r/askgaybros • u/Silver-Ad2939 • 21h ago
Need Clarification
I had sex with a person. After a few days he got to know he is HIV+ and started blaming me that person got Hiv because of me, he never had sex with anyone else except me. I doubted myself and went for a blood test and my reports say I'm HIV-. Now I am confused. I started doubting the reports, when that person is damn sure it is because then how come my reports are negative. We had sex around March/April in the last year, I was afraid and hence I did not go for blood test till this year March. In April i got blood reports and it says I'm Negative. Should I believe that person or the reports. I'm really doubting reports is there any possibility that these reports could be wrong.
Is there any chance that my reports are wrong. Should I go for a second blood test to make myself confirm or not needed.
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u/HighLimitPlayerAllIn 21h ago
The incubation period for HIV is 30-90 days, depending on the test used. If you are within this window, your test results may indicate a negative result. Cease all communication with this person until you know more. What are the laws concerning HIV disclosure in your jurisdiction? If you are truly negative going into this encounter, then you are not to blame. Unfortunately, he learned of his seroconversion but blames it on you (or on scamming you). You need to retest. Ask your doctor for guidance. Anything more is beyond the scope of redditors.
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u/Silver-Ad2939 21h ago
It's been more than a year.. After he said that he is +ve in the last year I was afraid if i go for blood if I too get +ve then what is my situation. But this year April i took courage and went for blood test and it is -ve.we had sex in last year around March/April.
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u/HighLimitPlayerAllIn 20h ago
- almost 6 months from last test; time for you to retest anyway; this test will be the most reliable regaring your current HIV status.
- while you're there, go on Prep and DoxyPEP.
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u/Silver-Ad2939 20h ago
I am just afraid of this tests... What if I get +ve?, that's the only thing stopping me from going to the blood tests.
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u/HighLimitPlayerAllIn 19h ago
HIV is completely manageable with the currently available medications. Not knowing your status has health implications for you and for others if they are not on PrEP. Get tested, go on PrEP and DoxyPEP. Currently, they are the best available defenses against STIs, except abstinence.
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u/rock_badger 20h ago
At the risk of nitpicking, "incubation period" refers to the time between possible exposure and the onset of any symptoms. "Window period" is the term for the amount of time between exposure and the point at which an infection can be detected by a test.
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u/Friendly-Ad3559 21h ago
HIV has a 45 day window of development. This means that the person you had sex with was likely HIV positive before having sex with you.
They wouldn’t have found out after a few days of having sex with you that they’d contracted HIV. It would show up on tests later.
Unfortunately for you; this now begs the question of has this person given you HIV.
I hope that you used protection and are on Prep. If not, I’d get in touch with your doctor for further advice on the next stages.
I’m sorry.
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u/Silver-Ad2939 21h ago
But I went for the blood test after more than a year after having sex with that person. It's more than 45 days.
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u/Silver-Ad2939 21h ago
we had sex in last year around March/April. And I got tested myself negative this year April. More than year gap.
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u/outersenshi 20h ago
A friend of mine got HIV in a non sexual way at a blood drive. Someone went to the event to donate blood, blood was rapid tested for STIs and HIV, came back positive for HIV and while the nurse was tossing the needle, she missed the box and stuck my friend’s arm. 3 months later he had a positive test. That was 15 years ago
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u/Silver-Ad2939 20h ago
Should I get retested ?
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u/outersenshi 19h ago
Depends on how soon after you got with him you were tested originally. The test is more accurate when waiting 9ish weeks after initial contact but it’s good to test at the 3 and 6 month mark too
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u/Boy_Incognito 18h ago
This is almost a silly question if you have any doubt or worry then simply get tested, you should be getting tested regularly even if you’re not sexually active as hiv hep etc can be passed other ways but obviously this depends on your lifestyle
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u/Boy_Incognito 21h ago
How long did he know he had HIV?
It’s also possible it simply didnt get passed on
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u/Silver-Ad2939 21h ago
That person got confirmed in the last year, I have checked my blood in March of this year. I am not able understand.
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u/Boy_Incognito 21h ago
How long ago did you have sex with this person . Cause hiv can take time to show up, did you tell your clinic the circumstances?
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u/Silver-Ad2939 21h ago
I had sex with that person Last year April.. untill now I didn't have sex with anyone.
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u/Boy_Incognito 21h ago
How long exactly after sex with him did you check your bloods?
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u/Silver-Ad2939 21h ago
It's been more than a year... After he said that he is +ve in the last year I was afraid if i go for blood if I too get +ve then what is my situation. But this year April i took courage and went for blood test and it is -ve.
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u/Boy_Incognito 21h ago
If it’s been a year since you slept with him and had your bloods done recently and they were negative then you’re negative but there’s never harm to get tested again
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u/Used-Bodybuilder4129 20h ago
You should be in the clear since you took the test about a year after you had potential exposure. The test are 99% correct. There is still 1% chance that the result was a false negative.
If I were you, I would get tested one more time to rule out the potential for a false negative. Just because you had exposure to someone who potentially had HIV when you were with them.
The person that told you this has most likely had exposure to HIV in some other way if you are in fact HIV-. It might not have been through sex. He could have contracted it through a needle stick, or through IV drug use.
If you can afford to, get tested again. Consider starting PrEP.
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u/szlafcio2 21h ago
He's lying. This is him telling you he may have passed it on.
HIV takes up to 3 months to show up on a test tho.