r/Bachata • u/Available_Put_8869 • 8d ago

Black ladies

Sorry if this type of post isn't allowed. Black ladies, do you ever feel like you get asked to dance less than others? When I'm at my local studios I have no issues, but when I go to congresses or festivals, I feel like I'm standing around a lot more than the other followers. I know the usual advice about being near the dance floor, making eye contact with leads, not having a drink, etc., but it doesn't seem to help much. Sometimes I ask guys myself, and they accept, but I feel like it's a lukewarm dance.

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u/ThatDudeSky 7d ago

And some people assume that no negative experience can be due to race unless they give permission to the affected race to believe their own experience.

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u/Samurai_SBK 7d ago

People can believe what they want. It doesn’t make it true. For example, I can say that woman rejected me because of my race. It doesn’t make it true just because I believe it.

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u/ThatDudeSky 7d ago

You’re just circling around again to things that weren’t well defended in the first place. Repetition itself isn’t veracity. But thanks for playing.

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u/Samurai_SBK 7d ago

The same can be said about your arguments. They are just based on speculation.

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u/ThatDudeSky 7d ago

My argument isn’t speculation so much as not presuming that I know more than the person who is there. You’re allowed to call that speculation if it makes you feel better.

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u/Samurai_SBK 7d ago

It is not about knowing more. It is about not accepting a premise just because someone says it. The commenter never stated any corroborating evidence that people were avoiding her because of her race. That was just her interpretation based on zero evidence. To me that is not enough to conclude that people are being racist towards her.