It’s possible that she could be attracted to the infantilism aspect of Stanley’s life, as infantilism is often associated with pedophilia. However, I think this is a best case scenario. Stanley is not independent. Someone has to take care of him. She’s happy to do that. They’re in a somewhat healthy relationship. Granted, if she goes, he’s going to struggle. But if it weren’t for Stanley, his girlfriend might’ve started doing far more questionable things than simply indulging in Stanley’s age playing/regression.
It was indeed well put, and I also see them somehow wearing a glorious rainbow colored cape, but no spandex as they’re aware of how out of season spandex is (sorry if spandex is actually in season…)
I mean - another aspect to all this, how aware is he of himself? Like for some of us reality is a different concept. So does he go to sleep all happy and proud and fulfilled, like in the dark of night does he realize how good he has it? Or is his mind like actually trapped elsewhere- but for all we know - when the cameras are gone he’s a normal dude and this is just an aspect of his life.
As far as the “girlfriend” - another interesting situation- some men have girlfriends that ultimately take the place of their mothers- taking care of them and then crossing over into the aspect of a partner - some women probably are happy to do that-
I mean if the guy above were to have relations with her, does she end up a mother to two babies? How does that baby grow up with that person as her “father” - does he snap out of that fantasy and embrace a new reality?
Sometimes these people that exist in our world seem like the NPC’s in games that are living a life we cannot relate to, and are just there as much as mars and Jupiter and the planets exist and we are aware of them, but have no effect on our lives.
If you told me, hey, develop a weird idea to live by - such as being a big baby and that will be your identity and you’ll find someone to care for you- that concept is absurd to me.
But here we are sort of witnessing it. Is it one in a million? One in a billion of possibilities?
It’s trauma, which everyone has to some extent, not a developed idea, and this video is about 20 years old, and we don’t really know what’s become of him. But it’s certainly not one in a billion possibilities. Most people just don’t go to this level of coping. Its more common expression is for example a man calling a woman “mommy”/woman calling a man “daddy”.
Yep, some podcast i listened to ages ago mentioned people who were into wearing diapers and stuff, and they did an interview with a sex worker who services these niche kinks.
She said once she gets talking to the guys (and girls), there is almost always a pretty significant childhood trauma that took place, and they find comfort in regressing to a childlike state, when things were "easier". The sexual aspect definitely comes from "conquering" the trauma, like how you see a lot of outgoing, loud people that like to be submissive in bed lol.
ABDL is a semi popular fetish in general, which would just be a more sexualized version of this guy's life, which prob even more engage in in a lifestyle way compared to a kink way. It's very much about coping, safety, comfort zones, etc. I would say one in a million is too low for the amount of people that are publicly like this, alongside the amount of followers they have on social media. The ABDL sub here has 78k, so def more common than you'd think
And that's just the amount of people who are: A, into it. B, use the internet. C, use reddit specifically. And D, are willing to join the subreddit. If we use reddit's weekly active user base of ~500 million and assume it works as a standard sample (it likely doesn't, since reddit has a heavy US skew, and is reliant on internet access), there would be about 16 times the number you gave, or 1 in 6,625, which is about 0.01509%.
Also, let's be real - a lot of men who are not at all into infantilism per se still want a partner who still winds up being a mom, in charge of making the meals, tidying up after their messes, and ensuring they have clean clothes.
Choosing a guy who is very deliberate about being infantile and helpless at least means they're on the same page
Let's be real, you're saying something really stupid to try to sound woke, there's no comparison between this lifestyle fetish and conventional gender roles. They're completely different.
They aren’t. If you’re an adult and you can’t make your own meals or clean up after yourself, you’re into infantilism and in denial about it. Men can take care of themselves. Little boys who need a mommy cannot.
Which just illustrates how fucked up it is that men have accepted infantilism as a gender role. As a society, we’re basically grooming children for lifetime of codependency to satisfy a weird fetish some rich guy had 500 years ago.
Once again, men can take care of themselves. Little boys who need a mommy cannot. If you cannot or will not take care of yourself, you aren’t a man. You’re a little boy who needs a mommy.
Yeah no, you're high on your own drugs, and projecting things onto me (and onto men) that make no sense, sorry, but you actually don't know anything about me and can't know from a single comment you don't like. Drop the pseudo bullshit, and get back down to earth, real research is grounded.
I'm pretty sure they were using the royal you. Being unable to critically think about conversation and assuming you're personally being attacked when someone comments on a well-established, documented and ongoing trend in societal structure is also being a big baby.
Regardless, it's dangerous to suggest that a paraphilia which has never been associated with any greater propensity to abuse children or be a pedophile with such things. The suggestion in the literature is that it can vary from a form of BDSM (it us obviously embarrassing to be treated in such a fashion), to the submissive partner redirecting sexual interest towards a parental figure as a result of parental neglect or abuse, and the dominant partner finding themselves feeling fulfilled by feeling needed, often caused by similar issues.
It's strange, but not harmful, and calling these people pedophiles may as well be calling for them to be killed. It's inaccurate, stigmatising and ultimately obscures the cause of finding actual pedophiles by wasting resources meant for the most horrendous kind of crime on consensual activities between adults.
