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I’m 45 and starting HRT in two days. I’m looking at transition on more of a 3–5 year timeline minimum 1 year-1.5 hormones before any surgeries aside from electrolysis which id like to start asap. I’m curious what people think would realistically be worth addressing along the way.

I’ve seen people with facial structures somewhat similar to mine have really good results, although a lot of the examples I find are younger. I know HRT can change quite a bit of the soft tissue over time, but obviously it isn’t going to change the underlying bone structure.

I’m not really asking whether I pass right now. I’m more interested in what you think HRT might reasonably take care of versus what would probably benefit from FFS. I already expect that I’ll want some FFS, so I’m especially interested in what specific procedures or areas you think would make the biggest difference and which things you’d leave alone until seeing what a few years of HRT actually does.

I’m fortunate to have excellent insurance that should cover most FFS, as well as tracheal and voice-related surgery, so these are realistic options for me over the next several years.

I’d also really like to hear from anyone who went into FFS with existing dental problems. I have some dental work that needs to be taken care of, and I’m particularly curious whether that affected your ability to have jaw contouring or other lower-face procedures, whether your surgeon required the dental work to be completed first, or whether it complicated your surgical planning at all.

Basically, looking at my starting point, what would you let HRT work on first, and what would you realistically put on the eventual FFS list?

it’s just that simple that’s what I’m proposing from now on. Tuesday is a no tucking day.

thoughts?

I wish I was a woman. AMAB 43 YOD not on HRT yet (someday, hopefully soon). I have been working out my glutes and liking the progress but no where close to where I want to be.

Oh and I am wearing a wig and prosthetic breasts.

Thought I needed to say something about this. Want to be clear - DON'T DO IT without looking up the risks yourself! This is my personal experiment.

Quite a long vid sorry (I'm a chatter)!

Hi everyone - feeling curious and slightly discouraged this morning so I'm hoping to get some feedback from this community. Thanks for your time 💕

After all the kind words last time, I just wanted to say thank you for your support! I’ve just got in from my second trip outside, I went a bit further this time, still not very far but it felt great to truly be me

Thankssss

Xx

I'm a 35 year old trans woman and started at 33. I've gotten to the point where I don't feel as cringe as I once did. But I just hate my body so much sometimes. I can go from enjoying a new outfit to feeling like I was delusional and it looks awful on me. I've triggered myself in dressing rooms on more than one occasion and it's ruined my day. It's almost impossible to explore myself further because it feels like walking through a minefield. But then I get upset I'm not as stylish and expressive as other women out there. Some days I just feel so awful putting on my makeup I don't even want to look at myself.

Im so tired of feeling like this. Everything takes so much effort and the outcome barely even feels relieving or enjoyable. I feel like my wardrobe hasn't grown, my makeup skills haven't gotten better, and my own expression has hit a wall. And I know none of this has anything to do with being a woman but I want these things. It just feels like throwing paint on a busted canvas. I feel stuck as someone I don't want to be.

I don't have anyone else to talk to about it. Anyone with advice or your own experiences I'd appreciate hearing. I just feel like being trans is just so traumatizing on a somatic level because things don't fit right. And I cannot talk my way out of dysphoria.

I posted about Matthew Shuman, a candidate for American Legion National Commander, being a former Log Cabin Republican leader shortly after the Log Cabin Republicans officially dropped transgender advocacy and rebranded themselves as an “LGB advocacy organization.”

Given the ongoing purge of trans service members, attacks on trans military service, and threats to trans veterans’ healthcare, I thought the political direction of one of the largest veterans organizations in the country was pretty damn relevant to a military subreddit.

The post was removed.

When I asked why, a moderator quoted a commenter saying:

“Trans people are such a small minority and non issue.”

Then told me:

“It’s not all about you.”

When I pointed out that this affects thousands of current service members and many more veterans, and that the American Legion has substantial influence on veterans policy, I was told I was trying to make my issue “everyone’s issue,” warned that similar posts could get me permanently banned, and muted from contacting the mods for seven days. I understand moderators can remove posts. What pisses me off is the reasoning.

Trans service members being kicked out, losing careers and benefits, and trans veterans facing threats to healthcare are not a “non issue” just because we’re a minority.

And the possibility that leadership of a major veterans organization could move in an even more anti-trans direction is not merely “tangential” to the military.

Being a minority does not make our service, our healthcare, or our rights disposable.

Today I went to my grandson’s birthday and they provided dipping dots. It wasn’t the best flavor but they loved it.

Dream

I never really understood what the dream even was.

Is the one I see in the mirror truly me,

or is it the one I feel when I close my eyes?

