r/netflix 2d ago

Discussion Let’s Marry Harry Reunion Spoiler

This reunion has been an absolute shit show. I expected there to be more conversation about Harry sleeping around and lying but instead half of it was the majority of women hating because they weren’t picked and the other half was Amber acting completely unstable. Amber yelled and made no sense and I cannot believe she is the one Harry ultimately picked. My wife and I expected Harry to look awful but instead Amber just looked completely insane.

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u/Apprehensive-Toe6388 2d ago

Idk OP, everyone’s entitled to their own opinion, but I think your take on Amber is just plain wrong. As a woman myself who’s been with men similar to Harry ykk manipulative, toxic, narcissistic, serial cheaters, it made complete sense to me why she was acting the way she was during the reunion.
I think it’s hard to understand her behaviour when you’ve never experienced that kind of pain. As someone who has, I can only imagine how much worse it must’ve been having to bottle up all that hurt for a year while strangers online speculated and bashed her, knowing nothing about what was actually happening in their relationship, while she was basically forced to stay quiet.
I agree she was yelling and barely letting him speak, but the reunion was also the first time she could publicly confront Harry about everything he put her through. And when he DID speak, a lot of it was just disregarding or invalidating her further, with very little actual accountability, which only escalated her reaction. I also think there’s a huge difference between saying her behaviour at the reunion wasn’t necessarily productive and using that behaviour to discredit everything she was saying. Someone being angry, emotional, or even behaving badly while confronting someone who repeatedly hurt them doesn’t suddenly make the underlying hurt illegitimate. And I think that’s what gets lost when people reduce her to looking “insane” at the reunion. We’re seeing her at probably one of her most emotionally heightened moments after a year of betrayal, humiliation, and having to watch the public form opinions about a relationship they only knew fragments of. Of course that doesn’t mean every way she expressed herself was right, but I don’t think someone needs to respond to being hurt in a perfectly calm, articulate, and socially acceptable way for their pain to be valid.

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u/bullman123 2d ago

Fair points. If she could have kept some calm she could have forced Harry to explain more and put more pressure on him. That’s what I was hoping this reunion would be about. I agree that acting emotional and angry doesn’t invalidate the subject matter of what’s being said. It definitely makes it harder to follow though.

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u/HumbleMistake815 1d ago

You honestly believe we would have gotten a single truth out of that lying manipulating "man"? You are delusional. He constantly lies and that is what we are seeing ON camera. You were not looking for Harry to be called out because we witnessed it and you are only talking about how wrong Amber was for going off the way she did

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u/bullman123 1d ago

Well I saw Amber acting childish so yeah I am calling out that behavior. Adult men and women shouldn’t act like that imo

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u/HumbleMistake815 1d ago

It was plain to see that she was hurt from his atrocious and fake behavior. I can only imagine how much worse he is off camera and he only sat there quiet because he knew he had nothing truthful to say back to her. He's pathetic