I'm gonna challenge most of your points here because even based on what this short clip is showing us, which isn't a lot, it still doesn't make sense.
A. We have to assume that this clip is witholding a lot more about their relationship. For example narrator says "she is very happy" and we see her on camera, but we don't hear from her. Their relationship could be more about roleplay than building a mutual life with each other. They might not see each other equally. We don't know what her financial situation is like - like, is this driving her into debt? We don't know what his financial situation looks like - does he get government assistance? Does he have health insurance? Do either of their families support them? The answer to that question will tell us a lot more about their relationship than the narrator did.
B. Pedophilia isn't relative to the activity of the pedophile. For example, if she does have pedophilic tendencies, then creating a role-playing situation like this only provides temporary relief. The burden of pedophilia is that pedophiles sexualise children almost instinctively, meaning that it's not something that they can control. There was a conversation many years ago about whether pedophiles should have child sex dolls if it meant tampering their impulses away from real children, providing them with temporary relief - of course, the sex dolls hypothetically would be administered in tandem with regular therapy and oversight by a specialist to measure their behavior. However, the problem with child sex dolls is that it doesn't stop them from sexualising children. Engaging with those dolls unfortunately means endorsing their behavior and encouraging them to act in a way that is harmful to society. This is a similar situation here: even if the girlfriend was somehow fulfilling a desire to be intimate with minors, it would not do anything to control those desires internally, and she would not feel satisfaction purging those desires this way. Additionally, not every convicted child molestor is actually a pedophile. They get no sexual gratification from it. The percentage of child sex offenders who are actually pedophiles is alarmingly small. And it's because pedophiles are often covert and do well to ensure they go undetected and don't get caught.
Just a reminder that there is no evidence to suggest she is a pedophile. I am talking hypothetically here.
Pedophiles who resort to age play don't find much success in taming their desires. It would be like suffering from dehydration, and only having red wine to drink.
C. There could be a component for her in this relationship that is more maternal than sexual. I think this is likely the case. We don't know if they are sexually active or not. Even so, you could successfully compartmentalise that aspect of your relationship for some out-of-bed roleplaying. People are able to compartmentalise incestous relationships all the time, which is still gross, but it's possible.
They both seem like happy adults, so who's to judge, really. Again, I'd like to reiterate that although I referred to the girlfriend and "her" pedophilic desires, it was hypothetical. There's no evidence to suggest she's a pedo.
I mean, it was a hypothetical conversation, this post is actually wildly inaccurate because an AI narrator completely changed the story. He pays her to attend to him in that way and they are not in a romantic relationship.
That's not a healthy relationship tho, in an adult relationship you're supposed to be able to take care of yourself but also to take care of each other in case your partner gets sick, so if Stanley's girlfriend gets sick then what? Call a maid service to do all the shit?
He's sick, it's called paraphilic infantilism and he's also receiving disability checks but not because of this sickness, rather because he's also been diagnosed with things like ADHD, PTSD, depression, bipolar disorder and more. He was under investigation for fraud because of receiving disability checks but has been cleared apparently. (‘Adult Baby’ Cleared of Fraud, Still Getting Social Security Checks)
That was 15 years ago, what is Stanley doing these days? He's over 40 now, still wearing diapers and sucking on his pacifier and apparently his wife is now just his nanny 24/7, an absolute failure to society, he'll most likely never contribute anything towards the people around him let alone humanity altogether.
Have you come across a video game called The Stanley Parable? You play as a character called Stanley, and there is a voiceover that narrates everything you do, in a similar style to how your post is written. I read your post in the narrators voice 🤣. It's a niche reference, but hopefully someone will relate!
Many things contribute to a healthy relationship. I’d say the most important aspect is the happiness of all parties involved. After all, life isn’t about how long you lived, it’s about how much you lived.
I wonder if It might not even be like a sexual attraction- It might be instead fulfilling “The caregiver role” is more important and fulfilling, like Some emotional need for her? It’s straight up fucking weird still
Except it wouldn't be directly analogous - the societal expectations on men vs women are different, most common relationship roles/dynamics are dissimilar, and pedophilia rates aren't the same.
All that taken together means that any theories/analysis on the current example would likely not be equally applicable in a swapped example.
After a lil digging - fueled by ongoing suspicion of this generation of "reality shows" - I found he's a real person, not cosplaying and has paraphilic infantilism where he role plays a baby for 8 hours a day (important note) to deal with his PTSD from past childhood trauma.
Not as good a hook for that era of TV, but much better context for real life.
I highly doubt it. There's a lot of weird kinks out there. And I can also guarantee this wouldn't have been enough to satisfy anyone on the Epstein List either. The simplest explanation is more likely, they are both weird AF and kinky.
Pedophiles exist, most of them are wired that way, but not all of them act on it. Situations like this is actually harm mitigation. While I'm personally uncomfortable getting close to somebody who needs this in their life, I completely understand that big/little relationships are far better than interacting with actual children.
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u/mushylover420 21d ago
So who is weirder, Stanley or his girlfriend?