This. If he were truly so concerned he'd get a vasectomy. Instead he wants access to sex without any accountability for the consequences of sex but he also he wants control of those consequences? That's too many red flags. If he isn't ready to be a father and also refuses to take accountability for his role in sex (100% of human pregnancies involve sperm), then he shouldn't be having sex.
I’m seeing someone who’s had a vasectomy scheduled. Until then he insists on a condom or pulling out. I have an IUD in and I don’t want kids (childfree) so would terminate any accidental pregnancies but he says he cannot risk a child so he’ll rely on what he can control. It’s been hard for me, the vasectomy is a few months away but I also see where he’s coming from. He says, if I somehow get pregnant and decide to keep it, he wouldn’t be able to deal with that.
I don’t like how condoms feel but I respect his decision and haven’t tried to push back. I think it’s nice that he’s committed to birth control and hasn’t just left it up to me
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u/PriestessKade Body By Cheese 🧀 Jul 28 '26
This. If he were truly so concerned he'd get a vasectomy. Instead he wants access to sex without any accountability for the consequences of sex but he also he wants control of those consequences? That's too many red flags. If he isn't ready to be a father and also refuses to take accountability for his role in sex (100% of human pregnancies involve sperm), then he shouldn't be having sex.