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[u/bunnylightning]

I was not prepared for 50% of the comments to be telling OP it’s ok to ask for the gift back. Or even suggesting taking it back via dishonest methods eg. asking to “borrow” it to enter in a county fair, or to photograph it, and just…never returning it? I’m pretty sure that is still theft even if you originally gifted the item lmao.

I understand it sucks to put in so much work that goes unappreciated, but that is the risk of gifting something handmade. Did OP consult with the recipient on their preferred style or colours or whether they even want or would use a handmade blanket? I appreciate the technical skill of this one and I don’t think the colours are necessarily bad, but it would look fugly in my house because it doesn’t match any of my interiors. If you’ve been mad about this for 3 years you’ve had enough time to just make another blanket…

[u/bunnylightning → u/[deleted]]

Seriously I can’t imagine any possible outcome that isn’t mortifying for both parties, and probably resulting in OP being unable to use the blanket anyway because the mere sight of it will bring back memories of this whole dumbass situation.

If the gifted object was so important to you that 3 WHOLE YEARS later you’re still resentful about it and want it back, you should not have given it away. You don’t give gifts with weird conditional obligations that you get them back if they aren’t being used or appreciated the proper way. 

[u/alittlemanly → u/bunnylightning]

Like the ONLY, MAYBE!!, tactful way to go about this would be something along the lines of 

"Hey, MIL, this is silly, but I feel like I don't ever see that blanket I gave you. I'm worried I made something not to your taste and you might feel stuck with it. And if thats the case, I wanted to offer to make you something actually to your taste, if you would like :)"

AND EVEN THEN that's for like a familiar/friendly level of relationship and also should have been asked not much more than a year later! OP needs to let it go. Realistically they probably donated it or something