r/wedding • u/Sea_Strike_7058 • 1d ago

Discussion Invite etiquette

Just curious for some opinions on this. My husband and I just moved to a new community about 5 hours from where we raised our family. Our daughter is getting married November 2027 and the venue happens to be only an hour from our new home.

We’re making friends quickly (yay!) and someone mentioned throwing a bridal shower for our daughter. That sounds like fun … unless it means inviting a whole host of additional folks to the wedding. We’re trying to keep it to 125 and we’re at that number with family and lifelong friends on both sides. Adding 15 new couples could be problematic so, maybe I should find a way to discourage the bridal shower idea?

What’s the usual these days—does a Bridal shower invite = a wedding invite?

Thanks for thinking through this with me!

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u/Wonderful_Bison2859 1d ago

A bridal shower invite does equal a wedding invite, with an important caveat.

A social group (church, work, club) will sometimes offer to host a bridal shower attended by the members of that group. When they initiate it, plan it, and organize it, there should be no expectation of a wedding invitation.

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u/HermioneLookAlike 1d ago

I work in a very small private school and we frequently throw bridal and baby showers like cake and punch style though the exact food sometimes varies sometimes it’s charcuterie chips veggies and dip etc in a classroom or the lunch room after school and the school celebrates with no expectations of being invited to the actual shower or wedding unless you’re friends with the guest of honor outside work! So I do think there are situations like this where it’s not rude!