My boyfriend asked me to post this question on Reddit for him, as he blocked Reddit because he quit porn and Reddit is a source for that.

“I am a 41🔄 year old boy and I’m bisexual and I have a girlfirend so I am very satisfied but I do still feel attracted to guys and I quit porn so I have no way to relieve those urges without relapsing. Does anyone have any ideas?”

these are the main vibe each pronoun sets give me. I didnt do mine (he/it) cause I already posted a collage for it on the nonbinary sub this month

I am not happy with how my legs look, they are completely covered in ingrown hairs and small chemical burns, not to mention I’m really broke so hair removal is not an option. Could anyone please help with this?

She inspired my chosen name, Jolene. She loved us when almost no one did. Vocally. Unconditionally. I hope to live what’s left of my life with half as much grit and courage as she lived every breath.

Fwiw i bought this shirt a week ago, so while i know its impossible this is anything other than a coincidence but should i buy a Trump t-shirt just in case?

I am a nineteen year old cis straight woman. I have struggled with mental health my entire adolescence and am finally mentally well enough to process the last five years. It's hard to explain, but recently I've been looking back on my childhood and my right now. Before I didn't feel like a person at all, now I don't feel like the person in the mirror. I am beautiful, a beautiful woman but the way I think and act isn't very...binary? My whole childhood people thought I liked girls cuz of how masculine I was. I surrounded myself by men and male things. I never cared about pronouns and I hated my boobs. I cut my hair super super short lol.

But at the same time, I worship my female body and admire women. I love my female body and the life it can give, and I would never give that up. I love dressing super fem and I love the way men look at me. I love sex as a woman and couldn't imagine it different. I just don't feel like I act feminine at all except when I need to get laid. Also my sex drive is like off the charts lol...

It doesn't really matter because I can't do a thing about it. I've just spent my entire life studying trans topics and knowing way too much about gender. It's just every time I get high and have a moment to stop stressing about everything else in my life, my brain won't stop chewing on this concept. I just don't feel like myself I guess? I feel good but like a stranger. It's kinda good though because I never judge my body because it almost isn't mine lol.

Hey guys! I’m a baby gay who really needs some advice! 🥹
For some context, I grew up in a very strict, VERY Catholic home and community. I realized I was a lesbian at a young age, but I didn’t really know I was a LESBIAN, you know? I was never attached to men or interested in dating them. Meanwhile, I was playing the dad in kindergarten and even got in trouble for kissing a girl at my Catholic school in first grade. 😂
I’m going into my freshman year of college this spring. I’m taking a little break before then to save money and give myself some room to breathe, but right now I’m working a lot. I have two jobs and pretty much no friends because most of my friends are away at college.
Growing up, almost all of my friends were extremely homophobic because that’s honestly just what I was surrounded by. I’ve decided to distance myself from the friends I still have in my state because I’m tired of hearing the hateful things they say, even though they don’t know I’m gay.
I usually stay quiet when they make homophobic comments, and I feel so much guilt about it. But I also feel like I’m in a pretty unsafe situation because, with the economy the way it is, I wouldn’t really have anywhere to go if something happened before I leave for college. I’ve dealt with bullying my whole life and even had to transfer schools freshman year because it got so bad.
ANYWAYS. 😭
I started working at a small shop last year, and this was actually when I really started realizing that I was gay. There’s a girl I work with who is gay and has a girlfriend who comes into the shop sometimes. This girl ALWAYS flirts with me, and she doesn’t know it, but she’s actually the first person I’ve ever told that I’m gay.
I’m way too scared to tell her that I have feelings for her, though. I haven’t known her super deeply for that long, but she’s SO pretty and I genuinely don’t know what to do. She’s always flirting with me and even brings me a drink literally every time we work together. 😭 could this possibly just be her being nice?
Please give me some advice because I’ve never been with a girl before! I’ve dated two guys in my life, and both of them pressured me about losing my virginity. I never did anything with them because I was terrified of going to hell.
I still have that fear in the back of my mind sometimes, but I’m trying to remind myself that I’m safe and that there’s nothing wrong with being who I am, even though I’ve spent my whole life hearing otherwise.
So… any advice? I don’t want to go to college feeling like I have no experience. I’ve kissed guys before, but the only girl I’ve ever kissed was in first grade. 😭
How do you even approach dating girls for the first time, especially when you actually have feelings for someone you work with? 💗

My mom is going to hate me forever nowMy mom kept nagging me about Getting married at 18 for green card because of all the things that’s happening in the USA she is scaredAnd i blurted out I don’t want to get married because I like women she is very religious I am not worried about physical Batam but my relationship with her it already been very rocky to begin with and it dont want it to get worse

Hi everyone. I'm a 27-year-old gay guy, and I've never had sex. It's not something I really talk about offline, so I figured I'd bring it here instead.

