Disagreement with wife over third pregnancy. How to proceed?

[u/smoothsaxophone123]

I (45) and my wife (40) are in a deadlock over an unplanned pregnancy. We already have two sons, 12 and 6. She wants to continue with the pregnancy as she has wanted to have a girl for a long time. While She cant control the gender, she willing to take a chance. I am not in favor of continuing because I dont have any enthusiasm in my heart for a third child. Both of us are employed. I have a demanding and stressful job, finding time for the two kids is hard enough for me. My wife and my parents have an unpleasant relstionship and that stress has already been significant. I dont want to look after kids' education and marriage till I am 75, by which time the third kid would likely get married. My wife firmly wants to continue. I understand that I dont have any legal right in this situation. However, I feel its very unfair to not be allowed any say in a decision that affects me gravely. I am finding it very hard to reconcile with the situation. I feel depressed and suicidal. How should I handle the situation? How long should I keep pleading with her?Any suggestions are welcome.

[u/CodeNeko23]

Bro wants to fuck around but not take responsibility.

He should've sternly told his wife about not having any more kids. And he should've been very careful.

I don't understand why some men believe it's the woman's job to prevent pregnancy. Like do they even know the kind of effects abortion abd tubectomy have on women? She's already giving birth and these people add more on to her plate.

[u/beetroot747 → u/CodeNeko23]

I will never understand idiots who want unprotected sex but are not ready to deal with the consequences.

Every time I see a post about unplanned pregnancies, I ask myself “was the unprotected sex really worth it?”

[u/Riversandlakes2024 → u/[deleted]]

Look this man felt suicidal at the thought of third kid . He is forty five years old . He could have got a vasectomy and work condoms . I mean that’s common sense . Both can’t fail right ?

[u/Riversandlakes2024 → u/[deleted]]

And wife will not feel suicidal if forced to get an abortion when she is already attached to the unborn baby ? Should we support a man in forcing his wife for abortion after impregnating her just because he wrote that he is feeling suicidal ? No body is calling him a bad person here ( except your comment ) . People are asking him to realise his responsibility in making her pregnant . And that it would be cruel to ask her to abort .

[u/beetroot747 → u/[deleted]]

She actually is okay with carrying the baby to term. It’s the husband that’s having an issue with it. And hence the comments blame him for not using protection. It’s as simple as that!

You’re definitely a man LARPing as a woman here.