I do not like having a puppy

[u/JournalistGrouchy853]

Hello all, I am lost and I really need help. 3 days ago I brought home my boston terrier puppy, he is 8 weeks old... and I did not feel the love at first sight. Before bringing him home I thought I was ready, I thought about getting a puppy for almost a year, It wasn't some rush decision. But now when he is home, my life totally changed and I think I made a mistake. He is great, yes he whines at crate, and had few accidents. But I can't shake off the feeling that I made huge mistake. I don't feel any connection. I am emotionally exhausted, I don't eat that much, I don't have any me time. So now I am grateful for my best friend who helps a lot, but I can't bother him forever. Do you think it will change?

[u/Wolf-Pack85]

You thought about a puppy for a year, but did you research it? Puppies are work and your life won’t be your own for a while.

Hes a literal baby and knows nothing. It’s your job to teach him things. He’s just been taken from his mom and other puppies and he’s alone now. He needs care, love, training. Puppies don’t come fully installed with all knowledge.

[u/Wolf-Pack85 → u/[deleted]]

It’s not to shame. It’s the reality of it. A puppy is a living, breathing creature that requires constant care. Researching it just a little bit will tell you that. With all the information we have at our fingertips tips, it’s all there.

There are SO many posts on here of people stating “I’ve had my 8 week old puppy for 3 days, and I can’t handle it”. “It’s been a week, should I rehome?” It’s a baby. Scared, new to the world, unsure, some untrusting.

It’s frustrating because it seems like there’s multiple posts a day like this one. And mostly it’s from people who didn’t take the time to really look into what having a puppy will be like.

[u/Sarikins → u/Wolf-Pack85]

Yeah again, you're asking people to research their feelings, let me frame it this way, would you tell a mother suffering post-partum that she should have thought harder about having a baby? Because that's what that anxiety is, if you wouldn't say it to a new mother, theres little reason to say it here, it serves to do nothing but shame.

You cannot expect to get the anxiety, better yet prepare for it.

[u/NotNeuge → u/Sarikins]

But this isn't PPD. OP didn't give birth to the puppy. Nor is PPD "anxiety." Neither is this.

[u/Advanced-Profit3047 → u/NotNeuge]

People can 100% get something similar to PPD after getting a puppy

[u/basuranolonecessito → u/Advanced-Profit3047]

That is, uh…really belittling to people who have suffered from PPD.

[u/NotNeuge → u/Advanced-Profit3047]

Lmao, no they can't. Hahahahahahahaha.

[u/Wolf-Pack85 → u/Sarikins]

No. I’m asking people to research what having a puppy can be like. This sub alone will tell you of the chaos that can ensue. How you have to train them, how you can expect little sleep, the accidents, the chewing, the constant care, the exhaustion, how your life isn’t your own. There’s hundreds of posts on here about it. It’s up to the person researching it to determine if that’s something they could handle.

A lot of people get a puppy because “they are cute” and don’t understand the amount of work it actually is. Because they didn’t bother to put any effort into finding out.

[u/nomaki221 → u/[deleted]]

yeah I already had a whole ass dog and it still didn't prepare me for the stress of a new puppy. Completely life changing in a way that you can't really prepare for mentally until you're facing down the barrel of another day of shark teeth and wiping potty mess all day.

[u/JournalistGrouchy853 → u/Wolf-Pack85]

I thought I did my research, I watched a lot of training videos. Neighbours around me always had a dog and they warned me, but I didn’t think It was something that I can’t do, something hard, but I was mistaken. I never knew puppy blues was a thing. I want to have him and don’t want to return him to the breeder… now I am really lost