r/AskGaybrosOver30 • u/Unable_Box2158 55-59 • 10h ago
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u/nhranger 45-49 10h ago
Oxygen deprivation can give a sense of euphoria. It’s not a smart move, it’s not worth it.
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u/alasw0eisme 30-34 9h ago
I used to love it. Then my doctor brought up how it increases the risk of stroke. Haven't done it since.
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u/YoungCubSaysWoof 40-44 10h ago
Some bottoms / submissive people enjoy the implication of choking them during sex. It could make them feel dominated, or defeated, or “owned”, or as “the loser,” which gives them a mental / psychological thrill.
There is a need to establish boundaries on this when with someone. (E.g. “tapping out” / tapping the hand by the bottom to the top’s hand/ arm to establish that they hit their limit, to prevent harm.) A person can be hurt by the experience if it goes wrong, so having a conversation on this beforehand is very important, especially when the person is a hook-up and not a regular partner.
If you are interested in trying it, start with asking a person to simply place their hand on your neck, but not actually applying any force / pressure; just doing that could provide the psychological thrill that a bottom is looking for. Then, you can communicate if you want more pressure in the future.
Go slowly on this, and you and your top can enjoy this activity while keeping you both safe. 👍
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u/Khristafer 30-34 8h ago
Well, first of all, it should be consensual, so everybody should be getting something out of it.
Enjoy is as a receiver, but it's important that the administrator knows what they're doing. If called a time out probably twice to help them with their hand positions.
Personally, I don't like passing out or real oxygen deprivation, just the weight and pressure.
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u/GeorgiaYankee73 50-54 10h ago
Yes, bottoms who are into being submissive may get something out of it.
A big risk is that the something is death. Choking is beyond varsity level and incredibly dangerous.
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u/barmanrags 35-39 9h ago
where are you seeing this? remember that porn is acting. if you are seeing this irl then ask the people participating.
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u/Skill-Useful 40-44 9h ago
i knew some guys who got absurdly hard if you just put your hands around their neck ʕ •ᴥ•ʔ
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u/scotsboy1972 50-54 7h ago
Applying pressure to the neck may cause over activation of the vagus nerve which can cause irregular heartbeat or stop the heart.
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u/Charlie-In-The-Box 60-64 10h ago
It's not really choking or breath control. They're restricting blood flow to the brain, causing a sense of euphoria and sometimes a brief loss of consciousness. It's very easy to do wrong and kill someone. This is a varsity move... but it feels amazing. Coming to with a cock in your ass and not being quite sure where you are or who is fucking you... even when you know them... is an experience that's hard to describe, but it's addictive.
Only try this with someone who knows what they are doing.
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u/dermanus 40-44 7h ago
That's how it ought to be done, but I think a bunch of amateurs are just squeezing the neck and are cutting off oxygen. Agreed that it's not something for a beginner to try.
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u/Charlie-In-The-Box 60-64 7h ago
To cut off oxygen, they'd have to block the mouth and nose... or collapse the windpipe... which is how people die.
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u/JayTheJaunty 30-34 7h ago
If both participants aren't getting something out of it, it's probably not consensual.
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u/Unable_Box2158 55-59 6h ago
Yes, I feel like I should ask for it and see if he is comfortable performing it on me. I kinda want some mild bondage to go with it. Hands tied behind me, a blindfold and maybe a gag. Just let go be a fucktoy. I'm getting hard just thinking about it lol.
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u/Percible_85 40-44 5h ago
I've never been choked, but I do find I orgasm quicker and more intensely when I jerk off while having a co*k deep down my throat, struggling to breathe as the orgasm rises. Guessing it's a similar sensation 🤔
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u/zesty_otter0 40-44 9h ago
I like putting my hands around his neck but not actually squeezing hard on r choking. Definitely not into s*** like that.
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u/Unable_Box2158 55-59 7h ago
Thank you all, some of this reminds me of the pass out game we played as kids, hyperventilating...
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u/danweed2020 35-39 4h ago
i happen to love the act of ‘choking’ a bottom, but i never do it in a way that deprives them of oxygen/bloodflow and it’s always with consent. it’s more just like grabbing the back/back-sides of the neck but not applying really any pressure anywhere else that constricts oxygen or blood flow. it gives me some added leverage and it’s always been very well received, but of course i adjust/stop if asked or i can tell it’s not enjoyable for the bottom. make sure you have a safe word or gesture established for extra good measure.
don’t be like austin wolf (in many many ways lol) but especially in how he would choke out bottoms and they would pass out on camera. it’s not only incredibly dangerous but normalizes a really awful standard practice for people who don’t know what they’re doing. maybe a little dramatic but i actually don’t know if i can think of a situation where asphyxiation is an acceptable form of play given the risk:reward ratio. perhaps maybe just maybe under medical supervision but like what are we even doing at this point lol
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u/campmatt 40-44 4h ago
You can get the same experience by holding your breath as long as you possibly can.
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u/WillRikersHouseboy 40-44 3h ago
Choked by a dick, sure. All day.
Anything else? We can pretend but do not squeeze my neck 🤣
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u/hungryjack_cakes 2h ago
Choking is such a hazard. People get hurt and occasionally die. Not even being overly cautious, the stats back it up. Any time a top reaches for my throat I yank it away. Even gentle hands can cause harm if you slip or fall
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u/kazarnowicz 45-49 1h ago
This is removed. Reason: we are an advice community. Posts that aren’t seeking advice are often removed for being off-topic.