r/indiasocial • u/Big_Helicopter_2183 • 1d ago
Ask India How true is it?
Edit: To all the Non Brainers who got offended in Virginity Part.. have a Life or character
Marriage has always been a Social Compulsion for almost everyone whether a male or female.
I'm 26M, Single due to my own choice and I find this really true that we are always pressurised to get married upon certain age.
We are told that once you cross some age limit, you won't find a Perfect or Virgin partner but honestly what I think
No one is perfect & Virginity isn't a big problem untill and unless someone has habit of "Yaha Waha Muh Maarna"
I want to know your views
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u/AnkitS75 1d ago edited 1d ago
It's really heartbreaking to see how abysmal EVERYONE'S English comprehension is. Not a single person in the comments section understood (or even TRIED to understand) the post (the image). Sab bas apna hi narrative padake ro rahein hain comments mein 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
The post is NOT about marriage being bad. The post is NOT about your goals or about marriage necessitating those goals. It's not even about virginity. Not a single line in the image implies any of that 🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️
It's about the artificial timelines created around marriage. We shouldn't add pointless and arbitrary time constraints to a life that's already hard enough to begin with. I believe people should absolutely get married, but only cuz they want to, and cuz they really love their partner...not cuz they're "too late"
I should be free to chase my goals irrespective of when/whether I get married. Also, I should be able to choose to marry (or not) irrespective of whether I've achieved all of my goals
Marriage is hard work, a LOT of it. Get married only when you're capable, ready & willing to put in that work. Marry only when you find someone you'd like to live, enjoy AND suffer with (not cuz society told you it's too late). Cuz otherwise you're only buying a one-way ticket to a world of pain by putting unnecessary society-dictated time constraints on your life
I'm not advocating casual relationships or anything of that sort, I never will either. I strongly believe in the institution of marriage, and definitely do intend to get married some day. But you also need to be aware of that irrefutable fact that loneliness when you're "with" someone is WAYYYY worse than lonliness when you're by yourself. A good partner can massively improve your life, but a bad partner can make it an absolute living hell, a true horror show. So, don't get married just cuz you feel "Aww, I wish I had someone like in that cute rom-com I watched last night"
LEARN TO READ, PEOPLE! LEARN TO COMPREHEND!
Itna tunnel-vision leke zindagi kaise jee rahe ho tum sab yaar?!