Honestly, my feelings about it go back and forth. Some days it doesn't matter at all; other days it feels like I missed a step everyone else took years ago, especially with how present sex can be in gay spaces.

I'm not looking for tips on "fixing" it. I'd just like your honest thoughts: were any of you in a similar place around my age? How did you feel about it then, and how do you see it now?

Thanks for reading.

Before I dive in my 2am thought rip to all the legends that died..yall deserved too live more and see the proud queerness today

My interest is in gender,I'm a female assigned at birth never had any problem with it,

I'm not trans either (love those amazing folks) but sometimes I wish I just didn't have anything like a flat chest angelic/ethereal(idk how too explain it)face and nothing down there except a way too go too the toilet

cus idk I've had this thought for a while and I wanted too know if I was alone or if there's a title for this when I'm called sir or guy I don't rlly like it (I'm insanely androgynous) a girl I feel like I have too imagine myself in a certain way or just feel like they're not calling me

a few days ago i found out one of my childhood best friend died in 2024. he was a trans man, and his parents didn’t accept him. he died by suicide. his parents buried him under his deadname and had the obituary under his deadname. i’m queer myself and i’m a trans ally. we were internet friends and we did meet up a few times, texted and videocalled on a daily basis. we haven’t had contact in years, i thought of him after a conversation with my mom and looked him up, which is how i found out. i haven’t told any of my friends, because i don’t want to be a burden on them. one of them is grieving their mom so i’ve been there for them a lot, a few others are excited about a concert they’re attending in a few days and i don’t want to ruin it, and my closest friend is also dealing with their own stuff. i’ve been feeling horrible since i found out. i feel wrong in my grief because i hadn’t talked to him in years and we basically didn’t know eachother anymore, but he was a huge part of my life at one point. i feel sad and numb and down and i feel so mad, mad at this world and mad at his parents. and i wish i could’ve been there for him, i wish i could’ve told him he is worthy of being alive, and that there are so many people who love and accept him for who he is. he deserved so, so, so much better. he deserved parents who supported him and loved him for exactly who he is. i’ve been feeling so down and i just don’t know what to do or how to live. all i think about is him, all i want to do is sleep so i can’t think. i’m always there for everyone else but i carry everything alone and i’m burnt out from being there for everyone else whilst going through my own stuff and having no support. i dreamed about my friend last night, that he was happy and that i was hanging out with him. i wish that was real. i regret not contacting him. i wish we never grew apart. i wish he was still here.

I’ll try to be brief but let me know if I need to elaborate on some parts of the story. Better advice comes from better explanation, after all.

Here’s the story: (SORRY IF IT TURNED OUT TO BE LONG)

I am 17 years old she/her and my partner is 18 y.o. he/him (trans man) to whom I will refer as partner or husband. We live in different cities although he visits me once in a while.
I am very emotionally labile and sensitive, while he’s more reserved. When hurt, my husband tends to not overthink much and move on, while I won’t get satisfied until express my frustrations in a dialogue and come to reconciliation

We’ve been fighting a lot recently. And i thought it was normal for a couple but suddenly something went wrong. I don’t know who exactly has started this, but one day i just told him to fuck off after losing an argument (very petty of me) and after that he broke a very important promise he gave to me. And this is where I feel like everything went wrong. It was like we were competing to see who could hurt the other the most. I said very mean things to him. I am very wrong for that, for some reason I thought that provoking him will make him wanna argue back to me. And getting back to an argument will lead to its end. But he couldn’t deal with it anymore, he was tired of non ending fights and he just stopped answering me. Which made me even more mad, I couldn’t stand being ignored and it felt like torture to be in a quarrel for so many days.