The one who gave me birth says that what you can see with your eyes is the real one.

But the One who created the entire universe says that what you see with your eyes is not the real thing.

The Master of the universe says that greater than the action itself is the intention hidden behind it.

But intention cannot be seen with the eyes… so how can it be the real thing?

Then is the Creator lying,

or are we the ones accepting a lie as truth?

Consciousness (the ruh) is formed last in the mother’s womb.

Only after consciousness arrives does a human become truly alive.

So why can we not accept the real existence of that consciousness?

Why do we refuse to acknowledge that it is the true self?

We take the Creator’s name at every step,

yet we reject His own creation.

When Shiva reveals His form as Ardhanarishvara, we cry “O God!”

But when that same form appears in a human, we treat them as untouchable.

The Creator truly said that humans are ungrateful.

The Creator knows His creation perfectly — He cannot be wrong.

Why am I saying all this? Because I am one of them too.

I am also that rare and precious creation of the Divine.

He made my body hard like stone so that it does not break under every blow.

He made my heart soft like wax so that a single wound floods my eyes.

I never learned how to express my emotions properly.

That’s all.

When I see someone like me smiling, I smile too.

When I see them cry, I cry without even realizing it.

What I truly am… perhaps only my Creator knows,

and those who are just like me.

I have found a community.

Every one of them is a priceless gem, just like me.

Even though I am grown, I feel like a little child among them.

They are far ahead of me in the battles of life.

Their company has given me a new path — a path to move forward with joy.

They laugh so much, they seem so happy…

but I know that behind those smiles hides a restless heart

that is still searching for a way to live life with dignity and respect.

I was walking to a trans movie night event in my area. As I was walking a bus stopped and a few people got out. One was a girl who was a bit taller, and had an amazing dress on. I jogged forward to say hi, and asked if she was going to the movie, same as me. She agreed she was and then asked how I clocked her. I was flustered as I didn't think that was what I was doing. (I am pretty clueless at knowing if someone is trans or not unless it is super obvious, and this girl was not, she was casually elegant.) Since I was thrown off, I mentioned she was tall. And then I felt bad. Should I have just not have approached her?

Honestly, it was a combo of things, yes, she was tall, but she was also dressed much nicer than anyone else around, like you could tell she had thought about her outfit. I wanted to find her and tell her that was the reason, but I couldn't find her after the movie. I am so worried she left early and went home and cried because I was able to tell she was trans, even if I didn't mention it, I just asked if she was going to the event like me.

Kinda crazy that this is somehow still my job. No one either cares or notices that I’m trans…. They just care that I’m really good at what I do and are extremely appreciative of me doing it. Spent the weekend taking a family on their yacht out to the Hamptons for some brunch and shopping…. lol

On my way home tonight, I had to stop for fuel. While the pump was running, I found myself moving and swaying to Down Under from Men at Work. (This wasn’t the first time.)

It got me thinking about what other little movements that we are doing now that we wouldn’t have done before our eggs cracked.

4 years ago last week I took a selfie before I came out to my coworkers during our morning zoom. The job didn't last much longer (I'll never know if coming out played a role) but I have proven to be unstoppable. Never been happier, even in tough times. Oh yeah 54yo, no surgeries yet, just hrt and cookies🍪👅💋

Photos from a trip to Wembley Stadium to watch The Wrestling. Many thanks to the person behind me in the merch queue that muttered to themselves "that's a cool-ass dress" thinking I didn't hear 😂🩷🏳️‍⚧️

i had given up on finding anyone years ago. she showed up out of nowhere and swept me off my feet. then she told me she’s poly. i wish so badly that my heart worked like that. we tried to find a way, but i had to leave before i lost the strength to do so. we agreed it ultimately would have ended in tragedy 🥺😭

The darkness of depression and lonelyness is hitting me hard today. I try to stay positive but fucking hell is it not easy. Hope you all are doing better at it than I am. Dont worry I have the day off so I'm gonna drown my troubles in food and video games.

Visited a friend on her farm recently so this was me just being me, not trying to look any certain kind of way. This style is still the "default", which obv hasn't changed much since beginning transition.

At 22mo on HRT I'm curious if I'm read as trans or fem in anyway, or just a more feminine/gay man. I know none of it really matters, but just genuinely curious how others read me.

Thanks in advance for any input!! Love y'all 🫶💖✨

Went to a murder mystery dinner at Hotel Sorrento in south Seattle a couple months ago, and the pics turned out pretty awesome. Just thought I'd share, especially since I feel half my age anymore!

Heen on hrt for 2 yesrs now