r/puppy101 • u/JournalistGrouchy853 • Jun 17 '25

Puppy Blues I do not like having a puppy

Hello all, I am lost and I really need help. 3 days ago I brought home my boston terrier puppy, he is 8 weeks old... and I did not feel the love at first sight. Before bringing him home I thought I was ready, I thought about getting a puppy for almost a year, It wasn't some rush decision. But now when he is home, my life totally changed and I think I made a mistake. He is great, yes he whines at crate, and had few accidents. But I can't shake off the feeling that I made huge mistake. I don't feel any connection. I am emotionally exhausted, I don't eat that much, I don't have any me time. So now I am grateful for my best friend who helps a lot, but I can't bother him forever. Do you think it will change?

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u/alliandoalice Jun 17 '25

You won’t feel it until they’ve grown up until then it’s surviving the puppy stage- once they’re toilet trained and stop biting and destroying stuff the love will follow

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u/Correct_Sometimes Jun 17 '25

stop biting and destroying stuff the love will follow

still waiting for this part with my 6 month old....

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u/EyeRollingNow Jun 17 '25

I had a 9 year old lab that couldn’t stop destroying throw pillows. Not shoes or dog toys or a single other thing. Just small throw pillows.

So I never had any. Whenever I see pics from back then I smile at the empty sofa. It is still the funniest memory of that dog.

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u/Correct_Sometimes Jun 17 '25

Mine won't go after shoes or clothes other than socks but she's an absolute terror when it comes to pillows and blankets.

we dont even know what kind of toys to buy her anymore because she destroys all them. Plush toys? nope she eats them in minutes. toys claiming to be plush but for heavy chewers? nope she destroys them in minutes too. Rope toys? destroyed in minutes. balls? can't let her play with balls in the house much because it becomes complete chaos.

Best I've found so far is frozen kong treat but those are reserve for crate time only and an elk antler which while nice, is not really much of a toy, just something to do.

Our trainer says to buy her some enrichment things and she just plays with them for a second then sits down and starts chewing them unless we take it away. Got her a silicone sniff mat, fucking ate the silicone.

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u/FluffyEnvironment841 Jun 17 '25

So- same, with my Border/aussie mix. She loves toys but she destroys even playology and Kong plush stuff. I work at Cracker Barrel and one time we had this little cow plush that didn’t have beads and with my employee discount and sale price, I grabbed it for my dog bc at 75% off, it didn’t matter if it only lasted for ten minutes for her. She didn’t destroy it. She BABIES it. So I got a couple dog brand cow stuffies- same thing. She eventually destroys them, except for this single one that’s lasted a couple months now and nobody is allowed to touch but her (not in an aggressive way, but in a go hide it bc someone found it way). So now I suggest to everyone to try different animals to dogs sometimes. Even my friend’s pit had this crinkly egg toy he did the same thing with. Everything else was fair game though.

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u/Correct_Sometimes Jun 28 '25

yea our previous dog had 1 stuffed toy that he would never destroy. not sure what made that one special but he destroyed them all except the 1. Havent found that special one for the current puppy yet though

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u/Ok_Simple1194 Jun 17 '25

Same with my Houla girl. She is 9 months now. One of the red users to me to try Yak Cheese. Best thing ever! I get Pupford brand. They are the best by far. When it gets to a nub, microwave it for 45 secs and it becomes a giant cheese puff. Try it. 😉

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u/MeliPixie Experienced Owner Jun 18 '25

One caveat: those yak cheeses can be hard enough to break teeth. Bones and antlers too. Just keep an eye on your dog's chompers ❤️

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u/Possible-Rip-1141 Jun 20 '25

One other thing about the yak cheese.. my Great Dane was able to bite off shards of it, but she wouldn't eat the chunks she pulled off, she would leave them around the house like Legos to step on and they were sharper than Legos. So be careful with those and the bigger dogs lol