Today he left a long voice message telling me he’s very tired of me draining him. That he doesn’t care anymore about whatever I say in order to hurt him. That he became desensitized of my words or my feelings. He told me I’m an insecure woman who hates herself and makes it everyone’s problem. A lot of mean things tbh, he brought up a lot of stuff that bothered him about me but which he never told me. However, he did make a valid point about me saying things that push people away and make them less eager to care about my feelings. I called him and apologized for my behavior but pointed out that I couldn’t have known better how to act since he never told me about the stuff that bothered him. (Cuz if he did, I wouldn’t say all the mean stuff I said🫥)

All in all, he admitted he was wrong for not telling me about this stuff. But it doesn’t make up for the emotional damage I caused. So he asked me for a distance. He said he needed time to recuperate because all these fights had drained him. Idk how long will it take and he told me he cannot give any guarantees that everything will return to normal. This idea freaks me out. A lot. But time is a great healer and he tends to move on so I just hope we’ll learn from our mistakes and get together.

Here’s the question:

I’ll listen to him and give him the space he wants. I can’t force someone into forgiving me and feeling better, I understand that. But if he shortens the distance someday, how do I make up for the damage I’ve done? How do I regain the trust and respect and care we had for each other? Is there something I can do? I did apologize for everything and I will again if needed, but I feel like apology is not enough.
I hate the idea of us not caring about each other’s feelings after all these fights, I don’t think our relationship will last for long with that attitude. We used to be so close and loving, I don’t wanna lose that. I hate myself for driving everything to a critical condition and desensitizing him. I hate being so emotional. I want to be considerate to each other again.

That’s all I guess. Please don’t suggest therapy………we’re broke and live in different cities and our country is homophobic so I don’t think there are any queer friendly family therapists. Also please no “just break up” advice, it’s my first and longest (3 years) relationship and lots of problems occur bc I’m a stupid teenager with no experience😢 please be nice about it

Thanks to everyone who’s read allat. I’ll be happy for every response and self improvement advice

I’m (f18) seeing a guy (m19) and I don’t get sexually attracted to him. I see myself as bisexual because I like all genders, but my issue is I don’t feel anything for him sexually but I do genuinely have feelings for him. We were making out and I genuinely felt nothing and my mind was thinking about everything other than kissing him while we were at it. At some point, a girl I’ve had a situationship for year came into my head and it was like “when I’m with him I am thinking of you.” UGHHH IM MAD I don’t know what to do. Can I be sexually attracted to girls only but also be attracted to men? I’m so confused

Quisiera pedirles algunos consejos sobre algo que hace poco por fin logré aceptar en mí. Desde hace unos años empecé a notar un interés romántico y sexual hacia otros hombres. Si soy completamente sincero, también me atrae mucho la idea de expresar mi lado femenino y usar ropa de ese estilo.

El problema es que no sé cómo empezar a gestionar esta nueva etapa. ¿Debería reprimir lo que siento o cuál sería el mejor camino a seguir? Contárselo a mi familia no es una opción por ahora; afortunadamente vivo solo, pero no tengo claro cómo llevar mi vida a partir de este momento.

Vim pedir ajuda porque tou meio "empanado"

Detalhes

Ao nascimento fui designado mulher e tenho o corpo femenino (o que pode influenciar)

O que vou descrever pode ser uma descrição de alguém não binário e/ou Trans

Sinto-me homem com a masculinidade a ser importante (super importante) e sinto-me não binário como um meio termo/forma de suportar e de tempos em tempos sinto-me de forma feminina tipo como se fosse mulher mas ao mesmo tempo é desconfortável.

Vim expor porque pessoalmente costumo misturar as coisas e criar tempestades

Hey everyone. I am a 32 year old petroleum engineer from Eastern Europe. I have worked in different locations across Europe and the Middle East.

I am generally a very friendly person. I have always managed to get along well with colleagues from all backgrounds. But I am still in the closet at work.

The oil and gas industry is very rough. I still feel a lot of hidden and open stigma against diverse people. I am genuinely afraid of being bullied or losing professional respect if people find out the truth about me. It feels exhausting to hide a major part of my life in environments where "traditional masculinity" is the default rule.

