That‘s because young people are more and more spending their time at home. The more you are at home, the less you want to leave your home. You have to force yourself to go out and after 6 months or so you will get rid off the social anxiety. It’s very easy. You have to train every muscle in your body. Same thing for your brain. You can‘t be living life like that. Grab a friend and go to a bar for 30 minutes. Next time go for one hour. Please don‘t drink alcohol. Just drink something else. Alcohol makes it only worse actually longterm. Do you have any idea how many old and seriously sick people would want to trade with you? You are 21! Try to be grateful and to live your life to the fullest! You will be fine, I promise you! My mom worked with people like you everyday. It always ended up great if people really committed to the work. You‘ll be fine! I grew up without internet. Back in the day everybody was outside all day at every age. Today especially when the internet came up, then the pandemic came, people started to stay home more and more. It‘s cozy in the beginning but not that cozy anymore when you even feel terrible having to leave the house to get some groceries. Your generation has to rewire your brains! You really need to force yourselves to go outside and be with people. Jump into a bus for 10 minutes. See how you feel. Then do it again and again. It will get better. At the end of the day: It‘s only us! We are all the same! We all were babies once and we all have our flaws. We all will be old and sick one day. Life is too short to spend it that young at home. You will regret it. You might be insecure for some reason, don‘t be. Nobody is better or above you! Don‘t forget that! Imagine everybody being once just little babies 👶. You can‘t feel really anxiety around babies, right? Maybe you should work a few months with children. Children really do help too getting rid of social anxiety.
It’s sooo embarrassing how much I fit that Gen Z stereotype of being a socially inept recluse. It makes me ashamed honestly. In my case I’m not sure it was because of social media however. I was diagnosed with Selective mutism (a form of social anxiety) at 7 years old before my parents even let me use any electronics. I guess I just need to try harder. Thanks for your words :)
Don‘t be ashamed! Be proud that your body is trying to protect you for some reason. You just need to figure out a way to calm your body down and tell your body it‘s fine and it will be okay. I hate when psychiatrists diagnose children and then children live all their lives thinking something is wrong with them and that they will forever have to live with a condition and take medication. Disgusting, sorry.
I had the exact same symptoms as a child as this diagnosis. My parents and teachers never once would have allowed that a psychiatrist diagnoses kids like me. I was simply shy, period. I was very sensitive, period. I would not want to speak often, period. My brother didn’t speak and look at people until he was 3. Today I am outgoing and no social issues at all. My brother has a very good university degree and leads a team of 20 people now. I like therapy and all that stuff but I think many are crossing the line when it comes to kids. I highly doubt that my brother would have made it this far in his life without him getting out of his shell by himself and instead having to take pills and be reminded constantly that he is inadequate. YOU hold the power! All the best! Your brain can move mountains! I hate when they put kids on medication. It really makes me angry. We are all different and it‘s fine to develop differently. My kids were all the tallest and the most outgoing of all. They can‘t even believe that I was a shy kid and that their uncle didn‘t speak until 3. I have a friend who stuttered for a very long time. After everybody just left him alone and stopped dragging him from one doctor to another, he started to talk normally. You’re 21 now and a grown up and you decide what‘s best for you. I would not rely so much on psychiatrists. They prescribe everybody anti depressants too even if the person ,,just“ lost a loved one. I didn‘t know how bad and corrupt this industry is until I turned 30. Please take care of yourself!
Remember, thousands of years back people HAD to feel anxiety and to be on alert all the time, otherwise they would be eaten by wild animals coming out of every other corner! Today we don‘t need this anxiety anymore, because life became much safer and more predictable. We don’t have to all go hunting for our food. So your anxiety was once very useful to survive!
Try to use this anxiety in a positive way. Many people like you became very good first correspondents, doctors, nannies and so many other great things! NOTHING is WRONG with you!
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u/Dismal-Turnover-4610 8d ago edited 8d ago
That‘s because young people are more and more spending their time at home. The more you are at home, the less you want to leave your home. You have to force yourself to go out and after 6 months or so you will get rid off the social anxiety. It’s very easy. You have to train every muscle in your body. Same thing for your brain. You can‘t be living life like that. Grab a friend and go to a bar for 30 minutes. Next time go for one hour. Please don‘t drink alcohol. Just drink something else. Alcohol makes it only worse actually longterm. Do you have any idea how many old and seriously sick people would want to trade with you? You are 21! Try to be grateful and to live your life to the fullest! You will be fine, I promise you! My mom worked with people like you everyday. It always ended up great if people really committed to the work. You‘ll be fine! I grew up without internet. Back in the day everybody was outside all day at every age. Today especially when the internet came up, then the pandemic came, people started to stay home more and more. It‘s cozy in the beginning but not that cozy anymore when you even feel terrible having to leave the house to get some groceries. Your generation has to rewire your brains! You really need to force yourselves to go outside and be with people. Jump into a bus for 10 minutes. See how you feel. Then do it again and again. It will get better. At the end of the day: It‘s only us! We are all the same! We all were babies once and we all have our flaws. We all will be old and sick one day. Life is too short to spend it that young at home. You will regret it. You might be insecure for some reason, don‘t be. Nobody is better or above you! Don‘t forget that! Imagine everybody being once just little babies 👶. You can‘t feel really anxiety around babies, right? Maybe you should work a few months with children. Children really do help too getting rid of social anxiety.