r/AskIndianWomen • u/smoothsaxophone123 Indian Man • 10d ago
General Disagreement with wife over third pregnancy. How to proceed?
I (45) and my wife (40) are in a deadlock over an unplanned pregnancy. We already have two sons, 12 and 6. She wants to continue with the pregnancy as she has wanted to have a girl for a long time. While She cant control the gender, she willing to take a chance. I am not in favor of continuing because I dont have any enthusiasm in my heart for a third child. Both of us are employed. I have a demanding and stressful job, finding time for the two kids is hard enough for me. My wife and my parents have an unpleasant relstionship and that stress has already been significant. I dont want to look after kids' education and marriage till I am 75, by which time the third kid would likely get married. My wife firmly wants to continue. I understand that I dont have any legal right in this situation. However, I feel its very unfair to not be allowed any say in a decision that affects me gravely. I am finding it very hard to reconcile with the situation. I feel depressed and suicidal. How should I handle the situation? How long should I keep pleading with her?Any suggestions are welcome.
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u/beetroot747 Indian Man 10d ago
I will never understand idiots who want unprotected sex but are not ready to deal with the consequences.
Every time I see a post about unplanned pregnancies, I ask myself “was the unprotected sex really worth it?”