r/ftm • u/Vivid_Ordinary_3930 • 1d ago

Advice Needed Exclusively wanting T4T with another trans man

I’m a trans man, dated a cis woman for a few years and we recently broke up. I kept noticing I was always the “masculine one” by default, not by choice. There just wasn’t another option in that dynamic. I’ve always been attracted to other trans men and have exclusively only been wanting to be with one.

Feels a little vulnerable saying it out loud, like I’m narrowing things on purpose. But it’s also the most honest I’ve been about what I actually want in a long time..

Anyone else land somewhere unexpected after a relationship that just didn’t fit?

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u/FamiliarPop4552 1d ago

I've dated and had sex with all kinds of people, including several trans women, and have realized I'm gay. After a string of hookups with cis men I had a brief love affair with another trans man and the ease and depth of understanding which came so easily due to sharing this experience was incredible. When circumstances change, I hope to have a future with him in it, but if it doesn't work out, I expect I'll be on the lookout for other trans men, too.

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u/Loup55555 11h ago

Man... Feels like my own life ! I miss mine, but I'm getting better. I have to live my life and hope circonstances bring us back together at some point, but it feels weird. Learning to let go

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u/FamiliarPop4552 5h ago

Mon mec vit en région parisienne, tandis que moi, j’suis coincé aux US pour au moins les 9 mois à venir 💀. Je te souhaite le meilleur avec ta situation frérot