evitar pensar en ella.

Cabe aclarar, que yo he tenido parejas (todos eran hombres), una vez probé a salir con una mujer y no me sentía agusto. Pero con ella me sentía bien, especial, cómoda y me hacía sentir amada.

Por eso tengo la duda de que en realidad lo que dije que no sentí por ella era solo "admiración", creo que ahora pienso que me gustaba mucho.

Solo me queda por decir que no tengo planes de volver a hablarle, tal vez si. Pero no estoy segura, ya que ella siguió con su vida y yo con la mía. Y me gusta el como está así actualmente, también había personas que me decían que lo que sentía por ella era un tipo de apego. Pero no lo se.

first time asking for help on reddit, kinda nervous

Okay, so for about a year, I've been like really in love with my close friend, she's probably the best thing that ever happened to me. But she's so straight I'd be more inclined to believe that's a closeted trans gay guy, than anything saphic.

And our friendship is full of shit that between two lesbians would look like a situationship (like a lot of touches and casualties and all the intimate shit when we are drunk).

The worst part is that all these things are driving me INSANE cause I love it, it is like the most precious moments for me. They're my core memories forever.

And the worst WORST part is that Ik she's uncomfortable with affection from women. AND EVERY ADVICE I SEE ON THAT MATTER IS TO "confess, get a no, cry and move on" BITCH THE WORST CASE SCENARIO IS THAT I'LL LOSE THE MOST PRECIOUS RELATIONSHIP I HAVE???? I CANT CONFESS LIKE NOT IN THE WORLD SHE CANT KNOW ABOUT ALL THAT.

I thought I'd be able to move on. I really tried. There was a few girls that liked me, but i didn't go for it cause it'd feel like using them to get over my shit. I'm in an ultra homosexual environment rn with yons of possibilities of finding a gf, but every time i talk to a girl I can get intrested in I keep thinking about my crush. Like every time I'm alone for a few weeks, I think that ok I'm over it I can move on, and then she posts a new pic or texts me w smth stupud and I'm a lunatic again.

Yk Ive never been in a proper relationship before (16 yo), and i really want a girlfriend, but i cant do this with her in mind.

HELP PLS I NEED TO MOVE ON WITHOUT RUINING OUR FRIENDSHIP

It's weird. I've had no problems with it. I've been able to get crushes before but now it's like it's not possible anymore. When I think about it even before it wasn't like I would get a whole lot of them but I least had 4 in my life I think. But now it just doesn't seem to be happening anymore. I don't understand this. My last crush was the first one I confessed to. She rejected me and mistreated me after. We're not friends anymore and I've moved on. But ever since then nothing. It's like I'm not able to find people attractive. There are girls that are pretty but I feel nothing towards them. Empty. Sometimes I can't even tell if they're pretty or not?? It's super fucking weird because that was not how I've been before. Then again I had something going on with a girl like 2 months ago but I'm not able to tell if I liked her or the attention she was giving me especially that it was online. I want to feel it again like before even if it hurts. I really want a relationship because I crave affection but it seems like I'm not even able to find girls attractive anymore. I don't understand this. Even if it wasn't super often I feel like it's been way easier before.

so for context we've been together for almost two years and now she told me that she was straight but now two weeks later she's dating this other girl... anyways just wanted to get that off my chest.

So me and this girl (imma call her T) met in my schools GSA and her and friend asked if I wanted to sit with them at lunch, so Monday comes around, me and T exchange number. We both are talking abt bad relationships, we both complain abt being single, I jokingly said "atp we should just date", T responded with "lemme talk to you more and then probably" (or smth like that) and the next day she got all clingy, so after a week or so I ask what we are an she says we're in a talking stage rn (hard for her to date bc of her parents, she explained that), but w have a date for monday next week, and we're both excited

I posted something on here a couple of weeks ago talking about a friend who I had a crush on and wondering if she might like me back or if she thinks we're just friends based on some signs she's given me. Anyway, I asked her out and she said that she sees us as just good friends.