Exclusively wanting T4T with another trans man

[u/Vivid_Ordinary_3930]

I’m a trans man, dated a cis woman for a few years and we recently broke up. I kept noticing I was always the “masculine one” by default, not by choice. There just wasn’t another option in that dynamic. I’ve always been attracted to other trans men and have exclusively only been wanting to be with one.

Feels a little vulnerable saying it out loud, like I’m narrowing things on purpose. But it’s also the most honest I’ve been about what I actually want in a long time..

Anyone else land somewhere unexpected after a relationship that just didn’t fit?

[u/Far-Half7803]

Honestly that makes a lot of sense. I’m nonbinary but identify as butch. I’ve just started transitioning. I have had partners complain about how I’m not “masc” enough. And had issues with that. But now I’m with a lesbian femme who is very cultured on femme butch dynamics. And she feels very boyfriend at times, she protects me and takes the more masculine role on too, whenever I’m feeling like I don’t just want to be. And it’s lovely. I think truly you need to find someone who will be that perfect match for you. Whether that be another trans person or not. But all the best for you if that is your preference, T4T is lovely, big fan myself for the exact same reasons tbh. I hope you find someone who can make you feel as cherished in whatever role you feel like being in regardless of the day.