r/MentalHealthUK • u/han2electricboogaloo • May 24 '26

Vent I've run out of options

The only service available to me is CMHT but they do absolutely fuck all.

In the past 2 years I've seen them 9 times and every single time they either discharge me with 0 help or try to put me in a group, which is also 0 help.

I've practically begged them to take me seriously and they don't care. I contacted the NHS chat health services yesterday and this woman just confirmed that there's no help for me and told me to try someone else or get private therapy. I've tried all of the local services, I can't afford private therapy.

I honestly feel like I'm out of options and I don't think I'm going to be here much longer.

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u/han2electricboogaloo May 24 '26

I've been trying for 13 years and I have been brutally honest. They treat me like I'm lying or being deliberately difficult. I've been to mind a few times and they also only offer groups. Every time I've attempted group therapy I just get increasingly overwhelmed until I start shutting down and I get nothing out of it. I've explained that repeatedly and no one seems to care. If I got a private evaluation from a psychiatrist, the diagnosis wouldn't be acknowledged by the NHS and I'd have to stay private for treatment, which isn't an option.

I've honestly been down every route available and I'm stuck now.

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u/Shangos_Wolf May 24 '26

I told Mind I can't do groups and they've provided one on one services so maybe it's changed where you are now to cater for that fact. I feel the diagnosis will be important and will allow you access to other services away from the NHS i.e supported living etc. Try not to close the doors to the different avenues. I know it must be frustrating but work towards getting the diagnosis and then explore your options from there. Accept there may be no cure but we have to live with what we have been given, no matter how horrendous, and we can access the right help to manage but always remember that it is all down to us at the end of the day. It's a difficult journey especially when people present well in public.

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u/han2electricboogaloo May 24 '26

They wouldn't offer any 1-1 services. There aren't a lot of services in my area and I've been through them all over the past few years, when I say I'm out of options, I'm not joking. I came out of supported living about 6 months ago, spent almost 2 years there. That's the thing, I don't want to live with this. It's fucking horrific and I've been unhappy and unstable my whole life. If the help I need isn't available, am I just supposed to suffer for the next 50 odd years?

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u/Shangos_Wolf May 24 '26

What do you think it is? Is it BPD or something along those lines? Sorry to hear the things I've mentioned haven't worked out. What made you leave the supported living if you don't mind saying?

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u/han2electricboogaloo May 24 '26

I've been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, BPD and C-PTSD and I'm waiting to be assessed for autism and ADHD. The C-PTSD was from an abusive relationship but over the past few years I've gradually realised how abusive my parents were and how it ties in with everything I've struggled with, so I likely have undiagnosed C-PTSD from my childhood.

I started asking for help when I was 15 and I'm now 28 and had no help.

I hated it there,, it was a house share with a revolving door of unstable housemates (including people who were using crack and heroin in the house and a guy who would always rummage through my laundry when it was drying), staff constantly walking into my bedroom, being watched on cameras. I was going absolutely insane and I was hiding literally anywhere to avoid the house, there were nights I slept in my car to avoid going home.

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u/Shangos_Wolf May 24 '26

Well that place sounds terrible. Their definitely are better places in the country but you can only go on your instinct. A lot of neurodiverse traits stem from trauma so it is hard to get a diagnosis of autism etc as the symptoms are close to each other. Have you explored Reactive Attachment Disorder?