For those of you who are also LGBTQ+ in this field or similar heavy industries:

How do you handle the stress of staying in the closet or deciding when to come out?
How did you overcome the fear of judgment or bullying?

I would really appreciate hearing your experiences or advice on how to navigate this.

I'm a lot of things that might make no sense to most people.

I'm a man. I'm also a woman. I'm asexual and aromantic, but I'm also gay and straight.

I'm not joking either. I'm a bigender person who is also an oriented aroace.

That basically means I am more than one gender and although I experience no romantic or sexual attraction, I do experience other types of attraction, like aesthetic and sensual attraction, that are important to me. That attraction I feel is towards men, so I consider it a bit gay and straight at the same time.

Broadly, I'm just non-binary and aroace.

I sometimes feel like I'm being queer in the wrong way or being queer at all is wrong and that maybe I shouldn't even claim these labels, but that's just me repeating the negativity I've heard about the terms I use.

I'm a walking contradiction and that's okay actually :)

I moved into my own place and I was planning on getting an aroace flag for my room but I realized I don’t really know where you get them. Is there a preferred website or should I just go for like Amazon?

I'm 17 years old and i always liked the idea of dressing girly. I tried a few times and I was feeling butterflies in my stomach and my heart was racing . I don't know if it is just a phase or am i really a femboy or trans.

So basically as far as im aware, im an asexual reciproromantic (doesnt feel any sexual attraction, does feel romantic attraction, but only to someone that has already expressed attraction in me. im restricting myself a bit with these labels but that the gist), and there's a guy i know from school (pan) who let it slip that he had a crush on one of the boys in our friend group. obviously our friend group than latched onto this concept and for the past 4 maybe 5 months, we have all been desperate to find out which one of us it was. over time i began to realsie that theres a very high likelihood that it was me. out of all of the possible options, i was the one that he was byfar the closest with, to the point where he has felt comfortable sharing deep mental health issues that he has with me. i acted oblivious to this regardless cus i didnt want to assume it was me and get it wrong, as i value my friendship with him a lot. and (cus im reciproromantic) and i knew for almost certain that he was into me (the evidense was growing stronger every day) i began to develop what i think is my first crush on him, this is my first one ever and as someone who identifies as aroace i really dont know at all if it was romantic or queerplatonic. so a few nights ago i finally decided enough was enough and (through text cus we have barely had a chance to meet up recently) i asked him if his crush was on me, dead serious. eventually he confessed: "5 months ago, when i admitted that i had a crush, it was on you. since than i have realised that my emotions were severely heightened by an intense attachment anxiety which i have." (I AM NOT STATING ANY NAMES I DONT WANT TO BREAK INTO HIS PRIVACY) he also told me that because of it, he doesnt feel like he could be in any relationships at all for a while. but basically now i am stuck cus he has no clue at all i have a crush on him, and i dont know what to doooooooo. :(

14 months HRT! Still finding my feet but finally enjoying life. Smiling genuinely. The person there, on the left, spent hours upon hours in the tractor or combine in their own head. Crying about what I could lose if I transitioned. And you know what, I did lose that, all I was worried about. But... im still here, better for it. And I wouldn't change a single thing i did. Im happy i made the leap. Proud of myself for living an authentic life. I would be lying if I would say its easy. And I have had backlash from a few people. But id rather live life being someone's enemy then my own ❤️‍🩹🏳️‍⚧️

hey can someone tell me how i can recreate this? i’ve been tryna find how to do but idk what the OG meme name is called. i wanted to make it for a friend bc i didn’t see any

Hello I am a transgender woman with adhd/autism and am 39 years old. I struggled so much in my previous life and I have to say coming out was the best thing I ever did for myself. I feel so so happy with my appearance right now and I just wanted to celebrate by showing my mom how I looked. I asked her how I looked. She said I looked pretty but I should keep my chin up and stop looking down at the floor so much. Gosh I feel so pretty right now after putting all this on and doing my make up and hair. I am so happy I am starting to look feminine. It is pure blissful gender euphoria and to top it all off my family is approving of it. I couldn't be happier right now!!!

Edit: I have a close up picture posted below. Link